Life on the Aromantic Spectrum

Just a little a-spec living in an amatonormative world... posting mostly arospec and some ace/enby/general lgbtqia+. PLEASE check my FAQ [mobile link] before sending an ask! Submissions are always welcome

[premiumaabatteries]

How it feels to be in the fandom of a show about friendship :

[lgbtqiatext]

Requested by newleechonlife

[femmepathy]

The mile-long rainbow flag being carried down First Avenue in New York City.

[probably-ace-ok]

I think solidarity between asexual/aromantic people and polyamorous people is so important.

we all reject the typical societal ideas of what relationships should look like and the idea of finding a single ‘ideal’ partner to live your whole life with.

and I think that’s neat.

[snototters-deactivated20210129]

[maryhall]

Unpopular (?) opinion:

When I was young and wondering why I hadn't experienced a crush yet, the internet said I was probably just a late bloomer. They urged me not to identify as aroace because I could change my mind later on.

And looking back, like… so?

If I had been a late bloomer, who cares?

I was 13. I felt comfort in the aroace community. I didn’t feel like a weirdo for once in my life, surrounded by people who were like me. But I was urged to not join these communities until I became an adult in case I changed my mind about being ace. So I didn’t. And I paid for that.

Who cares? If you’re young and feel like you’re aroace, then you’re aroace. If you “change your mind” later, it’s okay. No one is going to be born and know themselves 100%. I genuinely thought I was alloromantic once, but now know I’m not.

Speaking from experience, I would rather have kids be “wrong” about their sexuality than feel like they have no place of belonging.

We shouldn’t gatekeep aroace folk because of their age. It hurts. It makes kids feel like they are the freaks society tells them they are.

[thataroacedude]

Love is not in the air. It's just pollution.

[abucketofweird]

I just want to put some positive Aro and Ace news out into the world so I’m going to share that my college’s SGI (sexuality and gender inclusion) club is hosting a get together that is all about being on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrum!!!

Progress is being made to include us in these spaces and to help people learn about our identities!!!

[asexualspectrumspector]

I love hearing this kind of stuff! 🖤🩶🤍💜

[bunjywunjy]

I AM SORRY I CANNOT RETURN YOUR EMAIL AT THIS TIME. am in a cave

[they-dont-look-like-waves]

ace pride flag color picked from this picture of a cave

[partyswirl]

aro pride flag also color picked from this picture of a cave

[zoe-the-astromaniac]

Be careful of Asexuals y'all, I heard they aren't fucking around

[1percentcharge]

what if you were driving to philly and you saw a big billboard that said “im not gettin laid, but youre gettin paid: pennsylvania’s #1 asexual personal injury lawyer”

[1percentcharge]

“cause I’m not takin time to screw, that’s more time I’ll spend on YOU!: pennsylvania’s #1 asexual personal injury lawyer”

[ofmericfulchance]

“The companies will try and fuck you, you know I won’t!: Pennsylvania’s #1 asexual personal injury lawyer”

[nutwit]

"Nothing in my holes, but I could be the ace in yours! Pennsylvania's #1 asexual personal injury lawyer"

[aroworlds]

[image description: six arrow images comprised of rows of crosses, akin to cross stitch. The arrow has a grey head, a long shaft coloured in two shades of tan and four or five stripes of fletching radiating outward in diagonal lines from the shaft. The arrow sits atop a black or dark grey background and is outlined in white. The fletching on each arrow is coloured to match one of six different pride flags: apresromantic (pink/mint green/lemon/black/grey), ay (grey/black/blue), delloromantic (white/green/black with inwards-facing grey triangle), fray (blue/cyan/white/grey), recipromantic (dark pink/light pink/mint green/white/black) and romo aro (green/light green/light pink/white/light pink/grey/black).]

Cross Stitch Aro Arrow Stickers

Flags: Apresromantic, Ay, Delloromantic, Fray, Recipromantic, Romo Aro.

All banners/stickers are available for free personal or non-commercial use with credit to one of my accounts. They are not available for commercial use.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive.

[dragonsarecool123]

Maybe I’m just biased cause I’m aromantic but romance seems like to much effort for the reward

[aroacearchangel]

at any point in time i become so overwhelmed with adoration for my friends that I wanna kiss them but if it’s read as romantic i will feel violently ill

[i-am-a-fish]

not enough platonic cuddling in this world methinks

[memeuplift]

[toomanyrats]

on shame and yearning (pt.2)

[neophaim]

Sources:

S.T., "300122," Tumblr, January 30, 2022, https://www.tumblr.com/ryebreadgf/674840497145233408/300122-st.

Silas Denver Melvin, "love as an act of merciful conquer," Tumblr, November 2, 2021, https://www.tumblr.com/sweatermuppet/669052643259432960/from-love-as-an-act-of-merciful-conquer-by-silas.

chandajaan, Tumblr, accessed via https://rockboci.tumblr.com/post/674728141263093760.

Richard Siken, "Birds Hover the Trampled Field," in War of the Foxes (April 28, 2015).

Emily Palermo, "What I Could Never Confess Without Some Bravado," The Rising Phoenix Review, March 15, 2016, https://therisingphoenixreview.com/2016/03/15/what-i-could-never-confess-without-some-bravado-by-emily-palermo/.

Georges Bataille, My Mother/Madame Edwarda/The Dead Man (January 1, 1966).

Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath (April 1, 2000).

Frank O'Hara, "Homosexuality," Poetry Foundation, May 1970, https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/browse?contentId=31570.

Heather Havrilesky, "I'm Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I've Wasted My Whole Life," The Cut, November 28, 2018, https://www.thecut.com/2018/11/im-broke-and-friendless-and-ive-wasted-my-whole-life.html.

Lucille Clifton, "climbing," in The Book of Light (July 1, 1992).