Dazzling Ghost Siren @klymilark - Tumblr Blog

Figured I should maybe make an introduction post? Idk if that's standard for tumblr, but meh

I'm a blogger, an indie game developer (working on my first game), and a heavy gamer. Most of what I like are survival games for right now, but other games do get put into the mix. The game I've been playing most for the past year has been Wurm Online

My primary OS for most of the last 15 years has been Linux, and I've been on Arch for about a year now (with a small NixOS themed break not too long ago). I'm also an Emacs user of about a year.

Besides that I knit, crochet, do a bit of programming on the side, solve rubik's cubes, and... a lot more stuff.

I do have a fediverse account hosted on Friendica. That's mostly how I interact with here. I do sometimes share stuff over there from here via links, if you don't want me doing that feel free to block me, I won't mind! If you want an example of how that looks, here's a link:

And for what most people on the fediverse will see it as:

This is also why twitter-style #hashtags appear in my posts; that's the only way I have to tag posts there

#emacs #game development #introduction #wurm online

homunculus-argument

Herding sheep, looking after kids, and playing healer in videogames: every day you're surprised of the sheer innovative genius of how they'll find the most inconvenient goddamn places just outside your reach to get hurt or put themselves in lethal danger.

drafty-castle

Isn’t this sheep in real life?

homunculus-argument

Children in real life also.

homunculus-argument

It. It literally did. That was literally precisely the point.

I have no idea how the hell I could possibly express myself more clearly.

flickering-leaves

The humble Oxford comma

homunculus-argument

IT'S LITERALLY RIGHT THERE.

mylordshesacactus

#you can understand op by using your brain

bite-my-grimy-fleshy-ass

Being raped while also being told by society at large including formerly close friends that any sexual desire you and women like you have is equivalent to being a sexual predator, while also only being desired by people who value you as a disposable sex toy, really does a number on your ability to be intimate even with people you trust. But no, trans women are dickgirls and thus are always the aggressor and utterly ignorant on the true impact of sexual violence.

evelily-deactivated20260503

@staff @humans @photomatt

Genuinely go fuck yourself,

Salem did nothing besides be a beacon of love, Black positivity, and support for his transfem friends. He made beautiful art to express his Blackness, the experience of being trans, and his desire to make people with beautiful bodies be seen, and I guess we just can't have that positivity here, or were you tired of banning trannies you decided to be racist as well?

After everything he went through, this is how you treat him?

Between this, and the previous terming of Yaybunnies, it must one again be reiterated that Black people being loud and positive about their Blackness is not allowed on this racist site.

And, because the userbase is also just as racist, it can be even harder to drum up as much awareness and positivity for is drummed up for even white transfems.

Don't let them get away with this. Reinstate @wolfertinger66

Again, fuck you @staff @humans @photomatt

Ghouls, every last one of you behind the controls of this.

memewhore

crystalcanis

If we're being brave is this a safe space to say that it's fucking weird how some people have no problem implying with their whole chest that they'd rather read about animals than stories about humans of color.

robotblues

the brothers Area

friend-crow

birds-in-posts

Kelp gull (Larus dominicanus)

tacofriendss

Normalize toys during sex. Roll that hot wheels over them titties. Skurt.🏎

noodles-07

websites often misjudge how far I will go to avoid ads. "you can't use this site until you turn off the adblock sowwy" I Am Leaving Your Website

traegorn

So there's a post going around complaining about American Imperialism and Pride, blaming queer Americans for other countries doing Pride stuff in June.

And I've chosen not to reblog it for a lot of reasons.

First off, it's blaming American Queer people for making Pride "international." This ignores the history of the movement. The whole reason it's called "Pride" comes from the people who were celebrating the anniversary of Stonewall. The reason this term (and the June date in some places) was adopted in other cities in the US, let alone countries, was as a show of solidarity as a movement. This was a choice made by marginalized people in those other places, and not an act of "imperialism." While this was starting, we were fighting to have any kind of "Pride" events in the US to begin with.

The OP says that they're in aotearoa, and claims their pride should be in July, not June, because they earned their rights. They acknowledge that the official pride months in New Zealand (which differ by state) are in February and March -- but it misses the god damn point.

Pride isn't about having won anything. No one won any rights at Stonewall, nor was any historic legislation passed that day.

It was a god damned riot.

Pride is about the fight. It's about the day we decided to fight back.

Pride is about celebrating our ability to fight for our own existence.

If you don't want to celebrate it in June? Fine. I genuinely don't care when you choose to celebrate the fight -- I just care that you're fighting and I'm happy to stand alongside you. If you think people need to learn more about queer history in your country too? Awesome. I'd love to learn it. Share some resources or try teaching us.

But this weird attitude that it's somehow American Queer people's fault that your own community decided to adopt the anniversary of a riot in the US is just insane to me. They chose it to show solidarity, because when we fight for us, we're fighting for you too and vice versa. Especially in a year when American Queer people are fighting for their lives more than they've had to for a long time with the attacks on the Trans community, it feels pretty fucked up to equate those getting stepped on by the boot with the boot itself.

And maybe that poster is just young and hasn't thought about it. Maybe they're just frustrated that their nation's own queer history isn't more widely known. But this is also the exact kind of thing that gets fed into communities like this one in an attempt to divide it.

Don't fucking fall for it.

artemis-the-wolf-fiend

Also, Pride is a particular response to Western forms of queerphobia. It's incredibly important to recognize that other countries have their own queer histories but need Pride to challenge the US imperialism that shaped global queerphobia.

I often see people complaining about LGBTQIA+ discourse being adopted in other countries as well, and it's the same issue. That language is a particular response to Western oppressions that have been spread through imperialism. A non-US nation using those terms isn't US queer people imperializing them, it's them choosing to use specific language to challenge the impact of US imperialism.

(Also, the very idea of countries and nations is itself Western, so saying that a nation-state needs to exist entirely within its own historical context and not respond to imperialism is an oxymoronic erasure of that imperialism)

traegorn

So people have dug up the comment threads on that year old post I was referring to with this post, and they've decided to piss all over the poor in the new responses to my comments from a year ago.

So instead of engaging with people who can't be bothered to go through a whole thread and would rather write fanfic about what I wrote so they can argue against whatever strawman they've constructed.

The idea that a marginalized community having international solidarity at some point is "imperialism" is so ridiculous. Their own people adopted these things on their own. If you'd rather not... then don't? Stonewall UK named itself that because the British people who started it chose that name. No American asked them to.

That isn't imperialism. It's chosen community. But people with no understanding of queer history have decided to focus their own hatred of the American system against the people that system exploits too. It's like the so-called-leftists who think marginalized people in red states deserve what happens to them.

They started with the conclusion, and care more about who they hate than who they help. Nuance is fucking dead.

gaytanic-panic

parkchanwoohoo

I'm being dragged in the group chat bc I accidentally wore two different pairs of shoes to the theater. I wasn't even in a hurry, I have no fucking excuse for not noticing this

parkchanwoohoo

I totally forgot about this oh my god

parkchanwoohoo

elodieunderglass

To appreciate this story, please understand that my child Bear, aged 9, is nonjudgmental and dreamy, and Mouse - aged 3 - is wildly charming, but above all things requires that OTHER people behave with DECENCY and DECORUM.

Today, Mouse’s principles had been compromised, because (among other things) I had allowed their two-year-old friend to finish eating an apple core that Mouse had not entirely abandoned (violating an ancient rule of chivalry) but when this was pointed out, I hissed privately that we had to let the baby eat the apple, citing some obscure law about ‘hospitality’. I had also asked Mouse to overlook this baby’s other crimes, such as chucking toy cars about, and flagrantly hogging a small balloon.

“That,” mouse says strongly, all propriety outraged, “is NOT sharing!!!”

Earlier in the day, after swimming, when Mouse’s best friend Bess acquired some gummy snacks, Bess did NOT trade them with a favourable exchange rate for Mouse’s generously offered cheese snacks; and one of Mouse’s other good friends, Syndy, has invited them over to play fire engines NEXT week. Attentive minds will instantly notice that this is not THIS week, when Mouse would prefer it to happen.

Syndy furthermore is persisting in having their birthday party in MARCH, not tomorrow - I DO hope you can understand the stress that Mouse is under. Also, Mouse has - in their own opinion- generously offered to forgive these crimes, by kissing and making up; but, although their friends often accept the snog, they continue the crimes. Thus, poor Mouse! The last defender of good manners! A parfait gentil knight! Is reduced to screaming: THIS IS NOT WHAT WE DO. That is TOO MUCH.

(Bess demonstrated being Too Much this morning by uncoupling their car seat and climbing into the boot of a car, and sprinting across a parking lot while their sire howled in anguish; while respecting Bess’s tremendous coolness and defiance, Mouse is the first one to condemn their wild behaviour, and the loudest voice to shriek: “NO BESS YOU ARE BEING TOO MUCH.”)

When Mouse, aged 3, and I came downstairs this evening - I had just had a Mouse-assisted shower- we found that Bear, aged 9, was watching Galaxy Quest with their sire.

Mouse watched with appreciation as a pretty lady on the screen snogged an attractive man. “Oh,” they said, tenderly, delighted.

The kiss deepened. “OH!” Mouse hooted, and coo’ed with approval, as someone who snogs their friends with almost-alarming lack of discrimination - they said, supportively, “oh good! A good kiss.”

The lady produced some tentacles.

“Oh, WHAT?” mouse said, aggrieved by this. “Oh WHAT!!!!”

The lady produced more tentacles, and helpfully dragged the man under.

“THAT IS NOT,” howled a beleaguered Mouse, “HOW WE KISSING.” And they proceeded to shriek in outrage; “NO LADY! That is NOT NICE KISSING! YOU STOP IT!”

The snogging continued. The man disappeared.

“MUMMY,” Mouse shrieked, “MUMMY, LADY NOT NICE KISSING!”

“Er,” i said.

“HIM SAD,” mouse said, feeling tremendously on the side of the gentleman, “THAT IS TOO MUCH.”

“Well, you see, Mousey,” I said, inadequately: “sometimes, some ladies are squids…”

I petered out.

Bear came to the fore. “And some boys,” they declared, with confidence, “are octopuses.”

whokilledlordmorley

I like to imagine Mouse's narration was nearly identical to the man's own internal monologue during the struggle.

inbabylontheywept

there is a stripper pole in my attic. i saw it in a dumpster one day, and i went, shit, this is exactly the kind of thing my wife would want. and i didnt really want it in the house, what with it being a used stripper pole lightly seasoned with dumpster juice, but i mentally decided that if she were to see it and ask for it, i would say she could have it, and then sure enough, later that evening, she went soooo baaaaaaaabs there's this thing by the dumpster and i want it but i get it if you don't want it in the house but i have to show it to you- and i went, no you dont, you can have the pole, and that was the most surprised i have ever made her look. even compared to the day when i proposed to her, which she was prepared enough that we both knew she would say yes, and she could also get her hair done up and have a cute outfit, but not so prepared that she was not fucking flabbergasted by the 12 empty decoy ringboxes i sprung on her. i handed her so many decoy ring boxes that day. still one of the funniest things i've ever done to her.

anyway we like pacing around together and ranting in the attic but sometimes instead of pacing one of us will just hang on the pole and spin, and the other person will watch on the beanbag, which makes for these really goofy conversations where the person on the bag will say something that gets the other persons goat, such as, hypothetically, that xylophones do not belong in rock music, and then the other person will go on a tirade about this, but they'll actually only be facing the Hot Take Speaker half of the time, what because of the pole, so the response will sound something like

I can't believe

you would even suggest such

a stupid opinion. You've

been to a Danny Elfman

concert! How can you

have heard Oingo Boingo

live and say with a straight face

that they alone do not justify

rock and roll xylophones

and then that person will continue until they get too dizzy, then they'll get off the pole, and by unspoken agreement, the person on the bag will get up and trade places with them to deliver their rebuttal while also spinning and it just creates this sort of crazy strip-court lawyers debating absolute nonsense for no reason kind of vibe that frankly just really does it for us.

i don't really have any marriage advice for this i guess its just a look at what being married can look like. i thought that being married would involve a lot more stuff like carving the turkey, or barbecuing, or watching the sunset, and if id known how much time it would involve arguing for xylphones in rock music while spinning upside down i might have prepared for it a little differently.