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[chungledown-bimothy]

i genuinely don't think there's much, if anything, hotter than someone clearly having a blast doing something they're really good at. doesn't really matter what it is. the combo of competence and joy is absolutely lethal to me

[creekfiend]

many women are excited to get old and weird, but i have great news that it's fully possible to become weird now, before you get old. just imagine the heights of weirdness you will be able to reach in fifty years if you get started now. that's what I think

[nightshadewine]

*looks at books* too tired for you *looks at films* too tired for you *looks at art supplies* too tired for you *eyes fall on tumblr* oho ho

[danceundersparklinglights]

i’m going to be really honest with you guys i think the tendency to read the absolute worst possible intentions into every action you don’t agree with is getting too automatic and it’s eating you from the inside out

[quantifiableme]

something pretty obvious, but that i just realized about pride and prejudice is that Darcy i feel like pretty much starts falling for Lizzie as soon as she, like, calls him out on his shit

and not in the "reading a book at a one direction concert" way, but in a 'someone i trusted, and my family trusted, more than any one in the world just tried to kidnap my sister and use her for my wealth and now i feel very insecure about people's true intentions toward me because of my massive amounts of wealth'

and then Lizzie like the whole book is looking at him "I don't give a shit that you have money, I still think you're a prick", and like yeah that isn't the greatest feeling but at least he knows its *honest*

so while Darcy is going through this -- probably rather traumatic betrayal -- in which he doesn't truly know who is being honest with him or who is using him for status, he is able to ground himself in the fact that "If anything is true, its that this one broke bitch hates me :)"

[quantifiableme]

omg @heavilycaffeinatedsblog ‘s fic is so friggin good you have to read it

Every morning i wake up and refresh that screen until it posts 😂

Such an amazing way to spend a summer, i feel so blessed!

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

[ozempicofficial]

[doggirl-girlcock]

My cringe fucking baby and her derivative drivel

[sivsii]

also we fucked up as a society the moment we started telling teens and aspiring artists to conflate being an artist with building a brand as if the two things are inextricable. the name of the game if you want to share your art is to work a job and sell yourself as aesthetizied content. back in my day we could just POST SHIT. to deviantart! what the fuck!

[sivsii]

pro-tip if ur a teen or aspiring artist: stay the fuck away from tiktok. tiktok is not the place for your art. your art is not content to be sold. don’t listen to art youtubers advice if they dilute being an artist to stats and algorithms. trying to make a business or career out of art is actually something that takes a lot of experience and consideration to go into it is Not an inherent facet to getting started/expressing yourself as an artist. conflating art = selling something/working a job is the fastest fucking way to ruin it for yourself i am so serious. find communities that share your artistic interests make friends and share your art there. be indulgent and creative and experimental. you deserve a period in your artistic journey that is purely selfish and fostering of your growth. don’t let capitalism take that from you yet

[troublepunk-ldn]

me as a teenager: man it sucks to have no privacy or autonomy but i guess its for a good reason. when i turn 18 i will realise how young i was and understand why they did all that.

me as an adult: teenagers are an oppressed class, their abuse is normalised and systemic and they need to start killing people

[swagophile]

important reminder that most people you follow online are significantly lamer than you think they are including me. and if you feel insecure comparing yourself to someone online: DON'T. theyre probably also lame and weird. most people on the internet are

[most-sane-classicist]

reblog if you're also lame and weird.

[quantifiableme]

theory

female gaze, in the most general terms, is about vulnerability (and in that sense) connection

male gaze is about domination and control

[quantifiableme]

female gaze: pathetic men on the worst day of their life. grizzly rough bad boy who is only nice to you. being pushed to a blind rage/murder at the sight of the person they love being hurt. cardigans/comfort. someone just having a genuine and passionate interest in something that they only feel comfortable telling their loved one about.

male gaze: sculpted muscles, like that of a gladiator. damsels who are small and dainty and need you to save them. dying in battle. injuring yourself for the sport you love. sacrificing someone you love for the greater good. (desire =/= sexual)

does this mean men don't want connection at all? NO.

does this mean the connection always has to be romantic? NOOO!

i'm saying patriarchy doesn't want you to have emotional connection. i would argue the female gaze is just sexuality/aesthetics built without the patriarchy in mind, which in a way means its just pure, natural sexual/aesthetic attraction or desire.

taking gender out of it, there are women who have a view of desire built around patriarchy in the sense that they don't want connection, but the perception of strength and control. Think tradwives. they don't want to be emotionally vulnerable with their husbands, nor vice versa, they want the perception of an ideal life where a man takes care of them. That's still patriarchy, baby.

In the other sense, there are absolutely people who find sexual intimacy in power and control. (BDSM community, duh.) But in any healthy example of these things, the goal of the sexual connection is still about connection. Connection through trust, connection through safety from shame or judgement, connection through just like hooking up with your friend because *sex* isn't that big of a deal to either or you, but learning about your friend in any/all possible experiences *is*.

[quantifiableme]

theory

female gaze, in the most general terms, is about vulnerability (and in that sense) connection

male gaze is about domination and control

[meancatboy]

Penetration is a gender-neutral act. Topping is gender-neutral. Bottoming is gender-neutral. You are not more or less of a man or a woman depending on how you fuck. You are not “fake trans” for having sex a certain way. You are not any less masculine for bottoming or any less feminine for topping.

[playfully--sadistic]

Additionally, acting like being penetrated is an act of submission is deeply rooted in misogynistic, cisheteronormative ideas of sexual intercourse, as in "penetration is something that is done to women for the sexual gratification of the man, nothing more, therefore it is inherently degrading and feminine".

A cishet man getting pegged by his cishet girlfriend is not gay, he's not less of a man or submissive by default. A cishet man getting pegged by his cishet girlfriend can be sexually dominant and simply likes to be fucked in his ass - these two can co-exist. Yet, in the eyes of cishet society, a man that likes to have his ass played with, must enjoy it because it's "degrading" , not because it simply feels good.

That's why I so heavily preach about the difference between sub/dom/switch and bottom/top/vers. Penetration can be used to increase the feeling and severity of a power dynamic, but it doesn't create one. These two things are entirely separate from eachother, unless connected willingly.

[meancatboy]

you should reblog this version instead, actually

[quantifiableme]

omg @heavilycaffeinatedsblog ‘s fic is so friggin good you have to read it

Every morning i wake up and refresh that screen until it posts 😂

Such an amazing way to spend a summer, i feel so blessed!

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

[podcastwizard]

LIKES TO CHARGE REBLOGS TO CAST

[crazysodomite]

The popularity of the "incompetent stupid piece of shit husband and competent wife who loves him anyways" trope in media is a psyop to make women believe its normal to settle for an incompetent stupid piece of shit husband

[crazysodomite]

But if a woman acted incompetent once then she will be literally crucified in the street and she's evil for manipulating her husband into settling for less and suddenly it's not a silly endearing sitcom trope 🤔

[habken]

my beloved nephew izuku midoriya and my good close personal friend ryland grace