Things that a writer shouldn't have to tell you
I'm deeply sad and concerned over the constant online harassing and bullying that many wonderful writers on this platform have recently experienced. And I'm really worried about how they're feeling after being exposed to so much unncessary and unwarranted hatred. This is what motivates me to unapologetically make this post.
We're all imperfect human beings and as such we all make mistakes. This too applies to story telling. But NOTHING will ever grant readers the right to be abusive in their speech against a writer.
Let's dig in then and see a few different scenarios about this.
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If you don't like something, then just keep scrolling. It makes absolutely NO SENSE that you read the title or summary of something, that you immediately recognize will make you feel offended or uncomfortable, and for you to STILL going ahead and read it just to later on attack the writer over your own lack of common sense.
If the warnings of a writing upset you, DO NOT PROCEED! It's extremely easy to keep scrolling and/or to block tags and blogs that contain information that you find triggering to you. Once again, DO NOT COME BULLYING A WRITER because you willingly chose to step over your own boundaries and kept on reading.
If you didn't like something you read, then move on! There's no need to fill the writer's inbox with unwarranted negativity over your broken expectations. Feedback is not the same as trashing. Is not the same to say "I hated what you wrote, how could you! (Insert insult here)" as if you said "Oh, No! It was such an unexpected ending!" Or just don't say anything at all. No insults nor passive aggresive comments necessary.
If there is a missing warning that should be considered, then be polite about it! Like I said, we are imperfect, maybe we wrote it late at night, maybe we didn't use a BETA to check over it or maybe we just forgot about it. If you noticed something needs to be added you are more than welcome to properly address the issue. Many have their DMs and inbox open to approach them. But please do not make wrong assumptions and be aggressive about it!! No need to say "(Insert insults and every known expletive know to humanity here)" than saying "Hey! I noticed that you didnt add this X warning on your fic and it made me upset. Could you please make sure to add so others know beforehand? Thank you!" We don't charge for politeness.
If you're confused over the use of a specific term in a fic, please kindly ask about it! We all live in different places around the world and definitions might vary accordingly even if it's the same language. How so? I'll use my own experience as an example. I used the expression "porcelain skin" in one of my reader insert fics, yet I received strong comments that it was a slur and not inclusive enough because apparently it's used to describe "white skin". However, where I live it's an expression commonly used to describe "smooth and soft skin regardless of color". Do you where I'm going with this? Needless to say nor only did I have a nice civilized conversation with the one who approached me about this (despite their original comment, and they even apologized to me for it) but I also proceeded to remove said expression from my fic as to avoid any further confusions about it. To ask a question or to make a simple observation is completely free
If you don't particularly enjoy a writers works and/or blog in general then don't follow them. We won't feel bad or offended if at any given time you stopped enjoying what we share in our blogs, if you think that unfollowing us is the best for you then you can freely do so. BUT why coming into the writers DMs/Inbox with nasty remarks against them? I fail to see the logic in that.
Please DO NOT PRESSURE FOR UPDATES! We all have lives outside this platform, we write for fun and we're not getting paid for it. Although we really appreciate the love and the support, there are better ways to let us know that you still think of that one story we wrote a long time ago. I've received some really sweet requests about it including remarks about their favorite parts of the story. It’s those really encouraging comments what motivates us to get pass writers block to get back to those fics.
Some behaviors are indeed wrong and must be addressed. But again, to go as far as to tell someone to kill themselves over it will never be the answer or solution to it. We all deserve the benefit of the doubt and the opportunity to rectify our mistakes. Wishing someone to die is reproachable, as you don't know the state of that person's mental health.
DO NOT PIN US against each other. It's perfectly fine if you have a favorite blogger/writer but please do not go around comparing us with each other or even worse, to fill our inbox with unncessary remarks about it. This too applies if you by any reason have an issue with someone else, it's really disrespectful and uncomfortable to be requested to "have an issue" with them just because you do.
Plagiarism is not nice. We are flattered that you're inspired by our work but it doesn't feel nice to see you being praised over OUR words. It's note worthy, though, that is not the same if we used the same "trope", "kink" and/or "phrase" (language is a universal thing) into our works as taking word by word out of someone else's work and just to stamp your name under it. If you’re ever in doubt about any similarities with other writers work you can always talk about it too, there’s nothing better than a tight knit community where we can all support each other.
Please give credit where is due! Once again, we're really happy that you enjoy our works but if you're gonna use them in your own (an edit into a moodboard, a divider into your fic...) Then please give the due credit to the creators. Any kind of artwork requires time and effort.
I could probably turn this post into a detailed essay but I think that those above-mentioned points cover the main issues thar I felt the need to adress right now. Last but not least, I think that I could summarize this by using the words of Dra. Ana Maria Polo ("Caso Cerrado", Telemundo)
“Be courteous, be careful, educate yourself as much as you can, respect so that you are respected and may God protect us” //