stuck in the middle with you

ains / 25 / queer this is my cave of chaos. welcome. feel free to ask me stuff!

[gatesofminrathous]

there will never be anything as funny as the mutual disbelief between long form and short form fic writers about each other's style.

short form writers look at people writing 100k+ fics as though this is some sort of talent given as part of a fae bargain, that the commitment required shows some sort of ungodly mental fortitude.

meanwhile long form writers look at people writing 1000 word one shots like god I would cut off my left nipple to be able to say anything concisely. i would love to play with multiple ideas. free me from the shackles of this child I have birthed. i love them but I now must take them to t-ball and doctor's appointments and they're going to destroy everything I own.

[shanetism]

shane and ilya come back from his parents' place to the cottage and it all went well and he's so loved and also happy and so, So relieved it went well and yet he still has a meltdown when they get home because of Everything.

the surprise of it all, the discomfort and conversations he did not want to have (yet), the scary (read: new situation) plan of his parents coming over for dinner with his boyfriend (also new and unprecedented) and it's just been go go go. go (after his father) go (freak out about the situation) go (get dressed and head to his parents' house) go (head inside and come out to them and have them meet your partner). (and also you didn't get to decide to come out to them at your own pace.)

and he hasn't had time to process everything while it happened and he's not incredible at ever checking in with himself or his own emotions so it's all just Built Up. and there's nowhere for the emotions to go but out <3 meltdown style

so. he Still has a meltdown!!!! it's like a continuation of the moments before he and ilya drove to his parents' house, when he was barely pulled back from the brink of it by ilya's hands and words and kiss and 'boyfriend?' 'i mean yes i think so probably'. but now they're home and the feeling is back and he's safe and somewhere private so he can't help but let it out.

[shanetism]

I so often think of the growing pains that come with autistic only child shane hollander (who travelled alone and moved out very early and just had a public and traumatic outing) moving in with ilya and joining a new team. it's a recipe for disaster.

he's never lived together with someone to this degree. he's played hockey for montreal for more than 10 years. his brain is hardwired to have a difficult time with change and transitions.

he went through a traumatic event in which all of his fears came true and was treated horribly by his team he considered family until he was able to leave. he has to adjust to a new house, living with someone, merging their stuff, joining a new team, new routines, etc.

this man is absolutely having the worst and hardest time adapting to this new life. he's not okay. his stress levels are through the roof. he Cannot Help being rigid in everything. his diet is the only thing that feels like it's still in His Control and he gets stricter. he creates new routines where needed and sticks to those and the old ones as tight as he can. small habits that could be broken before become Rules and he has to Stick To The Rules. he's doing bad.

and don't get me started on a shane hollander who realises he still needs Alone Time despite being so in love with ilya and so happy to live together. nuclear guilt bomb.

[odyver]

alright I've got to do some quick math to explain attitudes towards AI to my boss.

we're looking to create an AI policy, and when we were talking about this, my boss (older millennial) was genuinely shocked to hear that younger people do not (seem) to view AI positively (a la the recent commencement speakers being booed)

please rb for larger sample size!

Question 1/3

What is your age, and do you feel AI is a net positive or net negative in our lives today?

under 18, AI is a net positive

under 18, AI is a net negative

18-29, AI is a net positive

18-29, AI is a net negative

30-45, AI is a net positive

30-45, AI is a net negative

46-60, AI is a net positive

46-60, AI is a net negative

over 60, AI is a net postive

over 60, AI is a net negative

Remaining time: 6 days 9 hours

[odyver]

Question 2/3

How often do you visit or interact with museums/archives (whether in person or online)?

Frequently (multiple times per month)

Often (multiple times per year)

Occasionally (a couple times per year)

Rarely (once every couple of years)

Never :(

Remaining time: 6 days 9 hours

[odyver]

Question 3/3

If you saw a museum was using AI in exhibits, marketing, research, etc., would you be more or less inclined to visit that museum?

under 18, more inclined

under 18, less inclined

18-29, more inclined

18-29, less inclined

30-45, more inclined

30-45, less inclined

46-60, more inclined

46-60, less inclined

over 60, more inclined

over 60, less inclined

Remaining time: 6 days 9 hours

Thank you for helping with this data collection. Please rb for as big a sample as possible!

🫶

[screenshotsofdespair]

[loontattoo]

see unfortunately I have this condition where if I am not explicitly told that I am a part of the ingroup then I will assume I must be part of the outgroup

[queeranarchism]

Let me settle the 'is it fetishism and is it bad?' debate once and for all:

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

Thank you for coming to me ted talk.

[felysha]

Jonathan Joss was an Indigenous, gay man who was murdered on the first day of Pride month as well as Indigenous History Month. He died protecting his trans husband. Homophobia and racism aren’t marks of the past, and this is a heart breaking reminder of that.

Praying for a safe journey back to the spirit world, Uncle ❤️‍🩹🦅

[felysha]

Today is the anniversary of the death of Jonathan Joss (King of the Hill, Parks and Rec). Jonathan Joss was an Indigenous, gay man who died protecting his transgender husband, on the first day of Pride month. Today we remember him and how he protected his family.

[butterflypeaflowertea]

it’s so nice being fond of people on here :-) like yeah maybe we only know each other in a very limited way but i care abt you guys & hearing abt your lives makes me happy & i like listening to the things u have to say & i really truly wish the best for you all!!! sending my love from a couple states, countries, oceans away

[fairycosmos]

fucked that you can’t fix other people especially when you really care about them. Oh so im just supposed to be there for you while you suffer. like a useless cunt gargoyle

[barstoolblues]

i cant waste time applying for jobs i need to gather nuts and seeds for winter

[ravioliet]

"why can't they just be friends?" not in the homophobic sense, but in the "in your need to center romance in everything you are missing the whole point of the media in question" sense

[djotummy]

boyfriendism

[anxeious]

[gaybichon]

not even funny how true this is for me

[silurisanguine]

Linktree will be feeding your images with DALL-E, Open AI from 5th July 2026.

Warning to anyone using Linktree.

From the 5th July, they'll be feeding all imagery you use on your landing page into DALL-E by OpenAI.

I deleted my account just now, because there was no way to turn this off or opt out.

[silurisanguine]

Update with some alternatives-

Carrd.co. Free alt with paid features.

Bento.app Currently free, integrated with bluesky

Everlink.tools Closest to Linktree, has some paid features.

Omg.lol Currently $20 a year. If paying for Linktree features this is a great upgrade.

[mybloodstream-caffeine]

I could SO imagine an au where Ilya thinks Shane is playing like some 4D level mind fuck game with him when he comes over to shake his hand (twice) and compliment his playing, so instead of doing his cocky asshole schtick he earnestly takes the compliment and returns it in kind. And then Ilya goes in for the kill, expecting to call Shane's nice guy bluff by asking for his number. Ha. Bet you weren't expecting THAT, Hollander.

But then Hollander seems,,, weirdly pleased?? And,,, actually complies?? Before practically skipping off, like he got what he wanted?? What??

And then they're texting back and forth and Ilya still partly thinks this is some kind of long con, but then it's been weeks and then it's been longer and suddenly they're at the draft and Shane is looking around the room and when he spots Ilya his entire face lights up and he's making a beeline for Ilya and he's still smiling as he says "Ilya!" like he's happy to see him,,, because he IS happy to see him. Because they've been messaging basically constantly for months now and oh fuck oh shit Ilya is so so deeply screwed.

And so, instead of their canon rivals-with-benefits arrangement, we get the ten year slow burn best friends to lovers narrative.

[mybloodstream-caffeine]

@martelldoran COMING IN WITH THE STEEL CHAIR: