My Kid Deserved It (Probably)

Just a mom, learning on the daily. Blogging, whether it’s about life, love, loss, or everything in-between. It will always be unfiltered & completely honest.

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Most people hear songs about leaving. I hear songs about being misunderstood. A reflection on Noah Kahan’s ‘Dashboard’ and ‘The Great Divide’, assumptions, compassion, grief, and what it means to finally feel understood. #noah kahan #dashboard #the great divide #being misunderstood #friendship #grief #healing #personal growth #mental health #trauma recovery #self awareness #empathy #writers on tumblr #life thoughts #midwest blogger

Dashboard, The Great Divide, And The Stories People Tell

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Being Told I am “Obsessive”

“The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you.” -Stephanie Perkins My Interpretation: I think people misunderstand intensity when it is paired with self-awareness. Because from the outside, preparation can look excessive. Research can look obsessive. Passion can look like “too much.” But I do not think there is anything wrong with caring deeply enough to…

Being Told I am “Obsessive”

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I am not reminding anyone I exist this year. If you do not see me - you do not get me. #boundaries #selfrespect #healing #growth #relationships #emotionalintelligence #personal #writing #empowerment #lettinggo

The Year I Stopped Reminding People I Exist

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I stopped reminding people it was my birthday. The silence said more than anything else ever could. #birthday #selfworth #healing #boundaries #growth #trauma #awareness #relationships #personal #writing #realtalk

The Birthday Audit

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Sourdough is either thriving or ruining my confidence and there is no in between. Also, I do not want holes in my bread, and I am standing by that. #sourdough #sourdough starter #baking #bread making #home baking #baking fails #chaotic baking #sourdough problems #homemade bread #kitchen chaos #alpha hole starter #i argue with my dough #kitchen aid betrayal #this bread is gaslighting me #dense bread is fine just toast it #anti crust club #sandwich bread supremacy

Alpha-Hole: Control Issues And Why I Do Not Respect Your Air Bubbles

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Alpha-Hole's unwavering trust in me shows that sometimes, the most honest reflections of our lives come from the things we least expect. #mental health #self awareness #healing #burnout #daily rituals #sourdough starter #writing #personal growth #quiet thoughts #life patterns

Alpha-Hole Knows Before I Do

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Adventure is inconvenient, but it forces us to embrace who we are. One dark highway moment with a tumbleweed and a sleeping kid taught me that not everything needs to be magical. It's okay to just be. And Rowan? He taught me that laughter stays when you're not bracing for impact. #longreads #wild west #travel #motherhood #adventure #petty revenge #tumbleweedhumor

The West Was Not Gentle

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In Goose, I find a familiar wildness and unafraid spirit, echoing Koby’s legacy. Though he is not my ‘perfect pumpkin,’ his chaotic charm fills the void with laughter and love, reminding me that some hearts expand, not close. #German Shepherd #CastOfThisChaos #puppylove #longpost #soul dog #puppy

Meet Goose

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Amidst unhurried streets and soft light, Rowan and I discovered that sometimes the most profound healing comes from simply playing outside together. We were not sightseeing. We were testing joy. #writing #wild west #travel #park bench thoughts #blogging #motherhood #healing

The Softness of The West

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This space is not closing - it is changing. The archive remains, but survival is no longer the headline. This is about writing from the scar, not the wound. #healingjourney #lifeaftersurvival #integration #nervoussystem #personalessay #longpost #millennialwriting #intentionalliving

The Future of This Blog

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This is the end of the series. Not a rewrite of the past - a release. About putting the story down, closing the door quietly, and choosing what comes next. #closure #lettinggo #healingwriting #boundaries #cyclebreaking #longread #traumainformed #selftrust #millennialwriting

Part 5: What I Am Setting Down

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Cracking is not leaving. It is the moment you stop lying to yourself - even if you stay longer. This post is about quiet clarity, grief, and the slow dismantling of survival conditioning. #healingjourney #awakening #traumarecovery #motherhoodtruth #selfawareness #longpost #healingwriting #millennialvoices

Part 4: What Finally Cracked

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We do not misname love because we are naive. We misname it because it feels familiar. This post is about endurance, obligation, coercion, and why recognizing harm does not always mean leaving right away. #relationshiptrauma #traumabond #emotionalabuseawareness #healingwriting #longread #selftrust #patternrecognition #millennialwomen #nervoussystem

Part 3: What I Misnamed As Love

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Silence is not always guilt. Sometimes it is restraint. This is about erosion, loyalty used against you, and what happens when you outlast the lie. #emotionalabuse #betrayal #gaslighting #selftrust #healingwriting #longread #millennialvoices #traumapatterns #silence

Interlude 2: The Wreckage

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This is not about who died. It is about what happens when grief layers instead of resolving. When loss becomes an environment - and love learns to brace instead of rest. #grief #cumulativeloss #attachmenttrauma #nervoussystem #healingwriting #longpost #millennialwriting #traumainformed #ghostyears

Interlude: The Ghost Years

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Trauma does not survive on one event alone. It survives when the environment confirms the lesson instead of interrupting it. This post is about repetition - not blame - and how patterns form quietly over time. #familytrauma #emotionalneglect #cyclebreaking #patternrecognition #traumainformed #longpost #healingwriting #attachmentwounds #millennialvoices

Part 2: What Repeated

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Some experiences do not arrive as memories. They arrive as wiring. This is a non-graphic, trauma-informed piece about childhood harm, survival patterns, and what the justice system often fails to protect. If this feels familiar, you are not alone - and you are not broken. #childhoodtrauma #traumainformed #nervoussystem #healingwriting #longread #patternrecognition #justicefailed #millennialwriting #survivalmode #youarenotalone

Part 1: What I Was Given Too Early