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[lostandfem]

podcast called girlhood where its actual women talking about growing up female this time cuz frankly we dont talk about that ourselves enough

[noncompliantbi-deactivated20241]

That would be amazing tbh. All different kinds of girls from different walks of life talking about the commonalities and the differences and seeing the systemic nature of some of their experiences.

[ilistened2transwomen]

I'm actually interested in starting this. I know how to do basic audio editing and I think I can be pretty ~charismatic~ when necessary. Any women who are interested in recording a conversation please drop me an ask, also happy to hear suggested topics, format, etc.

[ilistened2transwomen]

I’ve gotten some messages and tags about being interested in listening / participating / helping with the technical side of this idea. I am moving forward with it and starting to organize some episode ideas. If you’re interested please send me a chat and let me know. I’m thinking for now that I’m going to make a list of specific themes and draw up some questions to interview subjects on. So maybe a few episodes about one theme, and in each of those episodes have clips of different interviews? I’m not exactly sure, but anyone who is interested, please hit me up. Would be happy to do some non-recorded chats and feel out how people are feeling and what kind of format works best. Please signal boost even if you’re not interested in participating <3

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women will proudly declare they’re “using a man for his money” as if men haven’t been willingly and joyfully paying for access to women’s bodies for centuries. as if that were a price he wasn’t willing to pay. as if he doesn’t know exactly what he’s doing. as if he were at some sort of disadvantage within this arrangement. as if they’re in a position of power by providing something the man can’t get anywhere else at any time with that same exact money. you’re not using him for his money, he’s bribing you to fuck him. 

[female--freedom]

Woman : I’m using him for his money!

Man : I’m using her with my money.

[prober2020]

Women were forced to trade sex for critical home repairs

The Baltimore housing commissioner turned a blind eye, and he must go.

[laurierrose]

“Live with a gas leak that could kill you and your child, or be forced to have sex with the maintenance man who can fix it? It’s a horrifying scenario. But at least 19 women living in Baltimore public housing were routinely denied maintenance services for rat infestations, gas leaks, no heat, risk of electrocution, and more–unless they agreed to have sex with the city’s maintenance employees.”

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[ms-revived-frogs]

Now do you all see how sex is one of the most crucial feminist talking points? The dynamics of sex between men and women, especially used as a bargaining chip, are one of the core factors of misogyny, and need to be fundamentally changed. “Sexual access to women” should not be a commodity given to any man in power, to abuse and exploit. 

[ihatemenandtherearereasons]

Exhibit 1821

[not-the-shinigami-eyes]

"These titties are more real than you would ever be, bitch"

"No man wants you"

"TERFs go home"

"Nazi scum"

This is their response to women holding these signs:

[ihatemenandtherearereasons]

Exhibit 1815

[ms-revived-frogs]

I love how they have to insult based on sexual availability to men. It's the exact same thing men say to feminists! "You're only a feminist because men don't want to fuck you"

[coochiequeens]

“Are women in prostitution crash test dummies to be experimented on? […] Are we still human beings [to] the state?” She asked.”

GERMANY: Convicted Rapists Are Being Offered Access to Brothels as Rehabilitation “Therapy” - Reduxx

Marylène Lévesque was just 22 years old when she was found stabbed to death in a hotel room in Quebec City, Canada in 2019. Lévesque, who wa

Marylène Lévesque was just 22 years old when she was found stabbed to death in a hotel room in Quebec City, Canada in 2019. Lévesque, who was in the sex industry, had decided to meet Eustachio Gallese, 51, at the hotel instead of at the massage parlor where she typically operated.

Unbeknownst to Lévesque, Gallese was on day parole while serving a life sentence for killing his girlfriend, Chantale Deschesnes in 2004.

Gallese had brutally murdered Deschesnes by bludgeoning her with a hammer and stabbing her repeatedly. After being incarcerated, Gallese began to gradually receive privileges from Canada’s parole board on the basis of “good behavior,” downgrading his risk of reoffending from “high” to “moderate” to “low to moderate.” He was ultimately granted a day parole, the facilitation of which led to Lévesque’s murder.

The case made international headlines after it came to light that Gallese had received express permission from Canadian prison administrators to visit brothels during his day parole, reportedly in order relieve his pent-up sexual tension.

Unfortunately, this case is not isolated.

In Germany, the situation is particularly dire, where women in the sex industry are being used as test subjects for a radical new therapeutic approach to the rehabilitation of convicted rapists.

Often referred to as the “brothel of Europe” for its massive legal prostitution market, there are confirmed cases of men convicted of sexual violence being granted permission to visit brothels with the explicit intention of “accumulating experience with women,” with incidents being recorded in two German states.

In one program, which the Osnabrück Forensic Psychiatric Center has been running since 2001, women in the sex trade were invited to come to the clinic to “aid” convicted rapists in learning about sexual consent. The program has attracted backlash from those concerned with ethics and women’s rights.

Rüdiger Müller-Isberner, former president and current board member of the International Association of Forensic Mental Health Services, condemned the practice as “aberrant” and “morally dubious.” 

Prostitution survivor, PhD student, and anti-sex industry advocate Huschke Mau expressed similar sentiments, questioning the morality of using women involved in the sex industry as guinea pigs for so-called rehabilitation experiments.

“Are women in prostitution crash test dummies to be experimented on? […] Are we still human beings [to] the state?” She asked.

Yet the practice continues, and has far more supporters than one might hope.

Many proponents of the program claim that the men involved in the program are considered to be “low-risk,” and so the risks to the women involved have been accurately assessed. But the claim is dubious at best in light of the Lévesque murder, where Gallese had been determined to be as “low-risk” as an offender can be categorized in the Canadian system. 

Other supporters point to the fact the program is not currently taxpayer funded, with the men who paying out of pocket for the visits. But the most widespread contention that underscores all of the support is the belief that, no matter what a man has done, denying him sex would be an egregious human rights violation. 

“Sexuality is a part of human dignity. […] Even rapists should not be excluded. After all, it is precisely they who must learn the value of consensual sexuality,” wrote legal correspondent and lawyer Christian Rath back in 2011 for the notoriously neoliberal news outlet Taz.

For an industry that has struggled to maintain a façade of decency, rebranding it as a dignified form of “therapy” or “healing” appears to be yet another attempt at normalization. It comes on the heels of years of liberal feminists attempting to assert prostitution is a form of harmless, legitimate employment.

The Federal Association for Erotic and Sexual Services(FAES), an organization that claims that all members are “current or former sex workers” is now calling for prostitution to be included in the global “care revolution,” even bastardizing Marxist theory to claim that the industry can be classed as essential “reproductive work.”

On their website, they’ve issued a statement comparing the supposed healing power of prostitution to the essential services provided by therapists and nurses.

“The emotional work performed in many cases in sex work can be compared […] with that of coaches, therapists, nurses or similar professions, which are performed close to the body and close to people,” FAES declared.

In recent years, this rebranding strategy has been successfully utilized to argue that prostitution for disabled men amounts to necessary therapy, with the care policy spokeswoman of the Green Party arguing in 2017 that the practice should be publicly funded. 

In 2022, a man successfully sued his labor association to pay for his use of prostituted women with a specific “sexual assistant” license after he was in a work-related accident and sustained a disability which he claimed made finding a consensual partner “impossible.”

The decision appeared particularly tone-deaf to many considering already-existing accessibility barriers for persons with disabilities to participate in daily life, but particularly so when noting the high rates of sexual violence committed against disabled women and girls. 

But convicts, rapists, and disabled men aren’t the only ones demanding “sexual therapy” from prostituted women; the trend continues in senior care as well. 

Associations representing elderly men are now arguing for state-funded prostitutes for geriatric male patients with the added promise of supposedly curbing the widespread sexual harassment of female caregivers. 

This phenomenon ties into the “prison sex therapy” programs, as proponents emphasize its need specifically for cognitively impaired convicts.

FAES representative Josefa Nereus argued in 2020 that deploying women in prostitution in experimental “sex therapy” for convicted rapists is morally justifiable, as long as the woman in question is informed about whom she will be seeing. 

Despite her strong support, Nereus, a high-class escort who charges 250 Euro per hour, had admitted that she’s never had to endure a rapist as a “client.” In contrast, the women of Network Ella, Germany’s first organization for prostitution survivors, have recounted the horrors of barely surviving male sex buyers who had violent criminal backgrounds. 

Another prominent defender of the practice is the university educated 500 Euro per hour escort, columnist and sex industry representative Salome Balthus. 

Balthus takes it a step further and argues that prostitution can act as a fantasy service for “ethical” pedophiles who seek out infantilized prostituted women to avoid offending against children. 

Unlike Neurus, Balthus walks the walk. Her pseudonym is based on a painter infamous for portraying prepubescent girls in sexually charged poses. On Twitter, she labels herself a “toy for adults,” and posts illustrations depicting fantasy child sexual abuse. On her website, Balthus emphasizes her childlike stature, describing herself as “child woman,” and a “half-legal fantasy.”

In the 13th century, influential Christian theologian Thomas Aquinas asserted that prostitution was necessary to prevent violence against “civil” women, comparing it to the sewers used to carry dirt out of a palace. 

Then, in the 19th century, phrenologists such as Cesare Lombroso argued that some women were born sexual deviants and thus were perfectly suited for prostitution and the task of absorbing male aggression. This belief continued into the 20th century, bolstered by fascist regimes which consequently instituted brothel networks in all their occupied territories, claiming that this was in order to “protect” the local population.

In the modern age the so-called “sex positivity” movement claims to have moved beyond these ancient misogynistic notions with calls for “equality in the bedroom” and an end to “the orgasm gap.” Yet, their celebration of the sex industry shares a curious amount of similarities with the raging sexists of history they would otherwise oppose association with. 

The belief that a class of women should be readily accessible for purchase by men is not new. But while it was once claimed to be due to women’s natural inferiority, it is now being pushed as a consequence of female empowerment, sexual liberation, and women’s ability to serve the public good by renting their bodies to men “in need.”

Though the rationale has changed, the abuse remains.

By Elly Arrow Elly is a guest writer at Reduxx. She is a vocal advocate for the abolishment of the sex industry, and analyzes the intersecting issues of female poverty, lack of rights for migrant women, intimate partner violence and sexual trauma. Elly is the creator of Die Unsichtbaren Männer (The Invisible Men), a project documenting the attitudes of sex buyers in Germany.

[balkanradfem]

So related to separatism, I think that we should have a female-only archive where we collect and store all information we get on an average day about creepy, misogynistic, or possibly predatory male behaviour.

For instance, a man follows you in the street, even if you don’t recognize it, you write it down, and upload it to the archive to the appropriate category. Someone tries to harass, assault or corner you, you upload the event to the archive.

But, you also do it with the men you know. If you hear a coworker make a rape joke, you upload it to the archive, with his name and picture attached to it. Your brother talks about women using slurs and implies they all deserve to be used and discarded, you put his name in the archive, with his exact words and comments. You see a man you know creepily watching a child, you upload it to the archive, with his name and picture attached. You accidentally find out about your boss, friend, or a relative having a gross porn habit, you upload it to the archive.

Because, it’s very possible a lot of these people openly declaring that women are trash and should be violated and used, are the exact same men who follow women in the street, predate over children, commit domestic violence at home or generally just wait to trap a woman in an abusive relationship or a toxic marriage. Women should have access to this information.

So when a woman is considering dating a guy, or getting serious, she can type in his name into the archive, and find out if he’s in there, and if he is, what kind of misogynist he is when he doesn’t think it’s being recorded. When a woman is followed, she can check everyone who has been recorded having a creepy habit in the area, and possibly pin down the predator. Women’s watch can be organized over places where the instances of predatory behaviour have been high. Women missing could be prevented. Domestic violence could be proved more easily, if there’s a track record of the abuse also stored within the archive - for women would be encouraged to record abusive behaviour from their husbands too.

I also feel, if they wanted to participate, women trapped in prostitution would prove to be an amazing source of information, recording violent and dangerous behaviour, even if they have no names, descriptions would possibly help to pin and incriminate the predator. We’d also have a greater record of abuse happening within industries that use women as a resource, and they wouldn’t be just this ‘males will be males’ instances, it would be attached to a place, date, possibly name, and at least a description.

If anyone knows how to make this, let’s organize and make one.

[balkanradfem]

I’ve created an example form that would be used for submitting!

I am reporting:

Misogynistic behaviour (I’ve witnessed this man using dehumanizing language, offensive phrases and/or slurs)

Potentially harmful behaviour (I’ve noticed a potential stalker, man acting inappropriately, asking for private details, showing dubious behaviour, staring, getting too close, making me or other women uncomfortable)

Sexual harassment (I’ve noticed, or suffered, a man taking pictures, violating private space, inappropriate touching, grabbing, comments, making cat calls, using unwanted sexual language, exposing pornographic material)

Stalking/vouyerism (this man has stalked and/or violated privacy of me or another woman)

Assault (me or another woman has been assaulted, or an assault was attempted, an amount of chasing and evasion transpired)

Use of pornography (I’ve witnessed or found out this man uses pornographic materials)

Dangerous sexual preferences (I’ve found out this man has a fetish that involves harm to women or children, or invasion of their privacy, BDSM belongs to this category)

Pedophilic/predatory behaviour over children (I’ve noticed a man who is potentially grooming or predating over a child or a young person)

Threatening behaviour (this man is threatening harm over himself or to someone else) 

Abuse (myself or a woman I know is being trapped in abuse)

Abuse of power (this man used his influence/money/work position to corner, force, or intimidate me or other women into actions we find unacceptable)

Intimidation, manipulative behaviour, lies, pressure and coercion (this man uses tactics of pressure and manipulation in order to subjugate women into compliance)

Violence (I’ve suffered, witnessed or found about an event of violence, anything from hitting, physical intimidation, physical restraint, throwing furniture, causing injuries)

Domestic Violence (this man is abusing his wife, child, or a family member)

Attempt of injury or murder (me or a woman I know has suffered violence that was enough to cause injuries or death

Sexual assault (attempt or an incident of sexual violation of you, or someone else)

Use of prostitution (this man uses money to coerce women)

Violence and/or injury within prostitution (this man is unsafe, disregarded comfort, caused injuries and/or endangered mine or someone’s life)

Extreme forms of rights violation (terrorism, imprisonment, pimping, human trafficking, slavery)

Other (My report doesn’t fit in any of the categories)

Pick a date when the transgression happened: (if you can’t remember or it spans over longer period, select week, month, year, or a time period)

Pick an area where it happened: (online is an option, in which case you pick a platform)

Do you know the identity of this man? Yes/No (if yes is picked, additional form is opened):

Can you write the full, or partial name of this man? If so, write it down. (there’s an option to prefer not to say)

Do you have a picture of this man? If so, upload it here.

Do you know his workplace? If so, you can choose to share it here:

Do you know/can you estimate his age?

Any other identifying information you can share?

The rest of the form if the identity is unknown:

Have you seen this man/know what he looks like? If yes is picked this form opens:

Write a description of anything you can share about this man: Age, date of birth, relationship status, work status, height, weight, hair color, eye color, facial features, body type, type of clothing he wears, financial status, prominent features, body marks, scars, sound of voice, patterns of speech, scent, patterns of behaviour, areas where he could be a danger to someone. (you can only share what you choose)

If no is picked:

I wasn’t able to see his face (describe anything you can in that case, his height, size, posture, if he was wearing a mask, what did the mask look like, what kind of clothing was he wearing, what way he walks, sound of voice, if he said anything write it down)

I’ve met/seen this man online (share his handle, platform of choice)

I heard about it from another woman 

It is a group of men I’m reporting (option to describe the group)

I can’t share for security reasons

Other

Share your experience of what happened: (take your time, and know that this will help someone. If you’re the one who suffered thru this experience, we are sorry to have to put you thru it again.)

How big of a threat do you feel this man is to the women and children around him? (scale from 1-10 is offered)

Optional: What would make you feel safe? (a suggestion box is offered)

  Thank you for reporting misogynistic behaviour and helping to make sure women of the world are safer and better informed about actions of men. Your report will be stored at the archive and will be available to any woman in the area, or searching for the specific name, behaviour, and description. Once submitted, reports cannot be erased or removed, we believe you to have written the truth and it will stand where it’s needed. You will stay anonymous and this report will not be linked back to you.

This does not equal a police report, nor will this be forwarded to the police.

If you are currently in danger, or require support, safe space, or a shelter, please click here: ‘link’.

SUBMIT

Women please let me know if you find this form is safe and easy to use, and if I forgot any kind of misogynistic behaviour that one might like to report! Also @mygpuff can you please message me? I’ve been trying but for some reason, I can’t find your name in my messenger.

[balkanradfem]

There’s a visual of the site! And basic html is done, now I need someone to explain/help me make a functional database.

[balkanradfem]

Update:

we now have a developer working on this, so the database will exist!

more thought was put into privacy laws, so instead of asking for a picture, we’ll ask the reporter for a link to social media, and internet handles - this way all information that is shared, is the one men put on the internet willingly

if all they have is a picture, then it will be uploaded to another service, and only a link will be in the archive, so the archive is not hosting any personal data except for a name of the offender

There is still an issue of men finding the archive and realizing who was able to report them, if there’s one specific woman they hurt and suspect reported them, she could be in danger. If there’s a way to resolve this, I’d love to hear it! For now I’d recommend only reporting when it’s safe.

I added the category of Online Abuse, and put BDSM Related Abuse into it’s own category

We want to make the site in multiple languages, so we’ll need volunteers to translate it to their native language! If you want to be involved, dm me and you can join us on a discord server

After the database is done, I want to add media-reported misogynistic crimes in there, at least few months back, in order to be able to provide some statistics right away. Is there another service or organization that collects misogyny-related crimes and collects data on them? Because we could really use the data as some sort of a base, and share the information from it. We can’t be the first to try and collects these stats.

Here’s some more visuals from the homepage:

If you want to help or get involved, dm me! All suggestions and feedback in comments and replies are welcome too.

[balkanradfem]

This site is about to be completed, and at this point you can volounteer to translate it! We have it in English and Croatian, any other language is welcome! Contact me if you want to be involved.

[z0ruas]

Anti Porn Masterlist

Deep Inside: A Study of 10,000 Porn Stars

An analysis and infographic of 10,000 porn stars and adult films, revealing what the average adult performer looks like and does on film.

Get the latest stats and data trends from pornhub insights! Offering you an inside look of the data behind porn’s biggest site.

I included a link directly to Pornhub because it's pretty shocking how open they are about what depravity is popular. Enter at your own risk.

The Unapologetic Resistance of Women against Pornography

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Pornography has become a primary source of sexual education. At the same time, mainstream commercial pornography has coalesced around a rela

Adult (>18 years old) exposure to pornographic media is connected with: Believing a rape victim enjoyed rape Believing women suffer less fr

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^^ Enter at your own risk. I included this because the kinds of things they search for are the most solid anti porn evidence I've ever seen.

This is a lecture Dr. Gail Dines gave at the Nova Scotia Women’s Summit in 2012. It’s about how women are portrayed in the media in general, but about halfway through (40 minutes), she starts talking about the research she’s done on mainstream porn. Said research is complied in her book Pornland, which I really recommend. That there links to a full PDF.

This is a group of articles titled The Protection Project by the Journal of Human Rights and Society. Long read, but it talks a lot about how porn contributes to sex trafficking.

This is a TED Talk by Ran Gavrieli about quitting porn that has 20 million views

Pornography: Men Possessing Women by Andrea Dworkin

Anonymous on Pornhub's Parent Company Mindgeek

Hot Girls Wanted is a documentary about the "amateur" industry

I analyzed how often men search for "teen" and other CSA terms in 2016

How viewing porn impacts the workplace

[fitgf]

Anti Pornography Master Website

This website is meant to provide resources for anti pornography activists as well as to expose the harm caused by the porn industry.

an addition

[fae-ble]

If you are a feminist it is your job to dismantle the stigma around the movement by calling out bad feminists, like TERFs, TWERFs, misinformation, and blatant lies used to invoke fear into women, men, or just plain people.

Focus not only on women, but on men and non binary people as well. Feminism is an equality movement, which means we need to uplift EVERYONE. Not just women.

Feminism isn’t about female superiority. Don’t act like it is and call it out when people act as if women are better than men.

[question-the-status-quo-deactiv]

Hi Fae,

No, it is not feminist’s job to protect pro gender-identity politics.

Why? Because, feminism and gender-identity politics are literally two contradicting theories.

The word “gender” was coined in the 1950′s by sexologist John Money (a pro-genderist, mind you) as a literal replacement word for the term “sex-roles”. Gender means “sex-roles”. Feminists in the 1970′s embraced “gender” as this distinction between biological sexes and the power relations that surround the two most common biological sexes, males and females. John Money also attempted to condition a child (David Reimer) into identifying as a girl when the infant suffered from a botched circumcision. He conditioned said child through sexual abuse with his twin brother, Brian Reimer, and believed that pedophilia love was a thing. David and Brian would later both die from suicide in their adult lives. 

John Money thought of gender as a “social identity”, much like Tumblr genderists. Genderists support his ideology, and in that, his actions. They also walk over other oppressed groups to support (transwomen) male violence against females which you can observe in nearly every anti-gender post that genderists have commented on. They silence females for talking about reproductive issues, pressure lesbians into having sex with them and call them “transphobic” when they don’t, advocate for sex reassignment surgery (benefiting privately run institutions and capitalistic ideals) to conform to sex-roles rather than safer and healthier treatments for dysphoric individuals (like me), ignore black radical and trans radical feminists by claiming they “hate themselves” (they call this “internalized trans-misogyny” for trans-radicals), do not think of how legally identifying into a social role is going to mess up sociological data on male/female violence, steal ideology from feminist and critical race theory such as the concept of “intersectionality” to use it against oppressed people just to validate their identities, and take terms from the inter-sex community, such as “afab”, and misuse them, advocate for anti-recovery techniques for mental illness such as exposure therapy (something ESSENTIAL to recovery for mental illnesses like Body Dysmorphoric Disorder, anxiety, depression, OCD, phobias, etc).

Feminism is for the liberation of women as an oppressed class. It is not about protecting men at all. Feminism can be a very productive movement without protecting men since Feminism is anti-gender and benefits the oppressed sex. By claiming that feminism is about equality and lifting both men and women up, you are implying (maybe on accident) that women and men are already on the same playing field and that no power relations/oppression exists between men and women. Here are some helpful images that explain radical feminism pretty well (I do not take credit for any of them except for the first one):

[pryathis]

>women >oppressed in the first world

Please dig your head out of your ass.

[question-the-status-quo-deactiv]

Women are oppressed in the first world. “First-world women don’t have legitimate grievances because other women have it worse” is not an argument. So long as we have the right to vote, drive, go to school and work,  women should shut our mouths and be grateful to American men for allowing us to have that much? Many issues that are happening in other countries to women are still happening to women who live in first-world nations. Yes, feminists can and should campaign for international women’s rights. But we do not have to exclude our own country from this.

Shoo, shoo.

[pryathis]

How lmao? They’re advantaged in almost every way.

[question-the-status-quo-deactiv]

No.

We live in a patriarchy (and not an equal society or matriarchy) because men hold the most power, authority, and wealth. I am going to focus on US only.

In government (2015 statistics):

Source

Women in Congress currently hold 19.4% of 535 seats.

There are only 3 women in the US Supreme Court.

Women hold only 20% of the 100 seats in the Senate.

Women hold only 19.3% of 435 seats in the House.

Women hold only  25% of 312 statewide executive seats.

Women hold only 25% of 5411 seats in the State House/Assembly.

Only 24.3% of women hold 7383 seats in State Legislature.

Only 17% of 100 seats belong to women mayors in the 100 largest cities.

Only 18.4% of women hold 1393 seats as mayors in cities over 30,000.

In Media (2015 statistics):

Source

Film:

Men were 73 percent of all Hollywood TV writers in 2012. Women were 27 percent.

Women television writers earned about 92 cents for every dollar that white male writers earned in 2012, a penny more than the 91 cents women earned in 2009.

Men writing for film accounted for 85 percent of all screenwriters. Women represented 15 percent. That compared to 17 percent in 2009 and meant that men screenwriters outnumbered women screenwriters by a more than 3 to 1 margin.

Women film writers earned 77 cents for every dollar earned by white male film writers in 2012, down from 82 cents in 2009.

The share of minority television writers rose to 11 percent in 2012 from 10 percent in 2009. But, by a 3 to 1 margin, white TV writers outnumbered minority TV writers.

 Minorities represented 6 percent of film writers for the decade ending in 2009, when that rate fell to 5 percent. In 2012, the figure remained at 5 percent, which meant that minorities were outnumbered by 7 to 1.

While writers aged 41 to 50 got most of the gigs in Hollywood, that reality largely reversed itself once those writers turned 60.

Facebook’s Workforce is:

69 percent male overall, and 77 percent male in the leadership ranks.

 57 percent white, 34 percent Asian, 4 percent Latino, 3 percent bi-racial or multi-racial and 2 percent Black overall. 

Of workers in tech jobs, 85 percent were male and 15 percent were female. 

Of all those tech workers, 53 percent were white, 41 percent were Asian, 3 percent were Latino, 2 percent were bi-racial or multi-racial and 1 percent was black.

Of workers in non-tech sectors, 53 percent were male and 47 percent were female.

Of non-tech sector jobs, 63 percent were held by whites, 24 percent by Asians, 6 percent by Latinos, 4 percent by bi-racial or multi-racial persons, 2 percent by blacks and 1 percent by people of some other race. 

Google’s Workforce:

70 percent of all workers were male and 61 percent of them were white.

Additionally, men accounted for 79 percent of Google executives, 83 percent of tech workers and 52 percent of its non-tech workers as of January 2014, the month for which Google calculated data it released to the public in August 2014. 

LinkdIn:

75 percent of LinkedIn’s leaders were male. 

Of all company leaders, 65 percent were white, 28 percent were Asian, 4 percent were Latino, 3 percent were bi-racial or multi-racial, and 1 percent each was black or some other race.

53 percent of all LinkedIn workers in the United States were white, 38 percent were Asian, 4 percent were Latino, 2 percent were black, 2 percent were bi-racial or multi-racial and 1 percent was of some other race. 

83 percent of LinkedIn workers in tech jobs were male. 

Racially, 60 percent of tech workers were Asian, 34 percent were white, 3 percent were Latino and 1 percent each were black, bi-racial or multi-racial, or some other ethnicity.

Of those in non-tech jobs, 53 percent were male and 47 percent were female. Racially, 63 percent of non-tech job-holders were white, 26 percent were Asian, 5 percent were Latino, 3 percent each were black or bi-racial/multi-racial and 1 percent was some other race. 

Yahoo:

Of Yahoo employees who were at least vice presidents or even higher up the corporate ladder, 77 percent were men, according to Figures Yahoo Chief Development Officer Jacqueline Reses released in June 2014. 

Yahoo has a female CEO, Marissa Mayer. 

Men held 85 percent of Yahoo tech jobs and 47 percent of non-tech jobs.

 Yahoo provided a racial breakdown for its U.S. workforce only: 50 percent of employees were white, 39 percent were Asian, 4 percent were Latino, 2 percent each were black, of mixed race or did not disclose their race. In the C-suite of Yahoo’s U.S. offices, 78 percent of executives were white; 17 percent were Asian; 2 percent each were either Latino, of mixed race or did not disclose their race; and 1 percent was black. 

Apple:

Men comprised 70 percent of computer, mobile giant Apple’s workforce Apple reported that seven out of 10 members of its global workforce are men. The Cupertino, California-based company’s announcement was based on summer 2014 personnel data. 

Apple reported that females accounted for: 28 percent of its leader ranks. 35 percent of its non-tech employees. 

20 percent of its tech employees.  

On-screen development:

By race, 74 percent of female characters were white, 14 percent were black, 6 percent were Asian, 5 percent were Latina and 1 percent were some other ethnicity. 

Women actors had 42 percent of all speaking parts, a drop of 1 percent from 2012-13 but higher than 1997- 98’s 39 percent. 

As women characters aged, they were less likely to be cast. Of all female characters, 32 percent were in their 30s and 17 percent were in their 40s. The respective Figures for male characters were 33 percent and 25 percent.

Males directed 86 percent of all TV episodes. 

White males directed 7 out of 10 episodes. 

All women and minority men, combined, directed 3 out of 10 episodes.

 Men of color directed 17 percent of all episodes, an increase over the previous year. 

White women directed 12 percent of all episodes, the same rate as the previous year. 

Women of color directed 2 percent of all episodes, the same rate as the previous year. 

Overall, by age, 59 percent of female characters were in their 20s and 30s, while 58 percent of male characters were in their 30s and 40s. 

Of all characters, 3 percent of females and 4 percent of males were older than 60. 

 Females accounted for 46 percent of characters in programs with at least one female writer and 39 percent of characters in shows with no female writers. 

Females accounted for 47 percent of the cast in shows with at least one female creator and 39 percent of the cast in shows with no female creators. 

 In that cumulative category, these researchers concluded that in 2013-14 women were: 40 percent of producers, which was up from 38 percent in 2012-13. 26 percent of writers in 2013-14, down from 30 percent in 2012-13.  21 percent of executive producers, down from 24 percent in 2012-13.

19 percent of creators, down from 23 percent in 2012-13. 

16 percent of editors, which was unchanged from 2012-13.

 13 percent of directors, up from 11 percent in 2012-13. 

 1 percent of directors of photography, down from 2 percent in 2012-13. 

Women in video game development:

Overall, 48 percent of gamers were female. 

Women and men each purchased 50 percent of video games. 

Women aged 18 and older were 36 percent of gamers, while boys aged 18 and younger were 17 percent of gamers. 

On average, all adult gamers have been playing for 16 years; women have been playing for 13 years, on average, and men for an average of 18 years 

Online Harassment:

Of young women aged 18-24, 26 percent said they had been stalked online and 25 percent said they were sexually harassed online, and that some of those threats were sustained over an extended period.

In addition, women said “they do not escape the heightened rates of physical threats and sustained harassment common to their male peers and young people in general.” 

Women were more likely than men to find their most recent experience with online harassment extremely or very upsetting; 38 percent of those women and 17 percent of those men described their suffering in those terms. 

Although they hold almost 52 percent of all professional-level jobs, American women lag substantially behind men when it comes to their representation in leadership positions (source):

They are only 14.6 percent of executive officers, 8.1 percent of top earners, and 4.6 percent of Fortune 500 CEOs.

They hold just 16.9 percent of Fortune 500 board seats.

In the financial services industry, they make up 54.2 percent of the labor force, but are only 12.4 percent of executive officers, and 18.3 percent of board directors. None are CEOs.

They account for 78.4 percent of the labor force in health care and social assistance but only 14.6 percent of executive officers and 12.4 percent of board directors. None, again, are CEOs.

In the legal field, they are 45.4 percent of associates—but only 25 percent of nonequity partners and 15 percent of equity partners.

In medicine, they comprise 34.3 percent of all physicians and surgeons but only 15.9 percent of medical school deans.

In information technology, they hold only 9 percent of management positions and account for only 14 percent of senior management positions at Silicon Valley startups.

White men–by overwhelming numbers–hold the majority of power, wealth, and authority in the US.

Now that we have covered how women are oppressed by men in America, let’s look at the demographics of US women vs. other regions worldwide in violence statistics.

Regional data (source):

The report represents data regionally according to WHO regions.

For intimate partner violence, the type of violence against women for which more data were available, the worst affected regions were:

South-East Asia - 37.7% prevalence. Based on aggregated data from Bangladesh, Timor-Leste (East Timor), India, Myanmar, Sri Lanka, Thailand.

Eastern Mediterranean - 37% prevalence. Based on aggregated data from Egypt, Iran, Iraq, Jordan, Palestine.

Africa – 36.6% prevalence. Based on aggregated data from Botswana, Cameroon, Democratic Republic of Congo, Ethiopia, Kenya, Lesotho, Liberia, Malawi, Mozambique, Namibia, Rwanda, South Africa, Swaziland, Uganda, United Republic of Tanzania, Zambia, Zimbabwe.

For combined intimate partner and non-partner sexual violence or both among all women of 15 years or older, prevalence rates were as follows:

Africa – 45.6%

Americas – 36.1%

Eastern Mediterranean – 36.4%* (No data were available for non-partner sexual violence in this region)

Europe – 27.2%

South-East Asia – 40.2%

Western Pacific – 27.9%

High income countries – 32.7%

Violence against women in high-income countries:

In Canada a study of adolescents aged 15 to 19 found that 54 per cent of girls had experienced “sexual coercion” in a dating relationship. v 

In the United States, 83 percent of girls aged 12 to 16 experience some for of sexual harassment in public schools. xviii

The United States is the third country with the highest rape statistics.

Another source on how the US has awful sexual assault rates.

The United States is rated one of the highest countries in the world for violence.

The US is a terrible place for women.

22 countries where the gender wage gap is smaller than the US

U.S. women are more likely to die during childbirth than women in any other developed country, leading the U.S. to be ranked 33rd among 179 countries on the health and well-being of women and children. 

US women paid less in every industry.

The U.S. ranks high on education and economic opportunities for women. But it ranks 60th on political empowerment, compared to Canada’s (ranked 20th overall) 42nd position.

And this is only the tip of the iceberg. So, yes, we still have a lot of need for feminism in first world countries.

[shamelesslyunladylike]

I love when a bullshit spewer gets slammed by an avalanche of data lol.

[appropriately-inappropriate]

That was so much fun to read.

[kiefbowl]

This was amazing I feel like I was reborn

[flowerlygirls]

this must have felt like a punch in the throat i love it

[tehbewilderness]

The greatest accomplishment of the backlash against Feminism is having convinced an entire generation that Feminism is an equality movement for men rather than a political movement for the liberation of women. Wanna take a guess who we were struggling to be liberated from?

[cararosada-deactivated20230925]

Y’all they trick the world into believe that feminism is equality for everyone and that STILL doesn’t fly with men.

[sisyphereantask]

As lovely as those facts and citations were, don’t bother trying to prove reality to men.

Make THEM prove THEIR points.  Why should we do all the labour?

So, @pryathis - would you please provide some support for your claim that women advantaged over men?

[miralleqro]

The nerve of op calling herself a feminist while spitting on our movement.

[laurierrose]

please don’t paint stripping as some privileged form of sex work lite – it’s not. it’s hard physical labor to dance all night, strip clubs are extremely exploitative workplaces, and we experience astronomical levels of sexual assault!

i have never once worked a shift without a man groping my breasts or vulva without my consent, ever, not in five years!

and sometimes we pay money instead of making money for all this, too. if it’s a slow night and you can’t make enough to cover your house fee and some guy tries to finger you roughly on stage? too bad, so sad. no manager is ever gonna care. you should’ve worked harder.

[gokuisagreatdad]

Umm I’m not sure what strip clubs you are working at or what strippers you’ve talked to, but it’s incredibly bad for any of the guys to touch any of the strippers in any manner at the clubs I’ve been to. Here in Canada at least, I’ve known several people that have been kicked out because of that kind of harassment.

[tiredstripper]

well you are very blessed then. and even if they are kicked out, you still got violated without your consent

[gokuisagreatdad]

Which, I would imagine is an unfortunate risk as part of the job, and that’s assuming this post is true. I’m not saying this stuff doesn’t happen, I just don’t know if it happens at the rates OP claims it is.

[laurierrose]

bro. n o b o d y c a r e s if you think this is true or not because nobody asked you. this thread isn’t even FOR you, it’s for women engaging in feminist analysis of sex work.

and FYI butting into conversations uninvited when you don’t even know what you’re talking about is rude, don’t do it again

[furiousfem]

Man Describes Constant Harassment And Having Your Personal Boundaries Crossed Every Night So You Don’t Starve As “Unfortunate Risk Of The Job”, Believes His Entertainment To Be Way More Relevant

[gayshego-blog]

That person is in Canada and I can’t find it but I recently saw some stuff with women talking about how in Canada people will throw the coins at strippers and they will get bruises and other injuries from it so.

[gokuisagreatdad]

@furiousfem I never said that it should happen, that’s what the security is for, so the dancers are not being harassed and to be dealt with quickly. Sorry you lack reading comprehension but hey, we can’t all have any intelligence. @gayshego The coins are for posters that the girls will hand out should you get any in the container they carry around or in the cone they make the posters with. Anyone throwing coins hard enough to bruise and get injuries are drunk idiots and assholes.

[tiredstripper]

the over 200 notes of this from dancers reblogging should be convincing enough, but when you are a white male, the only thing you believe is what you see with your white privilege. so it must not be true if you’ve never seen it.

[gokuisagreatdad]

OH MY GOD, lmfao. You’re a fucking idiot. “White privilege”! I just know that losers will lie and exaggerate to push an agenda. All I asked is where this shit is happening because security is supposed to be hired for that shit. I have a friend that works security at the local club and he kicks people out for that shit. The rules say no touching, so I respect the rules. I’m sorry that you people are feeble minded that I just want some statistics, not some little crybaby shits complaining about their job. I never once said it didn’t happen! I only said that I have no idea if it happens at the frequency you fuckwits claim it’s at. You’ve failed to provide any sort of statistics and it’s only hearsay. I refuse to believe people based merely on hearsay. Just like you have no obligation to believe me for anything I have said. Critical thinking people, do you have it?

[tiredstripper]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[hashtag-stripper-problems]

@that-grey-jedi-dude

One hundred percent of the women in the survey report being physically abused in the stripclub. The physical abuse ranged from three to fifteen times with a mean of 7.7 occurrences over the course of their involvement in stripping. One hundred percent report sexual abuse in the stripclub. The sexual abuse ranged from two to nine occurrences with a mean of 4.4 occurrences over the course of their involvement in stripping. One hundred percent of the women report verbal harassment in the stripclub. The verbal abuse ranged from one to seven occurrences with a mean of 4.8 occurrences over the course of their involvement in stripping. One hundred percent of the women report being propositioned for prostitution. Seventy eight percent of the women were stalked by someone associated with the stripclub with a range of one to seven incidents. Sixty one percent of the women report that someone associated with the stripclub has attempted to sexually assault her with a range of one to eleven attempts. Not only do women suffer the abuse they experience, all of women in the survey witnessed these things happen to other strippers in the clubs. The overwhelming trend for violence against women in stripclubs was committed by customers of the establishments. Stripclub owners, managers, assistant managers, and the staff of bartenders, music programmers or disc jockeys, bouncers, security guards, floorwalkers, doormen, and valet were significantly less involved in violence against the women. According to the women in this study, almost all of the perpetrators suffered no consequence whatsoever for their actions.

“Strip Clubs According to Strippers: Exposing Workplace Sexual Violence” Kelly Holsopple

A simple Google search revealed about 38,600,000 results (in 0.54 seconds) 

BASICALLY strippers get assaulted in the club, like, 100% of the time.  The staff does pretty much nothing to stop it (get kicked out), and we see other strippers going through the same thing.  There ya go.  What we’ve been saying, but now with official souuurrrccceessssss (a civilian researcher, literally asking us the questions we are answering and discussing) 

[cupcakesandproteinshakes]

Canada is no different from the states when it comes down to sexual harassment and assault in strip clubs.

Literally when will men just shut the fuck up.

[triligyblood-deactivated2018042]

Literally a women working as a stripper describes the harassment and mistreatment she goes through and some white man comes along and says “if this is true ” and “unfortunate risk”. Amazing and even more amazing she is describing her OWN fucking experience and this waste of dna is sitting here saying “not sure if it happens at that rate” like seriously?

Women: I am having this experience

Man: yeah but are you suurreeee. Seems suspect.

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

My mother was a stripper at 16 yrs old. In Canada. It’s illegal now, and it was illegal then, yet somehow she was still employed. She was a runaway from Quebec to Ontario, and barely knew English. They didn’t give a fuck. I’d like to think it’s gotten a little better, but I wouldn’t be at all surprised to learn there are other underage girls as strippers even now.

[yourfaveisilluminati]

as if sexual violation, female subordination, and male dominance wasn’t the whole entire point of stripping or prostitution. it is not some “unfortunate risk to the job” it IS the job. women are being violated on stage by men in the same exact way they are being violated by them offstage. there’s no difference. the women are pornography there to be violated and used for men’s pleasure.

it is men subjecting women to forced sex acts. the violation is fundamental to why men have always forced women into sex (and sex acts are sex to be clear). 

[laurierrose]

i completely agree with this.

[cool-daniela-fan]

“Reinforcing gender inequality: a masculinizing practice 

Concomitant with the losses women experience from the existence of strip clubs, there appears to be a direct enhancement of men’s self- esteem, their feelings of masculinity and their bonding with other men. Though there is little evidence from research on strip club practices to suggest that the strippers experience a reversal of gender  roles, and an access of power, there is, however, some very interesting research on what the male buyers gain in terms of personal power in relation to women from visiting the clubs. Katherine Frank used her status as a stripper to gain access to male customers and interview them. Her work is most revealing on the motivations of buyers (Frank, 2003). She studied men in traditional strip clubs that did not provide lap dancing, and reports that none of the men she interviewed said they went to the clubs for ‘sexual release’. They had other motives, of which the most common were the ‘desire to relax’ and visiting a place where they could ‘be a man’ (Frank, 2003, p. 6). Frank explains that the clubs ‘provide an environment where men, singularly or in groups can engage in traditionally “masculine” activities and forms of consumption frowned upon in other spheres, such as drinking, smoking cigars, and … being “rowdy”, “vulgar” or aggressive’ (ibid.). Strip clubs recreate the gendered spaces for men that were challenged in second wave feminism. In the 1970s and 1980s some major campaigns were directed at stripping away from men the privilege of having male-only spaces in which to socialize and do business where women were not allowed. These campaigns included demanding and achieving women’s entry to public houses, to sporting clubs and other places of entertainment on an equal basis with men. The boom in strip clubs can be seen as a counterattack, in which men have reasserted their right to network for and through male dominance without the irritating presence of women, unless those women are naked and servicing their pleasures.

Frank found that an important reason for men to visit the clubs was that they provided a compensation for the decline in power that they experienced as their wives, partners and women workmates shed their subordination, began to compete with them and demanded equality. The strip clubs provided an antidote to the erosion of male dominance by institutionalizing the traditional hierarchy of gender relations. The men found everyday relationships with women ‘a source of pressure and expectations’ and described relations between women and men in general as being ‘strained’, as ‘confused’, or ‘tense’. One buyer referred to the ‘war between the sexes’. They sought respite from the problems of having to treat women as equals in the workplace too. One of Frank’s respondents, Philip, said that he was able to ‘let frustration out’, particularly about ‘this sexual harassment stuff going around these days, men need somewhere to go where they can say and act like they want’. Some buyers, Frank found, ‘desire to interact with women who were not “feminist,” and who still want … to interact with men in “more traditional” ways’. One of these traditional ways, it seems, is women’s unconditional servicing of male sexual demands. Other buyers told her that, outside the sex industry, ‘men had to continually “be on guard” against offending women’. Franks points out that ‘several of the above comments could be analysed as part of a backlash against feminism’ but says that she prefers to see them as a result of confusion caused by feminism and women’s movement towards equality, as falling within ‘a framework of confusion and frustration rather than one of privilege or domination’. She does say, however, that the rapid increase in strip clubs in the US in the 1980s ‘was concurrent with a massive increase of women into the work force and an upsurge of attention to issues of sexual harassment, date rape’ (ibid.). ‘Many’ of the men she spoke with said they were confused about what women expected of them in relationships, and particularly when wives worked, had their own incomes and wanted to be included in decision making.

Frank considers that what takes place in the clubs does more than compensate men for these changes. The visits to strip clubs can be understood as ‘masculinizing practices’ in their own right. In the clubs otherwise unattainable women could be subjected to the men’s control, exercised through the ability to refuse payment, over the length of their conversations with the women, what would be discussed and whether and when the women had to strip. Men reported that they got an ‘ego boost’ because there was no fear of rejection or of competition with other men. Frank concludes that strip clubs help to reinforce male power, through maintaining ‘imbalance in the power dynamics in personal relationships with women, especially when they are used to shame or anger wives or partners’ (ibid., p. 74). However, she remains determined not to place too strong an emphasis on this. She remarks, despite the evidence she presents, that ‘[t]his is not to say that commodified sexual exchanges are inherently about the preservation and reproduction of male power’ (ibid., p. 75).

Another study of strip club patrons by two male researchers supports Frank’s findings about the role the clubs play in upholding male dominance (Erickson and Tewksbury, 2000). The study analyses how the ‘ultra-masculine context of the setting affects and illuminates patrons’ motives for frequenting strip clubs’ (ibid.,p. 272). This study also points out that the men in the clubs are in control as the women are bound to ‘reciprocate most of the attention paid to them by the customer’ rather than being able to reject male attention as they can in the world outside (ibid., p. 273). The customer ‘may dictate the nature, and often the course, of the interactions because the dancer is both obligated and financially motivated to cooperate with the direction of the customer in defining the interactions’ (ibid.). This study confirms Frank’s argument that the clubs are male-only environments that confirm masculinity, ‘it is almost exclusively a “man thing” to go to strip clubs. It is one of the very few places where men have the opportunity to openly exhibit their latent sexual desires and to perform their “male privilege’” (ibid., p. 289). The ‘context’ of the strip club serves to affirm masculinity because it is ‘pervaded by images and norms that openly objectify women, is ultra-masculine’ (ibid.). They conclude, however, in a way which seems to contradict their earlier findings, by saying that their study contradicts the notion that strippers are exploited because the dancers ‘control the sequencing and content of their interactions with patrons and, in doing so, they generate a substantial income for themselves and provide men with access to important social commodities’ (ibid., p. 292). In their view, this is a fair exchange. Yet earlier they explicitly state that the men are in charge of the interactions, because the women cannot reject their advances as they can in the world outside the clubs, and they provide no evidence of the good earnings of the dancers. Their research thus seems to represent a male buyers’ perspective.

Unlike the traditional gentlemen’s clubs of London’s Pall Mall, the strip clubs offer the opportunity to debase women, not just to bond and do business in their absence. The new gentlemen’s clubs require women to be present, but only when naked and available to be bought. Men can drink with their friends whilst staring into a woman’s genitals or shoving their fingers into her anus or vagina. The context in which the male buyers are delivered this bounty is created for them by masculine networks of owners and franchisees.”

Sheila Jeffreys, “The Industrial Vagina”, pp. 103-106 (bolding mine)

“Hobbying gives you back your power and allows you to behave and act like the man you really are. We need sex, and woman need money. Hence this age old profession. Works great from my point of view. Levels the field nicely and fairly. I’m all for an equal relationship with a lady. But for some reason it always seems to end up lopsided. As stated many times on TERB “The hobby has kept my relationship or marriage together” How flippin true. Gives men a sense of controlling our destiny.“ The Invisible Men project Canada

[cool-daniela-fan]

https://bossip.com/1481476/former-atl-stripper-sues-club-cheetah-says-owners-force-feed-drugs-to-dancers-for-non-consensual-sex/

[cool-daniela-fan]

“Exploitation and violence towards strippers 

[…] As the clubs seek to maximize profits they put on greater numbers of dancers, which creates greater competition, forces down earnings and pressures strippers to engage in violating practices they would rather avoid such as lap dancing or prostitution. ‘Retired’ stripper Amber Cooke explained in a 1980s collection on sex work that strippers are forced, because there are too many dancers and not enough male buyers, to compete and ‘encourage hands-on entertainment rather than dance, in order to make their money’ (Cooke, 1987, p. 98). She points out that this is ‘dangerous’ and bouncers are not an effective protection because they cannot watch all tables,  let alone the more recent private booths, and may be ‘reluctant’ to back up a stripper against a group of aggressive male customers. The advent of lap dancing in strip clubs has been seen by stripper advocacy groups and individual dancers as creating severe harms. When carried out in private booths it enables male buyers to sexually assault women, and to engage in forms of intimate contact that the women find intolerable. In a Melbourne court case a man was jailed in July 2006 for raping a stripper in a private booth: ‘During the dance, she took off her G’string and was naked. Her breasts were about 30cm from Nguyen’s face … [he] lunged at the woman, digitally raping her … he pinned the woman to a couch’ (The Australian, 2006). Canadian strippers formed an organization to oppose the development of lap dancing in the clubs, and those interviewed in one study particularly objected to having to come into contact with ‘customers’ ejaculate’, which could occur ‘when ejaculate penetrated the men’s clothing during lap dances’ (Lewis, 2000, p. 210). One interviewee explained: ‘So halfway through the song, like no warning, you’re sitting on their lap, and all of a sudden you’re wet.’ Another concern was ‘dancers’ genital contact with other dancers’ vaginal secretions, left on customers’ clothing’. These lap dancing opponents also talked of the harm they experienced from being pressured by owners and managers and customers to engage in lap dancing, and being threatened with job loss if they did not comply. Such practices made them feel ‘disempowered and victimized’. Two dancers said that they were ‘crying their eyes out’ after their first night of lap dancing, and were distressed by ‘[t]hese strangers’ fingers all over you - it was really nasty’ (ibid.). Nonetheless, the researcher, Jacqueline Lewis, opposed the ban on lap dancing that many of her interviewees saw as necessary for their survival in the industry. She considered that the solution to the problems strippers faced was to treat stripping just like other forms of work. But there are no other forms of work apart from the sex industry in which women have to battle to keep men’s fingers and ejaculate off their naked bodies. There has been very little research on the physical and psychological harms that strippers face in clubs. Indeed, information on the harms of stripping may be hard to elicit for some researchers. Thus Danielle Egan, who writes about stripping from what she calls a ‘sex radical’ perspective and rejects radical feminist analyses which focus on harm, comments that the women she worked with as a stripper and interviewed for her book avoided elaborating on their ‘experiences with bad nights’ (Egan, 2006, p. 83). Egan interpreted bad nights as those on which women got very little money and were made to feel bad or ‘like whores’ and the good nights as those on which they made money and felt good. She does not enlarge on the women’s experiences of being touched by men or having to touch them and how they felt about such practices. This more detailed analysis is hard to come by. Kelly Holsopple, who worked as a stripper in the US for 13 years, conducted research into the harm of the industry to the dancers (Holsopple, 1998). She argues that the ‘common underlying element in strip clubs is that male customers, managers, staff, and owners use diverse methods of harassment, manipulation, exploitation, and abuse to control female strippers’ (ibid., p. 1). Holsopple  conducted 41 interviews and 18 face to face surveys followed by discussions. Her interviewees did not report the empowerment of women or expression of agency that some gender studies scholars have attributed to stripping (e.g. Egan, 2006). Women had to engage in activities they did not want because their income was ‘entirely dependent on compliance with customer demands in order to earn tips’ (Holsopple, 1998, p. 3). Holsopple concludes from her interviews that in abuse by the male buyers ‘customers spit on women, spray beer, and flick cigarettes at them’ and they are ‘pelted with ice, coins, trash, condoms, room keys, pornography, and golf balls’ (ibid., p. 8). Missiles included a live guinea pig and a dead squirrel. Women were hit by cans and bottles thrown from the audience, and male buyers also ‘pull women’s hair, yank them by the arm or ankle, rip their costumes, and try to pull their costumes off’. Women are commonly ‘bitten, licked, slapped, punched, and pinched’ (ibid.). The male buyers attempt to penetrate women vaginally and anally with ‘fingers, dollar bills, and bottles’. Successful vaginal and anal penetration was common.

Holsopple’s study showed that women suffered particular harms from the conditions in which they were required to dance. They had to dance on elevated runways so narrow that they could not get away from men on either side touching them. In the context of private dances men openly masturbated and ‘stick their fingers inside women’. Wall dancing, for example, ‘requires a stripper to carry alcohol swabs to wash the customer’s fingers before he inserts them into her vagina. His back is stationary against the wall and she is pressed against him with one leg lifted’ (Holsopple, 1998, p. 6). Holsopple’s interviewees described clearly the forms of pressure and sexual harassment that they experienced from the male buyers in private dances: ‘I don’t want him to touch me, but I am afraid he will say something violent if I tell him no’ and ‘I could only think about how bad these guys smell and try to hold my breath’ or ‘I spent the dance hyper vigilant to avoiding their hands, mouths, and crotches’ (ibid.). All of the 18 women in her survey reported being both physically and sexually abused in the clubs, and receiving verbal harassment, often multiple times. Most had been stalked by someone associated with the club, from one to seven times each. Holsopple says that regulations that customers should not touch dancers are ‘consistently violated’ and ‘stripping usually involves prostitution’ (ibid.). Liepe-Levinson reports that the strippers she interviewed experienced pressure to provide sexual favours to bosses and employees (Liepe-Levinson, 2002). 

The advice offered to strippers from within the industry or from state funded sex work agencies on how to avoid violence supports Holsopple’s findings of the dangers associated with stripping. On the Strip Magazine website, for instance, Ram Mani offers advice on how to be constantly alert to all the possibilities of men’s violence (Mani, 2004). Women are advised not to leave the clubs alone. Outside the club they should get straight into their cars and lock the doors, moving off immediately. They should not take a direct route home and should keep an eye on the mirror to check theyare not being followed. They should park neither too far from the club so they have a dangerous walk to get to it, nor so close that a man may be able to take the registration number. When they register their cars they should do so to another address than their home one. They are warned: ‘The odds of being stalked, mugged and attached [sic] are on increase and you must always keep your guard up’ (ibid.). The advice offered to strippers by the sex work advocacy website STAR in Toronto includes tips for combating sexual assault: ‘Watch for roaming hands. Clients have an easier time touching you when you dance on a box, specially when you’re bending over’ (STAR, 2004). Dancers are told to ‘[w]atch out for unruly or aggressive customers’ and to ‘[u]se the mirrors to keep track of your back’. There is specific advice for private dances since ‘there’s a greater possibility of assault’, which is: ‘If a customer is trying to manhandle you, try holding his hands in a sexy way to control him. But be aware the touching violates some municipal bylaws. If you’re being assaulted, scream’ (ibid.). The strip club industry is thus dangerous and abusive for the women involved in it, but the harms of this industry stretch beyond the clubs themselves to affect the status and experience of other women.”

Sheila Jeffreys, “The Industrial Vagina”, pp. 96-99

[cool-daniela-fan]

These Women Hate You

“First of all, if you are a male and you frequent strip clubs and use escorts, I want you to know that those women hate you.

If you’ve ever given money to a stripper, you’ve probably given money to a girl or woman who has spent the last 20 minutes laughing at you, either with the other girls or on the inside. You buy a lap dance and inside she’s criticizing you, laughing at you, mocking you. She’s mocking what you’re wearing, how you’re speaking and everything about you.

When a man would pay me to give him a lap dance I would spend the entire time internally laughing at his breath, his pimples, his fat belly, anything and everything I could. These women hate you, and no amount of money you can give them will make them like you any more.

I was underage when I was enmeshed in this life; I had just gotten a car and I was barely 16 years old. I can remember, very vividly, the first night I stripped. I was terrified. That first night was at a hotel that was pretty strict with its nudity policy, and all I had to do was wear lingerie and then try to sell it and garters. Easy…right?

I nearly chickened out entirely, but I had just been kicked out and needed that paycheck, I needed the promised tips and the ‘big money’ that everyone talked about. I was young and scared and needed to come up with my rent money quickly. Deanna was trying out her first night as an escort while I began here, in the hotel. It was terrifying, but I got through it. Halfway through the night customers began buying me drinks. I don’t know how many I consumed but I remember being concerned about driving home.

Through that period of time I not only stripped. I also did bachelor parties and worked as an escort. The degradation and terror that is always there is just another part of the job. The hands, the greasy, disgusting hands, were always there, groping at you while the eyes were staring at you. I was little more than a walking Barbie doll, and I was critiqued by some, and worshipped by others. Of course, that worship consisted of men telling me what “nice tits” I had, or how they’d like to “bang that pussy”.

See, here’s the deal: just as the men who come to the bar have to be completely devoid of empathy for the women they’re buying, the women also have to be completely devoid of empathy for the men who are buying them. It’s a survival thing, and besides, how can we like you when you’re paying to own us? No, oftentimes women will think and fantasize about smashing your head in with a baseball bat while they gyrate in your lap. But of course, we can’t really do that can we? For whatever reason, we must allow ourselves to be bought and sold for the erections that men get over the power associated with owning a human being.

So, while we may be thinking about how disgusting your teeth are, how horrible your breath is, what a stupid shirt you’re wearing and how we’d like to run a cheese grater over your smug face, we’re smiling and looking at you through submissive eyes as we robotically rub our bodies over yours. But that anger has to go somewhere doesn’t it? And, just as with everything else, it does. The anger turns into something else, and oftentimes it is turned inwards. We starve ourselves and abuse ourselves, and let you abuse us because we believe we deserve it. Other times we dull the pain, using alcohol and downers to rid ourselves of the anger, to crush it and keep it in check.

Most often we use several of these options simultaneously. We turn our anger onto other women, onto ourselves and onto our children but we can’t turn that anger onto men; that would be too dangerous. We learn, very early on and particularly when we strip, that men are dangerous. They are more dangerous than anything else we’ve ever known.

Be assured that the stripper you see hates you. She drowns her hatred in alcohol, or burns it in a cloud of pot smoke, but she’s still angry.

The life of a stripper is a life of sexual harassment. Men grope at you constantly, trying to put their fingers inside of you when you walk past. You are called names, and told to “Bring that cunt over here you little whore”. And you do. You bring it over there because you’ve told yourself that you are powerful when you do so. That’s yet another way to control the anger and the humiliation. You wrap it in empowerment, telling yourself that you’re the one who’s really coming out on top. You tell yourself that you’re the winner because that nasty fucker gave you every bill in his wallet, but deep down inside you know what’s really going on and you continue to medicate, you continue a cycle of ups and downs.

Sometimes, as a 16-year-old stripper, I would find myself on the floor of my rented bedroom at Deanna’s house, surrounded by the things I had taken from my room at my parent’s house. I had a stuffed clown and large black and white stuffed panda bear. At times I would fall into a heap on the floor of that bedroom, an ashtray and a can of Old Milwaukee beer at my feet, while I cried into the fur of that panda bear. I remember thinking that if one more man tried to stick his fingers inside of me that night then I’d fucking kill myself. I remember looking longingly at kitchen knives but always being too terrified to actually do it. And then, about an hour before we were due to leave, Deanna might knock softly on the door.

Sometimes, we lay on that floor together and cried. Me, a 16 year old girl with a bag of vibrators, dildos and anal beads stuffed into a briefcase for use with my ‘clients’ on the escort side of the business, and Deanna, a dark-haired, dark-eyed woman whose face showed more pain than any face I have known before or since. Sometimes we’d cry on the floor of that bedroom and then, after our tears were spent, we’d stand and smile and hug each other and go about the task of getting our things together.

We’d change into our makeup and our clothes and we’d leave and drive to whatever club we were due at, or to the office itself to await the phone calls of the men who wanted to buy us.

As a 16 year-old stripper I had men throw alcohol on me, I’ve been spit on and then been paid to rub it into my skin. I’ve been fingered by complete strangers as I walked past them. I’ve been slapped, grabbed, pinched and mauled by several men at once. I was called names and had my hair pulled. I’ve had men take their dicks out of their pants and I’ve had men cum in their pants during a lapdance and then try to stick their hands in my mouth.

I’ve had men ask me my age, and on the rare occasion when I would tell them the truth, perhaps from some hope that they could help me, they told me that I was the same age as their daughter and then offered me money to sleep with them. I’ve heard sob stories about their horrible wives and families, and how the bitch stopped putting out as soon as he put a ring on their finger. I’ve heard all the stories, all the lies and all the bullshit.

I’ve had men call me the most vile things imaginable and I’ve had them pay me to do the sort of degrading things I can’t even talk about.

The anger that stems from this is all consuming; it eats away at you slowly, despite the efforts you make to contain it. A full 17 years later and I’m still enraged. The seed that was planted all those years ago has turned into a tree and that tree has branches that are vast. Every thread of anger goes down another path until I find even more anger at the end of it.

I remember now how angry men would get at me when I told them that the woman who stripped for them the night before was most likely silently laughing at your hair or teeth or bad clothes. I think about how angry men have become when I tell them that the poor woman whom he tossed his $20 at would probably just as soon have gouged his eyes out with her nails as looked at him. I remember how mad these guys got, how they seem to think that they should be able to buy not only the bodies of these women to degrade and to use, but that these women should also be grateful for it, they should actually like him.

They think to them, “Hey, I’m a nice guy! I was nice to her!” but never once do they connect the fact that buying another human being for the purpose of controlling that human is NOT a ‘nice guy’ thing to do. Of course she should like it, she’s a whore and she should love it when I give her money for doing what she would normally be doing for free anyway. They always seem so shocked when I tell them the extent of the hate. When I tell them the things that us girls would say behind their backs, or after our set when we would get back to the house. These men seem livid and surprised that we would discuss how you were so fucking disgusting that it was all we could do not to throw up on you. Then, we’d knock back another shot.

Thinking about these guys, these men who get insulted that the object they purchased wasn’t particularly enamored with them, makes me even more irate.

The rage still consumes me, the anger lies just below the surface.

I remember it well, and now as I sit here typing on my laptop in my bedroom I realize that the anger and indignation is still just below the surface. I am disgusted by them. I am enraged at them. At this moment I can say that I literally HATE each and every single man who thought it was his entitlement to BUY a human being.

I learned that it wasn’t about sexual excitement for these guys; it was about entitlement and degradation. It was about power and control, it was about owning another person, another human being. They were rarely just happy with just buying us, they wanted to degrade us and make us perform disgusting acts for them. I know that these men who visit strip clubs and who watch pornography and who pay prostitutes would also buy a slave to work the fields if they thought they could get away with it. These men who like to believe that they are forward-thinking ‘nice’ guys are the same men who would buy a slave, and to be completely honest, I don’t give a flying fuck if that enrages them or not. These are the men that would buy another human being because they get off on power and control.

Buying a woman is little different than buying a slave, and I’ve been bought before. Cloaking it in ‘free will’ is a lie, a great big steaming lie. How much ‘free will’ does a 16 year-old have when she’s been kicked out? Every girl I knew, every single one of them that I worked with, had stories. Those stories are stories that curdle the blood, stories of rape and incest, stories laden with abuse and selling the only thing they had of value in this society.

There is no doubt in my mind that these very men would purchase slaves, sexual or otherwise to work their fields and jerk them off when they wanted it.

Men who buy and look at pornography are exactly the same. These are also men who feed off of power and degradation the way a tick feeds off blood. They are parasites and they are incapable of finding any worth within themselves, therefore, they steal it from women, they take it and use it and then they look for more power when the rush of degradation has worn off. They believe, with every fiber of their being, that they have a right to buy human beings.

I want, once and for all, for men to know that women in the sex industry have been abused by men just like you. Rape and incest are the recruiters for the sex industry, and you are victimizing her just as her rapist did. She hates you and she hates all that you represent. She smiles because she must smile, she dances because she knows no other way, but she despises you and others like you.”

~ Biting Beaver

[jennifercheckdidnothingwrong]

i love how every time these moldy cave dwelling incels demand receipts they immediately disappear back to their rank ass masturbation dens when actually presented with the receipts they demanded

[antiporn-activist]

“The men struggle to distinguish porn scripts from real sexual assault situations. One observes, ”That feels like a sexual assault.” Another speculates that the situation before him is a #MeToo story. At the conclusion of the video, it is revealed that all of the scenarios were taken from pornography.”

Now we’re connecting some dots.

[lookataleaf3000]

“What does it mean when pornography, the primary form of sexual education for young people, is indistinguishable from real life sexual abuse of women? What does it mean for women and girls? What does it mean for men and boys watching this content regularly, and from childhood? What is the impact on sexuality, intimate relationships and attitudes towards women when men and boys are socialised to find enjoyment in the abuse of women?”

[evilmcflurry]

Is this the new “People are Violent because of video games”? First of all there are plenty of women that enjoy dominant sex and should not be shamed for it. And second it is not that hard to distinguish porn from reality. Porn is like any other movie production and should not be viewed as real life. And lastly the general rule of thumb is if a woman gives you consent then you have a green light to do whatever she wants to her. If she says no and keeps protesting then you are a scumbag that should be locked up. So the porn is not to blame if your privileged ass thinks just because some paid actors in a movie are having hardcore sex then you need to force yourself on women wether they want it or not

[respectthefemalebody]

Hi, I’d like to introduce you to a field of study known as Sociology. It’s basically the study of society. See, we understand that culture does in fact impact who we are as people, as much as we want to believe that we are in complete control of who we are, that is simply just not true.

Advertising companies wouldn’t spend make any money if advertising didn’t work. The human brain is like a sponge, constantly absorbing messages subconsciously. And an orgasm is a very powerful psychological conditioning tool. Porn use does in fact impact people.

Here, have some research:

Porn use:

There are over 420 million pages of pornographic material online worldwide. (IFR)

72 million searches for porn are logged monthly. (IFR)

25% of all daily search engine requests are for pornography (68 million searches daily) (IFR)

42.7% of internet users view porn (IFR)

100,000-plus websites are devoted to child pornography. There are over 116,000 daily requests for this material. (IFR)

20% of men admit to accessing pornography at work (IFR)

35% of those purchasing online porn make $75,000-plus annually. (IFR)

The United States is the top producer of pornographic web pages with 244,661,900, or 89 percent (IFR)

Worldwide revenue from mobile phone pornography is $1 billion-plus and growing (Bryan-Low, Cassel and Pringle, David. “Sex Cells: Wireless Operators Find That Racy Cellphone Video Drives Surge in Broadband Use.” The Wall Street Journal, May 12, 2005)

Ex-porn star testimonies:

Corina Taylor: ”When I arrived to the set I expected to do a vaginal girl boy scene. But during the scene with a male porn star, he forced himself anally into me and would not stop. I yelled at him to stop and screamed ‘No’ over and over but he would not stop. The pain became too much and I was in shock and my body went limp.”

Jenna Jameson: ”Most girls get their first experience in gonzo films – in which they’re taken to a crappy studio apartment in Mission Hills and penetrated in every hole possible by some abusive asshole who thinks her name is Bitch.”

Alexa James: ”The first shoot I did was with a man who was probably 40 and he was as thick as a soda can. He held me down and shoved it in me with no lube tearing my vagina. When I started to tear up and cry he flipped me over and continued from behind be so they wouldn’t get me crying on film. He pulled my hair and choked me over and over again even when I told him it hurt and I could barely breathe.”

Linda Lovelace: ”My initiation into prostitution was a gang rape by five men, arranged by Mr. Traynor. It was the turning point in my life. He threatened to shoot me with the pistol if I didn’t go through with it. I had never experienced anal sex before and it ripped me apart. They treated me like an inflatable plastic doll, picking me up and moving me here and there. They spread my legs this way and that, shoving their things at me and into me, they were playing musical chairs with parts of my body. I have never been so frightened and disgraced and humiliated in my life. I felt like garbage. I engaged in sex acts for pornography against my will to avoid being killed.The lives of my family were threatened.”

Andi Anderson: ”After a year or so of that so-called “glamorous” life, I sadly discovered that drugs and drinking were a part of the lifestyle. I began to drink and party out of control! Cocaine, alcohol and ecstasy were my favorites. Before long, I turned into a person I did not want to be. After doing so many hardcore scenes I couldn’t do it anymore. I just remember being in horrible situations and experiencing extreme depression and being alone and sad.”

Alexa Milano: ”My first movie I was treated very rough by 3 guys. They pounded on me, gagged me with their penises, and tossed me around like I was a ball! I was sore, hurting and could barely walk. My insides burned and hurt so badly. I could barely pee and to try to have a bowel movement was out of the question. I was hurting so bad from the physical abuse from these 3 male porn stars.”

Jessie Jewels: ”People in the porn industry are numb to real life and are like zombies walking around. The abuse that goes on in this industry is completely ridiculous. The way these young ladies are treated is totally sick and brainwashing. I left due to the trauma I experienced even though I was there only a short time.”

Genevieve: ”I had bodily fluids all over my face that had to stay on my face for ten minutes. The abuse and degradation was rough. I sweated and was in deep pain. On top of the horrifying experience, my whole body ached, and I was irritable the whole day. The director didn’t really care how I felt; he only wanted to finish the video.”

Jersey Jaxin: ”Guys punching you in the face. You have semen from many guys all over your face, in your eyes. You get ripped. Your insides can come out of you. It’s never ending.”

Elizabeth Rollings: ”I didn’t want to feel the pain of penetration from an over average sized man, being told to freeze in a position until the camera man was happy with his shots was very painful. I had peoples body fluids forced on my face or anywhere else the producer pleased and I had to accept it or else no pay. Sometimes you would get to a gig and the producer would change what the scene was supposed to be to something more intense and again if you didn’t like it, too bad, you did it or no pay.”

Lucky Starr: ”I was worried about my first anal scene for quite a few days … then the big moment arrived. It REALLY hurt! I almost quit and said, “I can’t do this”. When it was all over, I was so happy and relieved I was able to do it…”

Ashlyn Brooke: ”I honestly felt that if I had to have another strange man in my face, his hands (God knows where they’ve been all over me) him calling me his baby and having to exude some sort of forged passion for the world to see, I probably would have exploded. And what would have been stuck to the walls would have probably been nothing, just pieces of skin, bone, the brain of a robot, and what would have been left of what would have existed once as a huge and warm heart.”

Roxy: ”After only 30 movies I caught two sexually transmitted diseases. Herpes, a non-curable disease and HPV, which led to cervical cancer where I had to have half of my cervix removed. Porn destroyed my life.”

Anita Cannibal: ”Yeah, there are a lot of cover-ups going on. There is a lot of tragedy. There are a lot of horrible things.”

Tamra Toryn: ”As for myself, I ended up paying the price from working in the porn industry. In 2006, not even 9 months in, I caught a moderate form of dysplasia of the cervix (which is a form of HPV, a sexually transmitted disease) and later that day, I also found out I was pregnant. I had only 1 choice which was to abort the baby during my first month. It was extremely painful emotionally and physically. When it was all over, I cried my eyes out.”

Jessi Summers: ”I also did a scene where I was put with male talent that was on my no list. I wanted to please them so I did it. He put his foot on my head and stepped on it while he was doing me from behind. I freaked out and started balling; they stopped filming and sent me home with reduced pay since they got some shot but not the whole sce

porn trends:

“teen” is the most commonly searched porn term

child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online.

how pornographers feel about women:

“I’d like to really show what I believe the men want to see: violence against women. I firmly believe that we [pornographers] serve a purpose by showing that. The most violent we can get is the cum shot in the face. Men get off behind that, because they get even with the women they can’t have. We try to inundate the world with orgasms in the face.” -  Bill Margold, porn industry veteran, quoted in Robert J. Stoller and I. S. Levine, Coming Attractions: The Making of an X-rated video; 1993.

“There’s nothing I love more than when a girl insists to me that she won’t take a cock in her ass, because — oh yes she will!” -Max Hardcore, interviewed in Hustler (June 1995).

“My whole reason for being in this Industry is to satisfy the desire of the men in the world who basically don’t much care for women and want to see the men in my Industry getting even with the women they couldn’t have when they were growing up. I strongly believe this… so we come on a woman’s face or somewhat brutalize her sexually: we’re getting even for their lost dreams. I believe this. I’ve heard audiences cheer me when I do something foul on screen. When I’ve strangled a person or sodomized a person, or brutalized a person, the audience is cheering my action, and then when I’ve fulfilled my warped desire, the audience applauds.” - Bill Margold, porn industry veteran and Free Speech Coalition board member.

“It might promote violence against women in the United States, but I say, ‘Good.’ I hate those bitches. They’re out of line and that’s one of the reasons I want to do this … I’m going through a divorce right now. … I hate American women.” - What pornographers really think of women (Deutsche Presse-Agentur, 14 October 1999)

2010 study on popular porn films:

88% of scenes contained physical aggression, including spanking, gagging, and slapping.

Women were overwhelmingly the targets of aggressive acts, and men the perpetrators.

Following instances of aggression towards women, in 95% of cases the women expressed pleasure or neutrality.

cases of porn leading children to commit sexual assualt IN THE UK ALONE:

February 2014: A 13-year-old boy told a UK court that he raped his 8-year-old sister after viewing pornography at his friend’s house.  The teenager told police he “decided to try it out” on his sister because she was small and “couldn’t remember stuff,” reported the Lancashire Telegraph.

November 2013: A different 13-year old UK boy pleaded guilty to raping an eight-year old girlwhen he was 10. A pornography addiction since age 9 was said to have played a significant role in his crimes.

March 2013: Two boys aged 14 and 15 admitted to a British court that they were re-enacting scenes witnessed in violent online pornography when they beat, brutalized, then raped a 14-year-old girl they had tied to a chair.

March 2013: A UK report found that thousands of British children had committed sexual offenses. In all, 4,562 minors – some as young as five – committed 5,028 sexual offenses over a three year period from 2009-2012. Experts blamed “easy access to sexual material.”

January 2012: Children’s aid and sex abuse organizations in Australia largely blamed 414 cases of children sexually abusing other children on the explosion of pornography made accessible to children.

August 2012: A 13-year-old Canadian boy pleaded guilty to repeatedly raping a 4-year-old boy who lived in his foster home. The boy said the idea came from watching “gay porn” on his foster parents’ home computer.

April 2012: A child therapist reported a case of a 13-year-old boy who raped his 5-year-old sisterafter developing a “complex fantasy world” warped by “two years of constant porn use.”

racism in porn:

Latinos and Hispanics: Pornography tends to stereotype Hispanic women as feisty, “hot and spicy Latinas”, sexy Señoritas, with a high sex drive and low impulse control. Many are portrayed as maids, illegal immigrants to the United States, or unfaithful wives. Since Latinos and Hispanics can be of any race (many are white Hispanic Americans, Mestizos etc.), cultural characteristics are sometimes portrayed via iconic items like South and Central American national costumes, sombreros, maracas, or Mexican dresses.

Asian women: Are viewed as sexually willing or submissive. Asian men are hardly portrayed in pairing with white women and not as common compared to white men with asian women porn. Asian women are mainly portrayed as the: “Dragon Ladies”, as servile “Lotus Blossom Babies”, “Innocent School Girls” in private school uniforms, “China dolls”, “Geisha girls”, war brides, or prostitutes. Japanese media have also at times sensationalistically promoted the stereotype of Japanese women overseas as “yellow cabs”.

Black performers: Large penis size in Black men is consistently emphasized in pornography, often by exclusively casting actors with larger than average penises such as Lexington Steele, Kid Bengala, Jack Napier and Mandingo. Men are often treated to stereotypes of gang affiliation, working class labor, and are overrepresented in gang rape fetish films. Also, they are represented as overly aggressive and demanding, and are performing with white women. Similarly, black women are often portrayed with large breast and buttocks, or ‘booty’. They normally play a submissive role while performing with a white male.

Kid’s access to pornography:

Youth who look at violent x-rated material are six times more likely to report forcing someone to do something sexual online or in-person versus youth not exposed to x-rated material. [12]

Middle-school aged boys who view X-rated content are almost three times more likely to report oral sex and sexual intercourse than boys who do not use sexually explicit material[13]  

A study in the southeastern U.S. found that 53 percent of boys and 28 percent of girls (ages 12-15) reported use of sexually explicit media. The Internet was the most popular forum for viewing. [14]

The words “sex” and “porn” rank fourth and sixth among the top ten most popular search terms. [15]

Roughly two-thirds (67 percent) of young men and one-half (49 percent) of young women agree that viewing pornography is acceptable.[7]

Nearly 9 out of 10 (87 percent) young men and 1 out of 3 (31 percent) young women report using pornography.[8]

Experts have warned that the rise in the viewing of pornography was implicated in a variety of problems, including a rise in the levels of STDs and teenage pregnancies.  Additionally, males aged between 12 and 17 who regularly viewed pornography had sex at an earlier stage in life and were more likely to initiate oral sex, apparently imitating what they had seen. [9] [10]

Internet pornography was blamed for a 20 percent increase in sexual attacks by children over three years.[6]

One out of three youth who viewed pornography, viewed the pornography intentionally.[1]

Seven out of ten youth have accidentally come across pornography online.[2]

Nearly 80 percent of unwanted exposure to pornography is taking place in the home (79 percent occurs in the home; 9 percent occurs at school; 7 percent other/unknown; 5 percent at a friend’s home).[3]

Kids experience unwanted exposure to sexual material via:[4] A link came up as a result of an innocent word search (40 percent), Clicking on a link in another site (17 percent), A pop-up (14 percent), Other (13 percent), Misspelled web address (12 percent), Don’t know (4 percent), Pictures involving animals or other strange things (10 percent)

Type of material youth encounter when unwanted exposure to pornography occurs:[5] Naked people (86 percent), People having sex (37 percent), Violent pictures (13 percent)

Nearly 74 percent of pornography websites surveyed display adult content on their homepage (accessible to anyone) before asking if the viewers are of legal age. [11]

American children begin consuming hardcore pronography at an average age of 11

Four out of five 16 year-olds regularly access pornography online

Findings from the Youth Internet Safety Survey indicate that 15% of 12-17 year olds have purposefully looked at x-rated material online.

Data from the PEW Internet and American Life Project suggest that 70% of 15-17 year old internet users accidently view pornography “very” or “Somewhat” often.

Child Pornography

Child pornography is a $3-billion industry. (Top Ten Reviews)

Child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online, and the content is becoming much worse.  (Internet Watch Foundation)  Internet Watch Foundation confirmed 1536 child abuse domains in 2008.

The fastest growing demand in commercial websites for child abuse is for images depicting the worst type of abuse, including penetrative sexual activity involving children and adults and sadism or penetration by an animal.  58% of child sexual abuse images depict this level of abuse. (IWF, 2008)

69% of all victims in child abuse images are between the ages of 0 and 10 years old. (IWF, 2008)

In a study of arrested child pornography possessors, 40 percent had both sexually victimized children and were in possession of child pornography. Of those arrested between 2000 and 2001, 83 percent had images involving children between the ages 6 and 12; 39 percent had images of children between ages 3 and 5; and 19% had images of infants and toddlers under age 3 (National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, Child Pornography Possessors Arrested in Internet-Related Crimes: Findings fro the National Juvenile Online Victimization Study. 2005).

Your brain on porn:

further decline in dopamine levels

further decline in opioids and endorphins

drop-off in GABA, which is an anti-anxiety neurotransmitter

rise in brain stress hormones CRF and norepinephrine

elevated dynorphin which inhibits dopamine and lowers your pleasure response

one week after quitting the reward center sprouts new nerve cell branches, which correlate with cravings to use

More sources on addiction to porn

Common porn addiction withdrawal symptoms include:

Anxiety

Restlessness

Irritability

Insomnia

Fatigue

Headaches

Poor concentration

Depression

Social isolation

Loss of libido (Can take days to manifest, and last a long time)

Adult (>18 years old) exposure to pornographic media is connected with:

Believing a rape victim enjoyed rape

Believing women suffer less from rape

Believing women in general enjoy rape

Believing a rape victim experienced pleasure and “got what she wanted”

Believing women make false accusations of rape

Believing rapist deserve less jail time

More acceptance of the rape myth

More acceptance of violence against women

More likely to go to a prostitute and to go more frequently

Increasing their estimates of how often people engage in sex with violence

More self-reported likelihood of forcing a women sexually

More self-reported likelihood of rape

Creating more sexually violent fantasies to get aroused

Engaging in more sexual harassment behaviors

More likelihood of forcing a woman sexually

More likelihood of future rape

Using physical coercion to have sex

Using verbal coercion to have sex

Using drugs and alcohol to sexually coerce women

Having engaged in rape

Having engaged in date rape

Having engaged in marital rape

Being an adult sex offender

Being a child molester

Being an incest offender

Engaging in sexual abuse of a battered spouse

More willingness to have sex with 13-14 year olds

More sexual attraction to children

Having sexually abused children

Life and death of a porn star:

all the women who don’t make money from the porn industry.

the women who are kidnapped, tortured, and forced into snuff films.

the skeletons that NAFTA keeps hidden in cobweb-ridden closets on the U.S.-Mexican border.

their average career length is 3 months. [x] [x]

If you don’t feel like reading:

Shelley Lubben: Porn as a driver for prostitution and sex trafficking, (Vimeo)

Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn (Adult content)

“They call it fantasy,“ - Andrea Dworkin

Ex-Pornstar Jan Villarubia tells her story

Dr. Gail Dines addressing porn culture and rape culture’s intersecting roles in patriarchy

“Two Ex-Porn Stars Uncover The Truth About Porn.”

This guy stopped watching porn — and he wants you to know why.

Facing Life Head-On: Satan’s Final Frontier—the Sex Industry

Dr. Gail Dine’s lectures on pornography on youtube (1, 2, 3, 4)

This video has footage the porn industry doesn’t want you to see. Women are abused, screaming, crying, raped and in pain on the porn set…No woman should have to go to work only to return home beaten and traumatized.”

On the show Date My Pornstar, porn fans get to interact and converse with their favorite pornstars about their experiences in the industry

The story of ex-pornstar ‘Sal’, (Pink Cross Foundation)

Porn actress Sierra Sinn Leaves Porn

On the Joni talk show, ex-porn actresses come forward to share their experiences on what drove them into the porn industry, how it impacted their lives and what drove them out.

Just links:

Here is a site that has testimonies from lots of porn stars. The site is run by an ex pornstar who has dedicated her life to helping the women in the industry.

Here is an article about Linda Lovelace, star of Deep Throat, basically the first pornography film, talking about how the film was her being raped, and the other atrocities she went through in the porn industry.

Here is a video of a talk show where three porn actresses speak out against the industry and tell their stories. I can assure you, these are not extreme cases. This is the average life of porn stars.

Here has great information on the porn industry, and if you scroll down to Porn and the Performer, you can read statistics about the porn industry and porn actresses and what they suffer through.

Here is some facts about porn from Shelley Lubbens website.

How porn harms the economy

How porn harms relationships

How porn harms gay men

How porn harms gay women

How porn harms POC

Stop Porn Culture’s FAQ

400+ dead porn stars obituaries

more databases on dead porn stars

More testimonies

100+ stories

anti porn documentaries

DianaRussell.com

Shelley Lubben.com (Ex porn-star helping other porn stars)

Shelley Lubben’s MySpace Website

List of Dead Porn Stars and How They Died

Where My Ladies At (About porn and it’s connection to hip hop and rap.)

Feminist Fred: A Place for Men to Learn about Feminism (Also home of Pornsick Pat)

Compulsion Solutions

Internet Pornography Statistics (InternetFilterReview.com)

Porn and Sex Industry Statistics (Enough is Enough.)

Pornography and Sex Trade Statistics (Most thorough and documented.)

PBS Documentary “Porn In America”. Full video and lots of information.

XXX Family Values: ABC Primetime Show about Porn Star Sunny Lane. (Sunny’s parents are her managers. Transcript and video clip at link.)

ABC Primetime Interview with Porn Star Belladonn (Tells the harsh truth about porn.)

Porn Profits: Corporate America’s Secret (ABC Primetime Show.)

Anti-Pornography and Prostitution Research Group (Japan)

Pornography: Creating Demand for International Sex Trafficking (By Shared Hope International)

SHIT LOAD OF STATS

HOW YOU CAN HELP

And also, have some testimonials from previous porn stars:

[antiporn-activist]

Wow, you type fast!

[forestlesvian]

As someone who just got out of the online industry(aka camming) the one that hit me hardest was Jenna Presley describing that she no longer was herself and she was her alter ego. I spent a better part of the last five years in that same place. I was constantly having to switch between my personas and eventually I just felt like no one. My true self took a backseat but I kept saying “that’s just work! that’s just how it is! im fine!” When NOTHING about my life was fine. That’s such a danger that almost no one talks about. What I’ve seen in the industry the last year+ is a major escalation of accessibility. Now you can join the porn industry from your bedroom! It’s easy! It’s fun! I’m seeing girls show up and explode into popularity at the age of 18 without leaving their house because they’d seen it for years before they should. Your favorite YouTuber is doing it! It’s cool! It’s talked about in Teen Vogue and CosmoGirl and on open public extremely accessible platforms and girls are just jumping right in before they’re even close to real adulthood.

But how many of us were miserable but just couldn’t stand the thought of someone telling us we were wrong?

[loving-women-is-rad]

reblog EVERY time

[probablyaterf]

now THIS is a masterpost

[warmbeebosoftbeebo]

massive trigger warning for this whole thread, but i encourage young folks, esp teen girls, who watch pornography, think kink shaming is the worst, think men choking/strangling women is sexy as fuck, think daddy kink is great, think the obsession with pia in porn and the hyperfocus on penile entry is just good sex, etc to read all of this

adding this from leztempsrouler from elsewhere in the comment threads (who is in the prostitution industry as a stripper)

“I personally see the effects of “good men” who watch porn at my job every day. Fathers who come in and say I look like their daughter and then ask me to fuck them. Men who think they want to try BDSM from watching porn and go ahead and yank me by my hair to the floor with no warning. Men who assume I’ll do whatever they want because porn shows women willing and able to do whatever twisted shit they want. Please get off your fucking high horse about how much “research” you’ve done and how you’ve always been respectful to women even though you watch porn. You can see the testimonies of HUNDREDS of porn stars who were raped daily on set and were forced to say it was consentual. Like honestly shut your mouth and listen to the women telling you FROM EXPERIENCE how disgusting porn is and what it does to women. And if you still want to watch porn after hearing all this and ignoring all of our suffering then yes you are personally evil and I hope you are offended.”

[robomartyr]

When did we as a society get so afraid of offending people with fetishes? Who cares? Why do we act like fetishists are a constitutionally protected class?

[lunarchocommunist]

because telling people that what happens between consenting adults is wrong is like the dumbest shit ever? this post is attracting radfems like fucking flies on shit. sorry but the real sexism is telling women what they can and can’t get off too, ladies, and that’s the tea. safe, sane and, consensual are the only rules to sex that matter but go off i guess.

[marxism-himboism-deactivated202]

No, the dumbest shit ever is calling yourself a “communist” while showing no willingness whatsoever to apply critical thinking skills to an issue or analyze it through a materialist lens.

This is an issue that’s desensitizing society to violent misogyny while encouraging objectification, rape culture, and cultural pedophilia. The “two consenting adults” argument is nothing but fucking liberal nonsense. Nothing happens in a vacuum in life, and the destructive consequences of porn, the sex industry, and kink culture on both the individual level and societal level are well-documented and understood.

[marxism-himboism-deactivated202]

Since this clown asked for citations before preemptively blocking me:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/sexual-sadism-disorder

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/sexual-masochism-disorder

“Nevada’s rape rate is higher than the U.S. average and way higher than the rape rate in California, New York and New Jersey. Why is this? Legal prostitution creates an atmosphere in this state in which women are not humans equal to them, are disrespected by men, and which then sets the stage of increased violence against women.” https://web.archive.org/web/20071217174035/http://www.pahrumpvalleytimes.com/2007/Sep-07-Fri-2007/news/16519321.html

The Role of Anonymity in the Effects of Inadvertent Exposure to Online Pornography Among Young Adult Males. https://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/sbp/sbp/2014/00000042/00000005/art00010%3bjsessionid=bh7de734kei3d.x-ic-live-01

Empathy in female submissive BDSM practitioners. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0028393217300337?_docanchor=&_fmt=high&_origin=gateway&_rdoc=1&dgcid=raven_sd_via_email&md5=b8429449ccfc9c30159a5f9aeaa92ffb

Pornography Addiction in Adults: A Systematic Review of Definitions and Reported Impact. http://eprints.lincoln.ac.uk/23086/1/23086%20Duffy%20-%20Porn%20Addiction%20Review%202017%20repository.pdf

Neural correlates of sexual cue reactivity in individuals with and without compulsive sexual behaviours. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4094516/

Violence Against Women:  Aggression and Sexual Behavior in Best-Selling Pornography Videos: A Content Analysis Update. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1077801210382866

Sexualisation of Young People Review. https://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk/publications/SexualisationOfYoungPeople.pdf

Australian Psychological Society Submission to the Senate Environment and Communications References Committee Inquiry into the harm being done to Australian children through access to pornography on the internet. https://www.psychology.org.au/getmedia/2f794e03-996e-4230-bbaf-5288e21016bd/Submission-australian-children-accessing-pornography.pdf

An Overview of Research on the Impact that Viewing Pornography has on Children, Pre-Teens and Teenagers. https://bravehearts.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Research-Report_Overview-of-research-into-the-effects-of-viewing-pornography-on-children….pdf

The Harms of Pornography Exposure Among Children and Young People. https://doi.org/10.1002%2Fcar.1092

FACTS FOR PREVENTION: The Impact of Pornography on Children & Youth. http://www.preventtogether.org/Resources/Documents/Impact_of_Porn_on_Youth_9.pdf

Report of the APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls. https://www.apa.org/pi/women/programs/girls/report-full.pdf

[rneadowsoprano-deactivated20211]

Postmodernism has people like everything is okay as long as nobody is harmed btw ive changed the definition of harm and the criteria is very high now. And it’s ok to hurt people if they’re damaged enough to want to be hurt. We have no responsibility to not hurt people. But if you say words I personally think are bad that’s literally the worst possible thing one could do and you’re a fascist now. Like people will literally defend incest and then denounce someone as a fascist for using the word “degenerate” we genuinely live in the craziest society possible

[femmerustique-deactivated202307]

A few months ago, an older Woman gifted me two dozen second wave books, many which have been forgotten and lost to time. From theory to literature to poetry to Women's history, it's a trove of Women's words. Reading through them, I've noticed literature in that time was dedicated to elevating the meaning of Woman and making it a word to be proud of.

I've been reflecting on the push to obscure the word Woman and therefore denigrate it's meaning. Now Women are saying, "No, I'm not just a Woman, I'm so much more complex than that." because society has told them "identifying" with the word Woman reduces them to the sexual parts of themselves, that they can't be more than their sexuality when they're Women. Part of this is caused by the organizations saying, "No, this isn't just a Women's issue, this affects all uterus owners." Framing Women's issues as not important enough to merit their own attention, Women themselves not important enough to struggle for, while reinforcing the dehumanization of Women, objectifying them by positioning their sexed body parts as objects to be "owned", ie bought, sold, & used.

Simultaneously, males are "identifying" into Womanhood, colonizing our words while demanding we reframe the way we describe ourselves. Transwomen say they are no different than Women, yet Women must call ourselves uterus owners. Our oppressors are going to the most extreme lengths to solidify the dehumanizing meaning of Woman: "Pornography is what it feels like when you think you have an object, but really the object has you. It is therefore a quintessential expression of femaleness. Getting fucked makes you female because fucked is what a female is. Distilling femaleness to its barest essentials - an open mouth, an expectant asshole, blank, blank eyes" - A Long Chu

All of this is so obvious when you learn about historical militant second wave feminism. It's time to reassert Woman supremacy, to bring back positive meaning back to the word Woman, to be proud to be a Woman, a female. In the words of @badbehavedwoman, "I cannot describe how freeing it is to think of womanhood as a state of being female and nothing else; no expectations, no rules, just being content with how I was born and who I was meant to be."

[femmerustique-deactivated202307]

Since a few of you have asked, here are the books! Between Ourselves: Letters Between Mothers and Daughters edited by Karen Payne Black Women Writers at Work edited by Claudia Tate by a Woman writt: literature from six centuries by and about women edited by Joan Goulianos Elizabeth Cady Stanton by Mary Ann B. Oakley The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan The Feminist Papers edited by Alice S. Rossi The First Ms. Reader edited by Francine Klagsbrun The First Sex by Elizabeth Gould Davis For Her Own Good by Barbara Ehrenreich & Deirdre English Lifting the Veil: the Feminine Face of Science by Linda Jean Shepherd Love, Struggle & Change edited by Irene Zahava Male and Female by Margaret Mead Mary Wollstonecraft by Eleanor Flexner Our Bodies, Ourselves by the Boston Women's Health Collective Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions by Gloria Steinem Revelations: Diaries of Women edited by Mary Jane Moffat Twenty Years at Hull-House by Jane Addams Vindication of the Rights of Women by Mary Wollstonecraft Women Together: a History in Documents of the Women's Movement in the United States by Judith Papachristou The World Split Open: Four Centuries of Women Poets in England and America, 1552-1950 edited by Louise Bernikow

[r4diofem-deactivated20221122]

Tips for dealing with Gender Dysphoria/Dysmorphia without transitioning :

1.) Read feminist literature. Read the scum manifesto, read Beauty and Misogyny, read Irreversible Damage.

2.) Find other women in your field of interest, especially if your interests are typically masculine.

3.) Read about gender nonconforming/ butch women in history. Watch shows with GNC or/and strong women in them. Surround yourself with content that portrays women as multidimensional, human and fleshed out.

4.) If you need reduction surgery to feel comfortable in your body, do it after extensive therapy. Find a competent surgeon. Don't rush into it. Breast reduction can be a quality of life improvement, but it has risks associated with it.

5.) Start using the words that make you uncomfortable. Call yourself a woman. Call yourself a girl. Use she/her. Stop using neutral words for your female body.

6.) Follow detransitioners/ desisters on social media.

7.) Dress in a way that makes you most comfortable. If that means wearing men's clothes, then own it!

8.) Realize that people arent going to see you exactly how you see yourself, and that's ok.

9.) Stop using misogynistic language for yourself and for other women.

[angry-radfem99]

10.) Avoid femininity but embrace womanhood. Stop forcing yourself to wear makeup if you hate it. Wear suits to fancy events instead of dresses. If you can identify some of the very specific items that make you dysphoric, they will be easier to change. (For example, having long hair just feels wrong to me, it doesn’t feel like me. But knowing that I can be a short haired woman and still be female is so much more liberating than believing I have to be feminine because I have a vulva.)

[capybarad]

11. Spend time outdoors, especially doing physical things. Spending time away from the internet and reconnecting with your body helps you get out of your head and appreciate your body for what it can do instead of how it is perceived.

[female-malice]

12.) play sports. join a female-only team. learn to work together with other women towards a common goal.

[fossettt]

13. Consider creating distance between friends or coworkers that make you feel dysphoric.  It might not be desirable to cut them out completely, just don’t put all your eggs in one basket.  Making unlikely new friends can be a great experience.

[channelworldbluez]

I mean this can help some but idk transitioning work for me, idk how reading about butch women in history is gonna make me change my mind like I’d gain appreciation for them but I’ll still be like go about my day and take my T shot the following week and then they’ll have a random space in my mind that will be overwritten by unnecessary work information and school and random video game info no one cares about but shout out to them though, fr. Also my aunt was butch and she was rad af and like her gf was beautiful but like that didn’t do anything for me at all.

[nansheonearth]

This post is a list is ways to deal with dysphoria without transitioning. Not everyone wants to transition. Glad you found something that worked for you.

[omnivore-odyssey]

Exactly! Some people have sex dysphoria and need other ways of living with it.

[old-school-butch]

14. Hang around more old people. You will find every last one of them is struggling to accept aging, and you might realize that you should get over puberty before time takes that first blush of youth away, and you don’t recognize the wilted face in the mirror looking back at you. You might realize that even if you drugged and cut your body into the perfect specimen now, it will be gone in a decade or two. There is no gender euphoria, only a fleeting distraction from our mortality. The only constant is change. Why are you fighting yesterdays battle, as if tomorrows isn’t coming?

[watermelinoe]

To this day, I have yet to find more compelling peaking material than Rachel Dolezal. I can’t believe radfems haven’t made a habit of bringing her up in every single anti-trans argument, regardless of topic. But every time she’s brought up, TRAs obscure the argument by splitting hairs about race and culture and ancestry and gender and biology and spectrums, until all their allies simply go silent in confusion and fear, not feeling convinced but too scared to ask for clarity. All arguments they come up with in response choose to focus on why race and gender are different, or why Dolezal is just lying for the attention, but that distinction is completely unnecessary and misses the point as to why people rejected Dolezal in the first place. Black people didn’t reject Dolezal because they thought gender or sex was inherently more fluid than race or ethnicity, or because they thought Dolezal was lying about what she believed herself to be. They rejected her solely because of the harm and insult it would cause black people for a member of the oppressor class to be permitted to disguise themselves as a member of the oppressed. It would obscure your ability to talk about racism where it happens, it would take away opportunities for actual black people, and it would reduce black people to a racist caricature that anyone can vibe with, rather than human beings with a vast range of opinions, interests, and features.

They don’t continue to reject Dolezal because of some purely biological, scientific reason; they reject her because of the potential for harm it would create, reasons which are deeply emotional. Because that’s really the deciding factor on why we tell people they’re not allowed to do something: because it will bring harm to others or themselves. So don’t ask them: “How are race and gender different?” That only gives TRAs the opportunity to get everyone lost in the weeds. Instead, keep an unwavering focus on this single question: “Who would it harm if we recognized Dolezal as black, and how would that harm manifest?” There is literally no answer that TRAs can give to that question that doesn’t also apply to recognizing men as women. Either Dolezal is just as valid as trans people are, or they’re both invalid. Either way, TRAs have to take the L on something, or else just keep spitting death threats and burying their heads in the sand, insisting that white people are an oppressor class but men aren’t. But the point of focusing on Dolezal isn’t to peak the zealots, it’s to peak the normies listening in who’ve probably never been confronted with such a massive cognitive dissonance before. The point is to make the fence-sitters start feeling uncomfortable about not being able to defend their own beliefs, which will compel the braver ones to start asking even more questions that TRAs damningly can’t answer. Eventually, trans allies will get tired of getting rage and accusations of bigotry instead of actual answers, and maybe then they’ll finally realize they’re better off leaving and seeking out their own answers.

everything you've written is spot on, but i've seen this debate happen several times and inevitably the answer is just, "you're racist for even making this comparison." or, when terry crews (a Black man) made this comparison, "you're transphobic for even making this comparison." most liberals are so scared of being labeled as either that they will simply back down rather than demand a reason why it's supposedly racist/transphobic, and that's what transactivists are really counting on. that's kind of their entire game plan. they need to make it so everyone is so terrified of being labeled transphobic that they don't dare ask any questions let alone criticize the ideology.

[sapphos-catpanions]

Recently detransitioned woman who had gone as far in her physical transition as it is really possible to go.

Warning: difficult to watch

[sapphos-catpanions]

when i say my heart dropped into my ass when i saw her stripped arm… sister, i am so sorry. i wrote your words down because i’m terrified of losing them. videos like this get deleted all the time.

“the following is a very vulnerable and personal account of my life as a detrans women.

“the content in this series may be triggering to some

“please watch with care <3

“detransition diaries entry 1

“how do i love myself again? how do i feel connected to myself again?

“it’s like i’m mourning an entire life that should have been mine, that was my birthright.

“*sigh* i don’t know how this happened to me. and i’m just, like, so angry. *crying* and so sad, like i just don’t know how this happened. like a virus or something just infected me and it happened so quickly!

“and i was right there and i agreed to *voice breaks* every single thing, and i don’t know how that happened! and now i can sit here and look back and think like, why did i do that? it doesn’t make any sense. none of it makes any sense.

“if i just would have waited. if i just would have waited. *breaks down*

“if i just would have waited and let myself heal. i can’t have kids. i’ll never lose my ‘virginity’, like i feel like i’m just left to accept the scraps of the life i could have had.

“i had this full life that i’m now having to mourn, while also living in the present moment with the life that feels like the scraps of what could have been.

“i don’t know how to be happy with that, you know. i don’t know how to be ok with that.

“i hate when people are like, everything happens for a reason. like no, this didn’t happen for a reason. it’s just a tragedy. just call it what it is.

“i don’t want to use the word ‘indoctrinated,’ but i was young and i was sad and i was impressionable and i thought this would fix everything.

“i don’t know what to do with, like, any of it.

“i also feel a lot different from most detrans girls, or detrans women, because i’ve had bottom surgery. every girl i know hasn’t. they still have this part of them, and i don’t have that. like… *voice breaks* i don’t have anything anymore. and it’s so sad, like it sucks so bad.

“and it’s just something i have to live with, like there’s no fixing it, there’s no making it better. i have to live like this for the rest of my life, and figure out a way to be ok with it. it’s so scary and terrifying, it’s just like right now i don’t see that, i don’t see that path. maybe it exists, but right now it feels so hard to see a way of moving forward right now.

“i’ve been doing little things for myself. i bought myself this green bikini *laughs* and it’s been really nice to wear it around, in my bathroom in the mirror and dancing around to beyonce, trying my best to feel empowered and embodied.

“i just feel so foreign in my body, and i just feel so detached from it. it’s hard to look at it, it’s hard to accept that it’s mine. the little things, you know, just trying to find joy, trying to be ok.

“it’s always there, you know? i’m always here, everywhere i go. and i know i’m on this road to self-love and self-acceptance, all while mourning this life i should have had, this life that never got to see the light of day.

“i’m not making this video for sympathy or anything, it’s just i’m wanting to express what’s honestly going on in my reality right now as a detrans woman, as a woman who thought she was trans and transitioned, lived as trans for eight years, had top surgery and a full hysterectomy, bottom surgery, went all the way as far as one can go, then woke up and realized i made the biggest fucking mistake of my life.

“i was so sure. it’s crazy. it’s all really hard right now, in the thick of it. accepting that i was detransitioning was hard, but there’s a reason why it took so long, which is that i was trying to avoid the unavoidable, which was all of this pain, all of this mourning, all of this loss, this wreakage that i have to sit with and try to figure out how to make a life out of, and bring some kind of reverance, some kind of positivity, some kind of light.

“but it’s so hard, you know? i don’t feel like that about any of it. i’m angry. i’m sad. i’m consistently questioning, why did this happen to me, how did this happen to me?”

[sapphos-catpanions]

have you ever been overwhelmingly upset about something while simultaneously attempting to communicate why you were upset? have you ever done it on film? this woman has a talent for self-expression, i hope she keeps talking.

[w99s03-deactivated20220928]

She has recently made a new video where she apologises for contributing to TRA culture (as in influencing others to continue transition or to transition). She doesn't owe anyone an apology, rather she is the one who deserves an apology, I swear. In the other video, she talked that she has been living as trans for 8 years already and started her transition at 18.

In the same video she talked about how most of the things she has been doing were a trauma response because she "has been told it is unsafe to be feminine". Later on she made a remark on how "her feminine is undeveloped". This reminds me of myself when I was just desisting. It... Took so much to deprogram myself from this binary view of the world. Because then I just felt I had to "owe up" for being so masculine. I had a feeling I needed to conform in order to be seen as "woman enough". I know desisiting isn't as traumatic as detransition and I am extremely sorry for even comparing my struggle to hers.

When I desisted I had a feeling of being... not me. I lived a lie for 4 years. I get her so much and wish her nothing, but betterment and healing.

She doesn't need to apologise for anything, she doesn't need to say sorry, I would advise her to leave social media for a while and come back when she's ready.

Detransition is an extremely tough and hard process. I think that she needs to take off time for herself exclusively.

[sapphos-catpanions]

i agree. do you think i was terfing out on the internet while i was desisting?

deprogramming yourself commands almost all of your energy. it’s intense, as it should be. it must be fully as intense as the indoctrination that originally hooked you in, or it may not stick. and this goes for leaving any cult, not just trans.

[d3nt4l-d4m4g3]

Jalisa is such a talented and wellspoken individual. I've been following her since she posted her first detransition video (now deleted) and I so wish the best for her. Please support her.

[redstatefeminist666-deactivated]

the saddest thing is there was a time she thought going through all this would prevent her from feeling this way

[theroseses]

Since the coward who wrote this tripe has blocked me, I'll just write my response here.

We are finished? Women are finished because some of them made a choice regarding a contentious legal case that, no matter how much you insist otherwise, was not as straight forward as you would like to believe? What utter, offensive nonsense.

I expect that kind of shit from incels. Literally, this is the kind of benny they throw over women liking bad boys. Congrats on being just as misogynistic as...well, as misogynists.

I also notice how you interestingly cherry pick which evidence is believable. Johnny Depp on a hospital gurney with blatant injuries like cigarette burns on his face? No mention. A rape claim with no physical evidence when it would have cause horrendous internal injuries? Totally true. A woman on tape withholding medication from a guy trying to detox from painkillers (as an addict, I can tell you straight up that is fucking torture)? Apparently you didn't hear that. Or you refused to hear it.

I'm not even going to get in to the sexist shit about how the only reason anyone would defend a guy is because he's a "dilf" and a woobie and clearly women are too stupid to see past good looks (again, congrats on being just as misogynistic as your average MRA) because I'm tired and this rpant is long enough already. But I will say this: I don't think Johnny Depp was 100% innocent. He admitted grabbing Amber by the neck, so there's no question some of this violence was mutual. Toxic relationships happen, and rarely are they just one sided. That's not the point.

My point is: I'm sick of women being expected to fall into whatever line certain "feminists" expect us too. I am a feminist. I will always be one. But feminism as it stands these days has become fascist. I've been called a handmaiden for supporting trans people, banned from r/UnresolvedMysteries for standing up to TERFs, been condescended to by men who think of themselves enlightened because I disagreed over a fucking movie, been harassed for liking another movie, been insulted for noting my personal experiences with an actor that feminists on Tumblr couldn't bear to hear anything bad about, and the list goes on.

To me, feminism should be about being your own person, refusing to conform to society's strict gender roles. Somehow, feminism became the very thing it was supposed to be against. It's one thing to act a fool like Hadley Freeman and constantly insist Woody Allen did nothing wrong (she's free to like his movies all she likes, but come on) but quite another to piss on someone for loving Chris Nolan movies (which happens to me a lot).

Feminism needs to take a fucking long, hard look at itself. Because if you declare women are done for thinking differently than you, you are a fascist. No ifs, ands or buts.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

op the released court documents literally proved that Depp lied about his injuries, manipulated pictures and audio recordings, AND that he stated she didn't cause him any physical or mental harm.

also when a man can sue a woman for talking about her abuse in an article that doesn't even NAME him, that's how women are finished

stop licking the boots of abusive men

[theroseses]

Yeah see, this is the kind of shit I'm talking about - if you think I would ever 'lick the boots of abusive men' then you know fuck all about me. I've had to put up with an abusive father who fucked up my entire life, killed my self-esteem and made me unable to trust anyone. I've been sexually assaulted (by a friend of my brother's). I have ever reason to distrust and disbelieve a man over a woman. And I've already said I don't think Depp was 100% innocent. That selective reading is really pissing me off here, not to mention making assumptions about a complete stranger.

Why are you so unable to grasp that women are not a monolith. We are not always going to agree or see things the same way. Stop infantalising me and every other woman who disagrees with you.

As to whether Depp truly had the grounds to sue Amber - I'm not a lawyer, but given that it couldn't have been about anyone else, I don't see much wiggle room to suggest it was someone else. If he really did fake/exaggerate injuries, I agree that's truly despicable. But Amber claimed to have broken ribs and other terrible injuries when a photoshoot proves otherwise, so again I feel they both have not been truthful here.

Women are not finished because they fucking disagreed with you. This is misogynistic horseshit and I stand by that. If I wanted to listen to such rubbish I'd go read Kiwifarms. JFC.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

being an abuse victim yourself doesn't exempt you from defending abusers

the point isn't whether the article was obviously about Depp or not, the point is that he has established a precedent where women cannot even talk about their abuse without being sued for it. and you're supporting that precedent.

he did fake them. it's not an "if" situation, you can literally Google the court documents and find out that he did fake them.

nobody is defending amber because women can do no wrong. we're defending her because a man twice her age who is known for being a violent, abusive drug addict was suing her over an article that didn't even mention him + it was literally ruled that he abused her in a previous case