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idk im really tired of 15-17 year olds who have never interacted with the gay community irl and spend too much time on tiktok trying to act like the authority on all that is lgbt+
mean this in the kindest possible way. if you are too young and unsafe to go to your gay community center or pride here’s some ways you can connect to gay history.
the oral history project from act up
the lesbian herstory archives
the transgender archives of the university of victoria
the digital transgender archives
glbt historical society (digital)
lgbtq digital collaboratory
since it was suggested in the tags
anything that moves
the bisexual manifesto
the Samuel Proctor oral history project
a masterpost of lesile feinberg’s works by @genderoutlaws
more to come
the queer zine archive
the dyke march compilation
paris is burning
how to survive a plague
united in anger: a history of ACT UP
one archives
new york public library lgbtq archives
for today’s update:
screaming queens
a collection of audre lorde’s poetry
the arquives
dykes to watch out for
the bi woman’s quarterly (1/2)
I am an old and didn’t know most of these resources existed. Thank you.
For trans activism to move forward you have GOT to learn to accept that not everybody who uses She/Her pronouns is going to be some short, white, skinny, passing person.
You’ve got to accept that there are tall, hairy, and fat trans women who “havent done anything” and still deserve to be fucking gendered correctly.
I’m sorry you had to hear this from me, but not everybody is going to appeal to your UwU soft trans catgirl sensibilities.
dear lord...
omg you do not understand how rare it is to see queer desi weddings this is beautiful
Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.
But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.
You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.
You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.
You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.
You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.
And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.
(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)
Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.
If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.
This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.
I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?
So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.
No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.
i related to every single point here and i’m —
God someone finnally said it in the way i could never articulate. These "little things" matter. And it is traumatizing to know your different and to feel wrong and to not know why and whenever you try to express it to only to be silenced and have your feelings undermined and diminished because hey at least your parents didnt kick you out and you didnt have to fight for your right to not get married or whatever. These things arnt big and dramatic and immidiatly obvious but they're important and it still hurts
This sounds like a shitpost but people should be allowed to be horny. As in, sexuality is just part of life for most people and there’s no reason for consensual sexual behavior to be punished. A celebrity getting “caught” at a sex club shouldn’t be a scandal. No one should be fired for having a fetlife profile outside of work. Nudes getting leaked shouldn’t be career-ending. Denying and hiding (consensual) sexual interests doesn’t make anyone more professional, it just makes everyone more repressed. And sterilizing ourselves to be better work drones isn’t productive, it’s just creepy. I’d rather my surgeon get absolutely railed on camera and come to work in a good mood, frankly.
anyway q*eer is a slur and privileged liberals made everyone believe its OK to call everyone that cause they watched a Ted talk in 2017. and if you don't know why at this point that's a you problem. look it up. or better yet, go the fuck out and talk to a LGBT person older than 30. unacceptable.
Hi, I'm a queer person over 30. Queer was fully reclaimed before I even hit puberty. Most non-radfem folks in the community will tell you the exact same thing. Making queer back into a slur is a radfem psyop and completely ahistorical.
Hello from another queer person over 30. Can confirm that “queer” has been reclaimed for decades. “Gay” was in fact the bigger slur in my part of the world when I was growing up. As was “lesbian”/“lesbo”.
Speaking as a queer nearer to 50 than 30, I would like to suggest OP take a moment to go fuck themselves. 👍🏼
Yet another queer person well over 30 agreeing that queer was a reclaimed word well over 30 years ago. Stop listening to radfem/TERF psyops. Alternately if you are a radfem/TERF please kindly go fuck yourself.
Queer has been a reclaimed word for decades and it's 100% true that people who are telling you that it's a slur are doing so in order to indoctrinate and manipulate people for their own ends.
When someone tries to tell you something like 'privileged liberals made everyone believe', they're making an assertion. If they don't give you any evidence to back up that claim, be skeptical of it. You can do your own research and see if they're right or if we're right.
If you do the research on this one, you will see that we are 100% correct.
The LGBTQ+ rights organization Queer Nation was founded in 1990, well after the term was already in common use.
Queer has been reclaimed so successfully that it's a fully accepted term in academia. You can get degrees in queer studies because of the LGBTQ+ rights movement.
One of the classic LGBTQ+ slogans is, "We're here, we're queer, get used to it!"
People like the OP have no evidence for any of their claims. Like, seriously, they're honestly claiming that queer people call ourselves queer because of a fucking TED Talk from 2017.
Yeah, right, and I suppose asexual people didn't exist before the year 2000, trans people didn't exist before WW2, and they really are trying to make the fucking frogs gay.
Like, seriously, have you heard a more ridiculous claim than, "privileged liberals made everyone believe its OK to call everyone that cause they watched a Ted talk in 2017"? I mean, it's completely laughable.
Anyways, the people that make these claims are authoritarians in the LGBTQ+ community. They might be radfems, they might be TERFs, they might be some other kind of conservative right-wing type that just thinks they have to control what other people think to feel good about themselves.
Find people who don't tell you that your identity is a slur. Find people who don't try to teach you to hate others. Find people who aren't emotionally stunted children in the bodies of adults.
Learn our history.
NOT GAY AS IN HAPPY
QUEER AS IN FUCK YOU
today in material transphobia:
my insurance asks for my AGAB as well as my gender, then uses my AGAB as my de-facto gender marker on all documents without telling me.
my adderall (which I have to order by mail because I'm on an island) is then stuck in "processing" for a week, and I am forced to call just to find out why. Its because the gender my psychiatrist and pharmacy use is "male", but my insurance has me listed as "female", so they can't give me my medication.
when I call my insurance to fix this, a man argues with me about why I need to be listed as "female" even though my gender has been "male", legally, to the state as well as the federal government, since before I signed up for this insurance in the first place. he says there are "internal biological differences", then that people cannot access or get coverage for care they need without the "female" gender marker- pap smears, abortion, birth control, etc.
so now my options are:
1. change my gender marker to "female" for all of my medical information/documentation, including dental (bc it's the same insurance), even though the vast majority of my medical care has nothing to do with my AGAB- I don't need to be "female" to need adderall, for example- or
2. give up all access to and coverage for medical needs related to my reproductive system.
anyway, I got my gender marker changed to "male" with my insurance, since that was the fastest way to get my medication. I guess we'll see what happens when I need a pap smear next.
btw this is why abortion is not a "women's issue".
legally, materially, men need access to abortion, too.
I feel like I should also stress that this is Washington state. Notably progressive and, afaik, the most trans-friendly state overall in the US.
I am on state health insurance, which is legally required to cover all trans-related care (from HRT to surgery!) 100%. This is the same state that was one of the first to adopt self-ID, including the third "X" gender marker option.
They asked for my "gender assigned at birth", using that language, in the signup process.
Which means a couple of things:
1. Progressive areas are still systemically transphobic. Trans people in your life are not unaffected by things like this if you happen to live in a Very Progressive Area.
I know what yall are like in these kinds of places, and you can't just handwave this stuff as belonging to "backwards" southern or conservative areas. This is your problem.
2. Language =/= safety. Systems and people can use the right language to be just as transphobic (or otherwise bigoted) as they would be using the worst or most outdated language possjble.
3. Trans men cannot access abortion in WA state unless their gender marker is "female" under insurance and all related medical documentation.
Even in a state where abortion is fully legal and widely available to cis women, it is still not available to trans men (without intentionally misgendering ourselves to, and being misgendered by, every vaguely medical-related professional we have contact with).
4. This is a problem that would not exist if men were also granted access to abortion.
lions are like transgendering lol
Explain
LOL theyre just transgedering :)
Game over, Republicans
TRANS PRIDE
This is trans chicken erasure culture
If something happens to a hen’s ovary and it ceases to function for whatever reason, the other gland will turn on, producing male sex hormones. The hen will grow longer and prettier feathers, a claw on their feet, a bigger comb, and they will begin to crow. Some, especially if they are influenced by other roosters, will begin to act aggressive, and protective over hens. The only way you can really tell if they were born a hen at that point is if you notice the rooster isn’t impregnating any females and by doing a blood test. Some people also say that their trans roosters tend to be a little bit sloppy at being a rooster if they didn’t have any roosters to teach them.
The Chicken are what
TRANS CHIMKEN
the thing i’ve taken away from ‘kink at pride’ discourse is that a lot of yall have a lot of internalized homophobia.
repeat after me. it is not bad to be flamboyant. it is not bad to be confident and proud in your sexuality. it is not bad to be a sexual being or want to be sexual. you are not a ‘better’ LGBT person because you aren’t sexual or flamboyant or proud of yourself. and your own issues don’t give you a get out of jail free card to be a cunt to people
Conservatives yap and yap all the time about how kids don’t understand “woke” culture, but today the school age kids at the daycare had a field trip to a park and saw a really weird swing, and one immediately said “that’s for people with disabilities.” And the others were like, “Oh, people with disabilities, yeah that makes sense.” Like, the whole, clunky, politically correct phrase. These are kids who spend most of their time on tablets and don’t like using five words when three words would do, and they said that phrase like it was natural to them.
Sometimes my kids will be making up characters and write pronouns on their pages. One day a girl turned to me and said “This character is they/them.” They don’t think of it as a foreign concept - different genders are just as new a concept to them as all the other stuff they’re learning at this age, and like all that stuff, they regard it not as something to fight about, but just another facet of the world to learn, understand, and incorporate into the stories they create.
The kids handle learning these things just fine. It’s the adults who are moaning pissbabies about it.
"kids are detransitioning"
no. actually, children now feel comfortable and accepted enough to experiment with their gender, pronouns, name, and presentation. and while some of them end up realizing they were cis the entire time, they now have a new understanding and appreciation for one of the most marginalized and abused groups of people in the world.
there, I fixed your shitty headline.
Also quite honestly, if kids are detransitioning- so what? Honestly, good for them.
Nobody is doing surgery on trans kids. Nobody is doing anything more than MAYBE puberty blockers (which are clinically proven to be safe and are also the go to treatment for cis kids going through precocious puberty). If they decide that actually they're not the gender they thought they were, GOOD.
I want kids to feel safe trying things out. I want kids to experiment with their self expression, be it clothes or hair or gender. If it turns out to be "just a phase" I would far rather it be a phase that they are loved and supported through rather than something they feel is shameful and that they have to hide. I want them to feel like there's no pressure to go one way or the other, just to feel safe to figure themselves out in whatever way makes them comfortable.
Protect trans kids. Protect detrans kids. Protect questioning kids. Full fucking stop.
Investing in something that turned out to be not what you wanted, but nonetheless left you with insight into who you want to be? That's being alive for ya
Posted this on Twitter: I'm tired of the fear over trans kids. My son thought he's trans. Lived a year with different clothes, name and pronouns. Came back and said "I think I'm not a girl after all." We switched things back. Poof!
Side effects: he knows he'll have support in journeys of self discovery.
There's literally no harm. None. Years later and he's so open with me about his feelings and his needs. He knows I'll take him seriously and stand by him. He was never in danger just existing for a while as a trans kid, even though he didn't turn out to be one.
Hey I don’t want to come across as rude, I mean this in good faith, but have you talked to many detransitioners? Unfortunately the demographic (non- or minimally transitioned) you are describing is the minority, and there are many people, especially women, who have gone through irreversible treatment and seriously regret it, I just read a heartbreaking Reddit post about this today. Additionally, puberty blockers are not harmless! That is a myth.
I'm going to believe you that you say this in good faith. But that's not true.
Statistics show that most detransitioners detransition because of social repercussions. The transphobia is too harmful. They essentially go back in the closet.
And I read up a lot on puberty blockers in case my child needed them. They are used to slow down cis kids' puberty often without this kind of fear mongering. No medical decision is without pros and cons, but puberty blockers are overwhelmingly safe and for trans kids they can be life saving. In the same way that a supportive family can be life saving to a gay or bi person.
And if you look at my original addition to this post, you'll notice that we weren't at the stage of using puberty blockers. That's why I didn't mention them. My kid transitioned socially, not medically: clothing, name, pronouns. But you approached my specific post, going to the trouble of reblogging it directly from me so I can see your addition in my notes, with worries about puberty blockers. That tells me that you've been paying attention to a lot of propaganda around trans people and especially trans kids.
I see you're a lesbian and a kid. Your demographic is targeted by radfems and TERFs who want to convince you of their way of thinking. They're very good at disguising their rhetoric and making it seem like it's simply feminism, or pretending their views are somehow an inherent part of the lesbian identity. I see they've succeeded with you, since you name yourself gender critical and use the term "LGB." I'm expanding on this because I said I'll take your response in good faith despite this. People under the gender critical label have been willing to align themselves with fascists and homophobes if it means harming trans people. They've done it more than once. Their rhetoric often echoes fascist values, talking about "purity" and "hygiene" in groups of people, as if some humans are inherently "cleaner" than others. I've seen them myself spreading outright antisemitic conspiracy theories. As a Jewish person, I don't appreciate interactions from someone who feels comfortable having that in their bio.
Don't respond to me again, please.
there needs to be more kink and gay sex at pride b/c a lot of you need the lesson that something making you uncomfortable doesnt mean that its bad or that it should be hidden away. your discomfort is not the end of the fucking world and i promise you will survive the harrowing ordeal of seeing a man in leather
don't leave this one in the notes
Things To Never Say To Someone Who Just Came Out by the Onion.
Made an observation from looking at you all talking about your teenage experiences.
(if you're in this picture multiple times then congrats you get extra swords)
[ID: a digital drawing that is also a meme format, of a king and his knights holding their swords together at a round table. they are labelled, "autistic teenage girls", "asexual teenage girls", "aromantic teenage girls", "lesbian teenage girls", and ""teenage girls" who haven't yet realized they're trans men". end ID]
I think we should stop with the "if you're part of a group in power, it's okay to abuse you" thing.
For one, most importantly, no one deserves abuse. Don't harass people. Don't make jokes about how they're awful for simply existing.
For two... this ideology leads to things like:
Straight trans men getting hate for being straight men.
GNC cis people getting hate for being cis.
Poor queer white people getting hate for being white.
I am not talking about people getting hate for being misogynistic, transphobic, racist, or bigoted in any other way. I am talking about people getting hate for existing.
If you normalize harming people, that harm will be turned on those most vulnerable.
#Important#Not to mention people recently forgetting what rich means#Like 'haha yeah eat the rich -bullies a poor person that managed to save up for a game console-' (via @sege-h)
That's a very good addition. I don't think people understand the vast gulf between a multi-billionaire and someone who can comfortably support a family. Even a few million dollars is a reasonable amount of wealth compared to the people we really need to be concerned about.
Someone close to me came from a family with money, but his mother constantly used food deprivation as punishment, so he went hungry a lot. Manipulative shit like not providing breakfast and then giving $1 for lunch money when lunch was $1.25 and no, you couldn't run a tab. Things like offering a food he hated (autistic sensory problem, he literally could not stomach it), insisting he eat it, sending him to bed hungry when he didn't, then serving it reheated the next day after making something he liked but not letting him have any.
For him, getting shit about growing up with well-off parents is like... so beside the point that he grew up with deprivation. It wasn't monetary, exactly, but worse, it was deprivation he was told was his fault for being "bad". He wasn't bad. He was autistic and undiagnosed because they'd decided that he was bad on purpose.
I grew up with my parents from very different backgrounds, they were young and low income when they had me, but they both had graduate degrees by the time I was in Jr. high, we never had a lot of money but they never, EVER forced me to go hungry. When I was a poor, single, working parent, they supplemented my food budget substantially by letting us eat dinner there, live there when we needed to. That experience of kindness greatly informed how I approach the world around me. Poverty has been part of my life, but ongoing deprivation hasn't.
Every group of people I've ever seen has had some members who were shitty, shitty terrible people who liked to hurt others. Queer and trans folk don't have an automatic "good person" card, nor does any other marginalized group. Being aware of privilege is a task of the privileged. Call out, or in, the behavior that actually hurts you, but don't perpetuate the cycle of violence by lashing out at people who are doing as well as they know how.
When I was on the cusp of grappling with my gender, someone told me I couldn't say something since I was cis. I hadn't yet come out as nonbinary because I hadn't grappled with it enough yet, but had said a LOT of things in the previous weeks that indicated I was struggling with the definitions of gender and my own interactions with that. People need to be able to have a learning process, a time of transition, including being allowed to be be an egg without being slapped with labels that don't fit. I've been out for years now, and people who try to define others' gender just make me tired, I don't care who they are.