#abledsareweird

[yrfemmehusband]

People rly don't get that you can think you're being nice and still be incredibly ableist. You can repost the article about the girl with cerebral palsy getting asked to prom thinking it's so sweet that someone invited her without realizing how ableist you're being. You can make friends with the boy who has autism at school and joke with him that he's your boyfriend with the best of intentions- you are still incredibly ableist. You can push a person's wheelchair without asking because you want to help to be nice and you are still being ableist. You can grab the person who uses a cane to help them up without asking for permission to touch them only wanting to make things easier and still. Be. Ableist.

Polite ableism is just harder to talk about, you can't describe how it makes you feel enough, how it rips away your autonomy and makes you feel lesser than, and it's especially hard for those with intellectual disabilities to talk about and speak against, because it's so covert and it's EVERYWHERE.

Just like. Treat people normally??? Thanks

[chronicallycouchbound]

The narrative that “you should care about disabled people because one day that’ll be you” is ableist in and of itself.

You should care about disabled people’s rights because you should care about the disenfranchisement of a marginalized community.

Becoming disabled is not a punishment. Becoming disabled is not a threat. Becoming disabled is not cosmic retaliation for being ableist. Becoming disabled is morally neutral.

[cy-cyborg]

Wheelchair users:

Hey, the main entrance to your business is up some stairs, is there a wheelchair accessible entrance with a ramp or something available?

non-disabled business owners:

No, we don't get any customers in wheelchairs so there's no point

Wheelchair users:

...do...do you think there might be a reason for that?

Non-disabled business owners:

Because disabled people don't need [whatever product or service we provide], obviously.

[crowpunkcognitivedecline]

anyone can interact with this post; able-bodied people should take a deep breath and count to ten before adding commentary

hey little language PSA for neurodivergent folks:

“abled” is a term derived from the term “able-bodied,” not “nondisabled.”

while “abled” may often be used as a synonym for nondisabled, it originates as and is also used to refer to able-bodied people.

when a disabled-bodied person refers to abled neurodivergent people, they are not saying those people are nondisabled. they’re saying they’re able-bodied.

this is also the origin of the #AbledsAreWeird tag—it’s meant to refer to ableism against the bodily disabled. i’m not here to gatekeep the tag, and i couldn’t if i tried.

but i am saying if you go in that tag and complain that neurodivergent people are mentioned, you’re encroaching on a disabled-bodied safer space to whine about their problems, and that’s not cool.

cripples started the [american] disability rights movement. a lot of terms around disabled people & rights are our terms, and might not make sense for disabled non-crips.

that’s fine. i’m not saying you have to call yourself abled, or that using abled to mean non-disabled is wrong.

i’m just saying that when cripples (who, for the record, are almost if not always neurodivergent too) use “abled” in a way that includes ND folks, it’s not a personal or ableist attack on you. it’s quite literally the language of our liberation, and attacking cripples over it is ableist.

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

Am I missing something? do abled people just love physical labor?

Because too many abled people seem to think that you must do physical labor or you're lazy

also because my mom like "aren't you excited to do yard work!?" and its like..no..I am physically disabled , doing physical labor causes me even more pain besides just having chronic pain and hurting because scoliosis ..no I'm not excited to hurt myself more

thats how I see it at least..especially when you're not allowed to say no because its 'laziness' ..regardless of pain ..

[consider-your-potatoes-mashed]

Fuck abled people and their opinions on disabled bodies

My mother literally said to me that she “believes that I am choosing to be disabled and that she believes that I am healthier than I feel” like ma’am you are not in the same body as me you do not know it better than I do. Do you not think that I wasn’t to be healthier? Do you not think I’d rather not be in pain? You really think I’m choosing this? After saying that bull shit she goes on to say that she only wants the best for me and for me to “get well soon” and arugh I stg she really feels like one of those people who are like “don’t say disabled say differently abled” like gah no there are things I simply cannot do anymore I don’t do them differently I just can’t do them

[chamomile-coated-cat]

Y'know people became INSTANTLY less curious and invasive about my disability as soon as I had my crutches painted.

Once there was no more medical stickers all over them and the crutches were now a matte pink instead of hospital metallic, there were no more questions about "what happened???" Or "I hope you feel better soon". And I think I know why...

When people see crutches that look metallic and have stickers on them, they think you've just gotten out of the hospital and that this is some new development (maybe a sport™️ injury or something) but with customized or non standard medical aides, it looks like something more permanent...

And that makes them uncomfortable.

The permanence of a disability, something that won't go away, weakness that won't go away, and knowing that it could happen to them as well. Not to mention that no one is taught how to interact with people with disabilities that are permanent (I might talk about non permanent disabilities at another point, but that's not important here) there only people that they're taught to interact with who have permanent disabilities are the elderly or children who are terminal, and they are extra nice to them and expect them to die at any time. But they don't know how to handle someone who has a permanent disability and aren't going to die any time soon.

People still stare at me. But people aren't willing to interact with me about my disability. Which is actually sort of sad. When I got them painted, I was so proud of my matte pink crutches, I was wanting to hear compliments from people who know me, or even strangers! This whole time, I've only received one compliment on my crutches, and I believe it's because the other person also has a disability.

If you're not disabled, yeah, we don't want you all up in our business about our disabilities, but it's totally okay to compliment us on our medical equipment and aides and stuff. Don't just ignore us

[justsomerandomgay]

when an abled stranger thinks they know what’s best for me and now i’m in a paralysis episode 🤩😃👍🔥 (emojis are sarcastic)