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[pixeljade]

I think the world would be a lot better if everyone understood OCD a lot more. Not just because folks with OCD such as myself get treated like shit because of folks not understanding, though thats part of it and people should treat us better. But because OCD is a disorder all about the connections between thoughts and actions, and the treatment is basically one big guided course on "thought crimes arent real", and everyone would be less shitty in general if they accepted that.

[pixeljade]

Like. A major thing with OCD is that you have intrusive thoughts, right? And when someone's untreated, this usually results in someone who just deeply hates themselves. A common aspect of OCD is worrying that you're a pedophile, not just because those intrusive thoughts can crop up, but also because if they did you worry you'll just unquestioningly act on those thoughts. And so you end up viewing yourself as a monster yet to unleash, which society doesnt do much to help.

But like, treatment (in particular mindfulness training) is built around letting thoughts and feelings just pass, without action, without judgment, and it makes a strong case that feelings and thoughts are entirely neutral. I have had incredibly upsetting intrusive thoughts. But none of them define me, its what I do with them that makes me who I am! Actions can be harmful, but thoughts and feelings which never get acted on...Aren't. Not even a little bit.

And well, once you go through this treatment, you realize how much of society is built around hating people for their thoughts and feelings rather than the effects of their actions. And I just well and truly wish that people wouldnt. It actually speaks a lot to a persons strength of character if they have thoughts and feelings which, if acted upon directly would be harmful...but choose actively instead to seek help, be better, find safer outlets for thoughts and feelings. In fact, I'd say all of them are much less harmful than anyone who spreads hate based on "thoughtcrime" mentality.

So yeah. Thoughtcrimes arent real, and fuck anyone who says they are!!! And if you're out there fighting thanklessly to find safe ways of handling your thoughts and feelings, you are beautiful and I love you.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"I'm only criticizing the people who are lazy on purpose" is just not the reassurance people think it is when nearly every disabled person has been accused of not really being disabled and just being lazy on purpose

[redstonedust]

some people like to get mad at disability benefits because they think its unfair people who dont work get a payout from the government while they have to work 50 hours at the human suffering factory every week. but if you tell them "yeah that sucks i think you should also get a universal allowance and not have to work 50 hours at the human suffering factory every week" thats apparently the wrong answer.

[87sukiyaki]

[bebsi-cola]

this disability pride i wanna keep in mind the disabled people who are in a difficult situation because of their disability. people who were made homeless because of their disability, people who are stuck in abusive homes and can't get out because of their disability. people whose disability was used against them to facilitate abuse, like taking away their autonomy - medical, legal, or otherwise - taking charge of their finances, taking advantage of their vulnerabilities. it's reasonable to think that a lot of disabled people, especially disabled people in difficult circumstances such of these, would struggle to connect with the idea of disability pride. but pride or otherwise, this month should also be disability solidarity month. this month and every month is for all disabled people in all sorts of circumstances

[floralflesh]

Its disability pride month so if I see any one of you use the word “psychotic” as a synonym for “evil” you owe me $1000000000000

[contemptible-scoundrel]

adhd is such a humiliating disease to have ones life ruined by

[wolvierinez]

how it feels to get diagnosed with something you jnew you had since you were 16 but no one believed you

[rupurteblr]

i call this one “using tumblr as a person of color”

might update with more images at some point

[the-uncanny-dag]

Some of the ones I've accumulated

[bunedergungy-a]

gee i wish people wouldn’t use medical terms for real mental illnesses as insults.

here’s your daily reminder not to use “psycho/sociopath” or any other psychotic disorder or mental illness as an insult or a “smart sounding” replacement  buzzword when ‘asshole’ or ‘jackass’ would be infinitely more applicable and accurate without being an ableist dickweed.

[bacteriaco]

Reminder to not use “schizo” (literal slur as far as I’m concerned) as synonyms with “weird/obsurd/aggressive… ect ect” for the love of hell

[asexual-amanita]

“I never let my chronic illness stop me from doing things!”

That’s nice, I do. Not listening to my body is part of what got me this bad. Sometimes you have to balance taking care of yourself and achieving your ultimate goals.

[giraffeautism]

Your parents can love you and misgender you. Your parents can love you and deny/refuse to understand your neurodivergency and mental illness. Your parents can love you and make it difficult for you to talk about suicide because they always talk about it leading to hell or its equivalent because of it. Your parents can love you and refuse to engage in the things you love because it's not worth their time. Your parents can love you and tell you more than once growing up that homosexuality is a disease.

Having parents that love you does not equal to a healthy environment nor a support system.

So living with them doesn't offer those either.

[akimarshmallow]

what abled ppl think is a massive problem for disabled folks: 13 year old on the internet faking something

what is actually a massive problem for disabled folks: "well you don't LOOK disabled, are you sure you're not faking? I'm not giving you accommodations until you PROVE you're not faking. Please give me, a stranger, your medical info and explain your condition to me in detail so I know you're not faking and only then will I respect or take you seriously"

[mousegirlheart]

weird how abled people don't want you to have supports because it may Annoy Them. no, you can't have a shower chair, it'll get in my way. no, you can't put subtitles on, im here to watch a movie not read. because the needs of the disabled are somehow lesser than the wants of the abled.

[witchofanguish]

There's a somewhat-unstated division in social progressive circles that goes "being socially inept for autism reasons is fine, but being socially inept for regular reasons is bad and mockable." And then in practice everyone assumes it's for regular reasons when it comes up

[cath-arses]

Hey. You. I think you should make your character’s pupils a bit misaligned. The stress of having the eyes look the same is lying to you. Give them misaligned eyes. For me

[hellish-undeath]

i feel like a lot of people aren't ready to have a disabled partner. not even if you really really really like us, or if you think we're hot, or even if you're disabled yourself.

some of us are never going to improve, and a lot of us will get worse. you have to accept that before getting into a relationship with us because if you don't it's so easy to put us in the position of performing normalcy to not make you sad to be around us.

some of us may need you to help with the things we either have difficulty doing without injury, or cannot do at all. some of us won't remember things, or get confused easily, or have trouble hearing you. unfortunately we can't just get over our disabilities when you're having a hard day, or you're mad at us. and it would be nice if we lived in a world where all disabled people who need carers could have them to make dating (and more importantly, life) easier but very few of us have the ability to get that care.

we're also our own people, and we deserve to have boundaries, desires, and needs. a lot of able bodied people do not see us as fully realized humans with our own internal and external worlds, and you carry that into your relationships with us. this results in either you ignoring our wants out of life because we should be overjoyed we have a life with you at all, or ignoring our boundaries because we really don't know ourselves as well as someone with an outside perspective does.

and to follow the obvious segway; sex. sex can be incredibly complicated when you're disabled. either it being difficult to physically manuever without help. it can be incredibly painful if done incorrectly, or for some incredibly painful no matter what. and for a lot of us, we've faced sexual assault because our assaulters know it's hard for us to fight back, or hard for us to be believed after it happens. some of us can't have sex at all, or don't want to.

also a lot of us cost more money to survive than you do. from specific diets, to medical appointments over and over and over again, to expensive medication and replacable disability devices. hell, a good chunk of us cannot have jobs! or in a lot of places jobs will hire us and pay us a lower minimum wage because society sees us as worth less than you. and we're often under enough stress keeping out heads above water without you also expecting us to be as financially able to do things as you are. and plenty of us are kept trapped in relationships we can't leave because of our limited funds.

please, before you date us actually do even the smallest amount of studying about disability rights, disabled people's lives, and bodily autonomy in general. think of the intersections we exist at as well, disabled people can be black, gay, trans, poor, and any other marginalized group you can think of.

i can recall so many stories of disabled people abused mentally, physically, sexually and financially by people who don't think they're even doing that to us. people who really really really love us, or think we're hot, or are also disabled themselves.

for so many of us our relationships feel like ticking time bombs. we deserve better.

please be better to us.