#disabled rant

[autisticautonomy]

"disability isn't a social construct because I'd still be dis-" Hey maybe before you poo-poo the entire foundation of critical disability studies learn the difference between "socially constructed" and "not real". You can't pride yourself on being "pro Disabled" and not have any actual interest in Disabled theory or liberation.

[hisbrunetteroots]

POTS flare ups aren't just standing up and being lightheaded, it can also be :

- falling over and hurting yourself

- uncontrollable shaking

- hyperventilating

- your heart beat being the loudest thing you can hear

- being able to see your chest move due to the heart palpitations (really frightening to witness for me)

- head pounding

- eyes shaking or rolling back

- blurred vision

- disorganized speech or just unable to speak

- hot flushes (feeling "a wave of heat" out of no where)

- throwing up or feeling like you could

- unable to move / difficulty moving

- seizure-like movements

And more

[66kenobi66]

Now all the ableism in Helluva is terrible but this one gets to me specifically>>>

T/CW: Ableism, R-Slur

I think it's because there WAS a joke that could of worked here. She's a nurse in the Sloth ring so maybe she's stalling and acting dumb because she's just lazy and doesn't wanna do her job.

BUT NO!

They had to turn it into yet another joke about how all mentally disabled people are just a bunch of useless retards who can't do anything but drool all over themselves and waste everyone's time like the helpless things they are.

Hell, they almost had Blitz call her a retard but they pussied out at the last moment because "Ha-ha, he almost called this random woman a retard because she can't read! Ableism is so funny and cute and cool!! Disabled people don't deserve basic respect!!! 😂🤣😋"

Sorry this has just been bugging me and I needed to get my anger out :/

[my-heads-gonna-explode]

People who think that ableism against mentally disabled people either isn't real or is "mild" have never been...

- restrained and yelled at during a meltdown

- denied the ability to transition because people won't let them make choices about their own bodies (and then have that issue get completely ignored by neurotypical trans people)

- abused by their own parents for behaving in ways that look weird or rude even though they can't help it

- sent to an underfunded and often neglectful special ed school so their neurotypical peers don't have to see or deal with them

- forced to constantly focus on acting in a way that feels unnatural and stressful to them in order to mask their disability and avoid further abuse

- physically assaulted for things like "acting crazy," having hallucinations, taking medication that neurotypical people think is scary, etc.

- denied accomodations at school or work because people decided they're so stupid they're not worth the effort

- locked up in a psych ward against their will

- unable to shower, shop for groceries, or other basic care needs because of overstimulation, executive dysfunction, and other mental health issues.

- treated like subhuman because they have an intellectual or developmental disability and need people to take care of them 24/7

... And it shows.

Mental disability is not fucking Disability Lite. If you think that the only ableism we face is occasionally being called a mean word, you're part of the problem. We have every right to be angry about the way we're treated.

And no disabled people, whether mentally or physically disabled, should have to be all smiley and positive just to make the people who constantly abuse us comfortable.

[matchakuracat]

Being asked to rate your pain on a scale as someone who has had chronic pain for several years is so difficult. Like how am I supposed to rate the pain I am experiencing from 1-10 when I have no idea what it feels like to not be in pain. Like what is 0? what is 1?? what is even 10???? What am I comparing it to???? My 5 can be someone else's 10 and their 10 can be someone else's 2, and how is a doctor or anyone else for that matter supposed to tell the difference? Maybe it's because I'm autistic and I'm just overthinking it but it literally makes no sense to me.

[eyesoftheavatar]

The things you hear doctors say when you are disabled is always medical abuse and neglect.

I have been told my two week long neck pain the was so severe I couldn't turn my head one direction was because I have a fan in my room. Turns out it was because my bed was tilted and my body was being smashed into my head.

I have been told that the visible shaking was "a perfectly normal amount of visible shaking"... what is the "perfectly normal amount of visible shaking" you might ask? None. Everyone has some shake to their hands and such, it should never be visible or noticeable unless when holding a pen or pencil and even then.

"Seeing double is normal" literally isnt still dont know why I do that.

"These seizure episodes are all very different" they werent "very different" they were sort of different in the way you expect epileptic seizures to be different. "You dont have epilepsy" okay then explain why my topiromate gets rid of them? Fuck you.

"You should just exercise" okay how do I do that without hurting my joints due to heds? How do I do that without passing out due to pots? How do I do that without aggravating what is most certainly mcas? "I'll research it" never to be heard from again but to be told to vaguely exercise again.

This is all in one location and I dont think most people would guess the right location.

I've had a doctor tell me to eat a fucking banana when I said I thought my potassium was low again. Yeah that'll fix it.

I've had doctor's over and over and over tell me im too young to have these problems. And then get offended when I end the appointment. "I didnt mean it like that." I dont give a fuck how you meant it, it was condescending and dismissive, fuck yourself.

I've had combative and drug seeking in every single fucking chart I have ever had because I dared to advocate for myself.

You dont just walk in somewhere and get diagnosed with all your fucking problems and chronic illnesses. And you certainly dont waltz into an er and get answers, they cant diagnose you and even if they could they fucking wouldnt because they'd rather send you home with some fucking ibuprofen. I still dont have answers for half the shit wrong with me and even with the answers I do have I have no idea what to do with them except to get fucked. I need a wheelchair in a place that is so inaccessible that 90% of the time its better to just stay home.

And they won't ever give a fuck unless you are a cishet white man or if your cishet white husband tells them its interfering with your sex lives. People have literally brought cishet white men to appointments with them to pretend to be their partners to say exactly that and it got them fucking results.

That shouldnt fucking happen.

I shouldn't be stuck wondering if my life is just... sitting in a room for the rest of my life wondering if there's something I could be doing but the doctors wont tell me. They should be able to tell me how to handle it or refer me to someone who can. But they dont want to do that. So I mourn the person I was and the person I could be instead.

[disabled-planet]

TW discussion about fakeclaiming

Fakeclaiming is wrong.

Yes, fakers are horrible people.

But so are people who freely fakeclaim.

Use your energy on more pressing issues about disabilities.

DNI if you fake claim and support it.

If you are not a doctor, you cannot tell a stranger in the internet if they are valid or not. I don’t care that you have an official diagnosis, you just can’t tell. Also, asking people about their medical history and trauma isn’t just a breach of their privacy but also traumatizing.

Not everyone who self-diagnoses is faking. Fake-claiming someone who self-diagnoses, in my opinion, is classist. Not every can afford a diagnosis or experience discrimination so they cannot obtain one or for any other reason.

Again, there are more important issues and discussions to address as an advocate.

[griddleharkbrainrot]

X Men Vent Post

I don't know which I hate more, when people erase Charles being disabled or when they have Erik control his wheelchair. Like I was reading a nice fluff fic but then there was a throwaway line about how when Charles and Erik fight, Erik uses his power to freeze Charles' chair. That is NOT okay on so many levels. Controlling another person's movement like that and restricting their autonomy is abusive. There is an entire movement of people putting spikes on their wheel chair handles to stop others from doing this. For able-bodied people, this is the equivalent of being tied to a chair or physically restrained by someone's arms. What really pisses me off though is just how prevalent this is in fics; I've seen Charles wheelchair frozen, mangled, had the wheels removed, and it's always played off as not a big deal or a joke when in reality it could be a death sentence preventing someone from getting food or water. I know I'm getting unnecessarily upset about fiction but I just needed to rant

Part of the reason this really upsets me is I am myself disabled and currently dealing with separation from my mobility aid. As I'm typing this, I am stuck in a basement with a flight of stairs I can't climb cause my cane is not with me. I don't have access to food, water, or the outside until one of my family members comes home to help me