The INFJ belongs to the rarest personality type according to the Myers-Briggs personality test. They make up only 1-3% of the total US population. You can imagine how unique this introvert personality type is and so are its likes and dislikes. If there’s an INFJ in your life, it becomes extremely important to know what NOT to do that might rub them the wrong way. Also, if you are an INFJ yourself then read the following and check if these things tick you off too.
1. Injustice and Cruelty
Nothing upsets an INFJ like injustice and cruelty. INFJs are empaths and sensitive beings. They cannot take it when they see someone suffering because of any wrongdoings. Although they avoid conflicts at all costs but when it comes to standing up for what’s fair and just, they don’t hesitate to voice their opinions. That’s also the reason behind INFJs being called ‘The Advocate’.
2. Authoritarianism
INFJs don’t like people who misuse their power, especially to mistreat people. Besides, they also hate being told what to do and how to do things. They can’t stand excessive criticisms, not to say they are not open to constructive criticism, but only when it’s done respectfully and not as a projection of someone’s authority or ill will.
3. Imperfection
They strive for perfection and would do things to the tee. If it doesn’t turn out the way they want then they will spend endless hours meticulously just to get it right. It really annoys them to the core if there’s a lack of perfection in the things they do.
4. Conflicts
INFJs hate confrontations and conflicts. You’ll rarely see them getting involved in an argument just for the sake of it. Unwanted drama and tension are not their cup of tea. But don’t get them wrong, once they stand for something they believe in, they’ll fight till they prove you wrong. So better not mess with an INFJ.
5. No Privacy
This is not limited to just INFJs, other introverted personalities too would agree on this. Like their counterparts, The Advocates, too, love to have a “me time” every now and then, during which they wouldn’t want any disturbance. They are extremely private when it comes to their personal space and won’t shy away from expressing their anger when their privacy is violated. Try it and see for yourself.
6. Lack of Order
INFJs prefer everything to be in order. Messes irritate them. Being orderly gives them a sense of power and control. They tend to follow schedules and routines and any abrupt changes screws them up. Being organised helps them to serve their purpose in whatever they do otherwise they get confused and irritated easily.
7. Not Being Heard
INFJs are great listeners. People are automatically drawn to them to share their problems without the fear of getting judged. Although an INFJ would hardly ever open up to someone (unless you’re a really close one), they sometimes feel to be heard back and listened to. They too are humans after all and have great insights to share. They value themselves, so they feel hurt on being ignored or not being acknowledged.
8. Shallowness
They despise everything that’s shallow. Materialism and egotism rarely excite them. Rather they incline towards basic humanity and genuineness. INFJs prefer to be real and expect the same from others. There’s more than just physicality for them in everything. Hence they tend to steer clear of selfish beings and don’t waste any time to disapprove of callous behaviours that are driven by superficiality.
9. Getting Manipulated
Manipulators are always in the black list of INFJs. They seriously loathe people who use others just for their own selfish reasons. An INFJ would never do that and demands the same from people. If they notice someone using them with harmful intentions or ulterior motives, they don’t hesitate to cut all ties with the manipulators. They are better off without them.
10. Insensitive and Loud Personalities
Being highly sensitive and empathetic, It’s easy for an INFJ to get upset by apathetic and insensitive behaviour. They would never entertain a person with malicious objectives. They are also not a big fan of loud personalities. An INFJ would avoid drama at all costs and would rather be among those who have a quiet and calm temperament like them.
These are the things that one should keep in mind if they don’t want to face the wrath of the rarest personality type. The INFJs believe in making the world a better and peaceful place to live for everyone and we all should contribute towards the same. Do you relate to the above things as an INFJ? A penny for your thoughts.
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The INFJ belongs to the rarest personality type according to the Myers-Briggs personality test. They make up only 1-3% of the total US population. You can imagine how unique this introvert personality type is and so are its likes and dislikes. If there’s an INFJ in your life, it becomes extremely important to know what NOT to do that might rub them the wrong way. Also, if you are an INFJ yourself then read the following and check if these things tick you off too.
1. Injustice and Cruelty
Nothing upsets an INFJ like injustice and cruelty. INFJs are empaths and sensitive beings. They cannot take it when they see someone suffering because of any wrongdoings. Although they avoid conflicts at all costs but when it comes to standing up for what’s fair and just, they don’t hesitate to voice their opinions. That’s also the reason behind INFJs being called ‘The Advocate’.
2. Authoritarianism
INFJs don’t like people who misuse their power, especially to mistreat people. Besides, they also hate being told what to do and how to do things. They can’t stand excessive criticisms, not to say they are not open to constructive criticism, but only when it’s done respectfully and not as a projection of someone’s authority or ill will.
The INFJ belongs to the rarest personality type according to the Myers-Briggs personality test. They make up only 1-3% of the total US population. You can imagine how unique this introvert personality type is and so are its likes and dislikes. If there’s an INFJ in your life, it becomes extremely important to know what NOT to do that might rub them the wrong way. Also, if you are an INFJ yourself then read the following and check if these things tick you off too.
1. Injustice and Cruelty
Nothing upsets an INFJ like injustice and cruelty. INFJs are empaths and sensitive beings. They cannot take it when they see someone suffering because of any wrongdoings. Although they avoid conflicts at all costs but when it comes to standing up for what’s fair and just, they don’t hesitate to voice their opinions. That’s also the reason behind INFJs being called ‘The Advocate’.
2. Authoritarianism
INFJs don’t like people who misuse their power, especially to mistreat people. Besides, they also hate being told what to do and how to do things. They can’t stand excessive criticisms, not to say they are not open to constructive criticism, but only when it’s done respectfully and not as a projection of someone’s authority or ill will.
The INFJ belongs to the rarest personality type according to the Myers-Briggs personality test. They make up only 1-3% of the total US population. You can imagine how unique this introvert personality type is and so are its likes and dislikes. If there’s an INFJ in your life, it becomes extremely important to know what NOT to do that might rub them the wrong way. Also, if you are an INFJ yourself then read the following and check if these things tick you off too.
1. Injustice and Cruelty
Nothing upsets an INFJ like injustice and cruelty. INFJs are empaths and sensitive beings. They cannot take it when they see someone suffering because of any wrongdoings. Although they avoid conflicts at all costs but when it comes to standing up for what’s fair and just, they don’t hesitate to voice their opinions. That’s also the reason behind INFJs being called ‘The Advocate’.
2. Authoritarianism
INFJs don’t like people who misuse their power, especially to mistreat people. Besides, they also hate being told what to do and how to do things. They can’t stand excessive criticisms, not to say they are not open to constructive criticism, but only when it’s done respectfully and not as a projection of someone’s authority or ill will.
Sometimes, we get so engrossed in things that we tend to forget to pat ourselves in the back for the little achievements we make. It’s really important to enjoy those small successes which, maybe nobody knows but we, and therefore it gets lost somewhere receiving no applause as it’s not of the magnitude that the society demands. Hence, it’s only you who get to enjoy those tiny victories and you must, instead of just overlooking them. Be your own cheer-leader and applause for yourself.
Introverts are often misunderstood. Our inability to openly express leads to a lot of ambiguity about our character and behaviour. Though we are quite aware of our flaws (I’d rather call it uniqueness), we can’t help it. Sometimes we might come off as rude to our closed ones. But are we? Let’s dig deeper.
1. Not receiving calls
If you have an introvert friend, you will always find yourself complaining that they never receive your calls and they cannot clarify but be guilty as charged. Well, there’s something about that phone screen indicating that someone is calling, that just freaks us out. No matter who is on the other end, we tend to not swipe right or up unless it’s something urgent. We always prefer talking via text messages and emails as it gives us a sense of freedom to express freely as opposed to talking face to face or through the phone. This might give an impression to the other person that we are not interested or intentionally not picking up (the latter is quite true often) but there’s no hard feeling or personal grudge behind that. It’s just the way we are. Text and test us.
Introverts are often misunderstood. Our inability to openly express leads to a lot of ambiguity about our character and behaviour. Though we are quite aware of our flaws (I’d rather call it uniqueness), we can’t help it. Sometimes we might come off as rude to our closed ones. But are we? Let’s dig deeper.
1. Not receiving calls
If you have an introvert friend, you will always find yourself complaining that they never receive your calls and they cannot clarify but be guilty as charged. Well, there’s something about that phone screen indicating that someone is calling, that just freaks us out. No matter who is on the other end, we tend to not swipe right or up unless it’s something urgent. We always prefer talking via text messages and emails as it gives us a sense of freedom to express freely as opposed to talking face to face or through the phone. This might give an impression to the other person that we are not interested or intentionally not picking up (the latter is quite true often) but there’s no hard feeling or personal grudge behind that. It’s just the way we are. Text and test us.
Introverts are often misunderstood. Our inability to openly express leads to a lot of ambiguity about our character and behaviour. Though we are quite aware of our flaws (I’d rather call it uniqueness), we can’t help it. Sometimes we might come off as rude to our closed ones. But are we? Let’s dig deeper.
1. Not receiving calls
If you have an introvert friend, you will always find yourself complaining that they never receive your calls and they cannot clarify but be guilty as charged. Well, there’s something about that phone screen indicating that someone is calling, that just freaks us out. No matter who is on the other end, we tend to not swipe right or up unless it’s something urgent. We always prefer talking via text messages and emails as it gives us a sense of freedom to express freely as opposed to talking face to face or through the phone. This might give an impression to the other person that we are not interested or intentionally not picking up (the latter is quite true often) but there’s no hard feeling or personal grudge behind that. It’s just the way we are. Text and test us.
Introverts are often misunderstood. Our inability to openly express leads to a lot of ambiguity about our character and behaviour. Though we are quite aware of our flaws (I’d rather call it uniqueness), we can’t help it. Sometimes we might come off as rude to our closed ones. But are we? Let’s dig deeper.
1. Not receiving calls
If you have an introvert friend, you will always find yourself complaining that they never receive your calls and they cannot clarify but be guilty as charged. Well, there’s something about that phone screen indicating that someone is calling, that just freaks us out. No matter who is on the other end, we tend to not swipe right or up unless it’s something urgent. We always prefer talking via text messages and emails as it gives us a sense of freedom to express freely as opposed to talking face to face or through the phone. This might give an impression to the other person that we are not interested or intentionally not picking up (the latter is quite true often) but there’s no hard feeling or personal grudge behind that. It’s just the way we are. Text and test us.
THIS! Please read. For me personally, I’m extremely self conscious with how I think I come off to people and this post gives amazing insight as to how some of these actions and traits are more common in introverts and not meant to be seen as rude. OP is right, this list isn’t meant to make excuses, we do have flaws as introverts, but due to us living in a society where these things might not be talked about as much, I think it’s important to bring up in order to represent each other in the best light and speak up for ourselves. Communication is everything in our society and we need to put as much truth out there pertaining to introversion rather than perpetuating stigmatized misconceptions and generalizations made about us.
Introverts are often misunderstood. Our inability to openly express leads to a lot of ambiguity about our character and behaviour. Though we are quite aware of our flaws (I’d rather call it uniqueness), we can’t help it. Sometimes we might come off as rude to our closed ones. But are we? Let’s dig deeper.
1. Not receiving calls
If you have an introvert friend, you will always find yourself complaining that they never receive your calls and they cannot clarify but be guilty as charged. Well, there’s something about that phone screen indicating that someone is calling, that just freaks us out. No matter who is on the other end, we tend to not swipe right or up unless it’s something urgent. We always prefer talking via text messages and emails as it gives us a sense of freedom to express freely as opposed to talking face to face or through the phone. This might give an impression to the other person that we are not interested or intentionally not picking up (the latter is quite true often) but there’s no hard feeling or personal grudge behind that. It’s just the way we are. Text and test us.
2. No-show at invited events
“You’re coming tonight, right?” “Umm… I’m not sure… probably not.” It’s a universal fact that we introverts like a lot of alone time, more so after a social event or any outing. We prefer not to go out or attend events that may exhaust us. If we do, then we need a recharge by being on our own, before we set out to another party. Our choice to say no to social gatherings may come across as a refusal to spend time with known people and that may make them feel like we are not interested, which is not true at all. Even we like to celebrate and have fun but only occasionally. It comes at the cost of our social battery and so we are quite selective about it.
3. Seemingly unapproachable
Now, this is something which most of our friends felt or had an impression about us before they became our pals. An introvert’s personality is very much different from a friendly extrovert. We are poor at social skills and don’t enjoy small talk, so we barely make that effort to break the ice or to initiate a conversation with unknown people. This reserved nature of us often leads people to think that we are apathetic and hence they find it difficult to approach us. This just solidifies the negative impression and we are left alone (much to our bliss). But this shouldn’t be taken as a sign that we don’t want friends at all. You’ll be surprised at how much we talk or open up once we become candid and cross that communication barrier. The fact is, we take time to properly assess your personality before lending a friendly hand as we are quite choosy of who we let in into our lives. Just give us some time to know you and we could be the best of friends, who knows?
4. Cold reception
We not only cut a sorry figure when it comes to talking but also when it’s time to show emotions. We are quite cautious about what and how we emote. The reason could be attributed to our poor communication skills and not wanting to burden you with our emotional baggage. So we may come off as a cold-hearted person. On the contrary, we are very much empathetic and could feel deeply what one is going through. It’s just that we lack to express it, no matter how close to us you are. Doesn’t matter how elated we are, you’ll rarely find us jumping with joy or dancing out like a freak. Even when we get a heavy heart, we barely let our grief get to you. Quite an irony for empaths, isn’t it?
5. Blocks you
We are sensitive beings and dwell on things that make our souls happy. We even tend to pick up the energies of those around us. So, when we feel that someone is quite toxic and is consistently disturbing our peace of mind, we wait no more to cut all ties, both online and offline. Yes! That could be quite unlikely of us but we just cannot thrive on negativity. We think it’s better off that we be alone rather than getting involved with unwanted drama and we’re glad that social media sites have buttons like unfriend, unfollow and block. No regrets there at all for clicking them!
6. Moody
We are over-thinkers and thus prone to constant internal conversations, playing worst-case scenarios in our heads or simply day-dreaming. This leads to a lot of internal conflicts and dialogues that sometimes we may overlook other beings right in front of us. Besides, we are obsessive about intriguing stuff, be it a mystery novel, a thrilling movie, creating art or simply listening to a piece of soft music. During which we usually ignore everything that might suck us out of that exhilarating zone, so we may not respond to any kind of external stimuli such as texts, calls or even door-bells. This wrongly projects us as moody and non-indulging. We prefer to do one thing at a time rather focusing on too many things at once, considering we already have a plethora of thoughts going on 24×7.
We introverts come with our flaws but those are what make us unique. Although we are pretty much susceptible to prejudices and that normally don’t bother us but when it comes to maintaining relations with friends or loved ones, communication becomes the key. It’s better to speak out about our personality to lend a better understanding of us so that all the misinterpretations could be kept at bay. We ain’t rude and shouldn’t let our well-wishers get that wrong idea.
Do you have an Introvert friend who came off as rude to you some time? Or are you an Introvert yourself who often feel misunderstood and found this relatable? Please share your thoughts below.
