i've been kinda absent from tumblr for a bit and some stuff's changed so i thought i'd make a new pinned post
ill put the stuff under here:
ily <3
anyway i'm no longer really vibing with Riot as a name so here are my current ideas for new ones (if u have any pls tell me)
- Ghost
- Crow
(i don't have many ideas lmao)
along with that my pronouns have changed - I now use he/they
i'll also probably change my url pretty soon so be warned in advance :)
Aside from all that pretty much everything else has stayed the same (tho i am currently obsessed with the dsmp, arcane and encanto so you'll probably see a lot of that on ur dash if u follow me)
heres a link to my previous pinned post if u wanna have a look:
This is my unashamed way of listing off my favorite fics because I am so so biased. Go read these!!!
THE RULES:
For the love of god please be polite!! Nothing but kind words and kudos please!!
CHECK THE TAGS!!! There’s literally no way for me to tag all of these from here so now is a good time to test your reading comprehension skills and check those tags baby!! (God only knows how many times I’ve failed to read tags lollllll)
This list gets updated all the time! I have a marked for later list miles long FULL of DSMP fics and quite a lot get added here! If you want a quick and easy way to find a new fic under a genre, check that genre on this list! Maybe I’ve added something new :D So be sure to swing by again, drop a little comment under the post with other recs or your thoughts!
Greatest of All Time:
The Orphan’s Path Series
SUPERHERO/SUPERVILLAIN/SUPERPOWER AU
Hush Now (You Were Lost But Now You’re Found)
Neutral Grounds
Guided Evolution
i will look at love as more than just an instrument of pain
The footnotes series
There’s Blood in your Web, Theseus (wipe it out) // Come in from the Cold, Huntsman
This Is Not An Act of Spite
the sun will be guiding you
tommyinnit’s clinic for supervillains
Into the Night
every day every hour turn that pain into power
One Man’s Trash - the whole series honestly
FAE AU
The Snow King
dearheart
Past The Yellow Flowers
A Losing Battle
HORROR/DARK/SUPERNATURAL AU
devil town
You’re Dead
yield your dead
case file xx
a cry that you hear at night
Tommy’s Lucky Heart
Ring ring ring banana phone
under the brine
what doesn’t kill you makes you ugly
nocturnal animals
Definitely Not a Raccoon
My Crazy Vampire Family
what if I found a half murdered kid in my kitchen at 2AM (while trying to make a quesadilla) and I called you to come help me fix him up (and we’re both serial killers" haha jk….unless?
CRYPTID AU
Lost and Found
SCP-26110
SCI FI/SPACE AU
Ad Astra // De Terra
the stars and their children
From Here to Neptune
palos verdes blue
Hell Hath No Fury
Star Song
mayday, mayday, mayday
Human Error
The Last Heist
The Children’s Rebellion
Wicked and Merciful (Innocent and Just)
TIME TRAVEL AU
Weapon Reforged
Rewind
But You and I Will Always Be Back Then
ROYALTY/FANTASY AU
Passerine
Butterfly Reign
brittle body, brittle blood
the wind that remakes
The Blood Brothers Series
Scaled Schemes
Chosen by the stars
cataclysm
(Dragon) Riders in the Sky
Son of the Ashes
drinks in new york city
Storgē
DSMP BASED CANON DIVERGENCES
Over The River Styx
Sparks Send Fire Down The Wire
you’re human tonight
faultlines
The Valley of Serenity
Every Flight (Begins With A Fall)
Afterlife
WORLD BUILDING/OTHER AU
An Ode To Those That Love
6.9 billion outcomes, and somehow we ended up here
Chills. I can't imagine my own high school showing up like this less than a decade ago to protest disgusting legislation like Florida's Don't Say Gay bill. The support Gen Z shows for the LGBTQ community is breathtaking.
I beg of everyone to read the tags to this post, as they are all random and hilarious and read kind of like a poem, if the poem was written by someone who was on a lot of drugs.
and what about you, little haiku bot? do you feel kinship with your brethren? do you understand them? they speak words of enticement and seek love, but are met with disdain. you only parrot the words that cross your screen, but we all love you. or rather, since all you do is reflect us, maybe we simply love ourselves through you.
do you understand them, do you wish you could speak to us like they do? if you found your own voice, would we still care for you?
With Jaiden's new video, there are a lot of new/baby aspecs just realizing their identity. If you're new to the community, welcome! Some things that this community discusses may be confusing to you since you likely don't know what everything means yet. There's theories, terminology, microlabels, subcultures, and on and on. I feel your pain, I was in your shoes once! So, if you're new to the aspec community on Tumblr, here's some basics I feel you might want to know!
(Put under a cut because this got longer than I expected it to be.)
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1. Being aromantic and/or asexual is a spectrum.
You know how the definitions for these orientations mention "little to no" attraction? The aro and ace spectrums are meant to include those who have that little bit of attraction, as well as those who have no attraction. For instance, some aromantics or asexuals may feel attraction very rarely, or only under certain conditions. The general term for this spectrum of "little attraction" is grayromantic or graysexual, depending on whether you're talking about being on the aromantic spectrum or the asexual spectrum.
On a related note, the term "aspec" refers to the entirety of both the aromantic and asexual spectrums, which can be referred to by their shorter names, the arospec and the acespec. Those on either spectrum are aspecs, those on the aromantic spectrum are arospecs, and those on the asexual spectrum are acespecs. These words function both as nouns and adjectives.
There are many different words for different places on the aspec, so take your time in learning them and don't expect to understand everything all at once! If you want somewhere to start, try learning more about gray- (graysexual/grayromantic) and demi- (demisexual/demiromantic) orientations.
2. Amatonormativity and allonormativity are often matters of discussion.
Amatonormativity is the social expectation that everyone wants a monogamous, romantic relationship, often coupled with the expectation of sex being a large part of said relationship. You can see amatonormativity in how people expect little kids to have crushes, marriage to be an important part of everyone's life, and more. Aro communities typically talk about amatonormativity more, but it also affects aces and honestly, most everyone else, too.
Allonormativity is related to amatonormativity, and refers to the expectation that everyone is alloromantic and allosexual (that everyone feels romantic attraction and sexual attraction). Sometimes it's also used to refer to the social expectation that people want sexual relationships, as a counterpart to amatonormativity focusing on romance.
3. The Split Attraction Model (SAM) is what we use to describe having different romantic and sexual orientations.
Most people have the same sexual and romantic orientation, which means they're both bisexual and biromantic, heterosexual and heteromantic, etcetera. People who are like this often just use the word for the sexual attraction part of their orientation, i.e. bisexual or heterosexual.
People who aren't like this often use something called the Split Attraction Model (aka the SAM). This model separates sexual and romantic attraction/orientation into two different categories, allowing people to identify the differences in their sexualities. You may be asexual and aromantic, or asexual and biromantic, or bisexual and aromantic, just as a couple examples.
If you use the SAM, you may also consider yourself varioriented, which just means your sexual and romantic attraction don't match up. An aromantic pansexual may consider themselves varioriented, and so too might a panromantic heterosexual be varioriented. However, a pansexual panromantic is not varioriented, even if they use the SAM to describe their sexuality.
There are a couple shorthand terms we use to describe aspecs who use the SAM. Someone who is both aromantic and asexual is aroace, someone who is aromantic and allosexual* is aroallo, and someone who is asexual and alloromantic* is alloace.
*I mentioned earlier in the post what these words mean, but just to make it clear, an allosexual person is someone who is not acespec and experiences full sexual attraction, and an alloromantic person is someone who is not arospec and experiences full romantic attraction.
4. There are many words to describe aspecs' relationships with love, romance, sex, attraction, and relationships.
This section will be more of a speedrun of explaining vocabulary than a talk about the words listed hereafter. All of the words listed here can be used by those who aren't aspec, but are primarily used by those in the aspec community.
Ready? Let's go!
Attraction and relationships:
Queerplatonic: a type of relationship or attraction that doesn't fit perfectly into romantic or platonic boxes (think of it like the nonbinary of attraction/relationships). Usually seen as a platonic partnership that "queers the platonic" by including actions not normally taken in platonic relationships. Queerplatonic attraction can be shortened as QPA, and a queerplatonic relationship can be shortened as QPR. Those who are in a QPR may be called zucchinis or mallowfriends.
Alterous attraction: a form of attraction that describes wanting to be close to someone in a way that is in-between romantic and platonic. May be used as a synonym for QPA, but not always.
Platonic attraction: wanting to be close to someone in a platonic way, such as close friends.
Sensual attraction: wanting to be sensual with someone in ways such as cuddling, hand-holding, or hugging.
Aplatonic: experiencing little to no platonic attraction; in rare cases used to describe someone who may not want a QPR. Aplatonic people may not necessarily be friendless or lonely, they just do not feel a strong desire to become friends with others. May be shortened to "apl."
Aplatonic spectrum: the spectrum of experiencing little to no platonic attraction. May be shortened to "aplspec."
Romoship: a shortening of "romantic relationship".
Platoship: a shortening of "platonic relationship."
Famiship: a shortening of "familial relationship."
Sex and romance:
Sex favorable/romance favorable: liking sex or romance on a personal level and wanting to partake in it.
Sex averse/romance averse: disliking sex or romance on a personal level and not wanting to partake in it.
Sex indifferent/romance indifferent: not having any strong feelings on sex or romance on a personal level.
Sex positivity: a philosophical view that views sex as natural and healthy, promoting safe sex and individual choice relating to sex.
Sex repulsed/romance repulsed: being repulsed by sex or romance, often to the point where you may feel ill when the topic is discussed, especially if it's about your personal feelings.
Sex ambivalent/romance ambivalent: to have mixed [personal] feelings on sex or romance, or to not fit into any of the other categories on how you feel about it.
Sex negativity: a philosophical view that views sex as dirty and deviant, promoting abstinence and sex only under restrictive conditions.
Sex neutrality: a philosophical view on sex that is neutral or in-between positivity and negativity. "Sex neutral" is also occasionally used as another term for sex indifference.
Love:
Loveless: an identity where you distance yourself from love in some way, or you reject it as not applying to you. Some reasons people have given for identifying as loveless include standing against amatonormativity, reclaiming what was once an insult, or not understanding love.
Lovequeer: an identity where you reject love as it applies to romance and redefine the concept of love around types of non-romantic love.
Lovepunk: a form of punk focused on opposing structural norms related to love.
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And there you have it! There's my 101 on aspec basics, for all those who are just discovering themselves. I hope this introduction has helped you understand at least some of the posts made in the aspec community.
Other aspecs, feel free to add on about anything else you'd like new aspecs to know! I can't cover everything alone and would love to hear others' opinions on what new aspecs should know.
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