Anything On My Mind

Call me Pavlov • They/Them • 25yrs All in the title. These days, my tastes are crazy eclectic. Also? Please keep in mind, I'm well over the age of consent in the merry ol' land of Oz, and adult content is interesting. So, I ask that you proceed with caution, or simply avoid this blog if you're 18 or under.

[catchymemes]

[steve-the-evets]

[pavlovs-titties]

#PAVLOV'S TITTIES

I'm-

...Oh my god, I now have the perfect idea.

[iguanamouth]

I really like winnie the pooh, Can you draw winnie the pooh pleaseeeeee

[thetyrannosaur]

Happy 10 year anniversary to this absolutely foundational post

[skiingcows]

#really cannot emphasize enough how much iguanamouth changed the site’s sense of humor and therefore the timeline of the western world

[artemissoftstepper]

need a bad sleep reset

this is a very delicate operation which involves not falling asleep until the late enough tomorrow that i can get a normal nights sleep

[voxelfoxkae]

[pavlovs-titties]

Can confirm!

If you're unemployed, you can attempt to "stay up late" until you're tired at a reasonable hour again.

Is this causing me a lot of discombobulation mentally? Yeah.

...but it's working!

[skeletonclaw]

[nelsonakis]

35 MILLION LESS VIEWERS

THE BOYCOTTS ARE WORKING

NEVER GIVE UP

[catgirlapologist]

isn't it insane though how schizophrenic people are viewed as violent and dangerous by the majority of society when in reality schizophrenic people are nearly 14 times more likely to be on the receiving end of violence than to be the perpetrators...

[catgirlapologist]

schizophrenic person: makes a post trying to raise awareness about the disproportionate abuse and harmful stereotypes schizophrenic people face

yall: "yeah im not gonna reblog this they used the word ins*ne which is so problematic ://"

[truth-spatter]

What the fuck happens that changes these stats to such a massive degree?

[catgirlapologist]

1) schizophrenia hardly ever causes people to be violent so schizophrenic people aren’t more likely to be violent than anyone else

2) schizophrenic people’s autonomy is often taken away from them because of their schizophrenia. because the authorities and mental healthcare providers often automatically assume schizophrenic people to be violent, they’re more likely to immediately react to schizophrenic people's symptoms with violence, without even knowing for sure said schizophrenic person was going to be violent. all of this causes schizophrenic people to be more likely of being victims of violence and abuse. schizophrenic people also have a harder time getting out of abusive households because of the risk of their autonomy being taken away. if a schizophrenic person’s relative or partner is abusive, often the schizophrenic person has no way out of the situation, both because our disconnect from reality can result in us being easier to manipulate, and because the system is built in a way that it takes away our autonomy because of our condition.

[catgirlapologist]

also schizophrenic people and psychotic people in general, please do a lot of research before picking a provider for your own sake, and if they try to treat your psychosis in a way that you think is harmful then don’t hesitate to switch providers. your safety and wellbeing should be a priority over everything else.

[catgirlapologist]

can y'all please reblog this version instead

[tu0fu]

🪽

[nebbeli]

captcha

[bigfatphallusy]

[kiskolee]

THIS.

[professorbutterscotch]

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

[purplespacecats]

I… fuck.

[casuallystudious-blog]

Yeah, basically.

[avoiding-catatonic-surrender-de]

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

[rosefire]

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

[baronessvondengler]

THE BOLDED

[gayteensupreme]

"queer-owned business" means nothing anymore. OpenAI and Palantir are both queer-owned businesses.

[gayteensupreme]

if this is how you find out that both sam altman and peter thiel are gay im sorry

[what-even-is-thiss]

Health classes really ought to teach people what the beginning stages of addiction are like because a lot of people don’t realize they’re addicted to something until they’re years deep into it.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Signs you might be getting addicted to something:

If you go without it you feel unwell in a way that you never usually feel unwell. Sweating, tired, sleepy, headaches, irritable, depressed, etc. For example when I was in opium withdrawal I got incredibly depressed in a way that I’ve never been before or since. When you quit caffeine you might get super bad headaches even if you never usually get any headaches.

Thoughts of it regularly bother you and the thoughts go away once you’ve taken it but only temporarily. Unlike with a food craving which usually stays away once you’ve satisfied it or distracted yourself from it.

You find yourself rationalizing with yourself why you should break your own rules about how much you can take and how often. For example you might only let yourself drink alcohol every four days but start thinking that three days is actually close enough to four days, right? Especially if this happens regularly.

You’re using it so often that you feel the need to lie about how much you use because other people might think it’s concerning

If the substance or activity is nearby it’s genuinely difficult to not consume it or participate in it in a way that’s really frustrating.

You feel bad when you’re not on it and your brain tells you “if you just take the thing you wouldn’t feel this way”

You can only feel “whole” or “normal” when you’re on a substance even though it’s a recreational drug

And if you read this and think you might be addicted to something, don’t panic and don’t feel ashamed. Realizing you’re addicted to something isn’t a failure. It’s more information about your health that you can use to manage your condition, whether you want to get rid of your addiction or not.

[daeranilen]

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

[daeranilen]

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

[daeranilen]

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

[autumngracy]

“200 notes”

[SpongeBob Narrator voice] Ten Years Later

[chibisketches]

Long story time:

My mom has never really grasped boundaries, and she’s always been shit at setting or respecting them. When I was a teenager (and even as an adult) she went through my things without my knowledge or permission more than once, and regularly shared personal or sensitive information with people that she shouldn’t - and caused me no end of trouble and embarrassment in the process.

When I try to talk to her, she’ll hear a sentence or two and then be off and running with a response without paying attention to anything that came after. She routinely assumes she knows what I want/need and just speaks for me - even when she talks over me to do it.

The thing is, none of this is done with malice. Harmful as it is, all of this *is* done out of love and with the best of intentions. (Though it IS harmful, make no mistake.) She always thinks she’s helping me. She thinks she’s protecting me, or doing what’s in my best interest. She just doesn’t stop to consider that I might have my own thoughts or feelings on the matter. (We’re… still working on that.)

I don’t tell my mother anything private or personal anymore and probably never will again. I don’t involve her in my life beyond surface level for the most part, because regardless of intentions, I can’t trust her not to try and take over, blab private information to random people, or just strong-arm me to agree with her. It’s easier just not to engage with her on anything sensitive, so I don’t. My mom desperately wants us to be close and doesn’t understand why we aren’t. (Yes, I’ve tried to explain it to her. No, she didn’t really listen and no, she still really doesn’t get it.)

I say all that to give context to this:

When I was 13 I was HORRIFICALLY depressed (hello hormones going bonkers + neurodivergent and didn’t know it). I went to a very dark, very bleak place and didn’t know what to do.

Eventually I realized things had gotten **bad** and I was scared, so I finally worked up my courage and told my mom that something was really wrong and that I thought I needed to talk to a therapist. She was quiet for a minute then said all teenagers get like that and therapists are expensive. Maybe if it got worse we could talk about this again later, though. But only if it was, like, REALLY urgent. (Strongly implying that it wasn’t yet urgent.)

I was crushed. It had taken everything I had to say something and I had been shut down. I didn’t talk to her about it again. Why would I expect her to listen now, if she hadn’t believed me before? In the meantime, things escalated while I privately struggled to stay afloat. I started vividly contemplating suicide. I started thinking about how I’d do it and asking myself what I was waiting for. I still didn’t talk to my mom.

By talking exhaustively to sympathetic friends and sheer unmitigated stubbornness that I was not going to let my brain neg me to death, I eventually got through the worst of it and started moving back from the edge again. Things slowly got better, until my depression was eventually more a nuisance than a tangible threat to my survival.

The first time I told my mom about all this, around 20 years later, she cried. She had had no idea how bad it got or how close I’d been to doing something dire. Mostly because she wasn’t listening when I tried to tell her, and I never felt like I could talk to her about things and actually be heard.

This woman tries to involve herself in every aspect of my life to this day. I lived in her house and saw her every day while I was barely keeping my metaphorical head above water, and she had no idea. Now imagine what your kids aren’t telling you, because you haven’t made them feel safe to come to you. Then, do better. Their lives might depend on it.

[pavlovs-titties]

This isn't as dire as some of the anecdotes above, but I remember hitting a point in puberty where I just really hated my dad. He was raising me alone and wasn't emotionally or mentally equipped to be raising a teenager girl.

And somewhere? I had heard that writing a letter and never sending it makes people feel better. So I wrote an email draft of terrible things that I didn't mean. That I never planned to send.

And he found it, going through my emails, with the help of my mother who was visiting.

When I came into the room to see what the commotion was about, my mother looked at me horrified because she understood technology enough to know I wrote it. I remember screaming "why are you looking through my stuff?!" and my dad screaming back "someone is sending you emails about me!"

But I wasn't mature nor developed enough to deal with the violation of my trust and the terror of being so thoroughly exposed and knowing I had no allies in the moment... so I knowingly and calculatedly burst into tears. Spouted half hearted lies that I don't recall despite the rest of the memory being so vivid. And we've never spoken about it since.

I don't remember the last time I told my dad something truly dire after that. And I already didn't have that relationship with my mother. All that day taught me was that I couldn't trust either of them and that tears can scare away hard conversations.

Have I learned better now? Certainly, I'm almost fourteen years older. But I now live with mt father again, and we barely speak to each other because I just do not trust him the way I wish I did. And that violation of my trust and privacy is a big part of why.

Kids grapple with a lot of thoughts and feelings that they deserve to experience in private if they so wish it.

Going through their social media messages is like going through their diary. Or listening in on their phone calls.

And if you think either of those things is okay, please re-evaluate before your children can grow up to see you as a person they cannot trust and remove you from their lives.

[dracofidus-deactivated20200523]

Hey, dumb American question here. Every UK person I have ever met hates Margaret Thatcher. Why? What terrible thing did she do to piss off that many people for so long?

Where do I fucking start?

So, Thatcher was the bane of the working classes, and much of what she did still has repercussions to this day. So, in no particular order, just in the order I remember them, here are some things she did that pissed us off - 

•In 1989 she introduced this thing called the “Community Charge” but which everyone calls the “Poll Tax” which replaced an older system in which your tax payment was based on the rental value of your home. This new tax meant that people living in one bedroom flats would pay the same as a billionaire living in a mansion. Obviously, the rich loved it, everyone else… not so much. So there were riots (video of news about the riots) - There were lots of riots in the Thatcher years, and they were all notable for the extreme levels of police brutality.

(photo, poll tax protest in Trafalgar Square, 1990)

•Then there was her war on industry. There was a lot of inflation when she came to power, so she instituted anti-inflationary measures. All well and good… except not the way she did it. She closed many government controlled industries, most famously steel and coal. The amount spent on public industries dropped by 38% under Thatcher. The coal miners went on strike, for almost a year, but in the end, the pits were still closed, and 64,000 people lost their jobs. Unemployment rates soared in industrial areas, and inequality between these (generally northern or welsh) areas and the rest of the UK is still there. During the strike there were numerous violent clashes with the police at picket lines which were widely televised. As a memoir from one miner attests: “I saw a police officer with a fire extinguisher in his hand, bashing a lad in the back. I tried to get closer to note down the officer’s number but they were wearing black boilersuits with no numbers. The next thing I knew, a police officer struck me from behind. I was coming in and out of consciousness as I was dragged across the road into an alleyway. They blocked off the alley and beat another lad and me with sticks until I was unconscious.” (I can’t post the whole thing it’s too long, but read it in the Guardian) Images such as this swept the country, turning many people against Thatcher -

And after it was all over people felt Thatcher had lied, saying she wanted to close only 20 pits, when in the end, 75 were closed down.

• Inequality soared whilst she was prime minister. There is a thing called the gini coefficient, it is the most common method of measuring inequality. Under gini, a score of one would be a completely unequal society; zero would be completely equal. Britain’s gini score went up from 0.253 to 0.339 by the time Thatcher resigned.

•During her time as prime minister the notorious ‘Section 28′ was published. It stated: A local authority shall not (a) intentionally promote homosexuality or publish material with the intention of promoting homosexuality; (b) promote the teaching in any maintained school of the acceptability of homosexuality as a pretended family relationship. - Section 28 wasn’t repealed until 2003.

• She introduced the Right To Buy scheme, which allowed people to buy their council houses for a very low price, which, at first glance, seems like a great idea, allowing people who normally wouldn’t be able to afford their own home to have one - however, loads of people have entered the scheme and now we have far too little social housing, meaning there has been a sharp rise in homelessness.

• The Battle of the Beanfield was a clash between hippies and police near Stonehenge in 1985. 1300 police officers converged on a convoy of 600 new age travellers who were heading to Stonehenge to set up a free festival in violation of a high court order. Again, there was an insane amount of police brutality, and 16 travellers were hospitalised, 573 people were arrested (one of the biggest mass arrests in UK history) - “Pregnant women were clubbed with truncheons, as were those holding babies. The journalist Nick Davies, then working for The Observer, saw the violence. ‘They were like flies around rotten meat,’ he wrote, ‘and there was no question of trying to make a lawful arrest. They crawled all over, truncheons flailing, hitting anybody they could reach. It was extremely violent and very sickening.’” (source) - Once everyone was arrested, the empty vehicles, which were in many cases the only homes the travellers had “were then systematically smashed to pieces and several were set on fire. Seven healthy dogs belonging to the Travellers were put down by officers from the RSPCA.” (source same as above)

Most of the charges were dismissed in court after Lord Cardigan, who had tagged along with them to see what would happen, testified on behalf of the travellers against the police. 

•Her removal of Irish dissidents right to be placed in a category that essentially made them political prisoners instead of merely criminals led to a hunger strike that ended in 10 deaths, including that of Bobby Sands, who was elected from his prison cell, reflecting the immense national, and international support for Irish nationalists. Thatchers lack of sympathy, or even empathy led to her becoming even more of a hate figure.

• She presided over a rapid deregulation of the banks, which ultimately led to much of the problems during britains 2007-2012 financial crash many years later.

• She took free milk from school children, which, though not as serious as anything else listed here, directly affected every child in the UK and was very unpopular, leading her to get the nickname “Maggie Thatcher, Milk Snatcher”, which is still used today.

• Oh… and she supported Apartheid and called Mandela a terrorist.

This is nowhere near everything she’s done that pisses people off, but I hope it goes some way to explaining why when she died “ding dong the witch is dead” became number one in the UK charts, people partied in the streets, and people protested her (State funded) funeral. She is a decisive figure, some people in the UK do actually love her. I do not. She decimated the UK’s industrial heartland, she caused mass unemployment and the destruction of much of working class culture, she was cavalier in her financial policies and increased inequality by staggering levels, she approved serious police brutality and attempted to destroy the culture of unions in this country.  I fundamentally disagree with all she stood for and it angers me that her mistakes are still affecting this country and the people who live in it. And I am VERY angry that the current government are spending £50 million on a museum about her.

[imbackbaybee]

Regarding selling off social housing, it was specifically that the income that local authorities generated from doing so was not allowed to be reinvested in acquiring new social housing. And no extra budget was allocated to cover building new social housing. The aim was clearly to create a social housing shortage as a twisted way of “motivating” people to stop being poor.

[twenty-three-stars-deactivated2]

Great post. I hate seeing US feminists praising Thatcher, and I’ve seen it a lot.

[jo-ranger]

Let’s not forget how she made repeated attempts to get Britain’s most prolific sex offender Jimmy Savile a knighthood, gave him free rein to do whatever the hell he liked at Stoke Mandeville hospital (including running it into the ground, making himself indispensable there, and oh yeah, abusing scores of patients), as well has having a close friendship with him. This is all in spite of the fact that rumours about him were going around even back then, and on a related note, she actually knew of the abuse accusations against many of her ministers and let them go free despite this.

A feminist? Pah! She actually said, “The feminists hate me, don’t they? And I don’t blame them. For I hate feminism. It is poison.” (and if for some reason you don’t trust that article, just google that quote). She also said that “the battle for women’s rights has largely been won. I owe nothing to women’s lib”, and whilst being PM for 11 years, she only ever appointed one woman, Baroness Young. As this article says, she basically “refused to accept that the majority of women do not have the privilege she had, in other words a rich partner, and lots of childcare provision.” In terms of feminism, she hated any woman who wasn’t financially well off, able-bodied, cishet, white, neurotypical (as you can see in this article), and basically, like her. Great feminism.

She also played a huge part in making Rupert Murdoch the hugely powerful man he is today (and consequently, making the British press so unreliable, ridiculous, and downright dangerous), and it seems she also used this connection to help giver herself more “sunshine headlines” (read: favourable).

I could go on but I feel like I’ve been at this for a while. OP has done a great job in summarising most of the main reasons she’s so hated. I’ve added a number of other important ones here too, but to be honest, just look at any reasonably credible article about her. If it seems positive, then google the topics at hand, and I guarantee there will be the flip side, often explained with a more socially conscious approach.

If you want proof of the bigoted, unrepresentative establishment’s continuing hold on Britain and our politics, just take a look at Thatcher, and take a look at those who praise her to the skies.

[bitchmael]

This is a great post, all I really want to add is that Section 28 (which was a hateful enough piece of legislation anyway) was introduced during the AIDS crisis, & homophobia was very much on the rise at the time.

It’s also worth looking up the controversy surrounding the sinking of the General Belgrano, which killed 323 people. during the Falklands War (Thatcher’s response on hearing of it was “Just rejoice at that news”)

[assassinregrets]

she supported pinochet both politically and personally and i hope she burns for 10,000 screaming years of agony

[ancientson]

[heaven011]

[skipppppy]

So can non-disabled people stop doing that thing where they act like it’s morally righteous to force yourself to work while you’re sick and assume taking sick days automatically equates to laziness. Any time now. That’d be great

[skipppppy]

The leader of the scout group I help out at approached me out of hours while I was walking to work to tell me that people have been talking behind my back because I missed more sessions than I attended this term (on account of having Covid twice) and was like “We all show up when we’re sick because we take responsibility” and I felt really shitty and guilty and cried the whole workday then I got home and told my mum and she was like “So they want you to throw up on the kids? That’s dodgy. They don’t even pay you. Stop going” and a wave of serenity hit me like a bus

[pavlovs-titties]

If you show up sick to a public space when it isn't legitimately and irrefutably unavoidable? (Examples of unavoidably being in a public space include; you have to take public transport to the doctors, you live alone and can't afford grocery delivery.)

I am sending you home unable to leave it. (This is a joke, but, seriously, STAY HOME.)

[ryebreadgf]

girl where do u watch movies

um. online

[flapperwitch]

At one point in film school my professor tried to legally rent a movie to show us and even though she had paid money, it wasn't working. So she went "I'm going to turn around and one of you will find the movie somehow".

[pavlovs-titties]

Awww, takes me back to high school.

There was a movie adaptation for a book we were exploring in my senior years of high school, but the only available version we could acquire legally was an English dub.

Our teacher, with no room for error, blatantly told us to pirate the original dub and watch it subbed.

[radiqueer]

Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

[aromanticduck]

Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the £5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly £5, I refuse to make an effort for you if there’s nothing in it for me

Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and I’m going to do the same for you, it doesn’t matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care