#borderline positivity

[cunning-trickster-rabbit]

So I'm pretty sure I can say I no longer have the unstable relationship symptom of BPD even though I still have abandonment issues and attachment issues, but I'm working on it. I'm almost scared to say something about it because you know how BPD is- you dare admit achievements and progress?! It seems to activate it for some reason lol But I do need to acknowledge my progress and achievements more.

8/9 symptoms now.

[bellows-boy]

btw stop demonizing every mental disorder thats not like,,, mild social anxiety . if thats where your support ends then its not really support

anyway heres some positivity for my mentally ill folks ❤️

plain text: anyway heres some positivity for my mentally ill folks ❤️

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if you have ocd i love you and i hope you have an amazing day

if you have hoarding ocd youre so amazing and just remember it doesn't make you gross

if you have pocd just remember that i know you would never hurt a child, you are worthy of love and you deserve to be able to seek help or talk to people about your condition without getting shamed.

remember you are not your intrusive thoughts, even if they say terrible things that does not mean you're a terrible person

if you have low or no empathy you are still an amazing person and a lack of empathy does not mean a lack of care, im sure you care about those you love in your own way and you deserve to be cared about in return. hell even if you don't care or find it hard to care about people you still deserve to be cared about and treated well because youre still a person and youre a good person despite what people might say.

mid or high support needs autistics i know a lot of the autism communities online are mostly low support needs autistics but you are still as much a part of the community as they are, its okay to need more help or accomodations than other people around you. accommodations are amazing and not at all something to be ashamed of.

you have a learning disability ? that's totally fine, our education system is made to fit a very specific niche of people and if you're not a part of that neiche that does not mean you're stupid, you're smart in your own ways and you can do amazing things.

you have a cluster b disorder ? that does not make you an abuser, you are not defined by the actions of a bad person with the same disorder, your disorder does not make you a bad person. your morals and actions are not determined by a disorder and people who say that are uneducated.

whatever youre struggling with remember that you are loved, there are people who care about you, and you are not defined by your struggles <3

[fuzzznstuffingthatcomesout]

My fp/partner

I do love it. And they get me. I must admit I am also lucky to have such a wonderful fp. It's not easy, no, but we communicate and we try. They sometimes say they do think they're built to handle me and my struggles, and not everyone can. It's understandable. Of course it hurts and stings in the middle of an episode, but I suppose it's similar to having a disabled child. Not every parent asks for it nor has the resources to care for them. It doesn't make the child nor the parents bad.

We're obsessed with each other. They listen to me, I listen to them. We're going to spend the rest of our days together. We text nonstop, or we're glued at the hip. When my episodes happen, my fp let's me ride it out. I've been working on and making progress with asking for help and not shutting down and ignoring all remedies they provide. They help pick up my pieces and dry my tears.

We aren't perfect, but we're also two Jewish disabled queer system individuals. The world isn't exactly made for us. So we make do. We're happy, and I hope for all of my fellow b clusters out there you find peace as well.

It isn't easy, I don't think it ever will be for us. I still have my outbursts, my episodes. I still need to constantly make an exhaustive effort. Some days I wanna curl up and give up. Some days I give in. But I kick myself in the ass and keep going. Stumbling isn't failing.

It'll get better.

[clusterrune]

tada! its here!

Understanding Borderlines

This is a book full of resources for those learning about and who are managing borderline personality disorder. content warning: there are c

now if i could just find enough to make one for cotards syndrom..

[friendlyhostile]

hey. i need to give you a reminder. you always have room to grow. houses get torn down all the time, and new one get built in their place. the room you are stuck in can always get bigger. if not by tearing it down, then by renovating it.

that old house is not the one you are in now. it might be the same foundation, the same concrete, the same soil looking up to your rafters, but its not the same house. you are not the same person you were before.

no house, and no person, was truly good and perfect in the beginning. thats why houses are renovated. they are torn down. we learn from the mistakes of our past construction, and we make better houses. we learn from our past mistakes, and we do better. you are better. you are not a bad person now, even if you were before. take a look at the room you are trying to grow in.

do you have enough light? do you have water? fertilizer? do you oxygen? carbon dioxide? do you have the right tools you need to grow?

if you said no to any of that, then its okay. whether you are in a basement, or in an attic, or some box you cant get out of- you will be okay.

you will be okay.

break down a wall, and make a window. it doesnt need glass. it doesnt need a frame. it doesnt need to look pretty.

houses in construction are not pretty. renovations in progress are not pretty. it doesnt have to look pretty. it will never look pretty in the building state.

take the dew from the side of the wall, or the water from the gutters. it doesnt need to be clean. it doesnt need to be tasty. it just needs to be water.

go through the window, or the door if you have one, and get your hands in the dirt. grab it. soak it in. connect with it. get dirty. drench yourself in the soul of the soil. it doesnt have to be anything but dirt.

breath in the air. exhale. do it again. and again. breathe. feel it in your lungs. feel it. its air, and thats all that matters.

you are growing. do you see that? do you see that you are growing?

its okay if you cant. i can see you are growing. and im proud of you. did you hear that? im proud of you.

let yourself grow. build your own house. its your house, after all. its for you. your house is not for anyone else. make it for yourself. if that means you burn it down, or change the furninature, or move out completely, then so be it.

its your life. cultivate it into what you desire. and live it.

[qveenbpd]

Something I'm trying to do is to shift my fear of my loved ones being displeased to a positive thing. it's already natural for a lot of us with BPD to desperately cheer our fp or loved one up when they're grumpy or down. We are afraid. Did I do something wrong?? Did i???

What I'm trying to do is keep my need to cheer people up and destroy the fear that creates it. So say my best friend is upset, instead of thinking 'i need her to feel better so I stop feeling distressed' I'm trying to think 'i need her to feel better because I love her and I want her to feel better'. That takes the urgency away too. If she needs time to just revel in the bad mood for a bit, then I'll do what she needs because I've flipped the script and made it about her feelings instead of mine.

See then I feel more selfless. I spiral less. It's HARD guys I'm not saying it isn't, I am sure I'll fail at it a hundred times. But I'm trying and it's been working quite well for 2 days.

I'll let you know how it goes long term ❤️

[nonbinarypastels]

[Image: A pink color block with white text that reads "support borderlines whose bpd makes it hard to figure out their sexuality"]

[clusterrune]

BPD Resource Masterpost

a whole bunch of list of this bpd related for those looking to lear and/or cope.

Symptom Resources:

Uncommon symptoms(1)

Recovery (Centered) Resources:

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BPD Triggers:

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How To Support:

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Coping (Centered) Resources:

Coping skills(1), Coping with BPD(1), (2),

Unsorted Resources:

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