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me, while being abused: it's okay, I'm used to this already, and I'm tough, I can take it.
me, years later when the trauma symptoms hit: I WAS SO WRONG
shitty parents will literally fill your ears constantly about how all worst things in the world would happen to you “in real life” and then act surprised when you develop a fucking anxiety disorder
there are a lot of different ways trauma can manifest, emotionally and physically! many people only think of panic attacks or flashbacks, but trauma can also cause:
gaining/losing weight
dizziness
nausea
headaches/migraines
unexplained aches/pains
mood swings
impulsivity
isolating yourself
flare ups of other mental/physical issues
negative feelings of self
dissociation
being detached from what happened
a fixation on the abuse/your abuser
there are of course so many different ways people respond to trauma! please feel free to add to this list if i missed something you find important
If you keep putting me in a position where I have to defend myself from you, you do not love me.
It’s possible to not realize far into adulthood, that you’ve been abused. It’s actually common to believe that whatever your parents did to you, was just normal, no big deal, stuff that happens to everyone. It’s normal to sort your experience as normal, or even happy childhood, because there might have been a few bright moments when nobody was mad at you and you were allowed to do a thing you like. You’re used to being told about how others have it worse, and you believe you turned out okay, so it must have been okay. You could even be completely repressing memories, not remembering the extent of trauma, only able to remember the mild stuff, how insecure you feel around these people, how hard you try to impress them, to prove to them you’re worth something, that you can make them proud. But you blame this on yourself, you’re convinced that if only you were a little better, stronger, more competent, more successful, then you could win their love.
It’s little things though, that can point to abuse. Insecurity to the point of perfectionism, stressing over their opinion more than anyone else’s, anxiety over your work, or your appearance, feeling it’s incredibly important what others think of you and obsessing over it, worrying about being a burden, impulse to isolate yourself to protect yourself from harm, or else, complete codependency on someone who neglects you, strong fear of abandonment, worrying over not belonging anywhere, developing eating disorder and anxiety disorder, unexplained sprouts of depression and grief, feeling like there’s something deeply wrong with you and it’s only a matter of time before everyone else figures it out. Feeling you deserve to be hurt, punished, and expecting it over even a minor mistake. Constant fear of not being taken seriously. Hiding when you’re hurt. Fear of showing emotions. Painful breakdowns over what seem to be minor issues. Disconnection with your past, and with your feelings. Inability to feel or express anger. Not feeling like you have much choice in your life and you must do whatever is most convenient to others.
And the thing is, nobody will tell you this is the aftermath of abuse. Nobody informs you this was something that’s done to you, something you had no control over, something that hurt you. You’ll be told over and over to not blame anyone else for your problems and to get over yourself. It’s no wonder you couldn’t figure it out. It’s hard to even find a clear definition of what abuse is and isn’t, and instead you’re pushed to forgive, to forget, to leave everything in the past, even when the consequences are eating up your future.
Where’s my “incapable of half-assing, i either do it perfectly at once or i’ll never start out over fear of failure” squad at?
Multiple Language Learning Methods: One Isn’t Going to Cut It
Hi guys! Thank you for your patience as I get adjusted in China and try to find time to update my studyblr! Between studying my languages and teaching, it’s been a bit of a struggle. But I’ve finally got situated enough to get on Tumblr and get to work on a new post that I’m excited to finally share with you!
How many methods do you use to study languages? If you say one, you’re probably studying wrong. When you were in grade school studying the alphabet, did you just read a textbook and BAM you knew the alphabet? OF COURSE NOT! As much as our parents and instructors would wish we did learn that easily, no one ever does! No one. The best way to learn something is to experience it in different ways, situations and formats. You listened to the alphabet spoken in class by your teacher, then by an audio cd, then on tv when you watched Sesame Street, then in a song at a babysitters house, then read them in a textbook, then maybe played computer games to help you practice on top of all that. You heard the same alphabet over and over in different contexts. I used to be a big fan of Between the Lions back in the day because they would teach you a letter then a few words, then use those words and letters over and over again in different skits during the show. If the word of the day was dig, then in the cartoon Cliff Hanger, Cliff would need to spell dig to figure out how to come down from the cliff (of course it never worked, but that’s besides the point), there would be a song with dig in it, there would be activities where you’d have to insert the missing letters, and then the lions themselves would get into situation where they would need to dig something and you’d learn the word dig AGAIN. You get the point. This stuff isn’t just for children. This stuff is gold for language learning as adults, so how do you tap into this knowledge? By giving yourself multiple methods of language study just like a kid! By creating multiple methods of language studying, you are cementing everything you have learned into your memory. With this in mind, you must always have at least three methods of study to pull out when you study every week. Here are mine:
Video/Audio lesson method (example: video based lessons, Youtube video lessons, TTMIK)
1. Watch/listen to video/audio lesson once all the way through (just listen and repeat)
2. Re-watch while writing down new vocabulary (listening writing)
3. Study new vocabulary (reading)
Write out and use a joke or story to remember each word
Look for examples of uses for words using videos or songs or something (Listening) (speaking)
(if learning Korean, use Naver. If learning Chinese or Japanese use Fluent U to search for videos, commercials, music videos, and episodes of shows containing your vocab word. For everything else just search Youtube)
Write out each word ten times (writing)
4. Re-watch video/audio (Listening)
5. Repeat after video/audio (Speaking)
6. Study vocab again at end of the week
Textbook method
Tip: If you buy a textbook for self study, definitely get one with audio
1. Read textbook lesson with audio if included (reading) (listening)
2. Read lesson without audio
2. Study vocabulary (reading)
Make and write a joke or saying or story to help you remember each word (Exam
4. Look for examples of uses for words using videos or songs or something (listening) (speaking)
5. Write character out ten times each (writing)
6. Repeat after audio if included (speaking)
Vocab lists (example: Tumblr, Pinterest, etc)
Say you find a list of interesting vocabulary on Tumblr or Pinterest. You can plan to use this during the week!
1. Read vocab list (reading)
2. Find corresponding audio and repeat. You can use a dictionary audio (listening) (speaking)
3. Study vocab words (reading)
Make jokes or some story to help you remember
5. Look for examples of uses for words using videos or songs or something (reading) (speaking)
6. Repeat after audio (speaking)
Shows, Movies, Youtube Videos
1. Watch video 10 minutes at a time (listening) (DO NOT watch the whole thing unless it is short)
2. Study vocab and grammar (reading) (writing)
3. Make inside jokes or story to help remember vocabulary
4. Look for examples of uses for words using videos or songs or something (listening) (speaking)
5. Write vocab out 10 times (writing)
6. Make any relevant notes about culture and usage
7. Repeat after video sentences (speaking)
This method takes a long time over a course of weeks to finish a movie.
Music and Songs
1. Listen to entire song without looking at lyrics (listening)
2. Go find lyrics and study vocabulary line by line (reading)
3. Make jokes or a story to remember vocabulary
4. No need to look for examples of word usage if you don’t want to
5. Write out vocabulary 10 times
6. Stop studying after one paragraph or verse
7. Read the lyrics
8. Listen to the song and try to follow along
9. Do this until you learn the whole song
8. Make any cultural notes
Okay, so let me explain some details in the post. In every method, one of the steps is to make a joke or some kind of phrase to help you memorize a new vocabulary word. Let me explain. Sometimes it is very hard to remember vocabulary words unless there is a story behind them! Say your words is 苹果 (apple) so you write the English translation and then below it you write, “Sarah refuses to eat her 苹果 and has now tossed it onto the floor. Sarah is 24.” Now you’ve written a short and memorable story about apples and are more likely to remember the word 苹果 . Got it? They teach this stuff in kindergarten and now you’re going to do it for you!
Note: If you are learning Chinese, you can use the radicals to make a story if you’d like. But that would require learning the radicals for every single word, which I encourage you to do anyway, but you don’t have to.
So how do you plan these into your weekly schedule? Easy! Pick a method and do that for one week and then change it to something else the next week. Or you can change it everyday or every few days. I will talk about it more in another post!
Thank you for reading! I hope this was helpful!
For all those times you ask yourself, “Onyomi or Kunyomi??”
Expressing Your Emotions || 感情・かんじょう・Emotions Hey guys, today I’m going to list a couple different ways to express your emotions or feelings in conversation in Japanese! Adjectives・形容詞「けいようし」:
Amazing・凄い・すごい
Afraid・こわい
Bad・悪い・わるい
Difficult (emotionally)・辛い・つらい
Embarrassed・恥ずかしい・はずかしい
Fun・楽しい・たのしい
Happy・嬉しい・うれしい
Jealous・羨ましい・うらやましい
Sad・悲しい・かなしい
One adjective which might appear often in conversation is the word 「ヤバい・ヤバイ・やばい」which can be used to express a few different emotions depending on the context. I’ve heard it used to express both positive and negative emotions/feelings/thoughts like: dangerous, terrible, crap, awful, amazing, wow, cool. Nouns・名詞「めいし」:
Anger・怒り・いかり
Delight/Joy・喜び・よろこび
Emotions・感情・かんじょう
Feelings・気持ち・きもち
Feeling/Mood・気分・きぶん
Happiness・幸せ・しあわせ
Sadness・悲しみ・かなしみ
Examples・例「れい」:
Below I’m going to list a few examples of how to express your feelings in Japanese. It’s important to know that you don’t have to use 私は/僕は/俺は/etc. before stating your feeling because it’s obvious in the context that you’re expressing your own emotions!
Angry・Annoyed -
ひどい!・You’re awful/mean OR That’s awful!
ひどーーい!・You’re aaaawful! OR That’s aaaawful!
ムカつく!・むかつく!・I’m pissed off.
イライラする!・I’m irritated!
ウザイ・Annoying!
ちぇっ・チェ・tsk/Dang/Shoot
Confused -
どうしよう?・What am I gonna do?
Difficult -
辛い・つらい・It’s hard.
きつい・It’s hard.
Embarrassed -
あー、恥ずかしい!・あー、はずかしい!・I’m so embarrassed!
Happy -
嬉しい!・うれしい!・I’m happy!
嬉しいなあ!・うれしいなあ!・I’m so happy!
あー幸せ!・あーしあわせ!・I’m so happy!
やった〜!・Yay!
イェーイ!・Yaaay!
楽しい!・ How fun!
楽しすぎる !・Way too fun!
ワクワクする !・I’m getting excited!
わあ!・Wow!
すごい!・Wow/Great!
すごーい!・Woow!
すげえ!・Wow!
Jealous -
羨ましい!・うらやましい!・I’m jealous!
羨ましい―――!・うらやましいーーー!・I’m soooo jealous!
Nervous -
ドキドキする!・I feel nervous!
緊張する!・きんちょうする!・I’m nervous!
不安になる・ふあんになる・I’m anxious
Nostalgic -
懐かしい!・なつかしい!・This brings back memories.
Relieved -
安心した!・あんしんした!・I feel relieved.
よかった!・Whew!
あー、よかった!・I’m relieved!
Sad・Lonely -
悲しい!・かなしい!・I’m sad
泣きたくなる!・なきたくなる!・I feel like crying!
寂しい・さみしい/さびしい・I’m lonely
あーあ…・Oh well…
くすん・ぐすん・Sniffle
Scared -
びくびく・Symbolises being afraid or timid.
こわい!・I’m scared!
Shocked・Surprised -
うそ!・No way!
マジ?・まじ?・Really/No way/Seriously?
マジかー?・まじかー?・Really/No way/Seriously? (a little masculine)
マジで?・まじで?・Really?
えーー!うそ、マジで!?・What? No way!
え!・What?/Really?
えー!・What?/Really?
えーーっ!!・What?/Really?
うわー!・OMG
いや・イヤ・Why?/Oh
いややあー・Whyyy?
ありえない!・No way!/I can’t believe it!
信じられない!・しんじられない!・I can’t believe it!
皆さん、今どんな気持ち? Everyone, how are you feeling right now?
Beginners Japanese textbooks
So I get a lot of questions here and on Instagram about the books I use for Japanese and what I would recommend to beginners. So I thought I’d put together a little list of books I would suggest you start off with as a beginner in Japanese (these are all books I have used myself or had/would consider using) Obviously I’m not saying you need all of these books, pick one and see how it goes (although I do recommend using more than one resource)! I may do another post like this for intermediate learners if there’s enough interest (with the textbook series they will take you to a higher level, but this is just recommendations as a starting point) ^^
Learning Hiragana and Katakana Flashcards
Japanese Kanji Flashcards Volume 1
Japanese Kanji for Beginners
Japanese From Zero Series
Kana From Zero | Hiragana From Zero | Katakana From Zero | Kanji From Zero
Japanese From Zero 1 | Japanese From Zero 2 | Japanese From Zero 3 |
Japanese From Zero 4
Genki Series
Level 1 textbook | Level 1 workbook | Level 2 textbook | Level 2 workbook
Japanese For Busy People Series
Kana workbook | Level 1 kana ver | Level 1 romaji ver | Level 2
Basic Japanese
Japanese for Beginners
A Dictionary of Basic Japanese Grammar
Essential Japanese Grammar
Essential Japanese Vocabulary
600 Basic Japanese Verbs
You can't continuously treat me like shit and disregard my boundries and NOT expect me to pull away from you.
Family or not, toxic is toxic and I don't love you.
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i saw a post by some terfs the other day saying they were making fake transition donation posts and making a shit ton of money off them. not really sure what we should do about it but just thought i’d warn people
here’s the post in case anyone wants to go on a blocking spree
I think perhaps we shouldn’t assume this is honest since there’s literally no evidence here, mostly bc people already distrust trans women in specific and trans people’s campaigns in general receive a lot of hate, and TERFs definitely know that and I would not put it past them concocting this to exacerbate that issue especially considering trans girls with huge followings still have to do hardcore promo to get their goals met.
the idea that someone is just randomly being like “i’m transitioning donate to me” with 0 established clout or anything? and “raking in cash”? extremely unlikely.
but IF this were true then they are putting themselves at risk of legal action, as plenty of people have been arrested for improperly using GoFundMe for fraudulent reasons. You have to use the money for what you said you were raising it for. The company nor law enforcement are gonna care that you did it because teehee trans people aren’t valid or whatever.
almost all major donation sites have policies on fraud and you can report fundraisers that seem sketch, usually they will give the host the opportunity to give more info to prove their cause, and if they can’t it will be taken down, if they can it’ll be fine.
don’t weaponize this against trans people and don’t allow other people to do it either.