Don't Call Me 'Queer'

"The only possible solution to a mindset full of lies, is a heart full of truth"

[honplimenter]

damn they’re so terrified of women who don’t toe the line they have to resort to begging people not to listen to them lest they, too, start seeing through their bullshit

[gendercynicalgrantaire]

“Do NOT read JK Rowling’s transphobia manifesto. I already did it for you.”

In The Handmaid’s Tale and particularly its sequel, The Testaments, one of the factors that upholds the patriarchal regime is a lack of literacy in the female population. The regime of Gilead spreads the idea that females, unlike males, are too feeble of mind and uncritical to be able to read without contracting “dangerous” ideas, and the only females strong enough of mind to read and “reject” poisonous ideas are the Aunts (ie females who have already spent considerable time indoctrinated into accepting Gilead’s values wholeheartedly). Even when the Aunts are allowed to read, very few have access to “forbidden” literature that directly contradicts Gilead’s values.

This becomes important when one of the protagonists in The Testaments becomes an Aunt-in-training and is permitted to read the Bible. She finds out that the Bible doesn’t say what the men and Aunts all throughout her life had told her it says. She was lied to about its contents, and it isn’t until she reads them herself that she is able to form her own opinion on the dogmatic religion she had been raised not to question.

Just a thought.

Always read the forbidden literature.

[skautism]

[tazri]

Last month I caught Covid, and right at the start of my symptoms I saw this post. For the next 8ish days, I was HAUNTED by this song. It played on a loop in my head for hours. I would wake up in the middle of the night covered in sweat singing “…mixed with Zach Galifianakis” as it bounced around in my virus-addled brain. It was literally inescapable.

Anyway as soon as that ended, the Morbin Time memes started so you can imagine how that went for me, who would be deliriously sick for another 5 days.

[morethanthediagnosis]

I came across this article in the wall street journal and thought it might be helpful for some of my fellow spoonies

[catgirl-kaiju]

This post really hits home for me just how many of the things old people do is just disability accommodation

[s1ck-b1tch-2]

Most pill bottle lids can also be turned upside down, making them not childproof! You can also request them in blister packs if your fine motor skills are okay but you forget if you taken them.

For pedal bins, you can keep a grabber nearby to push, or add a wood plank to the lever to make it bigger.

Adding a magnet to the pull for blinds, tissue boxes, or cabinet doors can make them easier to open/grab with a grabber.

Putting meals on a sturdy plastic lunch tray makes them easier to transport. It could also help someone prepare the meal, as there are often outlines for where things belong.

[grendel-menz]

 i dont think ill ever be able to fully express this thought

[a-womb-of-ones-own]

Men on Twitter seem really, really devoted to pushing the idea that no rich or white woman has literally ever been forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term. 😐

[a-womb-of-ones-own]

All the bleeding heart liberals wringing their hands about the abortion ban would literally jump up and down laughing so hard they cried if a republican senators wife or girlfriend or mistress was forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy or died trying to get an abortion. Abortions for women who we’ve decided deserve it only. All other women are being stingy with their wombs and are incapable of experiencing human suffering

[kiefbowl]

UHM doesn’t the first tweet basically prove how women have to secretly engineer places to have safe abortions when they’re illegal 👩‍💻 men are like “if you have to build a secret underground lair to get illegal medical treatment, you are privileged. check mated I am very smart” like??

also how does he know the women who used that clinic were well-to-do? Perhaps the well-to-do women were able to leverage their privilege to build the secret abortion lair, but that is good, yes? anyway, lets see how many Texan male civil engineers revert their houses into abortion clinics any time soon

[chimingin-deactivated20211002]

Men make the laws, men enforce the laws, and the large majority of the people utilizing this disgusting “bounty lawsuit” program against women they know will very likely be men, but let’s not talk about men’s oppression of women, let’s just talk about how evil and horrible it is that some women might - MIGHT - have a slightly better shot than others at not having their entire right to bodily autonomy removed overnight. That makes sense and is completely morally consistent, right?

Seriously, what the actual fuck.

But real talk, these tweets and the thousands like them only exist for three reasons:

1. To create an acceptable target for liberal misogyny. If they actually acknowledged how all women in Texas are being subjected to horrific conditions and having their bodily autonomy ripped away from them, they would lose their “acceptable” targets for the misogynistic insults they love to spew. They need to create a category of women they can still call “Karens” and “b*tches”, that they can still abuse horrifically without social repercussions, etc. Do not be surprised if you see these people in the near future suggesting that people should hunt down the names of wealthy Texan women to submit to the “possibly had an illegal abortion” website forms without any care for what could happen to those women after they do. Do not be surprised if they cheer any wealthy Texan women who do face severe consequences for actually getting an abortion or being accused of getting an abortion.

2. To remove the issue of misogyny from the situation in Texas. Liberals are terrified of the idea of women gaining class consciousness and fighting against their actual oppression, so they seek to divide women at all times and ensure that no one can ever see an issue as a “women’s issue”. By framing this as an issue of class or race, they effectively remove misogyny from the conversation, preventing women from seeing that it is women as a whole whose rights are under attack, not “the poor” or “people of color”. In this vein, you’ll also see a ton of comments from liberals reminding everyone not to use the word “women” when speaking about abortion, but rather to detach the issue by using language like “people who can get pregnant” or the even more vague “people who need care”.

3. To downplay the seriousness of the situation and make it easier for society to move on even faster and ignore what’s happening in Texas. Liberals DO NOT care about women’s rights and are unlikely to want anything to do with this issue long-term. By making light of the situation and claiming that any woman with sufficient funds can “opt out” of her oppression, they make it sound much less serious than it is. This makes it easier for the liberal mainstream press to justify not caring about it anymore when they inevitably stop talking about the issue in a week or two.

[sustainableseparatists]

@kiefbowl The women behind Chicago's underground abortion network, the Jane Collective, were mostly wives of university staff. When they learned one client prostituted herself for two weeks to afford the abortion, they immediately changed their payment policy so the affluent clients payed for the impoverished. Once they learned how to perform abortions themselves, they had their clients cover the cost of medical supplies and nothing else. They never turned a woman away who couldn't pay. There were rich women who could fly to London or Puerto Rico for an abortion and many more who had to sneak out behind their husband's back because reproductive coercion is real. I don't believe Sarah Palin's daughter was a willing teen mom, and she was thrust into the limelight to be a pro-life poster girl, but that's a secondary rant. You're right that the illegality created an additional burden for all women and the ones with means helped out women who had less.

[the-rainbow-lesbian]

even if women who have more privilege and accessibility to abortions can get them at an increased cost or requiring a lengthy trip, they are still needing to jump through hoops just to access basic health care and exercise bodily autonomy, that is still discrimination and misogyny.

[ititledit]

I keep reblogging this post because it makes me so angry that all these people keep pushing contempt towards acceptable types of woman.

This is 21st century public misogyny. Put "cis", "white" or "rich" In front of woman and it's ok to be misogynistic whilst calling yourself an "intersectional feminist"

[fillejondrette]

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cr--z6psrXv/?igshid=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==

hmmmm death penalty i think

[fillejondrette]

most of the comments finding it funny/defending it. obviously anyone who takes issue with the sexualisation of an infant is a karen

[cecaeliawitch]

i'm really serious when i say men shouldn't be allowed to be parents

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

The fact that the father would absolutely not have "onlyfans" as an option if the baby were male speaks volumes.

This post really exemplifies the fact that gender expectations/stereotypes absolutely get introduced to us in EXTREMELY subtle ways.

The reason the father considered "onlyfans" as an option is solely because his child is female. He probably doesn't even explicitly realize this. He probably didn't say to himself "I associate onlyfans with being female. My child is female. I will give her this option." Sexism is so prevalent that he doesn't even need to have that thought process because it's automatic. When I ask you what two plus two is, you don't sit there and think. You've had so many years of exposure to the answer that you know it.

That's what sexism is like.

When people say that they grew up with parents who "treated boys and girls equal" or "let them know women are just as capable as men", I feel like it really just undermines how deep this shit goes.

SO many people think that sexist parents are parents who say stuff like "you can't do that because you're a girl" or "put that pink thing down right now!" but that's not the end all be all. Maybe your parents never told you that you couldn't play in the mud, but the clothes they bought for you were skirts that didn't allow you to move very well and they got mad at you when you got them dirty. Maybe your parents never told you that you couldn't play with "boy toys", but every toy they surprised you with was "girly." Maybe they never minded that you wanted to play sports, but they made sure to ask you about ballet first. Maybe they didn't mind you wearing "boy clothes", but your closet never had more "boy clothes" than "girl clothes" at any given time. Maybe they let you shop in the boys section, but only begrudgingly--after making sure you browsed through the girls section. They always stop in the girls section first. While your dad taught your brother how to change a tire, he gave you money so you could go have a mechanic do it for you instead.

Your parents get uncomfortable when you sit with your legs wide open. They tell you not to hug boys a certain way. They tell you not to put your hair up around boys. They tell you your hair looks better longer.

It's. Never. Ending.

It's so fucking innocuous that it's insane. Your parents don't have to come right out and tell you "girls don't do that" because those words are in the subtext of everything else they say and do.

Parents who get excited/sad over the sex of their baby are a PERFECT example of what I'm talking about. Everyone talks about how much it sucks when men are disappointed when their child is a girl, but people don't seem to realize that excitement over the sex of your baby is ALSO sexism! The sex of your baby tells you NOTHING. Any feelings--good or bad--that you have towards your babies sex is the result of sexism. A mother who is excited about having a girl is excited because she thinks the girl will be feminine. She imagines putting her in dresses and teaching her make up and all of that shit. A mother disappointed in having a girl is probably disappointed because she imagines that girls are difficult and dramatic and have intense mood swings (she either thinks that this doesn't apply to herself and that she's 'not like other girls' or that it does apply to her and that every girl is like her and all of them have earned the title of dramatic harpies). A father who is excited about having a girl probably imagines a frail person who he gets to protect and treat like a baby her whole life. Maybe he thinks she'll be docile and not get into trouble like a boy will because girls are gentler after all, right? A father who is disappointed in having a girl probably thinks she'll never like sports or beer or women or what the fuck ever. Neither of these parents spare a single thought to the fact that if they get the child they want then it's ENTIRELY possible that the child will not have the personality they were hoping for. Some girls don't like dresses. Some boys don't like sports. These parents don't spare a single thought to the fact that if they don't get the child they want then it's ENTIRELY possible that the kid could be EXACTLY what they were hoping for! A boy who loves dresses and make up! A girl who loves sports and playing rough!

Guess what? The previous paragraph is reflective of my sexism. If you agreed with what I just said, you are also sexist! Why do I think a mother wants a "girly girl" who is "just like her"? How do I know that the mother is a girly girl? What is it about the word "mother" that makes me imagine such a thing? Why do I assume that a father would want a sporty son? What is it about the word "father" that makes me think of someone who loves sports? Why don't I imagine mothers who are sporty? Why don't I imagine fathers who are feminine? What made me choose the personalities I outlined above for the mother and father?

Y'all, this shit is fucking bleak.

[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[returnoftheobradinn]

[luisonte]

Dioooooos

[lasrina]

Watching the first one: Yes, my brain that is used to Atlantic coastal dolphins registers that as the size that orcas probably are.

Watching the second one: OH LAWD HE COMIN'

[balaclava-trismegistus]

Sun Tzu is so fucking funny to me because for his time he was legitimately a brilliant tactician but a bunch of his insight is shit like "if you think you might lose, avoid doing that", "being outnumbered is bad generally", and "consider lying."

[elidyce]

My personal favourite is his lengthy lecture on the subject of Supplies Being Very Important I Cannot Stress Enough The Importance Of Protecting Your Supply Lines But Also Supply Lines Are Expensive As Shit So Steal The Enemy’s Supplies At Every Opportunity. 

[biohammer]

via- @elidyce

[crazy-pages]

One of the more important things to consider about any historical work is the audience it was published for. The Art Of War was aimed at fancy nobles high on philosophy with little practical military experience who were nonetheless leading armies.

[limpurtikles]

Sun Tzu, after desperatly trying to explain extremely basic logic to a bunch of upper-class twits, basically sat down and wrote the most elaborate "As per my last email" ever

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

[feral-radfem]

The only goal of transactivism is to make sure there is no class solidarity between women and no class analysis of men. It is a pro sexism movement. The bast ards the run over all of it but I like playing meant to destroy all our statistics and theory we have to use to liberate women.

[apostasy-is-ecstasy]

i cannot begin to express what it feels like to be in a mental hospital, see a male patient with an absolute linebacker physique and a 5 o'clock shadow, and be told by the entire staff that this is a woman whose name is Tiffany

[apostasy-is-ecstasy]

normally if a patient said "every employee at this mental hospital is working together to gaslight me about the true nature of that patient right there", you would think oh yeah that patient is experiencing distress that does not reflect reality and requires treatment to address this so they can stop suffering. But in this case, this one time out of a million, the staff of the mental hospital actually is working together to gaslight you about the true nature of that patient right there. Right now, while you're in crisis and desperately working to get your feet planted firmly back in reality, you've had objective factual evidence shoved in your face that there is no one you can turn to right now to remind you of what is real and what isn't, and the horrifying part is that this isn't paranoia or delusion. They really are working together to gaslight you. Right now you need things to be simple, you need to revert back to childlike trust for just a few days or weeks where you can point to that person or those few people and say "they know what reality is, and when I'm scared I can go to them and ask them what's happening" but they've betrayed that contract in such a confirmable way. If you bring this up and if you stick to your guns, there will be consequences. Reality feels more malleable than it did when you got here, which is saying something.

[gaylib4gays]

shout out to the original gay rights activists who taught me it's okay to be this way. love u guys.

[radiofreederry]

Fuck off terf scum

[suedonym]

How is this person a “TERF” if all she mentioned was liking “people who have vulvas”?

[owls-garden-deactivated20231123]

“Fuck off lesbian scum” is a bit too on the nose

[seeuspacelesbian-deactivated202]

just a reminder of who this ugly fuck is

[druid-for-hire]

[image id: a four-page comic. it is titled “immortality” after the poem by clare harner (more popularly known as “do not stand at my grave and weep”). the first page shows paleontologists digging up fossils at a dig. it reads, “do not stand at my grave and weep. i am not there. i do not sleep.” page two features several prehistoric creatures living in the wild. not featured but notable, each have modern descendants: horses, cetaceans, horsetail plants, and crocodilians. it reads, “i am a thousand winds that blow. i am the diamond glints on snow. i am the sunlight on ripened grain. i am the gentle autumn rain.” the third page shows archaeopteryx in the treetops and the skies, then a modern museum-goer reading the placard on a fossil display. it reads, “when you awaken in the morning’s hush, i am the swift uplifting rush, of quiet birds in circled flight. i am the soft stars that shine at night. do not stand at my grave and cry.” the fourth page shows a chicken in a field. it reads, “i am not there. i did not die” / end id]

a comic i made in about 15 hours for my school’s comic anthology. the theme was “evolution”

[antiplondon]

[mikuspeaksthroughme]

The fact people will be like “well it is the oldest profession” like this wasn’t the reality and most of the women were literal slaves

[kaweebo]

Both can be true. 

[antiplondon]

Prostitution being ‘the oldest profession’ is a complete myth. A woman imbedded in an egalitarian hunter/gatherer society doesn’t need to swap sex for food, she has all the knowledge, tools, and resources she needs to feed herself.

For a woman to only be able to feed herself through transactional sex, requires a stratified society with food surplices, which would require agriculture first to create those surplices.

If a woman is swapping sex for any resource (food, clothes, coins), then the making of those resources came first, and as others have already pointed out, here and under other posts, midwifery came earlier than any other ‘profession’.

Saying ‘both can be true’ makes no sense anyway, if some of the first women in prostitution were slaves, then capturing and trading in slaves came first.

[exjade]

THANK YOU, I have always hated how it’s called “the oldest profession,” which carries this implication that the sexual slavery of women is somehow inevitable to the human race. And people say it with such nonchalance like “what can you do bitch? If there’s one thing that’s inherent to humans it’s that women are dehumanized, subjugated commodities!”  

[antiplondon]

It’s a myth created by Rudyard Kipling, an old, white, colonialist, dude!

The oldest profession in the world (or the world’s oldest profession) is a phrase that, unless another meaning is specified, refers to prostitution.  However, it did not start to acquire that meaning until 1889, after a Rudyard Kipling story, and it did not do so universally until after World War I. Formerly, various professions vied for the reputation of being the oldest.

The claim to be the oldest profession was made on behalf of farmers,[1]cattle drovers,[2]horticulturalists,[3] barbers,[4] engineers,[5]landscape gardeners,[6] the military,[7] doctors,[8]nurses,[9] teachers,[10]priests,[11]lay preachers[12]  and even lawyers.[13]

[pothead-paisan]

her mindddd

[badmiffy]

wait wait wait … she’s onto something here

[lavenderlad]

this tea

[seeuspacelesbian-deactivated202]

[stillnotgoodformymentalhealth]

Also, unlike the het AGP men who are the usual local trans rep in the locker room...

Dylan isn't a sexual threat. He isn't trying to spy on them or rape them. He's trying to be like the ideal feminine role, and he wants our acceptance for stooping so low. He's RATHER IRONICALLY, the "but they just want to pee!" Population that is often brought up when bathroom bills are argued.

That doesn't take away the awful misogyny he perpetuates by wearing "girlhood" like a costume. Nor does it alleviate the larger concern that this is woke conversion therapy of gay men and lesbians. It doesn't even bring up the very gross display of special person syndrome he is allowed to have. Of course he thinks womanhood is a hollow beautiful display, that's what it's been for him the whole time he's been a "girl".

[escuerzoresucitado]

[glamdyke]

a thirteen year old girl in oxfordshire is taking legal action against her school over the safety of having to use gender inclusive restrooms and i just have to say i am so proud of the younger generation!! there is hope for women ✊🏼

[exdivine]

“The teenager said this gives ‘no right to privacy from the opposite sex.’ The [Oxfordshire] council ‘utterly refutes’ concerns that children are being put at risk.“ (BBC)

It’s so admirable and brave of her to speak up for her rights despite blatant gaslighting from men in power.

[lesbian-mercury-deactivated2022]

I was bullied through all 5 years of secondary school. the toilets were where I used to go so I could lock myself into a cubicle and cry or text my mum. by my GCSE years I was even revising in the toilets.

if the boys who punched me and laughed at me and called me an ugly dyke non-stop had been allowed in these toilets, I might not have made it out of secondary school alive. seriously.

single sex spaces are sanctuaries for women and girls. this 13 year old has immense courage.

[swagfulcatcowboy-deactivated202]

As a depressed and anxious child, the toilets were literally the only place I felt safe at school. I used to wait an hour to leave because everyone would be gone then and I could leave in peace. I literally don't know how I would have got through school of I couldn't hide there

[there-are-4-lights]

this is from 2020, does anyone know how it went?

[drifted-thought]

Schoolgirl, 13, wins battle to scrap transgender 'toilets toolkit'

Oxfordshire County Council introduced the advice for transgender pupils last year, saying they should be able to use the toilets of their id

From a quick search, she apparently won the case