Hi Marisa, what should I do, my ex want all the bad things occur to me. How to undo all this bad intention and not be struck by it? I was very impressed and scared. Thank you.
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(If anyone would like to send me a message, my askbox is still open for that reason. I no longer post on this blog anymore, but I can and will respond to messages sent to this blog’s askbox.)
All right. I’m going to try to help with the best of my ability, but please be aware I am not an expert.
From what I’m reading, I’m not sure what you mean. Your question is vague, so I’m not sure what wrong. Looking at this phrase: “...my ex want all the bad things occur to me.” What do you mean? What has your ex done to you? Was it physical? Emotional? Mental? Is your ex harassing you? Do you know it is your ex that is causing ill intentions (what do you mean by “want?”)? Has the ex told you or acted out ill activities toward you?
I’m asking because this is a very complicated matter. If you have been affected by an influx of ill will by this person--and know it is from this person--the first thing you need to do is focus on you. It’s difficult, but when you focus on you and not your ex, that strong pull to your ex may wane, diminishing your ex’s influence on you. I say influence because of the sentence you wrote: “I was very impressed and scared.” I’m not sure what you mean when you say impressed, but if your ex’s behavior is impressive to you, you might want to distance yourself from them; you may be feeding into their need to cause you ill will unintentionally. Don’t give your ex’s toxicity an outlet. Again, distance yourself from this person.
Now this part of your question: “How to undo all this bad intention and not be struck by it?”
Don’t give into that influence because it is not yours to bear. You are out of the relationship. That is your ex, your past. What your ex does is no longer your concern, unless you have children in the relationship.*
*[This is where I am out of my element; if you do have children with your ex, I have a few links that may help: (link 1), (link 2), and (link 3). They are not the ultimate answers, but it’s a start. [Please note that the third link is about narcissism, so if you are dealing with this (and know your ex is a narcissist) take a look. Otherwise, look at the first two links.]. Disregard the information in the brackets if they do not apply to you.
Focusing on yourself becomes tricky if the ex is near you or is still living with you. If you are living with him, try to leave if you can. If you can’t, note that if you continue living in a toxic environment, you will be affected by it.**
**[If you use healing stones, try this website: (link A). It has an extensive list of stones you can use to help protect yourself. Please note, the stones don’t guarantee full protection of energies (everyone is different), and it isn’t the only solution available.] If you do not use healing stones, please disregard the information in the brackets.
This long answer is going off of the idea that your ex is toxic and has bad intentions toward you. If you don’t feel good around that person, leave or stay at a distance from them. It doesn’t matter if that person is good or bad; if you don’t feel good around them, you have every right to be kind to yourself and step back from their relations. Period. You can’t undo what has been happening to you, but you can grow and move on from it.
I hope this helps.
