iZ the Egoni

this blog has long hair and proverbs iZ • Egoni (mindemon) • Zutgek • id: 30697 • it/its Iz Powestri • Demonkin • 31NB • Agender Enban • They/Them Multiple Elder: NeuroDivergence, Mental Disability + GenderQueerness Bicultural: English and Italiana Musician + musicophile, Chef + foodie Hippie + barefooter, Veggie + spiritual agnostic

[iz-the-egoni]

Name and title change guidance for UK trans and non-binary people, as written by a transneutral enban

Hey'all!

I recently wrote a guide on how to change your name and legal title to Mx in the UK if you're a transneutral enban like I am and getting appropriately official ID to exemplify that. It is not a guide on how to tell the important people in your life. You should allow £150–£200 for the whole thing, and about 2 months at the very least time-wise.

HERE IT IS, along with a quick index below:

1. Researching available legal titles and selecting them

2. Finalising your real name for life

3. Getting a proper photograph taken

4. Inventing and practicing a new signature

5. Registering your name by Deed Poll, and choosing a witness

6. Signing and dating your Deed Poll, with aforementioned witness

7. Preamble to number 8

8. Changing personal details at your bank and the doctors

9. Waiting for all systems to update

10. Ordering a new passport

a. Reapplying via internet

b. Applying for first (adult) passport

11. Waiting for passport to arrive

12. Applying for a Provisional Driving Licence

a. Online (first application)

b. By post (second, and subsequent, renewals)

13. Rejoicing in your efforts

I do hope this helps. Please do share it with anyone who y'all think/know might/will benefit

Peace out mio folkies!

– Iz

[kid-bunny]

in order to unlearn racism u have to be willing to accept that u are racist. it’s not a bad thing to want to change for the better. it’s not a bad thing to say hey, the way i’ve been acting is racist and i don’t want to be racist anymore. when people of color are telling u ways in which u have been racist, it’s actually not cool to brush it off and say, well i didn’t mean it that way.. u actually have to make an effort to stop doing those things if u want to be able to actually say ur anti-racist. u can’t just say ur not racist because u don’t wanna be seen as racist. that’s not how unlearning racism works.

[kid-bunny]

“um i’m actually a good person so calling me racist couldn’t possibly be true. ur just attacking me!” see how the racism is literally right there? see how ur just seconds away from calling me an angry black girl?

[theilluminantsystem]

I literally reblogged this a day ago and OP was still up. This shit is entirely unacceptable fucking hell.

[bluesturngold]

Whether this was a mass report until OP got auto-modded or a racist mod terminating OP with prejudice, any Black person who speaks up on racism instead of just grinning and bearing it still risks getting nuked from fucking orbit in this shithole.

Take what OP said to heart and do away with your white fragility.

[iz-the-egoni]

it's not the most terrible thing in the world to be racist. it is, however, to stay racist in spite of all the best evidence

[ingridverse]

"God never gives you more than you can handle" is survivorship bias. People who got more than they could handle are dead.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

Oh, dear. I can't reblog that fast enough.

[bildswoman]

LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[luulapants]

25 ways to be a little more punk in 2025

Cut fast fashion - buy used, learn to mend and/or make your own clothes, buy fewer clothes less often so you can save up for ethically made quality

Cancel subscriptions - relearn how to pirate media, spend $10/month buying a digital album from a small artist instead of on Spotify, stream on free services since the paid ones make you watch ads anyway

Green your community - there's lots of ways to do this, like seedbombing or joining a community garden or organizing neighborhood trash pickups

Be kind - stop to give directions, check on stopped cars, smile at kids, let people cut you in line, offer to get stuff off the high shelf, hold the door, ask people if they're okay

Intervene - learn bystander intervention techniques and be prepared to use them, even if it feels awkward

Get closer to your food - grow it yourself, can and preserve it, buy from a farmstand, learn where it's from, go fishing, make it from scratch, learn a new ingredient

Use opensource software - try LibreOffice, try Reaper, learn Linux, use a free Photoshop clone. The next time an app tries to force you to pay, look to see if there's an opensource alternative

Make less trash - start a compost, be mindful of packaging, find another use for that plastic, make it a challenge for yourself!

Get involved in local politics - show up at meetings for city council, the zoning commission, the park district, school boards; fight the NIMBYs that always show up and force them to focus on the things impacting the most vulnerable folks in your community

DIY > fashion - shake off the obsession with pristine presentation that you've been taught! Cut your own hair, use homemade cosmetics, exchange mani/pedis with friends, make your own jewelry, duct tape those broken headphones!

Ditch Google - Chromium browsers (which is almost all of them) are now bloated spyware, and Google search sucks now, so why not finally make the jump to Firefox and another search like DuckDuckGo? Or put the Wikipedia app on your phone and look things up there?

Forage - learn about local edible plants and how to safely and sustainably harvest them or go find fruit trees and such accessible to the public.

Volunteer - every week tutoring at the library or once a month at the humane society or twice a year serving food at the soup kitchen, you can find something that matches your availability

Help your neighbors - which means you have to meet them first and find out how you can help (including your unhoused neighbors), like elderly or disabled folks that might need help with yardwork or who that escape artist dog belongs to or whether the police have been hassling people sleeping rough

Fix stuff - the next time something breaks (a small appliance, an electronic, a piece of furniture, etc.), see if you can figure out what's wrong with it, if there are tutorials on fixing it, or if you can order a replacement part from the manufacturer instead of trashing the whole thing

Mix up your transit - find out what's walkable, try biking instead of driving, try public transit and complain to the city if it sucks, take a train instead of a plane, start a carpool at work

Engage in the arts - go see a local play, check out an art gallery or a small museum, buy art from the farmer's market

Go to the library - to check out a book or a movie or a CD, to use the computers or the printer, to find out if they have other weird rentals like a seed library or luggage, to use meeting space, to file your taxes, to take a class, to ask question

Listen local - see what's happening at local music venues or other events where local musicians will be performing, stop for buskers, find a favorite artist, and support them

Buy local - it's less convenient than online shopping or going to a big box store that sells everything, but try buying what you can from small local shops in your area

Become unmarketable - there are a lot of ways you can disrupt your online marketing surveillance, including buying less, using decoy emails, deleting or removing permissions from apps that spy on you, checking your privacy settings, not clicking advertising links, and...

Use cash - go to the bank and take out cash instead of using your credit card or e-payment for everything! It's better on small businesses and it's untraceable

Give what you can - as capitalism churns on, normal shmucks have less and less, so think about what you can give (time, money, skills, space, stuff) and how it will make the most impact

Talk about wages - with your coworkers, with your friends, while unionizing! Stop thinking about wages as a measure of your worth and talk about whether or not the bosses are paying fairly for the labor they receive

Think about wealthflow - there are a thousand little mechanisms that corporations and billionaires use to capture wealth from the lower class: fees for transactions, interest, vendor platforms, subscriptions, and more. Start thinking about where your money goes, how and where it's getting captured and removed from our class, and where you have the ability to cut off the flow and pass cash directly to your fellow working class people

[thekidsfromyestergay]

Nobody ever talks about the fact that heavy metal basically only exists because of a disability

[thekidsfromyestergay]

For context: the reason metal sounds the way it does is because Tony Iommi, guitarist of Black Sabbath, lost his fingertips in a factory accident. Doctors told him he would never be able to play again, so he spent months burning down plastic and covering it with leather to essentially create new fingertips. Of course, he still couldn't play in the same way, so he downtuned his guitars and found new ways to play parts that made them sound even bigger and heavier than before, and that's how the sound of heavy metal was created!

[thekidsfromyestergay]

Not to use him as inspiration porn but it really is incredible that an entire huge genre exists not in spite of but specifically BECAUSE of a disability

[carpintransa]

Also worth mentioning he was inspired by Django Reinhardt!

"My friend said, "Listen to this guy play", and I went, "No way! Listening to someone play the guitar is the very last thing I want to do right now!" But he kept insisting and he ended up playing the record for me. I told him I thought it was really good and then he said, "You know, the guy's only playing with two fingers on his fretboard hand because of an injury he sustained in a terrible fire." I was totally knocked back by this revelation and was so impressed by what I had just heard that I suddenly became inspired to start trying to play again."

[iz-the-egoni]

No, the sound of heavy metal was created by a surf rock guitarist called Dick Dale (famously of the miserlou twist on the pulp fiction soundtrack) literally blowing up the tiny speakers which passed for guitar amps back in the early 60s.

He then worked with a company which developed a reinforced cone and properly engineered driver. That became the very first 100-watt fender amplifier, and directly from that you get the Marshall stack.

Add to that his use of Mediterranean and Arabian scales and you have the musical groundwork of metal down too. All that "devil music"? Yep. You can thank the Middle East.

The guy was also straight edge (didn’t smoke, take drugs, or drink alcohol) long before that was a thing, and advocated for healthy eating too.

Oh, and I saw him in an upstairs club in Kilburn back in like 2010. He was louder than any gig I’ve ever been to.

[english-history-trip]

[snoutbeetle]

Is a language dead if it has more than *squints* half a million daily speakers despite centuries of imperialism?

Fucknuggets.

[taksez]

Sometimes you wonder if they can function outside their imaginary world

[brunhiddensmusings]

the english want the welsh language to die so people dont notice that 80% of ‘english mythology’ has been lifted wholecloth from wales, had the serial number filed off and covered with a union jack

[andordean]

My favourite.

[randomingoftherandomness]

Cymru am byth 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 ❤️

[no-one-expects-deactivated20220]

It’s a beautiful language, like Gaelic, Scottish and Irish. All languages are important for our history, it teaches us who we are, and who we were, it’s our true indigenous tongue.

[iris-collects]

Welsh was never a “dead language” because it was too strong for it’s enemies to kill.

[submalevolentgrace]

the welsh government wants to force everyone to learn welsh? man that sure sounds totalitarian, imagine if the english government forced everyone to learn english smh smh

[spiritscraft-deactivated2025031]

A form of genocide by trying to kill a language the English and American powers that be have been attempting on indigenous cultures for centuries. Protect, Welsh, Irish, Native American languages, Austrailian Aborigine, and all the many others not coming immediately to mind.

[unscharf-an-den-raendern]

This is happening in France as well. French is the only official language in France and for many years, children weren’t allowed to speak other languages in school. This is why many of the French regional languages, such as Breton and Franco-Provençal, are endangered.

[disorganisedautodidact]

Most endangered languages aren’t endangered because their speakers stopped caring, they’re endangered because they were forcibly repressed

[that-catholic-shinobi]

I’m trying to find time to take Irish classes. Celtic languages are beautiful and need to be preserved

[whatacartouchebag]

Crawling out of my hole to remind people that with this current update to Firefox (version 144) they've gone and dumped in their lot with a buncha lil AI tools, namely Perplexity as a new search engine.

So if the sound of that leaves your mouth tasting of tar, here's what you want to do:

In the url bar, type in about:config

It'll give you a big scary warning page that you might poke holes in your browser. Good. You want to do that. Click continue.

One by one, you're going to need to put each of these into the search bar in the page, not up top:

browser.ml.enable browser.ml.chat.enabled extensions.ml.enabled browser.ml.linkPreview.enabled browser.tabs.groups.smart.enabled browser.tabs.groups.smart.userEnabled

Each of these are gonna have a lil toggle icon on the right hand side that looks like a funky double-ended arrow. Click that and the value next to it should change to false. It all auto saves as you go. Some of these might already be set to false by default and that's peachy.

The next best thing you can do for yourself is to set your default search engine to udm14 or Qwant, but for now, we're just tidying the garden a lil bit.

Edit: This wildly broke containment for a post that was supposed to be me basically ranting and grumbling like an old man on my porch to my homies. If I’ve inspired you to follow through with this, peachy. That was mildly intended. Better yet, I hope I’ve spurred a buncha you on to do your own bit of digging and research.

If you were one of today’s lucky ten thousand to learn something new, I hope you keep doing it. I won’t be here to hold your hand through it, as I simply don’t have the time nor spoons for it, so I implore you to go down your own rabbit hole and chase knowledge with wild abandon.

[android-boywife]

it is so important that you are a little bit ugly. please get comfortable with having unplucked eyebrows and nonexistent jawlines and wrinkles. let your blue hair grow out into an uneven pale green and your clothes be old and mend them and modify them until they’re unique to you. wear lipstick which doesnt compliment your skintone and mismatched outfits which went out of fashion 5 years ago. be a little bit too loud and a little bit too passionate and as weird as you can be because oh my god there is nothing more disturbing to me than perfection. beauty is manufactured and sold to us and you need to realise that you are a fucking animal to live a joyful life I am so serious. you cant obsess over aesthetics forever please just live messily and make your body your home however you please.

if you dont do it for you, do it for all the teenagers who will see u in the street and know that they are not obligated to be attractive

[catasters]

[kropotkindersurprise]

September 24, 2025 - Direct action from the "No harbour for genocide" campaign uncovered uncovered that Italian fuel, likely jet fuel, was to be loaded on the vessel Seasalvia at the port of Taranto, Italy, at 21:30 the same day, in order to be shipped to Israel. Hours later, dockworkers, trade unions USB and COBAS, as well as Palestine solidarity activists in Taranto were at the port to block it and stop the shipment. [link]

[iz-the-egoni]

This is how it happens, people. Normal people reducing the operating mechanisms of oppressive systems one by one to zero, over a continual number of days.

Fun fact! The pretender fake Israeli state will crumble before that number gets close to zero and the effects become outwardly obvious. If you want a demonstration then play jenga and note how unstable the structure becomes once enough bricks are removed.

[sometimes-men-need-help-too]

So there was a post on the men's rights sub that I felt needed to be shared here as well

This isn't funny. This isn't acceptable.

This is behavior that should get them arrested and charged

If you think some of them might be lying - it's possible. People do it in real life and on social media. But some women are brave enough to admit things like this because it's more socially acceptable. We don't react and see it as the same if committed by a man. You also have to consider the amount of likes some of these comments are getting. Ninety three thousand one hundred people seem to think it was okay that a woman walked into his bedroom to see if he was sleeping. Thirteen thousand five hundred people seem to be okay with a tracker being put in a worker bag. A little over eight thousand people seem to think it was okay for a woman to check restaurant cameras to see if her ex was with anyone. Regardless of whether it's true or not, you're showing you approve. You're showing you're okay with it.

If you think it's not good but not as dangerous as when committed by a man because these women won't harm them - how do you know? How do you know they wouldn't go to that extreme? You don't know what's going on in the minds of stalkers. I'm not saying these women would as if I know for a fact - this is more in a general sense- but I'm just saying we need to not underestimate people because that's dangerous. But that's what many people do when it comes to female stalkers. I've made posts showing screenshots where commenters are responding to videos of a man being stalked by a woman and they think she needs closure, he should talk to her and hear her out because she misses him, etc. Maybe she won't do anything to physically harm him but what about the physiological stress? What about the stress of the unknown because he doesn't know what she'll do?

If you think it's just a joke - explain it to me then. I don't see it as funny at all

[sirswooshnoodles]

To think women stalking men is less dangerous the inverse is sexist. Period. Why? Because it stems from the assumption that women are less dangerous. Which stems from women being thought of as weaker, more docile, and too caring by nature to cause harm on purpose.

Stop it. Stop being misogynistic.

Women can be just as bad and evil as men. Stop making it ok for them to act in such ways.

It is certainly not better or safer for a woman to stalk a man than for a man to stalk a woman.

[contemptuous-lump-of-flesh]

You heard it here first: men being stalked and victimized by women is actually because of... misogyny?

If only there was a word to describe the dehumanization and hatred men deal with! Alas.

[sirswooshnoodles]

Huh? No? It’s sexist to think women can’t stalk or hurt men because they’re weaker or less dangerous, because women aren’t less dangerous or less capable of causing harm.

Women stalking and hurting men isn’t because of misogyny, that’s stupid, and I have no idea how you got there unless you read in bad faith.

Seriously, how the fuck did you come to that conclusion?????????????

It’s misogynistic to think women can’t cause harm to men. That’s what I said.

I read through the whole post and my own addition twice and I have not a fucking clue how you could possibly come to the conclusion you did. Not the slightest tiniest hint of an idea how you got what you did out of the post.

Checked your blog to see if you might be trolling and you think patriarchy isn’t real… yeah you’re just stupid.

[contemptuous-lump-of-flesh]

Oh, I'm the stupid one? Not the person who thinks a problem primarily affecting men is actually a problem affecting women? Not the person who sees men being victimized and decides this is actually about how women are oppressed? Not the person who thinks misandry is actually misogyny?

🤔

You hate men so much, you don't even realize how ingrained it is in your every thought.

[iz-the-egoni]

Also on a physiological level, males are systemically brought up with less emotional optionality. Many men do not know what to do when confronted with the worst aspects of womanly behaviour. So in that situation – with fight, flight, fawn, or freeze – and the bit depth of available routes closing in to zero, what do you think happens. Yep. Not the conflict resolution that was never theirs to do. It’s aggression. And now they’re the bad guys. Magical thinking, yay!

[aromantic-diaries]

Girl who's going to spend the next six years struggling to accept the fact that he's actually a guy: yeah I don't really care about fashion I love wearing a hoodie every single day #myhoodie

[aromantic-diaries]

No the point of this isn't "if you prefer wearing a hoodie over putting an outfit together you're trans" the hoodie is a stand-in for how I thought I didn't care about how I dress when in reality I just knew I didn't like being feminine and hadn't thought about being masculine yet. I only started caring about clothes when I started to lean into masculinity

[iz-the-egoni]

Yep. This. I didn’t even care that much about what I was wearing during my plaid pants and harem trousers era back t'ween 2008 and 2013. Then there was a half-decade phase of ugh. It was only around 2017/2018 when I would actually pay attention to what I was wearing. And that was vintage cardigans at that point. But the proper attempt to outfit match didn’t happen until 2022/2023

[dearest-love2410-deactivated202]

I love media where the underlying message is to be kind , even if it isn’t the main plot.

I love media where the underlying message is that you are not the worst mistake you made and you are not the worst thing that happened to you

I love media where the underlying message is that people can change for the better

I love media that’s like love, actually is all around us

I love media that’s like “we can’t save anyone.” “we can always try.”

[the-haiku-bot]

I love media

that’s like love, actually

is all around us

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[bruno-has-definitely-deactivate]

[chilewithcarnage]

[atomicniire]

You can not untangle alt culture and being queer

[iz-the-egoni]

Hmmm… to be fair I was into the jazzier side of punk music. But then I’m not non-binary like Teh Kidz are

[lesb0]

1000% correct. and it isn't the userbase being 70% white, it's that they act aggressively disgusted and angry if anyone even mentions blackness and black culture or that racism and white privilege exist. If you so much as insinuate that one white woman posted something racist they will relentlessly dogpile and gangstalk you. Remember that blackout day started by black tumblr desperately BEGGING white people to post/rb black people once a year. But in response, people said "no, black people aren't aesthetic enough for my theme" or "no, you're being too political and black people are too serious a subject to post" but then they would make 1000 posts about how being trans is worse than racism. and if you even mention rap or r&b or hip-hop on here people will lose their damn minds. Every black woman I used to follow was either chased off the site, caved from the constant misogynoirism and hostility, or were so ignored by their "friends" that they left.

[iz-the-egoni]

Yes, this. Remember that white womens' tears are responsible for more adversity towards black people than anything else.

no matter how queer or lefty or young or working class or xx-chromosome you are, you are totally capable of being a total piece of shit to black people.

true intersectionality is checking your damn ego at the door and remembering your politics is about doing something greater than you. Shut up and listen to those who know what oppression is

btw, funk and r+b and soul are more intellectually enlightened and spiritually awake than you’ll ever be, blue-haired karen. Human culture started around Babylon, Mesopotamia, and the Levant. Not a white wannabe woker in sight

[sabertoothwalrus]

I am saying this will all the love in my heart, but this is a reminder that if you find yourself feeling frequently upset, hopeless, or angry whenever you go online, and what’s upsetting you feels like A Big Deal that Everyone Is Talking About, it…. likely isn’t as widespread as you think it is. In fact, that’s probably your sign that you need to unfollow some people and follow some different ones. Or take a break from the internet in general.

There are so many instances where someone I follow will be responding to some argument I’d never heard about, and I can tell they spend a lot of time worrying about the subject—especially if it’s something that personally affects them—when the argument is something that only a handful of vocal people on the internet are even aware of rather than a reflection of society as a whole.

There’s something to be said about not being ignorant of larger, serious topics, for sure! but the other end of that is making sure you didn’t accidentally end up seeking out your own personally curated torture hell of people that hate you

[theculturedmarxist]

>First, we’ve discovered that about a quarter of all the internet connection in or out of the house were ad related. In a few hours, that’s about 10,000 out of 40,000 processed.

>We also discovered that every link on Twitter was blocked. This was solved by whitelisting the https://t.co domain.

>Once out browsing the Web, everything is loading pretty much instantly. It turns out most of that Page Loading malarkey we’ve been accustomed to is related to sites running auctions to sell Ad space to show you before the page loads. All gone now.

>We then found that the Samsung TV (which I really like) is very fond of yapping all about itself to Samsung HQ. All stopped now. No sign of any breakages in its function, so I’m happy enough with that.

>The primary source of distress came from the habitual Lemmings player in the house, who found they could no longer watch ads to build up their in-app gold. A workaround is being considered for this.

>The next ambition is to advance the Ad blocking so that it seamlessly removed YouTube Ads. This is the subject of ongoing research, and tinkering continues. All in all, a very successful experiment.

>Certainly this exceeds my equivalent childhood project of disassembling and assembling our rotary dial telephone. A project whose only utility was finding out how to make the phone ring when nobody was calling.

>Update: All4 on the telly appears not to have any ads any more. Goodbye Arnold Clarke!

>Lemmings problem now solved.

>Can confirm, after small tests, that RTÉ Player ads are now gone and the player on the phone is now just delivering swift, ad free streams at first click.

>Some queries along the lines of “Are you not stealing the internet?” Firstly, this is my network, so I may set it up as I please (or, you know, my son can do it and I can give him a stupid thumbs up in response). But there is a wider question, based on the ads=internet model.

>I’m afraid I passed the You Wouldn’t Download A Car point back when I first installed ad-blocking plug-ins on a browser. But consider my chatty TV. Individual consumer choice is not the method of addressing pervasive commercial surveillance.

>Should I feel morally obliged not to mute the TV when the ads come on? No, this is a standing tension- a clash of interests. But I think my interest in my family not being under intrusive or covert surveillance at home is superior to the ad company’s wish to profile them.

>Aside: 24 hours of Pi Hole stats suggests that Samsung TVs are very chatty. 14,170 chats a day.

>YouTube blocking seems difficult, as the ads usually come from the same domain as the videos. Haven’t tried it, but all of the content can also be delivered from a no-cookies version of the YouTube domain, which doesn’t have the ads. I have asked my son to poke at that idea.

[monitor-offist-deactivated20250]

fastest reblog in the west

[dduane]

Yeppers. :)

[the-original-sineater]

reblogging for study later AND to spread the info.

[them-faetale]

Seriously, get and run PiHole if you can. It changes your internet experience so much for the better. I get shocked when I visit a website when I'm someone else's network, by just how many ads the internet is flooded with now. Take back control.