A Profoundly Pained Life

a collection of my life, stories, and the things that mean something to me. witchcraft, paganism, and other ways to survive madness.

[profoundlypained]

And just as Achilles was killed because he gave up, as will I be. It won't be as dramatic, and I won't be remembered, but I never asked to be, and I never believed in the glory of war.

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a woman could literally be wearing a shirt that says “have sex with me right now, I’m not even joking, I want to fuck you” and she would still have the right to decline sex to any guy that approached her

[vvvvvvvvvvvvv1-deactivated20260]

a woman could literally have just finished having sex with all other 8 billion people on earth, and she would still have the right to say no to the last remaining man!!!

[cute-rotten-girl]

its insane to be that really fucking basic shit like "women should be able to choose what they wanna do because theyre humans" is a hot take you have to explain to people slowly so they dont lose their minds

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

A woman could intentionally, maliciously tease a man, lead him on, pretend she really wants to have sex with him, and then say no at the last minute, and not tactfully, and he would still be a thousand times worse than she is as a person if he raped her.

The strawman "cocktease" of a woman men make up in their heads is at worst a jerk. Rape is a disproportionate and monstrous response, even if she was what men say, and the vast majority of the time she isn't.

[profoundlypained]

Somewhere out there

Is a place called Home

Amongst the stars

Where the unknown roams

Wild and free

As untamed as me

Where hearts don't break

And folks don't leave

Where there's no hurt

And love is free

[profoundlypained]

They all told me I'd understand you when I was grown,

when I had kids of my own

But i understand you less than I ever have

And I'll never forgive you for what I now know

Because now I can see everything I could've been

When I look in my daughter's eyes

I see everything I could've been

If you could have just wanted

Or could have just loved me

I'm a mom now,

have been for a while

And I'm so different from you;

I love when she smiles

"How could you, mom?"

Is all I can think

As I brush her hair

And tell her what she means to me

[polyamzeal]

[faunora-deactivated20241113]

Things that are not self care:

1) doing your makeup

2) shaving

3) plucking your eyebrows

4) over the top and expensive skin care routines

5) any activity that is actually just Beauty Maintenance expected of you

Things that are self care:

1) meditation and practicing mindfulness

2) clipping and buffing your nails

3) keeping up with regular hygiene

4) trying new kinds of tea

5) any activity centered around making you feel whole and healthy

[profoundlypained]

There once was a girl,

Young and full of life.

Just passing through,

Spreading her light

Until one day she set out, All alone,

In search of love;

In search of somewhere to call home

She traveled the world,

Left no stone unturned.

High and low, she'd looked,

Every cranny and every nook

See, the girl didn't know

How love really looked

Just as alone in her family home

As in the big ol world, all on her own

For a while she believed

That love and belonging

Were things she could find;

They'd end her longing

But ten years came and went

And the poor girl was still empty handed

But now she was older,

Bones tired with time,

So she laid down to rest,

Her heart lost to time

Keep this reminder,

dear girls full of youth,

Guard your heart,

Lest her fate befall you

[femmerinoa]

"Kept reaching her hand back and trying to touch me and pleading”

“I'll be honest, her being so feminine just turns me on more.”

He gets off of her being raped.

He focused on himself nutting instead of his ‘wife’ PLEADING FOR HIM TO STOP.

Not only that he posted this on reddit for get some fucking karma and hoping to be coddled.

This is rape culture at its finest.

[paleo-violet]

And, if I'm reading this correctly, he saw her pleading for him to stop and thought it was cutely feminine...

[womens-suffrage-revival-squad]

I think we should mail a bear to his house so it can maul him to death.

He's not even remotely sorry - he's *bragging*. Its why he made the post in the first place, he knows he brutalized and raped his wife and he wanted other men to know it too. He's showing off his misogyny and violence like a trophy kill. Absolutely disgusting.

[profoundlypained]

I'm made of nothing but wounds sewn into the shape of a woman

[nansheonearth]

Let’s talk about police violence against women.

[natotack]

greatly under-discussed… violence against the women they harass, violence against the women in their custody, violence against their partners and female family members… the “non-violent” ones that look the other way for the overtly-violent ones… the same ones that intimidate the partners/victims of the overtly-violent ones to keep them from pursuing justice… I think these sort of behaviors are likely more prevalent than we can even imagine…

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police clearly dismisses womans calls for help against violent men until they end up dead and it all “oh how could we know”

[dancing-with-dichotomies]

A lil off-topic but also kinda related, the fact that jails/prisons don’t keep enough pads is such a ridiculous ‘oversight’ as to be considered, in my strong opinion, a form of intentional torture/violence, bc I must assume the lack of hygiene causes problems for those women unlucky enough to find themselves without (tho thankfully their fellow women are also often the types to totally help each other out with stuff like that when bastard men/police won’t…)

If rich assholes get to have hotel-prisons then carrying more than enough pads in every jail in our country should be shamefully simple, and it is.

[truth-telling]

The Village Where Every Cop Has Been Convicted of Domestic Violence by Kyle Hopkins

Nowhere To Turn: Women say domestic abuse by police officers goes unpunished by Alexandra Heal

Police Have a Much Bigger Domestic-Abuse Problem Than the NFL Does by  Conor Friedersdorf

And more topically, Black women are the victims of police violence, too by Mary-Elizabeth Murphy

Breonna Taylor, say her name by Hannah Drake

A short history of black women and police violence by Keisha Blain

Criticism of the police is not complete without looking at how they specifically target women for violence and abuse.

[radgritty]

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website

[hesbythecampfire]

StopNCII.org is operated by the Revenge Porn Helpline which is part of SWGfL, a charity that believes that everyone should benefit from technology, free from harm. Founded in 2000, SWGfL works with a number of partners and stakeholders around the world to protect everyone online

Sounds legit

[mithliya]

[bassalien4444]

i wish i wasn’t so disposable

[rwsiko-tauraki]

Sometimes it gets so dark you can't brush your teeth, yo can't take a shower, you can't even get out of bed. You hold your breath and hope it all ends but it feels like there's no end to the darkness you somehow got yourself into. You try to crawl out of it, but the road seems endless and you can't see the light, all you see is darkness. It's so intense you feel powerless and insecure, the only place you feel safe is your room, the comfort of your bed. The thought of going out terrifies you. Then, all of a sudden mania hits and the high feeling excites you, it doesn't last and you feel sad because you know it's only gonna get worse and worse from this point. You want to end it all to feel the relief running through your veins. But you're scared, so scared it will hurt. Your thoughts are blurry, they fog your mind.

[profoundlypained]

Dear God

[missouriangothic]

A lot of Social Justice ideas aren't even that bad lol, they've just been adopted by people who don't understand anything. Take cultural appropriation, for example. People were very very reasonably like "it's kind of uncomfortable and weird when people use important cultural/religious symbols of cultures/religions they don't belong to for fashion or other frivolous things" and somehow tons of people just heard "white people buying pocky at the Vietnamese grocery is an act of violent racism."

[violetxpetals]

Tried to fit this in the tags but it wasn’t happening.

Thank you for putting this into words because I haven’t been able to figure out how to say “no, cultural appropriation is not fake, but also idk what happened in the last few years but it seems like woke white people completely took over the conversation”

When I used to plan luxury events, I worked a ton of Indian weddings, Pakistani weddings, and in general a bunch of Muslim/Islamic/Hindu weddings of varying levels of faith. That meant wearing hair coverings, sometimes all day, sometimes just for the ceremonies (if you’re under the Mandap or at the Mehndi or Heena ceremony, you wear a hair covering. If it’s during or after the Baraat, you wear a hair covering, but again, sometimes you just wear it all day depending on the family. A lot of families provide hair coverings of their color choice to anyone who is working the wedding, or any wedding guests who wouldn’t own one). You know who was giving me dirty looks on the days I wore my covering? Woke white people.

Two of my all time favorite brides were both Indian brides that I was lucky enough to work with for all three days of their weddings. We bonded a lot and, idk sometimes it’s just ‘I’m working for you’ and sometimes it’s ‘we are going to be best friends by the time your wedding is over’. These brides were the latter. The first bride chose a Bindi for me on her third day because she said it matched my eyes. The second bride had her hair stylist undo my bun and braid some of her jasmine into my hair, and then also chose a Bindi for me. I was so touched that she wanted me to wear these things that were specifically chosen for her wedding even though I wasn’t family. Her whole family was so sweet/excited about it, and again, guess who was giving me weird looks all day? Guess who approached me to talk about cultural appropriation as if I hadn’t been in this industry for years? Two woke white people. Like, I’m not putting on a bindi and fake ‘sexy saree’ as a Halloween costume. I was given a really sweet gift by two women on one of the most special days of their lives.

Something me and my girlfriend say all the time: American ‘leftists’ are running in circles so tight they’re biting their own tails off and ending up right back where they started.

Get so into trans ideology that we end up right back with hardcore traditionalist gender norms.

Get so into the concept of cultural appropriation that we end up right back to people giving dirty looks for any culture-sharing

Get so into the concept of womens sexual and body liberation that we end up back to women being purchasable sex objects, and makeup and non-functional clothing being a good and empowering thing

Get so into the concept of "Karens" that it no longer means "a boomer white woman throwing a very generation-specific tantrum and abusing her privilege", and is now just another word for "bitch" and a way to tell any woman with any opinion you don't agree with to shut up.

Wild.

[sapphsorrows]

I gotta be real. It sucks so much how telling someone not to get their genitals cut up by opportunistic doctors is considered bigotry. telling someone not to get a double mastectomy typically only done for cancer patients is bigotry. telling someone not to take hormones, which will increase their likelihood of getting cancer and osteoporosis and a myriad of other health problems just for cosmetic changes is bigotry.

This is not normal.

[bexorcist14]

People wanna live their lives how they want without your input????? Astonishing!

[sapphsorrows]

This is why I compare the trans identity to an addiction. As soon as you all get called out on your bs and how you're actively harming not only your body but everyone around you, you flip out. Watch an addict sitting through an intervention and you will likely get the same reaction. "Why do you care what I do with my body? I'm not hurting you by shooting heroin!"

This is a public health issue. You are not just "living your life." You are hurting people. You are hurting yourself. You are hurting your family. You are hurting women and girls.