aka the robodyke -- agabless / agabpunk , cistrans/tris , lapisfem , tfemmasc , boygirl , altersex , objectum , robodyke , fagdyke -- it / she / he -- robotkin / machinekin ++ fictkin -- bodily 18 , perisex , white , australian -- ya either hate me or i'm yer best fuckin friend //🎀
below the cut :: byi ++ dni ++ links ++ other blogs ++ anon tags etc.
byi --
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fer starters , i am generally pretty bad at tagging stuff ( we& always have been ) but you can find my tagging system at #mimir.tags . general rule of thumb is, if you want something tagged just ask me , i'm bad at tagging triggers and i easily miss stuff . one thing i will say though , never complain about the content i post . if you don't agree with my takes or like the things i post i encourage you to block me instead of trying to fight me about it , because the latter will always get you nowhere . this is first and foremost , my blog , and i will post whatever i want to .
i'm very passionate about my beliefs but if you give me enough solid evidence challenging said beliefs its possible for me to change them . i am a little stupid and a little more gullible but i know when i'm being played for laughs . highly likely i won't respond if i know i'll only be responding out of anger/retaliation . that being said please use tonetags with me , i struggle to read tone and get confused easily .
now onto said beliefs , i'm radinclus , i use "contradictory labels" , labels that would make any pericishetallo queerphobe's head explode on the spot . the way i identify is not for the faint of understanding or the close-minded .
i'm also fictionkin ++ otherkin / nonhuman and i will speak about these issues but not as strongly as others .
i am also plural , i'm a fictive in an endo system who formed entirely spontaneously and who also identify with xenogenic identities . i personally am stressgenic . we& are pro all system origins && we& are anti psychiatry .
the last belief i'll go into detail on and discuss on this blog is fandom discourse and shipcourse . as much as i hate shipcourse it is rampant and fucking ridiculous . i'm anti harassment , anti censorship , i believe the mantras "don't like don't read" "dead dove: don't eat" "ship and let ship" "your kink is not my kink and that's okay" "block and move on" && phrases like those , are incredibly crucial if you ever want to have a good time on the internet these days .
i do have quite a few strong opinions about age-gating but i won't start a conversation about them unless i'm asked about them directly . on that note however , this blog will have more sexual topics on it as i'm an adult and i can do what i want . #mimir.lockd is the nsft tag so those of you who don't want to see those types of posts from me can easily filter them .
misc. beliefs i won't be talking about in detail are transIDs , the radqueer stance && paraphilias . i'm highly crit-transID && strongly anti-radqueer so if you identify strongly with any "controversial" transIDs ( stuff like transrace , transharmed , transabuser , transnazi or anything remotely similar ) or identify as radqueer i highly recommend you either just avoid me / my blog or block , though i won't block you from here only from my main .
paraphilias are a much more complicated topic that i'm finding everyday that i'm highly uneducated in so if anyone would like to educate me more on this topic i'd be happy to listen
and lastly because i'm not entirely sure where to put this i'm just putting it here , i have a sliight typing quirk ? i guess ? i wouldn't call the extra spaces in punctuation a typing quirk — besides this punctuation style is likely not going to be used for all posts — but , i'll sometimes , if not always , type "fer" instead of "for" and "yer" instead of "your/you're"
dni -- ..... i don't have one .
no really , i have no dni . they don't work anyway so why put one ? the only thing i can do is suggest you don't follow me && tell you to follow your own dni if you have one .
links --
my personal pronouns.cc -- our& system's pronouns.cc -- our pluralkit.xyz fronting page -- our other links -- our shipsource stance --
sideblogs --
note :: this blog itself is a sideblog so i cannot like / follow / ask from this blog . all of the above will come from @virovirokun-has-adhd
my other blog ;; @blood-for-brains -- our& system blog ;; @endogwnic -- yapping blog ;; @zombiechu --
if you somehow find my girlfriends blog , aka the blog i made just for me , my girlfriends && some close friends , do not ever mention it . doing so is an immediate easy way to get on my bad side .
The biggest difference between feminists and radfems is man hating. I'm just gonna say it. Hating men is not feminist and does absolutely nothing to support women's rights or gender equality. Could certainly be argued that it actively hurts it by separating men and women as groups even further. Ah yes, the tried and true solution to equality- segregation.
Saying "men aren't oppressed for being men" is the same as saying "men can't get pregnant" and is just as transphobic, btw.
What's happening when these are said is that "man" as a category is being based on the experiences of pericis men. We do know men can get pregnant, because trans men exist. So we move and change our understanding to include the fact that men can indeed get pregnant. If we don't, we ignore material reality in one of two ways: 1. Trans men aren't men, or 2. Trans men can't get pregnant. These are both false.
The same applies with men being oppressed for their gender. We base this off percis men's experiences - which is that they are not oppressed on the basis of their gender. Instead of doing the same thing with pregnancy, and changing our understanding to say that there are men who can be oppressed based on their gender - transgender men - and that denying this is therefore denying material reality by saying either 1. Trans men are not men or 2. Transgender people are not oppressed for their gender, we do not move our understanding to account for trans men's material experiences, and refuse to acknowledge that there is a group of men who are oppressed for their gender, like every other trans person is.
Ignoring this is just shoving transgender men's experiences into a pericis box. It's saying if we have experiences that pericis men do not have, we are not real men. It's ignoring the fact that transgender men have a real and authentic manhood, and that this manhood exists outside of the pericis hegemonic norm. It's also completely antifeminist, because it reduces gender down to essentialist ideas of what it means to be a man or not be a man, and that therefore if you are a man you *must* have or follow these gender essentialist notions and experiences. Which is just provably false.
Thinking about how the arguments around what kind of trans people can and can’t call themselves lesbians seems to be based around this weird idea that every lesbian is required to engage sexually and romantically with every other lesbian? Like… I get that the overall sapphic community can be very flirty and whatnot, but you know that’s not an actual rule, right?
Cause, like, terfs will be saying that a trans woman being a lesbian means she’s somehow forcing cis lesbians to sleep with her, which is stupid both because that’s not how any of this works, but also because cis lesbians are, statistically, very unlikely to actually be against trans women. And I think most queer people see how stupid that is.
But then, with transmasc lesbians a lot of queer people are repeating very similar ideas, that “oh, by saying they’re a lesbian this person is trying to force real lesbians to sleep with them” and… that’s not at all how this works? Like… they’re just expressing their own identity in the way that makes sense for them, they’re not saying anything about who they expect to want to date them.
I think, with the terf rhetoric, a lot of people only notice the logic failure of assuming trans women aren’t women, and while that is a stupid thing to believe, there’s also another, I think equally stupid logic failure, which is the idea that anyone expects to be granted sex by virtue of their orientation. Orientation doesn’t mean “who I think I’m entitled to sex with” it means “who I’m attracted to”.
Like, if you don’t wanna sleep with a lesboy, you literally don’t have to? Them identifying in the way that makes the most sense to them does nothing to negatively affect you.
A while ago I had a very exhausting conversation with someone under one of my posts that perfectly summed up, why the TMA/TME binary is harmful. The person self-identified as TME and they have deleted their comments, probably because they realised that leaving evidence of being a bigot is not a smart idea, so I will have to paraphrase.
It started with the comment "lets not pretend like cis men are discriminated against", in the assumption that I was a trans man. I know that they assumed this because when I told them that it was "brave" to post this under the post of a cis intersex man, they became very upset and asked why I, as a cis man, was posting about the experiences of trans men.
I proceeded to tell them that I am talking about these experiences, because I have had the same or very similar experiences due to being intersex.
At that point they decided to tell me, that I was not actually cis then, but trans, and that I just didn't understand my own identity.
I had told them multiple times at that point, that I originally had been AMAB, and only reassigned AFAB to enable my IGM. This user was pretty much saying: trans means transitioning away from your AGAB, you have trans man experiences, so you are a trans man, so the doctors were actually right to reassign you AFAB. They were at this point agreeing with my abusers just because my experiences did not match their expectation of what experiences a cis man can have.
And that is the danger of TME/TMA and why it will never have any validity in my eyes. You are assuming the amount and type of oppression a person experiences based on their AGAB. And if that doesn't match up in your eyes, you assume that a) they are lying or b) that they are to stupid to understand their own identity.
They also half way implied that I no longer identified as trans because I was transphobic and not because I learned about circumstances of my birth and lifelong medical treatment that had been maliciously hidden from me.
The person later gave in and apologized, but then immediately invalidated that, by replying to another intersex user who came to my defense that "we don't get to tell them that TMA/TME is intersexist". A perisex trans person telling two intersex people what they are allowed to call intersexist. That is the state this stupid binary has left the trans community on tumblr. In the end users of this binary believe to have the authority over others experiences and identity. And that is fucking despicable.
kinda funny how trans women get painted as mean angry bitches for asking people politely not to call themselves a transmisogynistic fetish porn category slur as their identity, while the tmes calling themselves femboys get to paint themselves as victims
TME and TMA don't exist you're fucking stupid and if you wanna be a femboy, or anything else that aligns with your gender identity, don't listen to shit like this, do what you want, this cunt is a retard. I love making slurs my identity.
"especially for the misandry" dang i guess you dont really give a shit about women if you think misandry's way more important that misogyny, but also not a surprise when you go onto a trans woman's post to call her slurs
cool how someone can tell me im wrong, call themselves three slurs that are used against me that they can't reclaim, than then block me before i can respond.
tmes when you tell them not to use slurs will get really mad and start shouting slurs.
Hi Daughter of Sapph0! We used to be mutuals on a different blog, actually, so it's really funny that we meet again like this. @fenrirgraves is my girlfriend in real life for six years.
My transfem girlfriend is not "TME" under your own framework and it's transmisogynistic to deny and invalidate her femininity because she disagrees with your framework. She's allowed to call herself a femboy if she wants and she would also agree that I, a dirty little TME, am allowed to call myself a femboy. It's part of why we're attracted to each other. We're non binary femboy lesbians. I'm sorry that offends transphobes like you who obsessively binarize everything in existence so that you don't have to think or extend compassion to people who don't conform to the myopic, patriarchal worldview you still hold.
your tags are also, stupid.
Transmisogyny is a systemic oppression that affects everyone because everyone lives within the system which creates transmisogyny. That's what my transfem girlfriend whose gender you're invalidating was saying. She cares about misandry because she cares about me, her real life partner for six years, and the fact that I'm transmasculine, and the misandry in the trans community has been killing me. <3
You're a fucking transmisogynist. Your caping does nothing for you when you react with invalidation towards a transfem who doesn't agree with you. This website is filled with transmisogynists who claim shit like "love every trans woman until its too late uwu" and then you act with violent transmisogyny when you get confronted with disagreement from the very demographic you've chosen to tokenize. Brava!
Is my girlfriend perfect? No. Do you have a right to treat her like this? Also no. Everyone wants to support mentally ill transfems until a mentally ill transfem isn't a wilting flower they can manipulate.
Go fuck yourself. If my girlfriend wants to be a femboy she can be a femboy, because she's a fucking adult who can express her non binary gender however the hell she wants. Even if femboy were a slur, you are talking the same points as people who told me I couldn't call myself queer, and you can shut the fuck up and fuck off just like those pricks.
She also blocked you because you aren't worth interacting with, because you're a reactionary whose too far up its own ass to even realize that its got a lot of transphobic and binarist ideas about gender to unpack and deconstruct. You don't provide intelligent conversation, as evidenced by the immediate transmisogynistic invalidation thrown at my partner. Be mad at her for her faults, I am too, we work on these things together like grown adults in a long term relationship do. But how dare you invalidate her transfemininity. You're a transmisogynist.
trans men can't call themselves fags because only AMAB people are fags. Trans men can't call themselves butches or dykes because that's misgendering themselves. They can't call themselves femboys because that term only applies to trans women apparently. Also trans men can't be trannies because that term is more associated with trans women. Trans men shouldn't be allowed in women's spaces like gynecologists offices or domestic violence shelters and they shouldn't be allowed in queer men's spaces like gay bars because gay men don't like pussy and they shouldn't be allowed in trans spaces because trans women built the trans community all by themselves and men shouldn't take it from them and trans men shouldn't have their own spaces because they'll inevitably become MRA TERFs. On account of all the male privilege. Because this is definitely not proof that trans men face transphobia and sexism just like other queers. We're so privileged that everyone is allowed to hurt us and exclude us with no repercussions, the mark of a truly privileged group of people.
it's actually sadly pathetic on how racism and transandrophobia go hand in hand
not only have i been told i have no unique oppression by people who wouldn't experience it in the first place, but when i just don't give a shit, people then switch to calling me a dirty spic and saying i only want to be a man because then i get to abuse women and get a pass for it [no??? what kind of racial profiling issue do you have to immediately think that of a transgender hispanic dude??????]
not to mention the racist as hell cis chasers my fucking god
a reminder that “transandrophobia” is not an umbrella term for transphobia unique to trans men, it is specifically the way fear and hatred of men and masculinity impacts trans people (it’s not even exclusive to trans men)
antitransmasculinity is a broader term for transphobia against trans men specifically, and isomisogyny is the intersection of transphobia and misogyny trans men/mascs experience (though some people just consider these experiences under the label of transmisogyny)
These are the responses I got when I posted a roommate search as a trans guy.
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Last time I moved in with someone who didn't know I was trans, once they found out things gradually started getting weird. We got into an argument because they didn't think a trans guy should wear what I was wearing one day. One of them started shoving me around until I was on the ground, right next to the stairs. Then as I was trying to move out he kept blocking my path and chasing me around the parking lot. So yeah, I'm gonna let someone know before I move in that I'm trans.
encouraging self-harm is not an appropriate reaction.
harming someone, either with words, baits, or trying to cause them physical harm, is not an appropriate reaction.
what is an appropriate reaction to things or people you do not like on the internet is a handy little feature that comes free with almost every social media platform, but is hardly ever used; the block button. use it.
self-diagnosis is the correct path forward because psychiatrists and therapists are absolutely clueless in the exact thing they went to school for. i’ve been in the psych system for over half my life, and my diagnoses are completely dependent on which “professional” you ask.
you have depression. actually wait you specifically have persistent depressive disorder. no that other person is wrong you actually have recurrent major depressive disorder (because that’s somehow different from persistent depressive disorder). no that other guy was wrong you have BPD. no you don’t have BPD you actually have PTSD and ADHD but not autism. nope that guy was wrong too you’re definitely autistic and have C-PTSD with no signs of ADHD whatsoever.
that’s been my journey with diagnoses in a nutshell. no one with the credentials to diagnose can even agree on a single diagnosis for me because of how subjective the DSM-V is. so instead of relying on whatever doctor i’m seeing today thinks i have, i take labels that resonate with me in that moment, knowing the labels are socially constructed anyway. so sure, i’m autistic. i have depression. but it didn’t take a doctor to come to that conclusion, it’s what i know about myself and my own brain.
