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[genreawareness]

this blog is partially defunct

about under the cut

-> hiii :) im ollie! 23.

-> cws are #[content] //, if you have a specific cw need please tell me before following. happy to tag whatever you need, but i can't assure you it will be tagged consistently unless you ask thru anon/dms/etc

-> my posts are tagged #from the desk. i also sometimes make stuff, tagged #oliver.mp4 or #oliver.png!

no transmisogynists no transmeds. dont be an ass or ill block you etc etc i know these arent worth anything

[genreawareness]

the ability to see other people’s instagram reels likes is absolutely of the worst updates to getting to know people in a while

[genreawareness]

Post canceled i am invincible and can never be killed.

[genreawareness]

post uncanceled i’m not fucked up about it anymore but it is insanely funny that they just let you see anything your real life friends like. and sometimes it’s even full of implications. that wasnt oliver information!! put that one back!!!

[genreawareness]

have i been straight up perpetually mildly depressed for a year. what the hell

[gnarlyghost]

Low Tide

[steamandcream]

thinking about how when you experience a lot of shame in your formative years (indirectly, directly, as abuse or just as an extant part of your environment) it becomes really difficult to be perceived by other people in general. the mere concept of someone watching me do anything, whether it's a totally normal activity or something unfamiliar of embarrassing, whether I'm working in an excel spreadsheet or being horny on main, it just makes my skin crawl and my brain turn to static because I cannot convince myself that it's okay to be seen and experienced. because to exist is to be ashamed and embarrassed of myself, whether I'm failing at something or not, because my instinctive reaction to anyone commenting on ANYTHING I'm doing is to crawl into a hole and die. it's such a bizarre and dehumanizing feeling to just not be able to exist without constantly thinking about how you are being Perceived. ceaseless watcher give me a god damn break.

[steamandcream]

sorry to put your tags on blast on this insane breach containment post I have since muted, but you're right and you should say it.

It is defeatable. Go for the throat.

[spoonies-and-knives]

[transcription]

#wow it took me A LONG TIME to kill this reflex #i'm 40 now. it is defeatable. go for the throat.

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[succubusboyfriend]

are you “adaptable” or are you just willing to subject yourself to existing in low key background-level ambient misery

[succubusboyfriend]

these are different things btw. actual adaptability means not dealing with being miserable long term. and being constantly mildly annoyed/frustrated with a situation but being “able to deal with it” counts as ambient misery. btw.

[succubusboyfriend]

let this be your sign to make your life just a little more livable. get a dollar store trash can for your bedside so Cup City’s invasion plans fall through. block a tag or post that makes you grind your teeth every time you see it. get some grip pads so your bed stops sliding across the hardwood a little bit every time you get in it. tell that person you need a little more support. if you get annoyed at a situation more than a couple times, change it. don’t be content with being miserable.

[demonprincex]

and the more that you start doing this, the better you will get at detecting your own feelings and advocating for yourself! This is an important start to being more of a person in the world if you struggle with that

[eroscestlavie]

Honestly making new friends in my late 20s early 30s has in some ways been indistinguishable from dating except the courtship period is not romantic or sexual. I think people need to revisit the art of flirting in a friend way…like presenting your best self to a person and genuinely glowing when they return the gesture. And letting people influence and change you and getting excited when you have a chance to talk to them. That’s what makes getting to know someone fun in the first place…everyone in those advice threads about how to befriend people is basically describing how to have Coworkers not friends. “Go to a bar and hang out and start a conversation” you can do this but you have to follow up the first encounter with putting your best foot forward instead of just listlessly hoping for the social approval of the other party!!!!

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

can we bring back the term "fair-weather friend" bc I feel like if fair-weather friends got called that more this whole argument about whether or not you should be there for your friends when it's inconvenient/at what point of personal inconvenience it's ok to bail on your friends would kinda fall apart bc like. we literally have a word for "friend who's only there when you don't need something from them" because the baseline expectation is that a friend should be there even when it sucks. like we used to make fun of people for bailing on their friends.

[yaoiblackmold]

Whenever people ask me "why don't you know xyz, it's so popular" well see it's because

[yaoiblackmold]

I literally live in south east asia

[hollowedskin]

Most countries cut the map like that because it's the easiest and most logical place to have a big vertical split! Everyone else agrees that the awkward and self centred way that Americans cut the map so that they sit in the middle is obnoxious as hell.

[wanderingthunderstorm]

#Does US have a different map???? via @eldritch-bisexual

Why yes. Yes we do:

^Those are generally what hangs on the wall in US classrooms.

[abonethrownfromthevoid]

Losing my mind over this

[softservewidow]

Never forget these two queens putting on the most showstopping tiktok of all time

[alpha-beta-gamer]

Things only exist if you can see them in indie Sci-Fi puzzle adventure, Object Impermanence. So does this post only exist if you see it too?

The Steam page may also only exist if you see it:

Object Impermanence on Steam

A first person puzzle game where your vision defines reality, and only the things you can see exist. Learn and master the strange behaviours

[rhythm-of-lesbianism]

do non bay area people know that the slanted apartment in i love boosters is a dramatization of an actual (super expensive) building that started sinking and tilting in san francisco. i hope you all know this it makes it 10x funnier and more apt

[kabaks]

It is so fucking insane they did all that with decrepit evil old man long john silver. He was literally supposed to be blonde

[kabaks]

It’s like bisexual beaming winnie the pooh

[kabaks]

Conceptually this is Black Sails

[estro-boi]

we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason

[estro-boi]

torrents work like this

i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3

unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it

i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map

i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs

this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.

crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.

please learn to torrent

[macleod]

How to Use Torrents (with Pictures) - wikiHow

An expert guide to get started using torrentsTorrents are one of the most popular forms of file sharing on the internet, accounting for over

always use qbittorrent, do not use bittorrent or utorrent.

[sheherlockholmes]

[guelwaar]

like in general making care work dependent on sentimentality is a fucking bad idea lol, to some extent you can't really prevent the fact that people interacting with one another will probably feel some type of way about each other but esp when you are taking on a role where people depend on you for basic bodily care tasks, necessary medications, proper performance of potentially dangerous procedures &c it's not actually about YOU or your feelings at all & the more you make it into that type of ego trip looking for self satisfaction because youre soooooo self sacrificing and empathetic and you love your patients sooooooooo much -- the less you actually see & think about & serve those patients. never confuse personal fondness for evidence you are doing right by that person -- completely irrelevant & not at all protective against or mutually exclusive of abuse. people who are disliked or dislikable also need care! you signed up to provide it to them. if you cannot do bear to do that and do it fucking well then find a different job

[konfettiklown]

i love this picture she is so helpful and sweet thank you fluttershy