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i opened this gif fully expecting it to be an image of like graphic self harm or something, only to be pleasantly surprised by a gif of someone messing around with an axolotl. cute :)
It is heartbreaking to me that you have to prepare yourself to such horror when you’re just someone who is already traumatised and trying to heal. I hope you’re having a wonderful day
I JUST HAD AN IDEA
CALLING ALL SYSTEM ARTISTS!
What if we had a collab??? Each of us draws an alter in a system (or yourself or ur singletsona it doesnt matter) and we do a collab??
OR WE COULD DRAW EACH OTHERS ALTERS IF THEYRE WILLING!
@idratherhavecake gave me the idea indirectly thanks YALL /gen
I’d love to see who would want to participate??
Endos and supporters don’t even breathe at this post.
Hell yeah I would be so down
Possibly interested if yall want to tag us when a more concrete plan is in place
-Riku (Host)
I’m down for it !
Friendly reminder: not all of those with DID are plural and not all those who are plural have DID!
Please explain how someone with DID wouldn’t be plural when the the criteria states having 2 or more distinct parts?
That’s probably not my job to answer, but as far as I know, you don’t lose your diagnosis when reaching final fusion, for those who choose this recovery path; cause your brain still has the ability to split and is more prone to dissociation, yet, you are one singular entity.
If I’m mistaken, feel free to explain things to me, learning never stops !
I'm so tired... I have enough trouble arguing science with these fools, let's not bring magic into this
This is soooo damaging to folks who suffers from a hard grasp on reality though... you know... a lot of DID and OSDD systems... cause derealisation is common among us, and starting to pretend that our disorder is not what it is, but instead comes from *magic* (it does not, it comes from being heavily traumatised as a child, period) is a bad coping mechanism on an individual level, and a fucking dangerous myth to spread.
Gosh I'm so angry
Change a single letter and change the word game
I decided this would be fun. So reblog with a new word and see how long we can make it.
The starting word is...
Lady
Raps
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in case no one’s told you yet, you feel exhausted and hungover and sometimes even sick after panic attacks/meltdowns/flashbacks/dissociative episodes/etc. because of very real chemical processes that are involved in your nervous system activation and de-activation during those times. it’s chemical dump effects, and no, you SHOULDN’T be able to just brush it off and feel and act normal. you’ve got a bunch of physical things that got activated and that all has to wind down. It’s not in your head, it’s very physical, and you need to work WITH your body during the after-periods instead of trying to curb stomp it. be gentle to yourself, okay?
About Split
I am bad at words, and I honestly don’t have the energy to care about it enough today, but this is something that is important to me, as a part of a DID system, to talk about.
When you are writing a piece of media, it is your responsibility to make sure the suspension of disbelief falls where it is supposed to be. It is your responsibility to let the public knows whether what you are writing is supposed to be close to reality or not, and it is your fault if they don’t grasp it.
That’s why putting elves in deep magical land is okay, but making a piece of media that looks historical in every way but for the absence of pogroms during the second world war is Holocost Denial (which, I don’t know about laws in other countries, but is illegal in France for instance.)
If the media looks serious and set up in reality, and there are several instances reminding the public that yes, this is indeed very serious and researchedTM such as psychologist presented in camera naming the disorder, then you can’t blame the public for then taking what’s coming up next as truth, or at least believable. This was your responsibility.
its just so gross people will say teens come on to them so its okay to assault and rape them like ur the adult WE are the ADULTS
its super normal for minors to get crushes on adults cuz we're in positions of power and have the autonomy they desire so they take interest! its okay! whats not okay is preying on that instead of telling them to go do their homework and eat a vegetable
The c o c s a and C S A tags on tumblr are blocked yet again. I am very frustrated. Survivors use that tag to speak about their experiences and spread awareness, why the fuck has it been blocked. I'm so mad. I know this won't do anything but @staff y'all please listen Cutting me off from a community of fellow abuse survivors is a pretty shitty thing to do. I was abused by an adult and by another child between the ages of 6 and 12. I need a community of people who understand what I went through and can empathize. We need to be able to speak about our experiences without being censored.
@staff
Shutting the tags down won't stop the violence of what we went through even if we can express it anymore. What we went through was horrific not to be silenced anymore. It is great that people can have tags blocked in case that triggers them but the fact that I can't find a community I empathise with makes my experience sadder and more lonely, as if all of this wasn't hard enough and yeah, I'm super pissed.
HI okay this is genuine bc im curious. you brought up that alters can form from hyperfixations/intense joy/etc and i’d love to see where you learned that? im completely serious im sorry if this sounds passive aggressive or mocking
There's always two sides to every coin. If a system only has alters that formed from bad things, where's the good come from? By saying every alter has to form because of stress and trauma would be absurd but it's not like it's not possible.
We had once read a (neurodivergent) DID/OSDD system had gone to see detective pikachu who was bursting with so much joy from seeing it, had split a pikachu alter.
One of our experiences was watching an animatic a few days on end because we liked the music and the oc it was about. A few days later without much event after watching the video again, what do you know, Moon (our host) had split them.
If you ask any system, majority would say that not all alter splits have to be from stress or trauma. It's just the initial forming of the disorder that requires that heady stress and repeated trauma for a system to form in the first place. Now here are a select few who do spout on about how everything about this disorder must always be stress and trauma and agony and pain, when it doesn't always have to be that. There can be good times just as there can be bad times.
it gets overlooked often, but once the initial trauma splits the consciousness, the brain then realizes, oh! i can split all the time and hold lots of different roles and emotions! neat! and for some that happens quite a bit for positive reasons, even if other systems may not have that happen often, or at all. it can happen from any need the brain might deem appropriate. it’s definitely not only trauma that splits individual alters.
i personally like to think of all our splits as being for neutral reasons. trauma-split alters help me survive, even if the experience (persecutors, pseudomemories) might be scary. hyperfixation-split alters help me enjoy life, but can make it difficult to take care of everyday life needs.
i’m not here to fakeclaim or invalidate anyone, but this is straight up misinformation. you cannot split alters from anything other than trauma or stress. even if that stress is or seems small to you, they cannot split just because you liked something a lot.
splitting, according to the theory of structural dissociation, ONLY happens when you cannot integrate (process/comprehend/cope with) a negative experience into yourself, and because you can’t integrate this experience, your subconscious requires that experience to be separated off into a separate alter that *can* handle it. you cannot split for positive reasons, but you can split positive alters out of trauma or stress.
you can also split to cope with an experience retroactively, (such as seeing an old memory in new light, uncovering new trauma or uncomfortable memories that stress you out, splitting to cope with an event you originally thought you were fine with but over time it stressed you out more and more until you split over it, etc). however, in situations like this, it’s far more likely that you have/had fragments that you didn’t know about that are now taking on the form of a fictional character after their initial splits and becoming more elaborated (i.e. becoming a more 3D alter). this is common in polyfragmented systems and systems that experience fragments, especially when those fragments are integrating (becoming more connected to the rest of the system without fusing necessarily).
but you cannot split new alters from hyperfixation and positive experiences alone, unless those positive experiences are somehow stressing you out—which would generally make them non-positive experiences by that point, unless these new alters split to cover up trauma surrounding those ‘positive experiences’.
yes, once your consciousness initially is unable to integrate and forms alters to cope with trauma, it can split again at any point. but it does not split for no reason, your consciousness can only split under stress and it is misinformation to say that you can split from anything otherwise. even if you are experiencing something that *seems* like splitting without stress, this is not happening, especially if you’re already living in a stressful environment, (such as being a minor in an abusive/toxic household), which could very well make you more likely to split than a person not living in a stressful situation might be. even if it seems this way, more often than not you don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes that has caused a new alter to form or appear the way that they do. fragments and alters with unstable senses of identity can take on the appearances of fictional characters or other real life people after their initial splitting as a way to gain a sense of identity and to take on a role within the system, but that does not mean that is a new split, that is an old split that is becoming more elaborated or taking on a different form so the subconscious/the alter themselves can perceive this alter/themselves better and become more stable.
let me say it again:
you cannot split new alters in DIDOSDD without stress or trauma. if you are getting new alters for seemingly no reason, it’s more likely these are old fragments or unstable alters that are taking on new forms to perceive themselves better, especially if these alters are integrating and/or you’re in therapy and these alters are being focused on and trying to recover, or they are holding a role/memory/emotion/etc that is important enough for the subconscious to decide that they should elaborate.
but you cannot split new alters from hyperfixations alone.
saying otherwise is a misunderstanding of your own experiences and you are spreading misinformation about DIDOSDD.
i was typing something up to respectfully disagree, but then i thought about it and you’re actually right. experiencing something intense of any variety is enough to sometimes split off alters, but the splitting is inherently due to the way the brain is handling trauma. assigning a positive or negative value to it can be putting something moral over top of what’s just an experience. all splitting is inherently trauma-based because it is a trauma-based disorder, but the experience itself after the initial trauma does not have to be further, additional trauma. “i am splitting to handle trauma” is not the same as “every split is inherently caused by some new trauma to me.”
i think part of this is a sense where we look at it from different sides of the coin. normally the perspective is to say that splitting protects the innocence in a system from experiencing trauma. but to some degree, sometimes a split protects the jaded, abused parts who know how to survive, from having someone who is trusting or can’t take care of themselves (such as a little or a trauma holder) in front. having a strong hyperfixation may cause a particular fictive to split, and they have a role to play based on previous trauma. or, having a strong hyperfixation may cause an alter to handle the “positive” aspects of being dissociated from one’s trauma. such as hyperfixation. but the need to split to accommodate those things does come from trauma, which is inherently why nontraumagenic systems cannot exist.
alters can split indirectly from things other than trauma, though, things like “i need to work,” “i need a mother,” “i need to cry,” “i need a childhood,” “i need an escape.” but all of these needs do come out of traumatic childhood experiences.
sorry, i'm genuinely confused by what you mean?
i'm saying that according to how DID works, you can only split from stress or trauma, not intense emotions in general. the stress that causes a system to split can vary, from having a panic attack related to social anxiety to being very ill to getting fired, and more. the stress doesn't have to be trauma, but the reaction to the stress (splitting) is a trauma-based coping mechanism.
your hyper fixations and special interests can influence this (we have a lot of alters that look like slightly different versions of the same fictional character because of this), but you can't split from intensely liking a fictional character by itself, or even from just wanting an alter to fill a certain role--unless that lack of an alter is causing stress, such as with littles or trauma holders needing/wanting a caretaker and not having one, causing stress and self harm.
it's not just intense emotions, it's specifically stress. you can process (integrate) intense positive emotions into yourself, but more often than not you can't integrate intense negative emotions, especially if you already have a complex dissociative disorder, which causes you to be unable to integrate intense negative emotions *consistently*, hence the alters. that's why you split, because your brain is going to its default coping mechanism for stress when it has trouble integrating an experience: splitting.
I might be getting into a discussion that is not supposed to be mine, in which case, feel free to ignore me /gen
But to me, it seems like the misconception comes from the fact that op doesn’t take into account that alters can be made out of hyperfixations because hyperfixation can be a coping mechanism for stress, but correlation doesn’t bring causation.
That sometimes the very reason you latch dearly onto a character, is because his way to view the world brings something to you that was lacking and this lack was causing stress. Thus, if you are in denial of this stress, or not made aware of it as an alter due to dissociation, to you it can very much feel like it split due to the joy, when really, you were joyful because your brain found something that was stress relieving ?
How do you fall back in love with life?
clean your room. clean space, uncluttered space, space that doesn’t have miasma clinging to it can work wonders. clean the dishes. sweep. take out the trash. peel the clothes off the floor and wash them, and then actually fold/hang them. take a long shower. scrub behind your knees. brush your teeth. (this can be utterly exhausting, but try to get it done in a day, if you can. the end result is worth it.)
pull out your notebook. it doesn’t need to be a new notebook, but preferably one that you don’t usually write in, or that you haven’t touched in a while. fuck moleskins. the yellow legal pad will work fine. sit in your room, or in the park, or in the library, and write a list. count clouds. describe all the colors that you see, and note patterns that arise. sketch the cracks in the walls. note the shape light makes when it enters a space. talk about what the air tastes like, smells like. what sounds are there? even the white nose, break that down: air planes, fans, cicadas, anything. remind yourself that you are sitting in the middle of a space brimming with detail. remind yourself that you are not in nothingness and emptiness. your world is fathomless. it has potential.
drink cold water and try to eat something that isn’t processed. it does not need to be fancy. buy yourself an apple with the change between your couch cushions. eat it outside. if you’re someone who walks, walk somewhere afterwards, just to stretch your legs. take your fucking meds. remember that its a good thing that you are inside your body. your body is a fantastic and endlessly intricate machine, and even though society has smacked a bunch of poisonous ideas on it, that doesn’t change its inherent worth and splendor. take care of it.
read a novel. underline your favorite lines, and write phrases that twist your heart inside your chest on the back of your hand with an ink pen. read a novel like it’s poetry. read poetry, something decadent but unpretentious. watch a movie you haven’t seen before. if there are free art galleries near you, walk through one. take your time. let yourself bask. if there are patterns in what makes your soul ache, write those patterns down – marbles arches or soot crumbling bricks or dandelions or descriptions of dresses or whatever it is, write them down.
your chosen family is important. remember, they picked you as much as you picked them. the love has no obligation. it is given freely and it is given from a place of compassion. you are not a burden. if you need to breathe, take a minute by yourself and just exist, but remember to go back to your people. when they need you, listen and be gracious. always be gracious. the universe sometimes remembers things like that.
listen to new music. link jump on youtube or related artist jump on spotify or ask the chap beside you in the cafe what their favorite band is, and listen to that. listen to something that you don’t usually listen to. we tend to tie up a lot of memory with music. we are falling in love again. the soundtrack needs to be specific to that.
allow yourself to indulge in romantics. press flowers in old books. play movies with subtitles and mouth the words. dance in your room. wear something that makes you feel good, even if you wouldn’t wear it in public. write your chosen family letters, even if you hand deliver them. write poetry, even awful poetry. revel in its awfulness. eat dark chocolate and when your chosen family want to go out, try to go out with them sometimes, even if its just to the market.
Calling all persecutors/expersecutors who feel like it
Talk about yourself! i feel like a lot of us get dehumanized for lack of a better term by non-persecutors, especially hosts and singlets, and seen as just our jobs and mistakes. Even if no one else says it, I’ve found that at least a significant minority of us subconsciously feel like we’re not allowed to be people and be full in the same ways as our system mates or as singlets. But we’re so much more than our trauma, our anger and fear; we’re more than our bad qualities.
Who are you, as an individual?
For example, I’m sixteen. I like Glass Animals and Steffan and I love curling up with multiple blankets and stuffed animals. I’m nonhuman.
Hi, I'm Lucy. The full name is Lucifer but I find it too... dramatic. I'm a demon, which means I go by whatever pronoun people wants to use on me. I can shapeshift into everything I want but my true form is grey with glowing eyes without pupils and horns that spreads far away from my head.
I like cats, and piano. I wish I had a dagger to play with (think about pen tricks you do when bored in class butt with a sharp knife) but they don't want to give me one for obvious reasons. The body now has pink/red hair and I find it cool. I love black lipstick and heavy makeup. I like storms and the sound of rain pourring against a window. Coloring books is the only way to soothe me down we found so far.
-Lucy
I did quite a few drawing in this very pretty pink hue and I am very proud of them. In our dream of opening a shop, we would definitely sell prints of our art and we really are working toward making this dream come true.
Good night everyone
-Claire
Heyyy, we know it's been a while, we were quite busy but we are so excited to be back ! It is a pleasure to go back to being active on social media after we took a break from it, taking care of ourselves and making sure we are becoming the best version of ourselves.
Hélène is still drawing and she spends more time on it than ever because we are thinking about starting our own shop ! As some of you may know we are a DID system and we are slowly realizing that are disability will probably prevent us from holding a conventional job down the line, which put a lot of stress upon us.
We love arts and we really believe that owning a smal business could both heal our soul and helps us to get an income !
As of now, we think about selling stickers, prints, but also perlers and perhaps even edit Claire's poetry ! There is still a long way to go but we are very hopeful and more than very excited about this project and i personally can't wait to see it take shape, little by little.
If you are interested in all of that and want to follow us through this creative journey, you can follow us for more !
With love, -Mathieu
I am not going to lie, I am kinda proud of it. I play since the beginning of 2020 and I feel like this payed of. My aim was to complete the game before the release of the new DLC: The Binding of Isaac Repentance that is supposed to be out by the end of the year and I can proudly say that I’ve done it.
-Claire
Trying to dig into the media I’m from and the fandom surrounding it in order to understand this mind better and to get a sense of self that is hard to grasp while I’m “not me anymore” only to find heavy sexualisation of me and my friends is something that is really bothering to me.
- A fictive.
Hey if you’re schizophrenic/psychotic I just want you to know that you’re a wonderful person and that you deserve so much better than the demonization, marginalization and stigmatization you face in this society.
Please consider reblogging this/other positivity posts for schizophrenic/psychotic people every once in a while. If you have more than 100 followers, odds are that a couple of them experiences psychosis and that they rarely see positivity posts for people with their symptoms.
