maybe it’s because so many bisexual women use unclear obfuscating language like queer, gay, sapphic, wlw, etc. instead of just saying they’re bisexual! i’ve seen so many bisexual women both online and in person that went around telling everyone they were gay, and talking about how gay they were, and cracking jokes about being gay, and then went on to date a man, leading to confusion. turns out the whole time they identified as bisexual and were using gay as an umbrella term. yes even if you claimed the bisexual label loud and proud, you’d probably still get some off comments from people when you start dating a man. but maybe this has something to do with it?? and also another part of it is how many women identify as bisexual or lesbians, start dating a man and then identify as straight. this is part of why when a bisexual woman starts dating a man, people might question if the bisexual woman is actually still bisexual or now straight. but what does “having your queerness questioned” even mean? like what are some tangible examples? is this like when people who don’t know you see you dating a man and assume you’re straight? i’m sorry i’m just really failing to find my sympathy bone for this whole issue