#diy therapy

[dailydivergent]

We've all seen a feelings wheel, but have you ever seen a NEEDS wheel?

This was a first for me when my therapist showed it to me—so now I'm sharing it with you.

Like!!

I'm allowed to need "Make"?

And "For"?!

All jokes aside, this thing is changing the way I view my needs.

I hope it changes yours, too.

[windsweptinred]

Spending the run up to the local elections finding increasingly more entertaining ways to dispose of Reform leaflets....

Dartboard… Entertaining and therapeutic. Highly recommended!

Reenacting the infamous Titanic scene with Trump and Farage was a personal favorite. Sadly Trump's raft proved to be unsurprisingly unreliable and both sank to the murky depths of our tiny garden pond. So sad.

Then there was sacrificing one to the pagan gods via teeny tiny wicker (paper mache) man for Beltane. I'm not sure if they wanted it but they got it.

[girlslikestarlight]

cultivating self love ✮⋆˙

it is time to fall in love with yourself. have you seen a girl who's just come back from a wonderful date and she sparkles and she can't stop smiling? that's the glow of love! and this is something we can cultivate by falling in love with ourselves... and improving our quality of life.

<image from pinterest, resource used: becoming the one by sheleana aiyana>

YOUR INNER RELATIONSHIP BEGINS WITH...

Building confidence and self-trust

You're the most dependable girl you know! When you make a promise to yourself, you keep that promise. When you set an intention, you live by that intention. You know who you are and you live by your values.

Taking time for yourself

This could look like a gorgeous self-date (taking yourself out shopping or to a restaurant you wanted to try), a self-care evening, or just a moment of being mindful of your breath and tuning in to your body.

Deepening in self-compassion

This looks a lot like shadow work. It's important that you meet your defense mechanisms and destructive patterns with love and empathy.

Giving your emotions a voice

It takes a lot of distance and therapy to acknowledge the feelings UNDERNEATH your feelings. Some of us are way better at this than others. As girls, we are often socialised to bottle up our anger, but being able to stand up for yourself and speaking to your rage is a step towards feeling more understood.

Understanding your capacity

Taking breaks and finding unscheduled time will prevent burnout. Simplifying your life is beneficial to mental health. Is there a responsibility you won't miss?

Forgiving your past selves

When that embarassing memory comes up, you need to just pelt yourself with kindness. Have compassion for mistakes! Honour your journey!

Staying true to your values

When you know who you are, when you know what you believe in, decisions will be made easier and your life will be directed by the glow you hold inside.

Expressing yourself

It's time for open and vulnerable conversations with the people you love. Your feelings have value, and the people who love you will hold space for that.

Asking for support

Can come in the form of mentorship or friendship or counselling depending on your needs, but you are a resourceful girl. You're not too proud to ask for help -- and that makes you lovely.

[mykiddeservedit]

Thread by Thread: ReBinding What’s Mine

“The healing comes in the making.” – Emily McDowell My Interpretation: I do not need a spa day. I need a knife, thread, & paper. Because every time I stitch something together, I remember that I still can. That I still do. That I am not broken – I am rebuilding. Hardcover Heart: Thread by Thread There is this idea out there that self-care means bath bombs & skincare routines.Face masks.…

Thread by Thread: ReBinding What’s Mine

[nekosaskia-v2]

Been trying some diy radical honesty DBT (Dialectical behavior therapy) with my wife (both BPD) where we take a xanax or 2 and then try to talk honestly about our past trauma, problems in our relationship, and sex life and all that stuff. We've only been doing it for like 2 weeks and it's honestly been life-changing. It's helped our relationship so much, especially in vocalizing things that we otherwise just bottle up until one of us snaps at the other. It's been very successful at helping us be more open and honest about how our BPD makes polyamory hard because of irrational jealousy confronting the level of severe codependence we've ended up in. And it's been super helpful in reframing and untangling my wife's sexual/emotional trauma by challenging the narrative that she formed at the time and has reinforced since, creating a scapegoat out of a guy she had a traumatic but non-abusive relationship who hurt her really badly emotionally and had some very bad experiences with taking her virginity when she was like 14, and then projecting all the trauma that happened concurrently and afterwards with getting groomed online by multiple adult men on to him because it's easier to do that to an ex who hurt you irl than an actual predator who is just an avatar sending you texts and pictures online.

[dlfgnns]

why pay for therapy when you can just cry over fictional things and apply it to your life 💯

[florencexxxlife2]

taking therapy into my own hands=

writing a page of positive affirmations bc i spoke in lecture today

it’s basically exposure therapy

[just-here-yelling-at-the-void]

Why is it I feel so ashamed with myself when I can't remember the content of books that I've read in the past?