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Working on new intro! Please hold this temporary one while I’m cooking…

#wip #pinned post #redoing it bc I can actually yknow edit this one #I feel like my last one was kind of gouche

women who r skin n bones deserve a space heater n blankets n free osteoporosis injections bc they r like delicate baby birds i worry about them. But we absolutely cannot cede control over the central air system. In the voice of "U gotta be this tall to ride" U gotta be 200 lbs to touch the dial...

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This one has to have been done, right?

(Eridian Welcoming Committee concept and template by @justcakethanks )

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This is why I have TikTok

#ok the stack of hats lmao

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Friends, romans, people who are nonbinary except at work, lend me your ears,

#oh! me!

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i have no idea how to draw hands but

recording you

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as humiliating as it is to repost myself from a light-mode-user's reddit screenshot, i cannot allow this year's zenquish to go uncelebrated.

celebrate my favorite holiday with me, my friends.

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if the emperors of rome can add extra months that actually fuck the calendar up i'm allowed to add a new month that lasts 0.0000 picoseconds

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the last holiday that hasn't been commercialized

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i made this up when i was a little kid and nothing would make me happier than to see people celebrating it for years to come

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zenquish approaches. prepare to rejoice! briefly!

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depending where you are in the world, zenquish is either fast approaching or already over! rejoice!

beesmygod

made some terrible sourdough last night. awful stuff. didnt work at all. wasted the last of the bread flour on another failed experiment. bummer!! looks like i didnt proof it enough and the house was too cold. but i didnt know that at the time

heres the note i left for my husband trying to explain the results

his response

beesmygod

#what the FUCK

mxjackparker

Hate that the term "post-nut clarity" gets applied to guilt and shame people feel after watching porn or having sex. These feelings aren't any more real or reasonable that the horniness was. You don't have clarity, you're just not horny anymore and grew up in a culture that told you to be ashamed of sex and masturbation.

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It's also wild how often I see people talking about "post-nut clarity" when what they're describing is a drop.

It's more commonly talked about in bdsm spaces as subdrop, but you can drop as a dom or even just after vanilla sex or masturbation, especially if it was more intense than you normally experience.

A drop happens when you've been building up a lot of those feel-good chemicals in your brain during sex, then suddenly the sex is over and your brain overcompensates in trying to rebalance. You might feel depressed, anxious, regretful, ashamed. It can happen immediately after or even a few days after. This can happen even if you're normally a very sex-positive person.

It isn't post-nut clarity! You're either dealing with internalized shame towards sex in general or you're having a temporary chemical imbalance. Maybe even both! Pamper yourself after. Forgive yourself. The thoughts you're having in that moment aren't necessarily rational ones.

Be generous with yourself, do something comforting after sex - it's like a workout cooldown. Take it easy on yourself and give your brain something positive to focus on to ease into the loss of the chemical rush.

#I described this to my therapist recently!#like I’m not into BDSM but by golly their safety stuff has helped me a lot #breathing techniques are amazing for helping to try regulating it

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also, google is free, but pick up a textbook every once in awhile. Find articles written by POC and keep up to date with how you can be a better ally. I took a black feminist theory class in college…taught by two white women.

You heard me right. Two. White. Women.

Which is fucking insane in itself, but on the first day of class one of the professors was reading an article, written by a black woman…and decided that it was completely acceptable and appropriate to drop the n-word (hard r) and every single person in class was fucking MORTIFIED. Even in the context of education, there was no reason for a white professor to so casually and subtly use that word. (They were called out for it immediately after and profusely apologized)

My point is that covert racism is still racism, and unfortunately it is alive and well.

I also have all of the articles and works saved from this class if anyone would like to do some heavy and necessary reading! I have hard copies, but I’m sure I can find the links for the articles as well.

Just after doing a little research on google, I found these articles to be incredibly helpful on breaking down covert racism, racism, white privilege, etc.

covert racism

systematic racism

racism and health

becoming trustworthy white allies

what is white privilege

books on systematic racism, racial justice, and anti-racism

race equity tools

Bottom line, white people have no excuse to not stand up for BIPOC. There is no excuse for racism. There is no tolerance, and we have to do better. I firmly believe that the first step in becoming a better ally is to educate yourself.