Out of the Abyss and into the Fire

Vince/Ven | Late twenties | ♊ moon ♐ rising ♒ sun| ISFP | They/Them Xe/Xem/Xyrs | Icon: twilight--princess

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

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[pansyfemme]

“never kill yourself” is such a funny phrase to me that i think it’s accidently started working. its like an affrimation. say ‘never kill yourself’ enough times as a joke and maybe you won’t try to kill yourself over minor inconviences anymore

[landmineblogging]

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[zhenya-grey]

[chaoszgod]

[zeitghost]

mastering ancient breathing techniques in the mountains of china to control my heart rate finely enough to jam out a sick tune on the hospital’s heart monitor

[zeitghost]

The doctors figure out after the sixth beep that I’m trying to play Wonderwall and they unplug my life support

[withdreamsofhereafter]

Hexagonal growth in a black olive tree

[saywhat-politics]

Minnesota toy shop hit with shock audit by Trump officials after criticizing ICE on TV, owners claim

Minnesota toy shop claims DHS began auditing it after owner criticized ICE on TV

Toy store says it was hit with an audit notice hours after one of its owners said ICE had ‘terrorized’ Minnesota

[writing-relatedactivities]

This is our local toy store, they posted today that they received legal help to comply with the insanely short deadline on the audit. They're a great store and an important part of the community. They've gotten a lot of support (had to shut down online orders because they were overwhelmed) and are directing folks to donate to immigration nonprofits instead.

[charlesoberonn]

Literally cartoon villain behavior.

[waestlandbaby]

When you accidentally say the q word (quest) and your knight starts gently clanking from their happy wiggles like now you've done it, you have to send them into the dragon's lair or their helmet ploom will droop and they'll start waxing sad poetic in the moonlight

[paperwick]

[4ndeka]

I like to think that the temple's cats would sometimes come pay Ram a visit ♡

[weirdtranssexual]

genuinely, from the bottom of my heart:

if you can’t read or write 500-1000 words with relative ease you have a serious problem

[weirdtranssexual]

how are all the teenagers who complain about writing 500 words for homework going to get through college without AI

how are you going to function in society if you can’t read 1000 words at a time

[prof-grace-aspen]

This is a FIXABLE problem, by the way!

Pick a topic you like, and that's what you're going to read about. Set a minimum word count, and read until you get to it. Start small. Smart easy. First try, it might actually be agonizing.

That's it for the day. Just hit the word count.

Next day, read to the word count again. Read something new! It will be easier today.

And easier the next.

And you will naturally find yourself extending how much you read per day.

[weirdtranssexual]

yes! the brain must be exercised like any other part of the body to get stronger! no matter what place you’re at you can do stimulating activities to exercise your brain!

[mageofthemarsh]

The answer to 'how are they going to function' is, and I say this as someone whose mom was a social worker in Appalachia for 20 years: they're going to get scammed. They're going to be victims of fraud, scams, and exploitation, due to their low literacy making them easier targets for others. And then they're going to be unable to read and write well enough to advocate for themselves in a court of law or fight back in any meaningful way.

"I ain't reading that" becomes "I can't read that" which becomes "I didn't read before I signed it because the guy telling me to was convincing and now I don't have anything".

[wheelie-sick]

AND sometimes this struggle is caused by a disability which is important to know about because there are tools to help you read with a disability and accommodations you can get in school/the workplace to help you reach your goals. knowing that something is wrong and that you should be able to read more than you currently can is the first step to getting help with that disability.

it's ALSO important to mention that having a disability that affects reading does not mean that your reading can never improve. knowing that you have a reading disability means you can seek out resources to improve your reading skills that are actually tailored to your needs as a disabled person.

[ilovewhales]

a lot of things get on my nerves. im constantly annoyed. and i also have a deep love of humanity and the world but everything is really annoying

[deathinaugural]

[boybeetles]

Someone in Glasgow please go see this for me pls. I will be there in spirit 🙏

[tinyglowingsharks]

Brief report from the flute accompaniment:

It went well! At least 100 people attended, families dogs a solid portion of Glasgow's trans community. There was a really lovely atmosphere, nice weather and a very cheerful celebratory vibe.

After short speeches from the ballhaver and the large dyke (my wife), the ballhaver was given a chupa chup and blindfolded (execution style). The balls were then duly kicked; it made a surprisingly loud dull thumping sound. She fell to the ground to loud cheers and there was a moment of silence while Taps played on the flute. The large dyke wore solovair urban hikers.

[prokopetz]

Fact: Apart from pure recognition factor, one of the major reasons your fanart gets more eyes on it than our OCs is because people are perverts for narrative context, and your OCs don't have any.

Corollary: You don't actually need to write a whole-ass graphic novel to achieve that narrative context. You do need to know what your OCs' story is, but once you do, you can literally just draw contexless snapshots from that story that raise more questions than they answer and people will fill in the blanks.

[maykitz]

>see bird creeping up and down a tree trunk >look it up >common treecreeper

can't make this shit up

[hitboxesonstockimages]

this your man?

[majalha]

Remove the hitbox render from my son at once he will not be participating in your fighting game, you bastards

[hitboxesonstockimages]

Ma’am your son just hit me with a meaty divekick crossup

[hickeywiththegoodhair]

“why are you, as someone in their 30s, still on tumblr” oh so you think you’re gonna be normal when you’re my age? you think you’re gonna be CURED?? you think the witches’ curse will have been lifted by then?? cmon now

[girlwhodoeskratom]

ok u caught me i’m stupid

[radzcatz]

Old man yaoi for the soul