I get frustrated/angry at all the people that say, ‘You’re dwelling in the past.’ Or ‘You can’t look back because it’s over.’
It’s NOT over when you have emotional trauma.
So okay… what if someone gets in a horrible car wreck, has been jacked up, and has to have surgery?
What, they’re supposed to just get back in another car and never remember how bad their wreck was??? 😢
I mean…. It’s not fair!! People do not understand what you’ve been through. The abuse was invisible, and so are the wounds. You can’t cry enough and express it to people.
They say you’re not forgiving or you’re just into the ‘idea of that ex-person.’ 😝 Noooo, that ex-person love-bombed you! What idea are you supposed to have then??? They’re continually saying they love you and they’re obsessed with you. I obviously fell for it and yet I’m the one obsessed and can’t ‘forgive or forget.’
I’m the one confused, yet I’m dwelling because I think of it so much, trying to make sense of it all because I’m not ‘moving on.’
OKAY, and what about someone who almost drowned as a kid and now has a fear of water?? I guess it doesn’t matter. They’re not allowed to remember it because they’re not ‘forgiving the water,’ and they’re supposed to just jump into the next pool and ‘move on’ ????
DO YOU HEAR HOW THAT SOUNDS???
Almost as if the person isn’t allowed to fear the water 🤔 even though it almost took their life.
Healing takes time. Trust me, I pray my heart out and feel like all is well, but then suddenly something triggers me and I STILL feel so much. Not sure it fully goes away.
You try to keep going forward and not dwell in the past, but it’s forever a part of you and your story. Yes, it’s just a chapter in your story, but one that impacted you!!! It’s a significant chapter. One that’s led you to this chapter of healing you’re in.
Don’t give up, and when people say stuff like ‘get over it,’ remember they don’t understand ❤️🩹 Just ask God for strength and don’t hide your face. It’s going to be okay. 🙏🏻 ONE DAY AT A TIME!!
