#aspec exclusion

[ilovedthestars]

You can phrase your argument as "gently" as you want but if you are listing "queer people" and "aro/ace" people as separate categories, we fundamentally disagree and I am uninterested in your opinion. Also I'm not sure why you think my post is good, since you seem to disagree with its basic premise.

If you think I don't face specific material and social consequences tied to my identity as an aroace person, I don't care about anything else you have to say. If you think "aromantic heterosexual person" and "asexual person in a platonic partnership" describe relationships with no queer people in them, then not only have you entirely missed the point of the post but you're actively insulting me while pretending to "build on my point."

This is exclusionist rhetoric dressed up in pretty language. So is defining queerness exclusively in relation to its historical use as a slur, by the way. Our history is an important part of what queerness means and how it evolved, but personally I think that actual queer people should have more of a say in defining it than bigots.

I don't care if you disagree with me respectfully on a post in which I made a somewhat controversial argument. Not everyone is going to agree with me about defining queerness as broadly as I did, and I'm fine with that. But suggesting that i'm co-opting the word queer and that it doesn't include aro/ace people is not a respectful disagreement, no matter how nicely you say it. You can disagree with my thoughts, but you don't get to disagree with my identity. Fuck off.

[officialaspec]

Every time I see an exclusionist say "aros and aces are valid but they need to make their own community and stay out of the LGBT" I want to scream.

WE DID. Aspec people did make "our own" community. We had our own tags on Tumblr; we had our own terms and symbols and safe spaces and jokes. We had our own areas for us to express ourselves and come to terms with our feelings. We had a place to talk to others who were like us. We had a place to exist.

Want to know what happened to it?

EXCLUSIONISTS HAPPENED.

You exclusionists tore it apart. You shoved your way in and lied and manipulated and threatened and bullied a marginalized group back into the closet. You made fun of our terms, and the words we use to describe ourselves.

And now that aspec people are fighting back? All of you cowards are back to "oh well you're valid just not elgeebeetee!!!!! make your own community uwu"

Shut the fuck up. If you don't even know our fucking history, then you have no say in where we do or don't belong. Aspec people have shown you the historical accounts that mention ace people, we've told you about the things we face, we've told you about how we tried to make our own spaces, we've told you all of it and yet there are still exclusionists who will see all this and still not give a fuck.

Exclusionism is hatred and bigotry. That's it. If you're an exclusionist, you're a hateful bigoted aphobic asshole. You're part of a group that proudly bullies and threatens and straight up posts hateful shit about aro and ace people and states it proudly and if you can read those words and not think that something is wrong with that then fuck you.

[corelliaxdreaming]

I’m so fucking tired of aspec exclusion. I looked at a lot of books today because B&N was having a big sale. I paged through multiple general queer history books, and none even included asexuality in their glossaries let alone aromanticism. The sex ed book for the younger set talked about what if you’re into the same gender and “am I slut if I’ve already had sex?” but absolutely no mention of the possibility of not wanting sex at all. The “50 lgbt people who made history” book I got (on Kindle because it was cheaper, so searchable for purposes of this post), mentions asexuality in the glossary (misdefining it as a lack of sex drive rather than attraction like they always do) but couldn’t be assed to actually include a single entry of a historic ace. And perish the thought of them even acknowledging aros exist.

[ace--introvert]

Any aspecs have really good friends/people you're close with who turned out to be exclusionists? not like they hate aspecs, they just think that aspecs don't fit the technical definition of lgbtqia+. I wouldn't say I agree with them, but how can I deal with this difference? Any advice for keeping the relationship strong when the topic arises?

[aromanticsubtext]

[broken-aspec]

I just feel so alone, you know? Exclusionists act like straight people support us but they really don’t, and us aspecs are left with nowhere to go.

“Make your own community.” they say, but whenever we DO keep to ourselves, they try to push us out of the space WE MADE. Is the only way to be accepted just to hide? Is that it? Is there nowhere else to go? Nothing else to do? Because it seems like it.

[the-a-is-for-asexual]

Ace & Aro tumblr: Aspec people exist

Some fucking exlusionist kicking down the door: “W O W that’s honestly so HOMOPHOBIC!!!!Fjejnewnjwnjdk stop posting cringe lmao!!”

[applearo]

Hey aces and aros

What's a better symbol for the overall aspec community? Dragons or ice cream?

What's a better symbol for the ace community? Space or cake?

What's a better symbol for the aro community? Gryphons or pizza?

We're flooding the tags. We did it before, and we can do it again. Remember:

#ace discourse, #acecourse, #aro discourse, #aspec discourse, #ace exclusion, #aro exclusion, #aspec exclusion, #exclusionist, #exclus. Use the tags appropriate for your post.