Alright letâs talk about remadora because I hate that pairing with my entire being.
Absolutely no hate to people who like it but remadora is one of the most problematic canon ships in Harry Potter. The only reason itâs not the most problematic one is because snily has the first place
And no I donât say it because I ship wolfstar. The fact that I ship wolfstar has nothing to do with why I donât like remadora. I would still hate it if Sirius didnât even exist and wolfstar wasnât a thing at all.
First of all, Remus. did. not. want. that. relationship.
He was guilt tripped into it.
And donât say âhe didnât want because he didnât think he deserved her. Not because he didnât love herâ
Yes, he didnât want a relationship because of the reasons based on his self worth issues and anxiety.
BUT THOSE ARE STILL VALID REASONS THAT SHOULD BE RESPECTED
Because anxiety and depression doesnât magically cure itself when you âfind the right personâ
In fact, they might even get worse. And this is exactly what we see in Remus. He hated himself even more because he thought he ruined her life too.
Also their marriage was so rushed. They have a fight about Remus not wanting to be with her but then two months later theyâre married?
Iâm absolutely not saying she forced him. But he definitely felt so much public pressure into marrying her. He even says it himself that he âmade that decision against his better judgment,â that it was a âgrave mistakeâ and that he âregretted it ever since.â
You canât tell me the only reason he felt that way was because he thought âshe deserved better.â That could surely be a factor, but definitely wasnât the only reason.
I mean come on guys we all know âItâs not you itâs meâ and âyou deserve better then meâ are the top two break up excuses. People find it hard to say âI donât love you anymoreâ so they just twist their words.
Like- he literally tried to walk out on them when he found out she was pregnant. He only went back because Harry told him to. And if it takes a seventeen year old telling you for you not leave your pregnant wife alone in the middle of a war, you should probably take a second look into that relationship.
Also do you really think Tonks greeted him with open arms when he came back? What Remus did probably put some walls between them and definitely left a huge scar in their relationship.
Which is why, this relationship harms Tonks as much as it does to Remus.
We can all agree Remadora is just a big assassination on Tonksâ character.
Sheâs a cheerful, independent person who has a great role in the Order. But then she falls into depression because the guy she liked didnât love him back.
Itâs completely understandable to have depression while youâre in the middle of a war, but sheâs depressed just because Remus didnât want her. And then her depression magically cures once she marries him. Then she immediately gets pregnant and stops fighting for the Order.
You can tell how she changed only by looking at her looks. That marriage just ruined her character.
And it wouldnât take so long for her to realize how this relationship effects her.
Trust me, Iâve seen so many relationships like this in my extended family. The woman whoâs full of life and cheer marries this older guy whoâs so distant and unwilling in their relationship.
And every time, they either have a horrible divorce or the man simply becomes invisible in the relationship while woman breaks under all the pressure of trying to make a one sided relationship work, taking care of the house, and kids all at the same time.
Because like it or not, Remadora is a one sided relationship. The only reason Remus stays is because of all the public pressure people put on him.
Itâs not a healthy relationship by any means. And all it does is to harm both sides.
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