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tumblr is such an echo chamber that people literally cannot grasp that you can think someone’s wrong and not hate them at the same time

girl-debord

So I posted these two images that I made in a post together just shy of a year ago, and the post got 10,000+ notes. Today I saw a meme with a text convo of someone sending one of them to a military recruiter (which is extremely funny) and I thought “oh I should find that post again”

but when I went to find it, it had completely vanished. not just the original post, but even reblogs of it. I couldn’t even find screenshots anyone had taken of the original post. it wasn’t brought to my attention as a reported post, tumblr never even contacted me about deleting it, it just… disappeared

really gets the noggin joggin

teethinstagramcankissmyass

quincunx

so that’s the line huh tumblr. that old post just went too far and you had to poof it.

fanfleufleu-deactivated20221121

Reblog to remember the post before it gets deleted again

arterialtrees

-Laurie Penny, Unspeakable Things

radfem-moira

I still remember the day I discovered MRAs online. Looking back, I think that was my first “peak radfem”, if you will. I was pre-teen, no older than 13. It was a thread on some forum about how much men missed the “old days” of traditional marriage, when women didn’t have the right to vote, to work, or to own property, when women were property, and when marital rape wasn’t outlawed. I was appalled by the gleeful descriptions of what these men would have loved to do to their wives if they had been born a few decades earlier.

So I did what any child who grew up in a relatively well-adjusted home would do when faced with disturbing new information: I turned to a parent for guidance. I asked my father, the only male in my life other than my younger brother (I’ve always had mostly female friends), “do men really wish it were still like that?” Because I was so young, and I was so used to seeing myself as fully human, it was strange for me to imagine that anyone would think these things about people like me.

And my own father, a respectable man in his early 40s at the time, who never beat me, never beat my mother, who, as far as I know, has never cheated on her either, hesitated. His daughter, the flesh of his flesh, looked at him in the eye and asked him, “do people like you really see people like me like things, and not like peers?”, and he hesitated. He then said “well, I think everyone wishes they could have someone else at their service all the time like that…”

And that’s when I realized that men aren’t like us. That men weren’t like women. Because I cannot imagine being comfortable having my own personal domestic and sex slave. I cannot see myself in the shoes of my male ancestors, beating their wives, tethering them to the home, forcing themselves on them. And I certainly can’t imagine telling a female child what my father told me that night.

bi-fem-deactivated20200606

These types of fathers douche bags.

opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2

you know what?

we, as radfems, need to actually be there to help detransitioned women. we can't just use them in arguments and toss them aside, as some of you lie to do. we need to show that we support them, because they deserve love.

so here's a shout-out to all the detransitioned women out there: I'm here for you. my blog is a safe space for you. my inbox is always open to you. I may not understand everything about your experiences but I will listen when you tell them. and most importantly, you are loved.

lesbians-are-perfect

If you think that exclusive same-sex attraction or any of the labels that go along with that are too restrictive then you’re definitely not gay lol

Crazy thought I know, but gay people don’t actually find homosexuality to be restrictive, as if we’re always so tempted to dip our toes into bisexuality or something but don’t feel allowed to. Gay people actually find embracing our sexualities to be extremely liberating and freeing and not restrictive in the least.

So, if you find yourself wanting to expand the definition of gay or lesbian because it doesn’t seem inclusive enough to you, maybe instead accept that you obviously aren’t gay and then find what label does fit you. Peace.

tailofalastor

And that label is probably bisexual. It. Is. O. K.

theslaybymic

Watch: Chika Okoro’s must-see TED Talk exposes the damaging effects of colorism.

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labellabrianna-deactivated20250

This is sad af.

aryeola

I’m disgusted

kabams-deactivated20180908

I didn’t realize I wasn’t re blogging this every time I saw it, but I see it frequently and think about it often. Just yesterday I quoted it. I hope you all reblog this for others to see.

antiporn-activist

So. Yeah.

antiporn-activist

There’s an amazing number of people on twitter telling Laila that women love this.

1095870145-deactivated20200409

women are into freak shit more often than men are in my experience, probably because it doesn’t take much to make an average dude nut

anti-porn people are so fucking funny yall live in your own world

antiporn-activist

Yes, women have a curious attraction to electrocution that men don’t seem to share. It must be innate.

antiporn-activist

Also yeah, would be nice to have a separate antiporn world where we never had to interact with y'all.

ad-hominem-sappies-deactivated2

The point if is this consensual or not, if it is then what does it matter? Some people are into freaky shit some aren’t. A video doesn’t mean they’re gonna kidnap a random girl on the street and do this to them

enbiesarenttrans

Exactly. If it’s consensual then it’s none of your damn business, OP, and it certainly isn’t violence against women. If it’s not consensual than in this case it’s a crime - multiple crimes in fact. Also, I’ve seen gay BDSM videos that involve this sort of thing too, but y’all don’t care if you can’t victimize women (regardless of their autonomy) and vilify men (again, regardless of the women’s choices).

theresoneofyou

I stay away from all this stuff so I’m just gonna say for the record regardless of who it’s perpetrated against: if it’s non-consensual, if the terms were changed on the set or after the person was bound and gagged, if the person is underage, that is a crime and it is evil. But we can’t 100% know, can we?

And this isn’t directed at the person I reblogged from necessarily, but PSA for those of you who act like wounded bears over a stranger not liking your porn: if you jerk off to the fantasy of people being tortured, if you look specifically for teens or children being raped, even just to pretend, you don’t get to take the high road and act like YOU’RE the victim, no matter the legality of the video. People are just going to be disgusted by you and suspicious of your actions offline. The funny thing is, you could be quiet about it and not share your fetishes, and we’d never know you’re in the rape or snuff or bestiality or pedophilia or cannibalism fandoms. But you can’t do that, can you? You gotta be gross on main and then pikachu face when people don’t like you anymore.

enbiesarenttrans

The problem isn’t people judging someone’s sexual interests. It’s them erasing women’s agency, pretending all women are innocent little flowers who can’t be into anything raunchy or do anything wrong, thinking what porn someone likes means they like it in real life, and trying to outlaw all porn because you don’t like it. Especially that last one there. Anti porn activists should just mind their own damn business because unless a crime is happening nothing wrong is going on.

And yeah, people are allowed to talk about their sexual interests and if people attack them for it (outside of actually wanting to fuck real children or animals or to actually rape people or whatever) then that does in fact make them a victim. It’s not hard to just ignore shit you don’t like and go on with your day. No one is forcing you to read what they say or watch porn videos of fetishes you don’t like. If you don’t like BDSM then don’t click on BDSM videos. It’s that simple. You’re certainly not a victim if you click on shit you know you don’t like.

And no, I’m not into BSDM. I’m just not a rampaging asshole.

genderquit

It’s not about erasing women’s agency, or anyone’s agency in particular. Let me ask you this: you meet with an old friend whose arm is covered in fresh self-harm scars; let’s say you ask them about it, they reply that they actually really enjoy cutting themselves with sharp objects. It is their form of entertainment, they take physical pleasure out of sticking a piece of glass into their flesh over and over again. What would you think?

“Someone else is obviously doing it to them or making them do it”? Probably not, right? You would acknowledge that they’re doing it to themselves and believe them when they say they found it a very pleasurable experience.

Would you feel okay with it, though? Would you not think something strange is going on, if you’re sitting in front of a person who’s telling you they just LOVE cutting their flesh open to experience the pain that comes with it?

I don’t understand how adding the sexual factor is able to change our opinions on self-harm.

I’m not saying women have no agency, aren’t conscious or capable of giving consent, but that we should question why the fuck receiving pain or inflicting pain arouse people so much. Why the fuck PAIN, which is the immediate reaction to our bodies getting hurt, has become such a relevant part of sexual intercourse - as much as 15 years-old claiming they’re into spanking and choking. Something it’s very clearly wrong. That does not mean women don’t understand the sex they’re having, it’s a completely different argument.

venusdryad

just because its consented to doesnt mean that it’s good or okay

loudvoicepunk

As someone with a history of self harm, and a suicide survivor, I approve @genderquit 's message.

wolfsheims

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worldsgr8estgrandma

martinidog-deactivated20181219

I didn’t know how much I needed this until I heard it.

dr-peppermint

The original song is how depression felt at first, this version is how it feels now

supernovajazzy

hollowedskin

@l-heure-du-the this is so VIOLENTLY your fucking aesthetic

cryoverkiltmilk

From “… nothing matters…” to “NOTHING MATTERS! :D”

silverybeing

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A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.

The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.

Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types: 1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse. 2. Sabotaging birth control 3. Marital rape Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.

The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.

The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her. She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.

One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.” Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.

WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?

Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.

dosajam

tw: abuse, rape, domestic violence

babsissuchafuckinglady-deactiva

holy fuck im crying.

cg-is-lying-in-wait-blog

I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.

I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.

Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.

When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.

And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.

I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.

I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.

tentacletherapissed

where’s that one post going around that basically says that AMERICAN WOMEN HAVE NO RIGHT TO CLAIM A WAR ON WOMEN????????????????????????????????

death-limes

i think this is a type of abuse most people just don’t think about

disease-danger-darkness-silence

I will reblog this EVERY FUCKING TIME I SEE IT. While I was at Planned Parenthood, getting my IUD out (my old gynecologist wanted $100 to take it out when it needed to come out, because I was uninsured; PP did it for free), there was a woman going through an almost identical situation as described above in the room next to me. I tried really hard not to pay attention to it, and I informed the nurse that I could hear the conversation so they might want to, I dunno, look into better soundproofing, but I was in tears the entire time.

The people with Planned Parenthood are really, truly amazing.

stellarsarah

Planned Parenthood helped me get Plan B following me being taken advantage of when I was drunk and couldn’t confide in my parents or family. Planned Parenthood is a damn blessing, and if you don’t agree, you can get right out of my face.

thedailyshow

gay-hopeless-romantic-deactivat

The U.S. in a gif series.

pdawgz

Pls keep reblogging this till this become a classic tumblr post , because it needs to be

997

These problematic dolls invite abusive treatment.

vxhtdkggyigb

“All of this begs the question: do we want to live in a world where men are given the opportunity to smash, molest and “rape” a model of a woman’s body? A world where we decide that we are so OK with male entitlement and violence being inevitable, that we provide men with models of women to inflict their violent acts?”

whateverandadayortwo

“The idealisation of the woman who never says no; the normalisation of sexual aggression; the eroticisation of non-consent – this is the reality of sex robots and this is what lies behind the attack on Samantha.”

thebigblackwolfe

I mean this is tea I love myself too much to fuck uglies

thebigblackwolfe

Morally good got that wagon? Can you make moral goodness clap? I think the fuck not my good bitch

ororomunroedontpullout

You heard it here first, bisexiis have no innate moral compass

trainwreckbisexual

i only fuck evil people with fat asses

eowyn-is-a-radfem

Portray bi people as hypersexual deviants but make it woke

showtimechamaco

safitheartist

Power move.

newtgeiszler

one of the most aesthetically beautiful displays of protest i’ve seen

sbrown82

papa-mint

My life has been meaningless until now🤘

wahbegan

taramaclaywasaterf

Kurt would be so fucking proud, holy shit

butchdarry-deactivated20180612

the greatest skill a woman can learn for herself is self reliance

butchdarry-deactivated20180612

to clarify … so many strong women in my life rely on men. that dependence is dangerous. ladies here are some good ref resources I’ve found helpful on my journey towards self reliance

automobile

changing coolant

changing oil

changing tire

jumping a car

plumbing

toilet running

basement flooding

replace a faucet

clogged drain

electrical

replacing light switches

blew a fuse

installing overhead light

earth vs. neutral vs. live wires

home

patching drywall

finding studs

this list is in no way comprehensive feel free to add on

nerdgul

a lot of ‘man things’ are a lot easier than you think they are. especially considering the fact that most of these things when buying the parts come with directions on the packaging that men usually don’t even look at (and often end up doing it wrong because they were taught by fathers who also did not look at the packaging).

like i recently had to change my car battery and freaked out cause i thought id electrocute myself but turns out new batteries come with directions and its the easiest shit in the world so long as you can lift the damn thing.

so yeah, ladies dont ever feel like a man is a necessity for life, you can do this shit on your own its easier than you think!

phalloid-destroyer-deactivated2

My mom is teaching me all of these, if you’re a woman you must learn these.

katvontea

Of course a lot of ‘man things’ are a lot easier than you think they are. Have you MET men? They can’t even reliably feed themselves.

colossalfauna-moved-deactivated

y'all will circlejerk yourself to the mysticisms of faeries and elves in european countries for centuries and take it as fact but the second native americans ask you to respect our spirituality and culture suddenly you're all aetheists

colossalfauna-moved-deactivated

non natives can, should, and will reblog this.

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