A Reading for Trans* People
This is a rare personal post. When I first started this blog I meant to just focus on tarot and depth psych. However, I realised those two topics INEVITABLY involved healing and self exploration.
TL;DR - if you’re trans* or non binary and you don’t feel comfortable with the social expectations of your transition process, you’re not broken. It might be cptsd (complex trauma) your MBTI type, your enneagram, or something else. I’ve been through it and you’re definitely not alone.
A personal confession: I am a trans guy and in the process of transitioning, I really really struggled with standing up for what I needed. I felt totally alienated from the image of trans people I saw in the media which was very extroverted, out and proud. And that’s great- if that’s your natural inclination. However, I found it very difficult.
Turns out I had a deep fawn response due to unrelated cptsd. I was constantly monitoring my social environment and had become a social chameleon, giving people what I thought they wanted, and this stopped me moving forward with my transition process. As an INFJ, I also thought this was a normal and healthy part of my personality. It wasn’t! However, I am healing from this with a great therapist. I also want to thank @hath-a-slay for setting off this realisation.
If you are trans/non binary and struggling with conforming to how you think you should be doing things, or struggling with transition - THIS READING IS FOR YOU.
You are NOT ‘doing it wrong’
You CAN find a process which works for you
The card on the left is the reversed ten of cups. This position represents your pre-transition self.
This card normally represents abundance and happiness when upright. Although reversed cards can have may meanings, here it’s clear: you are not happy. This realisation can be tough and can open up whole new fears. I won’t pretend it’s easy because I’ve been through it and it isn’t! However, this is an opportunity to start treating yourself the way you deserve to be treated. This is a continuous process requiring constant learning, but you are definitely not alone.
The centre card represents your transition process. Here it’s the two of wands. This card has so many meanings and all of them are applicable here. It can show new horizons and potential, a fork in the road, and choices.
However, there is nothing in this card which means you have to do things a certain way. In fact, quite the opposite! It is a card about moving forward with boundless possibilities. The only thing it requires from you is the courage and open mindedness to step forward into the new life it indicates. You can do that ANY way which feels comfortable for you. Increased trans visibility has been very helpful in many ways - but remember that your transition is yours alone and just because it doesn’t match the majority it doesn’t mean it’s wrong!
The last card, showing life beyond the transition process, is the seven of cups reversed. Upright this represents a wealth of choices and potential, though in a more overwhelming and perhaps mystifying way than the two of wands.
This shows the work isn’t over after transition finishes. Starting a new life involves the need to clarify your mind and comfort yourself if you are overwhelmed. The aftermath of the realisations and inner work transition often brings up is just as important as the process itself. However, this card does represent increased clarity and the simplification or perhaps overwhelming possibilities. Overthinking may give way to a more secure sense of reality. Stay strong!
I don’t normally ask for reblogs as I want to let my content speak for itself. However, I wonder how many other trans* people have struggled with feeling like they’re not doing things ‘correctly’?
If you are trans/non binary or you know someone who is, or even if you just think people could benefit from from seeing this, please reblog! Tarot and MBTI were two of the biggest tools I used to help understand why I needed to do things differently and what I was struggling with. Also, let me know if you’d like more content like this or more LGBTQIA+ readings, more content on LGBTQIA+ and MBTI, or any other requests just drop a message into my ask box!
Complex trauma can DEFINITELY interfere with the transition process. You might have to do things differently. Rare MBTI types (especially IN- types) might also struggle, as might certain enneagram types. If this resonates with you, you are NOT broken.
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