I think a lot of people expect to have a woman in their life doing all this work for them. so when they don't have her they think "I'm poor, because if I wasn't poor I wouldn't have to do this myself with my own money." mostly men, but I think some women think this too. cooking + cleaning + kin keeping, that's "women's" work aka mommy's work. I think soooo so so so many people see mommy's work as detached from time, effort, and money. mommy is supposed to buy christmas ornaments. mommy is supposed to plan my birthday party. mommy is supposed to keep the kitchen spotless every day. it free, it's supposed to be free. if I don't have it, it's because I'm being oppressed, I'm burdened, I'm the lowest class. etc etc etc. and that extends to political action, too! I can't organize my friends, I have a shitty apartment! I'd have to buy pizza! I'd have to have a couch! I'd have to cook! I'd have to clean my bathroom! I don't have mommy to do it!! So it can't be done!! It's self evident of my station!! you know what I'm saying?