whimsy is the revolution

tired queer witch

[moonbrainedtranny]

i knew that when i named myself what i did, people were going to take me a bit less seriously. mostly, that's fine. i am not a serious person. i do not do serious well.

nothing could have prepared me for how less seriously people take me after transitioning. sometimes i feel like i have to scream just to be heard, but any amount of standing up for myself and i'm being too aggressive.

[renixie]

y'know I dislike a lot about the current era but I gotta say I'm a big fan of some of the perks. like, we got estrogen n shit. that's pretty neat. and drugs.

[renixie]

give it up for estrogen and drugs 👍

[gettheorion]

[glowing-disciple]

[terraswallows]

Has anyone else started liking their friends less after transitioning?

I'm not sure if this is a common trans experience, but ever since I started transitioning, I've noticed that some people I used to genuinely enjoy being around have started to get on my nerves.

It's not because of my name or pronouns. Sure, people mess them up occasionally, but most of my friends correct themselves and apologize. It's not really about transphobia or anything like that.

It's more that I just don't seem to enjoy their company anymore.

For context, I've noticed this most with some of my old gaming friends lately (who are almost all men). It's difficult to explain exactly what's changed. Part of it might be that a lot of them have a very macho, "one of the boys" kind of attitude, but it feels deeper than that.

As a trans woman who's also pretty openly gay, I've started wondering whether, before transitioning, I spent a lot of time convincing myself that I fit into those spaces because I felt like I was supposed to. Back then I was trying so hard to perform masculinity and blend in with male friend groups that I never really stopped to ask whether I actually enjoyed those dynamics or if I was just trying to belong.

Now that I'm living as myself, some of those friendships feel... different. Conversations that used to seem normal feel exhausting. Certain jokes don't land the same way they used to. Sometimes I'll see a message pop up from a group chat and feel more obligated to join than excited to be there.

There are even days where I feel annoyed at the thought of hanging out, which makes me feel guilty because these are people I've known for years.

Part of me wonders if transition has simply made me more honest with myself. Maybe I'm no longer forcing myself to enjoy spaces and social dynamics that never really fit me in the first place. Maybe I've changed, maybe the friendships have changed, or maybe I'm finally seeing them through the eyes of the woman I've always been rather than the person I thought I had to be.

Has anyone else experienced something similar after transitioning? Did your social circle change? Did you find yourself drifting away from old friendships, especially male friend groups, or realizing that some relationships were built around a version of yourself that wasn't really you?

I'd love to hear other trans and queer people's experiences with this.

[moonbrainedtranny]

i changed. some people transition and they seem to feel mostly like they have been but happier, but i feel like a very different person. different likes, interests, goals, even my food preferences.

i think all of my relationships have changed as a result of my transition. i've lost touch with some friends as a result of it. none of them reacted poorly to my transition or anything, but we don't have the things in common that we used to have.

the cis men that were in my life no longer are. the me that they know is no longer the me that i am. that incongruity feels bad every time it's obvious.

but i've gotten closer to some people too! people that do know me well. i've discovered that being known is a beautiful gift.

[goth-queen]

[moonbrainedtranny]

is it dumb for me to want a digital camera in 2026 when we all walk around with at least two on the phone in our pocket? is this a silly desire of mine? $550 is so much money but it can do macro.

[secondlina]

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[mandate-transgenderism]

We'll always go back for the others

Always

[xiaokuer-schmetterling]

op i'm tearing up and it's not seasonal allergies

✨💝🤍🩵🩷🤍🖤🖤🤍🩵🩷🤍💝✨

[t4nku]

I legit needed to hear this

[demilypyro]

surround yourself with many trans women

[spindle-and-nima]

He had several hours of extreme fun with the paper bag

[mothcub]

The books await...

[by-any-other-name]

I love thrifting I love ebay I love second-third-fourth hand clothes I love garage sales I love diy-ing and crafting I love giving clothes new life I love outfit repeating I love visible mending I love wearing/repairing the same item til its threads I love patches I love customization I love local libraries I love physical media I love burning cds for my friends I love shopping small!!

[fatpunk]

where is transgender flag "I'M TOO FAT FOR THIS HEAT"

[fatpunk]

FOUND IT

[fatpunk]

it's that time of the year again folks

[weird-val-yankovic]

soon...

[mr-malumm]

It's May 25th but i did my big night watch drawing last year and just really really wanted an excuse to draw my beloved boy Otto chriek 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[berry-muffin]

it’s been too long since i did anything discworld

and a couple of smooches i didn’t want to lineart:

[moonbrainedtranny]

i am so angry at the number of times bad shit targets trans people and people react with worry that it might impact cis people too. no better way to tell me i don't matter.