#nonbinary issues

[dduane]

Sir Ian McKellen to open historic all-trans and nonbinary production of Twelfth Night

Director Phoebe Kemp said: "Twelfth Night already toys with gender and performance – it feels like Shakespeare wrote it for us"

"Director Phoebe Kemp said in a statement: “Twelfth Night already toys with gender and performance – it feels like Shakespeare wrote it for us. This reading is about joy, solidarity and showing what’s possible when trans and nonbinary artists are at the centre of the story.”"

[mybitakes]

if you are a non-binary person it is VERY important that you throw away ideas of being valid and being "real". we are in the age where having pronoun pins and liking steven universe is the biggest offense because that's too clocky but misgendering random people is okay. like you genuinely do not have to care if you are a theymab or not, that's not your concern. it has absolutely zero to do with you, you're beyond that now.

most of the world and systems that we have now are working to deny our existence and hurt us, that does not become morally correct just because the person who is invalidating you is on twitter and calls themselves a transsexual. and I hate that we have regressed so fast that diet transmed ass rhetoric is hard to push back against. they will say the same things you would see kalvin garrah say but slip in a cissexual here and there to pretend they are clocking shit.

you gotta stop debating and arguing with people who shit on other trans people like that. makes them think that their takes are legitimate and worth putting on an equal playing ground. you do not need to entertain convos with people who think being gendered correctly is a privilege you have to earn. most of them do not have that much energy and bass in their voice when it comes to cis people, genuinely.

to get a picture of how idiotic it is, imagine organizing a safe space for trans people in real life and then calling the young trans person that walked in a theyfab because they wore a lesboy pin. most of these people have the common sense to not do that in real life because they know they sound weird as fuck. there's bigger fish to fry.

[lgbtqiatext]

[moonjay-the-forest-spirit]

Can we please stop calling people "they/thems"? It really comes off as dehumanising. You don't say he/hims or she/hers you say men and women, because yknow men and women are people? Nonbinary folk are people too, not all of us even use they/them and we are more than just the pronouns we use regardless. Even when criticising queer people for being racist/ableist/etc can we not be transphobic? I know it's "not that deep" but actually, you know what? It is.

[nonbinarynow]

"haha I thought that said exorcism!"

Okay? Why tell us this? What's the point of coming into a space where people are using accurate vocabulary for describe the systemic oprression and social discrimination they face to subtly mock the vocabulary? It doesn't matter if you don't mean it as mockery, it is still a childish comment that completely details the conversation, as everyone is now invested in educating the binary person who doesn't know nonbinary language or school the person making a joke out of it. Maybe this is just a pet peeve of mine, but it's profoundly irritating nonetheless.

You do not have to tell us what you thought it was or make a joke, or go into places of active theorising and conversation and make it all about your lack of knowledge of nonbinary terminology. As a binary or very binary aligned person, you must be aware of the supremacy you hold, unfortunately even in nonbinary centred spaces. Do not make these spaces for talking about our issues amongst one another become about your misunderstandings.

[i-bet-the-max-limit-is-32-symbol]

people being willfully or unwillfully ignorant to the extent of nonbinary oppression is in and of itself exorsexist as it re-enforces the notion of nonbinary people as a "fake/illegitimate/unserious" gender group as opposed to the "real/legitimate/serious" gender binary; it furthers the passive yet chronic marginalization of nonbinary identities and contributes to the uphill battle of nonbinary issues to be recognized and seen as legitimate let alone acted upon and meaningfully changed. people using & perpetuating oversimplified and superficial frameworks for viewing and dealing with exorsexism (e.g. only accounting for purely transmasc and purely transfem nonbinary people and ignoring all other nonbinary identities) also contributes to the unwillful ignorance stated previously and also re-enforces the notion of nonbinary issues being mundane/unimportant/easily addressed compared to the issues of binary gendered people.

[masomutilation]

Nonbinary tumblr tags, summarized #Nonbinary: Mostly just transmascs and random bullshit but still probably the best tag #Enby: Almost exclusively just transmascs. #Enbian: 50% lesbians or transmascs (probably looking to be exorsexist to nonbinaries). Barely gets any posts. #Exorsexism: Mostly just transmascs coopting the tag to talk about whatever online discourse. Performative activism at its finest #Enbyphobia: Same thing as #exorsexism, and im pretty sure viewing the tag doesnt properly work anymore so it’s kind of useless #Nonbinary Issues: Closest thing to an actually functional discussion tag but still faces the same issue as the other ones Any Other Tag: either follows the same patterns as these ones, hasnt been used in years or has like 5 posts. Wow! I feel so represented! READING COMPREHENSION TEST:

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[how-do-these-people-exist]

God I know there's so much discussion on transmisogyny/transandrophobia but I really wish people talked about exorsexism as well. Like, okay, so- I'm trying to look into local LGBT groups in my area to connect with community and everything, but uh- A lot of the groups are "gay men (and nonbinary people too I guess, but no cis women.)" or "lesbian women (and nonbinary people too i guess, but no cis men.)"

I'm not kidding. I genuinely couldn't find any gender-neutral LGBTQ+ groups, they were ALL categorized by gender in this way and it really made me feel grossed out and unwelcome as someone on the nonbinary spectrum because like. Great. I'm either "man-lite" or "woman-lite" in this scenario. I have to choose between joining the "gay men's" community or the "gay women's community" instead of just. y'know, the fucking lgbt community as a whole? And before anyone says anything about "oh well maybe it's just dating-" no. No it isn't. I did not filter for dating groups only or any of that shit. I genuinely only saw gay men or gay women centered groups. Some of those included dating, yes, but the majority of them did not.

It's just. Genuinely frustrating. On so many levels. I really wish the LGBTQ community as a whole would stop treating nonbinary people as some "other" that can fit into whatever category- like? Does anyone else get that feeling? That it's not just, being inclusive to nonbinary people, but that the majority of the time it feels like "men, women, and if you're neither of those, whatever, you're welcome as long as you're close enough to the gender I prefer."

Like it feels like a lot of the time when non-nb-spectrum people talk about/mention nonbinary people in a sentence, with the whole "girls, gays, theys" and shit like that. It feels dehumanizing, honestly. It doesn't feel like it acknowledges the spectrum of gender, it feels like it's just, "girls, boys, and-" using nonbinary as one singular third gender. Instead of, y'know, a spectrum?? Which it is?? It generally feels like a lot of people percieve being nonbinary as being this one, unified androgynous gender. Instead of what it really is, which is an UMBRELLA to refer to people who don't feel fully comfortable in the labels of "boy/girl or man/woman," but as anything on that spectrum from partially a boy/girl or man/woman, to being neither a boy/girl or man/woman. I dunno. It's just frustrating. I may be transmasc but the fucking keyword there is MASC. I do go by he/they and if I have to be percieved as boy or girl I'd rather be percieved as a guy, but I still want to be percieved as androgynous masc-leaning by people who are open enough to acknowledge the spectrum of gender identity. I want to have the choice about the fluidity of my identity, I don't want to be forced to identify as a man or a woman, especially when it feels like just genuinely fucking frustrating that these spaces would prefer I force myself into a binary box in order to be a nonbinary person accepted in their community -_-