i find it[‘s] frustrating when a character makes a decision (especially an emotional one) that makes sense for them [you] as a person to make in a [that] given situation, but because the decision has unforeseen ill effects of some kind, fandoms [you, others, or both,] attribute this choice to the character’s [being] stupidity. because it’s like. no!! they [you] aren’t stupid, they are [you were] just trapped within their [your] story and cannot [could not] see further forward in it than where and when they are [you were]!! they are [you were] not looking at this with the omniscient god’s eye view that you [perspective of an outsider], the viewer [nor with the hindsight of someone] who has [had] already read this book [lived this story] or seen this movie [played out before], are where you know [who may have an idea of] what happens after this and the consequences of every [said] move [scenarios] on [the hypothetical] narrative chess board [they assigned you]!! they cannot [you could not] make the decisions that you think [others thought] you would [should], knowing what you know [which they’ve based off their experience or perspective], because they don’t [you didn’t] have all that insight!!
This elegantly constructive critique of toxic fandom behavior is a masterful observation on emotional intelligence, specifically, empathy. It succinctly depicts, without stating, how a lack of self awareness correlates to low emotional intelligence. Furthermore, the relatability of an exceptionally upsetting facet of fandom makes for an excellent example, while also offering a solution to facilitate the understanding and practice of empathy. If one is able to comprehending this criticism when applied to their fave, while simultaneously being able to compartmentalize any personal offense they take from said criticism, then they are also able to apply those same skills when similar circumstances befall them and their interpersonal relationships. It may take time, and they made need a moment to process, but if they can understand from a fandom perspective, then they’re more than half-way there to understanding and practicing said skills in the moment. The path towards all forgiveness is paved by growth through self-awareness.
i find it[‘s] frustrating [disrespectful and biased] when a character makes a decision (especially an emotional one) that makes sense for them as a person to make in a [that] given situation, but because the decision has unforeseen ill effects of some kind, fandoms [you] attribute this choice to [their] character’s [being] stupidity. because it’s like. no!! they aren’t stupid, they are just trapped within their story and cannot see further forward in it than where and when they are[/were]!! they are not looking at this with the [your] omniscient god’s eye view that you, the viewer [outsider’s perspective] who has [may have] already read this book [lived this story] or seen this movie [played out before], are where you know [who may have an idea of] what happens after this and the consequences of every [said] move [scenarios] on [the hypothetical] narrative chess board [you’ve assigned them]!! they cannot make the decisions that you think you would, knowing what you know, because they don’t have all that insight!!
