i do think the internet would be a happier place if everyone admitted that the reason their blorbo man is their wife/princess/babygirl/whatever is because of a feminization kink. the related aspects of misgendering, humiliation, needing to "knock him up" are then rendered a fun kinky game, not a serious expression of anti-feminist beliefs about womanhood
which means bringing that play into serious circles is forcing people to be a part of your kink. somebody asking for examples of well written female characters does not want you to tag "dean winchester" please stop kicking your soccer ball into other people's windows
I don't think "you are exposing others to your kink" is necessary to explain why doing this to posts that are trying to center female characters is obnoxious. "You are being misogynistic, as evidenced by your inability or unwillingness to think of women (even fictional ones) for even a fraction of second" is accurate, it's sufficient, and it doesn't invite someone to defend themselves with "Kink? What kink! That's just a joke people say about their blorbos, I wasn't exposing anyone to kink!"
i agree that "misogyny" is a sufficient reason for something to be rude and to want it to stop.
however, I think it's useful to be more precise about what this behavior is. if someone is making misogynistic dehumanizing jokes about women, i don't want them to be doing that anywhere. however, if "my wife, blorbo" is a kink/game, then it's acceptable behavior as long as everyone has agreed to playing.
there are people who are understandably upset and people who just don't get the appeal and are kind of grossed out who are speaking like the feminist thing is to never call your man babygirl. i think reframing this as kink behavior is something that lets everyone win: the people who like the joke keep making it, they just do it somewhere else.
i also think there are people who are getting an unnamed thrill out of calling their blorbo babygirl, imagining him in feminizing situations, connecting that feminizatoin to humiliation or submission, but because it doesn't neccessarily involve jerking off or having sex with another person, they don't think of this as fetish behavior, and this ignorance inhibiting their ability to navigate the situation well. obviously everyone is getting the same feeling out of this! everyone likes this joke! and it's like no i think there's something else happening here
So, I just wanted to say a little bit more about the title and its translation.
"Livresse" is not a word that exists in French. It's a play on word between "livre" which leans book and "l'ivresse" which means both drunkenness (not in this context I believe) or euphoria /exhilaration.
Also "-esse" can be used in some context to feminize (I doubt that's actually a word, but you know, turn it into a female version) a word, so I believe there is also the idea of the person being a woman "made of books" if that make sense? The idea that she's a bookworm.
So yeah, I'm not offering a better translation at all, but the ideas I understood behind the title.
From "Who's Who at the Zoo," written by George Mazzei and illustrated by Gerard Donelan for The Advocate in 1979. Possibly the first recorded usage of the term bear to refer to a gay subculture.
I found the date: "Who's Who at the Zoo?" July 26, 1979, The Advocate. A large library, or library in a queer area, probably has the advocate in their periodical collection. Possibly not digitized though.
Wait @cbpolt posted it on Twitter but it's been made private. Maybe they'll share with you if you ask? https://mobile.twitter.com/CBPolt/status/1535327694614933504
Edit no no here it is! https://www.out.com/today-gay-history/2016/7/26/today-gay-history-when-advocate-invented-bears?pg=full
It's impossible to tell where the frog ends and the plant begins. Its entire body looks like the roots of a water plant.
The Dawn of Pangaea is a board game that takes place in the magical lands of Pangaea. I illustrated a bunch of different creatures that inhabit this world, each of them being a blend of some animal or other life form and aspects of the nature in Pangaea.
The Dawn of Pangaea is now live on Kickstarter! 🌲
Feel free to share this project with others that might enjoy it! The more people see it, the better. I'm not any part of running the campaign so if you have any questions about it please check out the Kickstarter page and direct any questions to the creators of the campaign!
It’s interesting how Priya is often mentioned to have no sense for poetry. But I find her use of magic and flowers when it comes to Malini nothing short of poetic, sexy and romantic. Honestly loved the kinkiness between these two after some time and knowing each other 😆
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Started this earlier this month and boy was it hard to get through it because I have been so burnt out. Has anyone else just been feeling so terribly burnt out this past month or so? I hope that 2023 is a bit kinder to me in that regard (and you all too if you’re feeling the same way). This is luckily though all nice and finished in time for it to be my Patreon mini print reward this month, though you can see all the steps (from sketch to final) from when I started earlier this month at my Patreon! That is available for those at the Amber Swan tier and up
Like I said this will be the mini print reward at my Patreon this month so pledge before January first 1st at the Cerise Swan tier and get this sent to you almost anywhere in the world! www.patreon.com/samanthamash
Big prints of this are for sale at my Inprnt! www.inprnt.com/gallery/samanthamash
here's another idea for a poll! I think this will have some interesting results. this sentence is here to pad out this paragraph so people who don't read posts will be more likely to accidentally miss these instructions. if you're reading this, please select option eleven. here's another sentence to make this block of text look longer. anyway here's my fun poll idea!
I've been meaning to make a post talking about my stroke because y'all got bits and pieces of the recovery but I never actually told the story of HOW it went down and the thing is the type of stroke I had is usually the type young people have and since having mine i've now heard multiple stories of people under 40 having very similar strokes and the scary thing is, is that they didn't get help right away. Because you're young and healthy and sure you feel weird but it'll pass right? but it doesn't, and it gets worse, and by the time you get to the hospital (some people literally take days to go) the deficits are worse and recovery is harder.
so here's a super long post about strokes in general, and mine in particular/what I went through.
So for strokes the signs are abbreviated BE FAST. Balance loss, Eyesight changes, Face drooping, Arm weakness, Speech difficulty, -> Time to call 911.
Had I known those MAYBE I would have figured it out but my symptoms were a little mixed. I was reading (fanfic!) in bed because it was a sunday morning and i had nothing pressing to do and suddenly got dizzy. I put my laptop aside because my eyes were blurring (Eyesight changes - symptom #1), and laid down, thinking it would pass, it didn't, it's a little vague how it progressed because I'd been having headaches and neckpain for about 3 weeks leading up to it so I was like 'idk is this a migraine?' (headaches can be a stroke symptom so symptom #2) but i got nauseous and eventually got up and to my utmost surprise I immediately fell over as if I was the drunkest of frat bros. The room literally spun before my eyes as I fell to the floor (Balance loss - symptom #3). I have had some Nights and I had never been that unsteady before. I crawled my way to the bathroom, threw up (nausea - not a common stroke symptom) , took 800mg of ibuprofen, and crawled back to bed.
if you know anything about ibuprofen you might know it's a mild blood thinner and that's a high dose. I may have inadvertently helped myself with that one. I was just feeling like shit and thinking 'idk this might help'
At this point I still thought we were still in Normal Land. Sure, it was a weird morning, but Surely There Was A Reason. (Yes There Was) Anyway, as I'm lying there willing my body to stop suffering I realize my arm is going numb (stroke symptom #4) and I switch positions, because weird, but it doesn't go away, and I gave it a good little while. I'm on a medication that can make my limbs tingle but it usually just does it to my fingers and it dissipates quickly but this wasn't dissipating, and then I realized one of my legs was also going numb. Then one side of my face is going numb.
(at the time I did not look in the mirror but I had a drooping eyelid - symptom #5)
Those all seem bad. I grab my computer and google 'when to go to the hospital for dizzyness' as that felt like the worst of my problems. and indeed the list I found highlighted that if you are also experiencing loss of balance, blurred vision, nausea, and limb numbness, you should see a doctor. That seems like far too many symptoms to be having all to be listed. I grab my phone (thankfully plugged in and by my bed), and start layering on more clothing because it's about 10 degrees out and i'm in a pajama dress. The very nice man at 911 talks with me and sends an ambulance, I tell him I don't think I can get out the front door of my building on my own and he asks if I can get to MY apartment door to which I say yes and he assures me that's fine they will have keys to my building.
(I have been since informed they love to chop down doors but no, I could get that far)
I wait by my door laying down on the ground and they arrive pretty quickly. They see to me in the hallway, which is more of a lobby in my building and the only place with room for me to lie down (I cannot stand unassisted at this point) they ask me a bunch of questions, take vitals, and ask me where I would like to be taken. Me, having never had to go to the fucking hospital in an emergency before, simply go 'wherever is close' because I again, I am having a stroke and do not have the wherewithal to think through these things.
A big firefighter helps me down the stairs (it's only a half flight and I still almost did not make it) and we get underway.
At the hospital they wheel me into triage and I mostly lie there gratefully and answer some questions and respond to some tests (grip strength, following a pen with my eyes, that sort of thing) and then I hear what is great when you've been at urgent care for two hours but what is Very Bad when you just arrived in an ambulance and that's 'She's next'. I jumped the line for a CT scan and an MRI. I was there less than ten minutes before I was actively being scanned. honestly closer to five.
my active symptoms seem to have been worse than some of the stories I've heard, not being able to walk AT ALL in particular, although some other are pretty equal (Footless Jo on youtube had a stroke around the same time I did of the same type and has discussed hers, she delayed going in despite the severity for a variety of reasons and it sounds like her recovery has been difficult) My recovery was pretty easy because i was actively being cared for and on blood thinners right away. I was pretty out of it in the beginning, but I was only in the hospital for 6 days and then in a rehab for another 4 to relearn how to walk and balance, then i was released unto the world and just spent time going to physical therapy and recovering for awhile. I was out of work for about 8 weeks total. I basically had the best outcome for a stroke. I recovered almost fully back to 100% (I'm about 2% less sure footed than I used to be, but it's rarely noticeable), my face still feels a little weird but has markedly improved so I live in hope it will eventually get back to normal. It massively sucked. But strokes can fuck you up for life and I came out a weird medical story to tell and have to take some extra medication now/precautions to take (i cannot do certain types of yoga, no weightlifting, no push ups, no going on rollercoasters.... things that could strain my neck essentially) but overall I escaped very lucky.
I don't think Americans appreciate but to Australians your creatures are just as exotically cute and/or terrifying as ours are to you. every Aussie I've taken to America has been infatuated with squirrels or possoms or armadillos or racoons, and completely terrified of bears.
