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Like I’m thinking abt when my friend’s roommate had her bf over and he was wearing these stupid little shorts and basically his whole dick was out and u could tell he obviously thought he was hot shit when he was just making me and the rest of the women there uncomfortable so I literally told his gf in front of everyone “tell Barbie to zip his pants up his clit is showing” and he went red in the face and stormed into her room don’t ever play the fool around me
The idea that recreating victims’ trauma as a kink is somehow good or “healing” in any way whatsoever is a dangerous lie crafted by abusers seeking to perpetually control/revictimize/take advantage of and attract a ready pool of fresh victims while absolving themselves of wrongdoing. All available evidence from research on trauma and related elements of psychology and neuroscience suggests it isn’t just useless to victims, it compounds preexisting harm.
A moment of silence for this person I just blocked.
But if anybody else is wondering:
Immersion therapy is a phobia treatment, i.e. it’s used to control irrational, disproportionate anxieties whose objects are in fact harmless. Variations on it may sometimes be used to manage triggers or avoidance issues descending from trauma—if certain loud noises cause panic attacks in a bombing survivor, or if a car crash survivor develops a fear of car travel, for example. To treat PTSD closer to its core, patients are encouraged to talk about or retell their trauma; “immersion” in this sense is immersion in one’s memory. The goal is to help curb distress during future instances of involuntary recall. The patient isn’t subjected to more bombings or car crashes.
If a doctor ever suggests reenacting a rape or similar event, CALL THE POLICE.
Hey! I’m going to pause my retching for a little bit to provide a source because apparently it’s just so goddamn important for someone to mention sources, mention their own (fucked up) stance, and then not provide their own sources, apparently. How’d we get here, again?
This is from Bessel van der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score. Bessel is a psychiatrist focused on PTSD and trauma, and has done this since the 90s. Emphasis mine. Note that, shockingly, there’s not one positive implication of directly re-experiencing traumatic stimulus:
CBT was first developed to treat phobias such as fear of spiders, airplanes, or heights, to help patients compare their irrational fears with harmless realities. Patients are gradually desensitized from their irrational fears by bringing to mind what they are most afraid of, using their narratives and images (“imaginal exposure”), or they are placed in actual (but actually safe) anxiety-provoking situations (“in vivo exposure”), or they are exposed to virtual-reality, computer-simulated scenes, for example, in the case of combat-related PTSD, fighting in the streets of Fallujah.
The idea behind cognitive behavioral treatment is that when patients are repeatedly exposed to the stimulus without bad things actually happening, they gradually will become less upset; the bad memories will have become associated with “corrective” information of being safe. (33) … It sounds simple, but, as we have seen, reliving trauma reactivates the brain’s alarm system and knocks out critical brain areas necessary for integrating the past, making it likely that patients will relive rather than resolve the trauma.
Prolonged exposure or “flooding” has been studied more thoroughly than any other PTSD treatment. Patients are asked to “focus their attention on the traumatic material and … not distract themselves with other thoughts or activities.” (35) … Exposure sometimes helps to deal with fear and anxiety, but it has not been proven to help with guilt or other complex emotions. (37)
In contrast to its effectiveness for irrational fears such as spiders, CBT has not done so well for traumatized individuals, particularly those with histories of childhood abuse. Only about one in three participants with PTSD who finish research studies show some improvement. (38) Those who complete CBT treatment usually have fewer PTSD symptoms, but they rarely recover completely: Most continue to have substantial problems with their health, work, or mental well-being. (39)
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Patients can benefit from reliving their trauma only if they are not overwhelmed by it. A good example is a study of Vietnam veterans conducted in the early 1990s by my colleague Roger Pitman. (44) … Roger would show me the videotapes of his treatment sessions and we would discuss what we observed. He and his colleagues pushed the veterans to talk repeatedly about every detail of their experiences in Vietnam, but the investigators had to stop the study because many patients became panicked by their flashbacks, and the dread often persisted after the sessions. Some never returned, while many of those who stayed with the study became more depressed, violent, and fearful; some coped with their increased symptoms by increasing their alcohol consumption, which led to further violence and humiliation, as some of their families called the police to take them to a hospital.
I really, sincerely hope anyone capable of firing about ten neurons of critical thought can piece together, from that last paragraph, the implications of trying to reenact a rape or other sexual trauma through kink when even talking about experiences makes people shut down jesus fucking christ.
Here are Bessel’s citations:
33. E. Santini, R. U. Muller, and G. J. Quirk, “Consolidation of Extinction Learning Involves Transfer from NMDA-Independent to NMDA-Dependent Memory,” Journal of Neuroscience 21 (2001): 9009–17.
35. C. R. Brewin, “Implications for Psychological Intervention,” in Neuropsychology of PTSD: Biological, Cognitive, and Clinical Perspectives, ed. J. J. Vasterling and C. R. Brewin (New York: Guilford, 2005), 272.
37. E. B. Foa and R. J. McNally, “Mechanisms of Change in Exposure Therapy,” in Current Controversies in the Anxiety Disorders, ed. R. M. Rapee (New York: Guilford, 1996), 329–43.
38. J. D. Ford and P. Kidd, “Early Childhood Trauma and Disorders of Extreme Stress as Predictors of Treatment Outcome with Chronic PTSD,” Journal of Traumatic Stress 18 (1998): 743–61. (There are 3 other articles lumped into this one.)
39. J. Bisson, et al., “Psychological Treatments for Chronic Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis,” British Journal of Psychiatry 190 (2007): 97–104. See also L. H. Jaycox, E. B. Foa, and A. R. Morrall, “Influence of Emotional Engagement and Habituation on Exposure Therapy for PTSD,” Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 66 (1998): 185–92.
Thanks!
PDF of The Body Keeps Score
Did anyone mention that exposure therapy is supposed to be done by a trained goddamn therapist, not your sadistic boyfriend?
BDSM is rape culture. Point blank.
Re-traumatizing oneself is a direct symptom of PTSD, not a coping mechanism. And it only reinforces the trauma response of the brain, so, yeah. Sadists sexually preying on traumatized people and causing them to re-traumatize themselves over and over is SEXUAL ABUSE
yeah, the ~it’s exposure therapy~ line doesn’t work anyways because your sadistic boyfriend who never even took a psych 101 course, let alone has a psyd, is absolutely not your fucking therapist and doesn’t know jack shit about therapy techniques. he also literally doesn’t care about ~helping you work through your trauma~ - he gets a free pass to rape you and hurt you without fearing repercussions. he’s taking advantage of your belief that retraumatizing yourself will be therapeutic.
Not only that, but it’s well known that exposure therapy, even in cases of “irrational” fears like arachnophobia, are not suitable for severe cases and can actually worsen the fear response. In these cases, more novel approaches are in the works, such as spiderless arachnophobia therapy using images containing a subset of spider-like characteristics, like the Atomium of Brussels.
But that’s just for “irrational” fear responses. When it comes to trauma, the response is not irrational and is far more emotionally complex, and I would argue that exposure “therapy” is never appropriate.
Trauma-informed therapy models like IFS and the neurosequential model for early trauma are pretty much the best way to approach trauma.
besides even if your sadistic boyfriend was coincidentally a trauma therapist, he’s still not allowed to be YOUR therapist.
“Nonbinary” woman makes this video
And somehow the comments are actually supportive of lesbians!
All the top comments are like this. And it gives me hope! You may be wondering, did the creator acknowledge this criticism that the overwhelming majority of commenters had? Did she apologise for spreading homophobic conversion rhetoric?
Nope, she made a pinned comment to appeal to the penis havers and their worshippers. That’s her main concern. Not that she’s saying lesbians can be attracted to men, but that she didn’t police how she talked about dicks at the expense of lesbians enough.
But once again, the commenters are not having it
It’s really interesting to me that somebody not only thinks this is an okay video to publish…but then completely refuses to acknowledge the criticism rightfully calling her homophobic for it. Why make a video about lesbians if you clearly don’t give a shit about us?
Soo.. She deleted the video, because of "woke". Lmao.
Lmao
It’s funny that she only took it down because people were negative towards her. “Waaaah people didn’t use they/them pronouns for me and said I’m not a lesbian if I’m attracted to men waaahhh I’m not in the space to read this”
The negativity that she spread by posting an incredibly homophobic video that perpetuates harmful myths about lesbians? Doesn’t matter to her. She doesn’t care. She thinks that making a video about how lesbians are attracted to men is just being “silly”.
Then to say that her video “made some people uncomfortable” as if the issue is mere discomfort and not homophobia.
I find this whole situation so interesting because there are so many people like her running around. This is just the first time I’ve seen one receive ample backlash. But the core issue isn’t unique at all: there are so many straight and bi women who think that “lesbian” is a fun little label to adopt and stretch out to fit whatever they want it to fit. Whether that be a Kweer Experience or political “lesbianism”. And they’re more than happy to inflict harm on lesbians this way…but then they’ll throw a fit as soon as lesbians call them out.
you open tumblr and the bodies of fellow trans women roll on the ground next to you
I walk down the street. Someone has painted slurs on the window of the town's library because of the Harry Potter books behind the glass. I play a trivia board game. On the literature card, a little joke reads "we almost put a HP related question here, but decided against it". I open youtube to watch a Sims 4 building video. The youtuber opens her vid with a disclaimer that "just because she's building a magic school to go in the magic world DLC doesn't mean she supports 'that woman'". I open Instagram to message someone. The first post I see is a tattoo salon advertising their latest HP tattoo cover-up (it's now a tits-out furry pin-up girl (with a penis)). I turn on the radio. A french feminist author is under fire because she refused to explicitly criticize JKR in an interview.
Then I open tumblr and Good 0mens is trending for the 6th week in a row. Also they gave a movie award to pedocriminal#36281836. I think it's all going great so far
Tinfoil hat moment but I swear this ‘omg evil SWERFs!!!” nonsense is a psy op bankrolled by the sex industry because in what world is “I think it’s okay for 60 year old men to buy sex from 18 year olds struggling to afford their next meal :)” something you can say with a goddamn straight face.
that’s not even a tinfoil hat moment tbh like ‘turn off the blue light’ was a campaign run by traffickers, the #notyourrescueproject was run by a man who posed as one of the women he trafficked under the name “molli desi”, there’s probably more examples but yeah, that’s 100% what’s going on
Red umbrella project was started/run by pimps and traffickers too.
Also think about now much modern feminism has to do with “sex positivity” and glorifies PornHub 👀
Also the NSWP, one of the most influential sex work orgs (backed by Amnesty & funded by George Soros) has ties to human trafficking. One of their leaders got sentenced for procuring and trafficking a few years ago
Oh and the IUSW openly takes money from pimps, including Douglas Fox who ran one of the biggest prostitution rings in England
Julie Bindel took a trip to Phnom Penh, Cambodia in 2015 to visit women who were supposedly apart of a popular and well-funded NGO called “Women’s Network For Unity” (WNU). She was not aware beforehand that a board member would actually be at the meeting. She details in this article that the board member consistently interrupted the prostitutes she came to speak with. When asked about the services they provide for women, she said that “If the women are beaten up by the police, they are given legal training on their rights; if they are arrested, the WNU will provide food during the time they cannot work; and if one of the women dies, they will help to buy the coffin.” When asked by Bindel if the organization was planning to raise money to help women out of prostitution, she replied “No.” When Bindel spoke with the women at the WNU meeting, many told her that they needed hundreds of dollars to obtain identification documents that they would need to seek out other, less dangerous work. Many said they had no idea they were apart of any sex workers union or NGO, which WNU claims to be.
The International Union of Sex Workers (IUSW) is a UK-based union for sex workers, and became a part of GMB, another general workers union and Britain’s third largest union, in 2002 after a vote to become an affiliate. Like @feministclassicist mentioned before me in the thread, Douglas Fox is one of the many donors to the IUSW, and is also a part of Amnesty International, which I’ll address shortly. Fox owns the largest escort service in north-eastern England, and has dedicated a lot of time, money, and resources to lobby for the legalization of pimping, brothel-owning, and sexbuying.
In 2010, Douglas Fox published a post on the official IUSW website, wherein he routinely refers to women who are prostitutes as “whores,” claims that Julie Bindel and other anti-coercive sex industry feminists are not “true feminists”, claims prostitution does “not institutionalise the sexual objectification of women”, and states “the whore challenges social oppression of both men and women by refusing to conform to narrow oppressive role prescriptions.”
These statements are diametrically opposed to the lives and vocalized experiences/desires of the overwhelming majority of so-called “sex workers”, who want to leave these industries and find other sources of labor, but often don’t have the resources to do so. [2] [3]
In 2008, Douglas Fox proposed a motion for blanket decriminalisation of the sex trade at the Amnesty International (AI) Annual General Meeting, a proposal that became international AI policy seven years later.
In October of 2014, Alejandra Gil, the Vice President of the Global Network of Sex Work Projects (NSWP), was arrested for running a massive sex trafficking ring, using APROASE (a proclaimed sex-worker led sex work Union, for whom she was a co-chair member) as a front for her illegal activities. In March of 2015 she was charged. Despite that, the very NSWP article I linked paints Gil out to be a victim, and dismisses her guilt.
“Turn off the blue light” is a primarily European campaign, whose mission is “to raise awareness on the violence, crimes and discrimination against sex workers, a marginalized female group and mobilize public opinion and stakeholders in order to tackle these phenomena” Despite this self-proclaimed mission, the campaign is backed and funded by characters such as Peter McCormick, a convicted pimp who rakes in millions of Euros from his online prostitution service annually. Additionally, his son, who was convicted of running 6 brothels is another advocate for the campaign. TJ Carrol is yet another of these traffickers and pimps who supported the campaign. Carrol ran the largest trafficking/prostitution ring in Ireland, and utilized African gangs to traffick women and sell them into sexual slavery, where oftentimes they were horribly abused and unable to escape. Carrol and his associates used voodoo rituals to terrify African women into staying in the industry, and he also groomed his daughter into the business. Tony Linnane is yet another convicted pimp who backed the campaign. He was also connected to an incident wherein a woman was “threatened with being burned alive after gasoline was thrown on her.” Had enough yet? Mihai Selaru is a brother owner and pimp who plead guilty to beating the prostitutes forced to work for him, and threatened to starve a woman if she did not bring in more business.
Claudia Brizuela, a former leader of Asociacion de Mujeres Meretrices de Argentina (Association of Women Prostitutes of Argentina) (AMMAR) and a founder of the Latin American-Caribbean Female Sex Workers Network (LA-CFSWN), was arrested and charged with sex trafficking. The LA-CFSWN was represented by none other than Gil Alejandra.
Julie Bindel, through her fantastic and diligent research, discovered that the #notyourrescueproject hashtag and campaign, which claimed to be a “sex-worker-led” campaign was actually created and sustained by burner accounts of Dr. John Davies by women he had pimped and trafficked. Primarily, he posed as a disenfranchised woman from the Indian sub-continent named “Molli Desi.” All of the pictures of “Molli” were actually pictures of a woman he had trafficked from Bangladesh. Davies was a Visiting Research Fellow with the Centre for Migration Studies Department of Sussex University, where he routinely hid behind his respectability as a doctor in order to promote trafficking denialism. Davies was also involved in an adoption scheme called the King Solomon Foundation, which operated out of Romania, and where he sold the children of prostituted women for up to $20,000.
Liberal feminists and pro-“sex work” advocates, have you asked yourself who is benefiting from the constant platitudes you throw out? When you forego listening to the experiences of actual women who live in these conditions, the women who have been forever harmed and scarred by these immoral industries, and instead parrot talking points made by child predators, traffickers, pimps, and sexbuyers, who do you think is benefiting? I used to be like you. I used to spout the “sex workers deserve rights, and the way to go about that is through legalization” talking points. That stopped once I started dedicating time to researching the endless campaigns, legislative bodies and lobbyists that end up being the ones who are actively hurting women and selling them into sexual slavery. I started reading theory from women who have dedicated their lives to the protection and advocacy for women who don’t have the privilege of seeking these outlets themselves. Almost one million men, women, and children are trafficked every year alone. Have you ever critically addressed why you support legislation that increases this number? Why you claim we’re “sex-worker” exclusive when our feminism seems to be the only kind that seeks to abolish the sexual violence that pervades still? Empowerment is not commodifying women and selling us into sexual slavery. Empowerment is a state of being that requires that we have the conditions to make choices free of economic or otherwise violent coercion, or ultimatums that force women into inescapable circumstances. Wanting to legalize sexbuying, pimping, or brothel-owning is the advocacy of selling women for men’s sexual pleasure no matter the cost, and attempts to codify into law the types of situations that cause women to become prostitutes or trafficked individuals rather than eradicating the sociocultural, economic, political, and legislative plagues that commodify & objectify women, and force them into scenarios where they must submit to the sexual wills of men to survive.
Reblogging because not a whole lot of people were following me when I wrote this out
someone was looking for this…here it is.
Also this.
I have seen legal cases numerous times where a rapist or murderer was being strangled or held down by his female victim who got the upper hand. Every time, he begs and says “I’m sorry!” or “I promise I’ll stop!” and if the victim believes him, he, without fail, goes back to assaulting her or trying to kill her.
Do NOT hesitate when you get a chance to land blows. It does not matter if you kill him. Save your own life. Show no mercy.
SHOW. NO. MERCY.
This sex-doll company lets customers submit a photo of a woman so they can recreate her face on a doll. Not only is that creepy as fuck, but there are also a hundred reasons why this is a terrible idea. I have a few questions:
1. Are there any age restrictions for the women in these photos? Most of their dolls look so childlike that I’m honestly worried the answer is no.
2. Is there any way for them to verify that the woman in the photo has actually agreed to having her face used for a sex doll?
3. What does it do psychologically to men when they increasingly turn to submissive dolls that look like the exact women they’re fixated on?
What's also very concerning are the predominantly positive comments and lack of questioning. Our society has lost itself in sex-positivity.
Lydia Pettit (American, 1991) - Entry Points (2024)
AI Psychosis and the implications of its existence
Actually as shitty as the existence of AI psychosis is, the implications of it are FUCKING MIND-BOGGLING in actually a really revolutionary way.
("WTF are you talking about?" / "What do we currently know about AI psychosis?": x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x)
People experiencing "ChatGPT psychosis" are being involuntarily committed to mental hospitals and jailed following AI mental health crises.
Paywall free, via Futurism, June 28, 2025
Like, as someone who works professionally editing mental health books, the existence of AI psychosis almost certainly completely upends our understandings of how mental health disorders work. And their causes.
There's a non-zero chance the discovery/existence of AI psychosis is like. going to be/lead to more or less the mental health equivalent of inventing/discovering germ theory.
Like, in the past one to two years, we have gone from only sort of beginning to suspect,* to having actual, literal, indisputable proof that you can go from not having a psychotic disorder** to having a psychotic disorder literally just from talking too much to a very aggrandizing source and/or echo chamber
THAT SEVERELY UPENDS OUR UNDERSTANDING OF THE DEVELOPMENT AND ORIGINS OF MENTAL HEALTH DISORDERS
*Note: On a "scientific consensus" and "robust peer-reviewed research" level. Obviously, as a couple people in the notes pointed out, people who have experienced this shit have been saying this for years, and I'm very glad that science is finally backing up that maybe we should fucking listen to people actually experiencing a thing when we study that thing. **Note: I am using "psychotic" and "psychotic disorders" in their technical definition here, which is simply "involves experiencing breaks from reality." Because, contrary to all the stigma and misinformation, that's the literal/actual definition (x, x, x)
And like, obviously, in at least many cases, there would be/often are genetic, environmental, or trauma factors that are putting their thumbs on the scale there. But we know for a fact that a number of people who have developed AI psychosis do not have a previous record of mental health issues.
But the tipping factor for at least dozens of people, we now know for a fact, was talking to an AI chatbot. And we have a complete record of what was said for almost every single one of those cases, because, among other things, OpenAI / ChatGPT is now LEGALLY REQUIRED to preserve ALL CHAT TRANSCRIPTS, even if users delete them, until the court says otherwise (x, x, x).
(Which will be, by the way, years, at a minimum - that may have started with a copyright lawsuit, but there will be so many other AI lawsuits and investigations, including about AI psychosis, in the EU if not the US - this will go on for a while)
Anyway, yeah, good news in the long term for the understanding and treatment of mental health disorders
In the short term, seriously, please don't use chatbots for at least another couple of years, as a safety precaution
At least until they've sorted this shit out and (HOPEFULLY) figured out how to make this shit stop happening (and then, hopefully, actually implemented those changes).
Just call it a basic safety precaution - especially if you have any sort of neurodivergence and/or any history or family history of hallucinations, delusions, schizophrenia / schizo-spectrum, psychotic spectrum disorders, etc.
Reminder to multigender people (and trans people in general, but this came up on the multigender survey so I'm addressing multigender people in particular) that you can't "transition to become intersex." You can absolutely transition to have mixed sex characteristics, or both a penis and a vagina, or whatever other transition is best for you, but if you're not intersex you shouldn't refer to yourself that way. Intersex people have repeatedly explained that it's inaccurate and offensive to claim you're "transitioning to intersex," don't do that.
it’s offensive to think you can become intersex but not offensive to think you can become female? why?
hmmmmmm
men love to be like “nobody could have ever imagined or predicted this, but somehow its happened and we finally need to sound the alarm” about things feminists have talked about for decades. if i went back in time and said “in 2025 there are pornography cults of suicidal losers” andrea dworkin would have just nodded
the context for this, to be clear, is the pornography cult of suicidal losers. nothing about which, i feel, is hard to believe for anyone who’s been critical of pornography for more than five minutes
Loneliness, porn’s next frontier, and the dream of endless masturbation
I believe it was Robert Jensen who said “pornography is what the end of the world looks like” and I guess we are there.
I predicted a bunch of effects in the 90s but couldn’t have predicted this.
I suppose the only saving grace is that most of these guys won’t ever breed.
he did indeed. you can read robert jensen’s book Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity on a pdf here
^ from jensen’s article Why Are Men So Obsessed With Pornography? which you can read on substack here or on a pdf here . i do recommend, it’s a quick read and from just this year.
not to keep posting about this but i don’t think a lot of people realize that forcing women to be in a perpetual state of defensiveness, so much so that it is internalized and wired into our brains from the time we’re born, is actual brain damage and directly mirrors the internal wiring of trauma survivors whose nervous systems are constantly on alert and ready to defend even when they don’t need to be. when you’re living in a state of perpetual defensiveness you become neurotic, hypervigilant, obsessive, anxious, depressed, overreactive, self-conscious, afraid. all of the things that have been historically categorized as feminine traits and behaviors. your true internal needs become masked by this compulsion to always be performing to satisfy externally enforced expectations, and you lose your sense of self and create this situation where what you want/need is directly at odds with what you express (or don’t express) to others. which then is what gives birth to the idea that women never know what they want, women are mysterious and hard to understand, women are always contradicting themselves, women are never clear. it’s like well..yeah because women are repeatedly traumatized both psychologically and physically from the day they’re born and only those who are fortunate enough to encounter sisterhood or wise maternal guidance or individually break free from ideology are able to live authentically. and even then it takes so much work to resist because you still have to operate within a culture that doesn’t have a place for liberated women.
‘Hands weaving magnetic-core memory, IBM, Poughkeepsie, New York,’ 1956. Photograph by Ansel Adams.
My mother used to make computer cores as a "work from home" side business. As a child I got spending money via un-winding the ones that failed testing so that the magnetic center could be re-used. I got between $0.05 and $0.25 per core depending. Mom got more for the finished ones, of course, though I don't know how much. Her sister was an expert, and did the more complicated kind, some of which ended up in satellites and/or were used by NASA!
They were all done by hand using a kind of treadle-operated frame with a little (crochet!) hook to pull the wires around the cores. The people making them were mostly housewives who did this as a side-job in the 80s and 90s. I don't know if it's still done that way anywhere in the USA today, but the history of computing and space exploration is littered with "women's work" like this.
