I remember being in the car with my papa and I heard an ad on the radio that was like:
“Martha’s job is to watch a bunch of immature children constantly screaming at each other.
“So when she comes home, she likes to relax by turning on the tv and watch a bunch of immature adult women constantly screaming at each other.
“The difference is that the adults are not Martha’s problem.”
Which is actually a pretty accurate example of why it’s normal and ok to enjoy something in fiction that may be problematic or unrealistic irl.
People like skydiving, roller coasters, and waterslides.
Which are basically "what if falling to your death wasn't actually a problem" and therefore fun.
Fictionalizing (and therefore, deprobleming) problems is quite common across a lot of activities.
This is also why many complaints about "popcorn genre" sorts of media are silly. In real life, it would be a problem if a guy gunned down vast numbers of people. But it's a movie, so it's okay, they're bad guys and he's Bruce Willis. It's a video game, it's okay, they're all zombies and he's Leon fucking Kennedy.
In real life, it would be a massive problem to have a possessive vampire boyfriend who swings between caring and cold based on mysterious doings that he won't tell you about "for your safety." But it's a romance novel, so grab a drink and lie back, babe, you brought this as a beach read for a reason and, crucially, someone else is watching the kids.
When there is no actual danger, danger is fun.
