#pseudomemories

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for introjects without source memories!

Source memories are not a requirement or a prerequisite for an introject to form. In fact, there are many introjects out there who formed with no source memories whatsoever, and that’s okay! This post goes out to all the introjects out there without source memories!

🌸 Shoutout to introjects who feel bad or lesser than other introjects due to not having source memories!

🌱 Shoutout to introjects whose lack of source memories makes it difficult for them to fit into introject spaces and communities!

🌼 Shoutout to introjects who are comfortable and happy with their lack of source memories!

🌱 Shoutout to introjects who have amnesia surrounding source memories, or had source memories at one point, but have since forgot them!

🌸 Shoutout to introjects who still connect and identify with their source despite not having source memories!

🌱 Shoutout to introjects who have pseudomemories or exomemories which are not tied to their source in any way!

🌼 Shoutout to introjects with memory issues who genuinely don’t know whether or not they have source memories!

🌱 Shoutout to introjects who formed with no memories at all and had to start from scratch with learning about the world around them!

🌸 Shoutout to introjects who feel unwelcome or excluded in the plural community due to a lack of source memories!

🌱 Shoutout to introjects without source memories whose source is simply not a big part of their life or something they think a lot about!

There are limitless ways to be an introject and to experience life as a system member sourced from something else. Introjects without source memores have always been and will always be such special, valid, and treasured members of our spaces and the systems they inhabit! If you are an introject without source memories, we want to remind you that you are still loved just the way you are. You don’t need to have source memories in order to be accepted as a headmate or as an introject.

We hope all introjects without source memories can have a wonderful day today. Remember that you are important and valued as you are today, right now, and you don’t need source memories at all in order for these things to be true! We hope that you can find some peace, joy, and self-acceptance in your life, if not today, then sometime soon. Until then, know that we care about you and we are rooting for you in all that you do!

[the-call-center]

Does anyone have any tips on dealing with missing someone from pseudomemories (ik some prefer the term exomemories, but we find pseudomemory more accurate and comforting for us /info) when you don't have a source? I miss someone from my pseudomemories a lot and I cant use the usual tricks to do with sources

[our-inspire-verse]

Hey systems! I'm very curious and would like to explore the topic, maybe make videos or something about it one day.

Do you do anything to help recover source memories? Does it come to you naturally? Do you have tips, tricks or stories about it?

Something I've wondered about since discovering our system, yet something I've never really seen talked about in the past 3+ years I've been in system communities.

[npd-hottakes]

There is nothing abusive or manipulative about feeling hurt and traumatized by false memories, and it is in fact abusive to pretend those memories didn't happen because the memories are real to the person. Saying a person's false memories never happened and are completely irrelevent and never looking into them is 1. comparable to gaslighting, 2. medical neglect, and 3. emotional neglect

If someone is experiencing false memories of things that feel hurtful and traumatized by they need to see a therapist or psychiatrist to help them work out their false memories because at that point it would obviously be causing tension in a relationship. Ignoring the tensions caused by them is emotional neglect, not trying to get the person help is medical neglect, and pretending as if someone's genuine experiences are not real will eventually induce the same effects as gaslighting regardless of if you intend to gaslight the person or not

I've got so many false memories, and when you think about it, there's no way to know someone isn't lying and telling you your real memories are fake.

[phasefunhouse]

I’ll allways enjoy being broken,. It was conditionedd into me from bbirth ! I hhate it!

[thesnowchesterfog]

There is a small grave by the sea. I leave flowers there when I can get out of bed. They die quickly in the cold, but. I clear the snow away when it falls. You were always so warm and bright, I don’t want you to be cold. I couldn’t get your discs back- I left a music box there for you anyways. Maybe in the after you can play music again. Maybe you can make your own. Sometimes I can’t make it to the grave and I just. Fall in the snow and lie there. It’s okay, I’m used to the cold. I miss when i wasn’t.

[sophieinwonderland]

Between this terminology discourse and tulpamancy itself, I'm beginning to think a lot of these people just... Honestly have no idea how etymology works. Almost all words can be traced back to other words, that's just... How it works?? You're literally never going to be able to produce a word that doesn't have SOME kind of etymological root, save for complete nonsese words. That's not how language works. If we applied this kind of "logic" to medical terminology it would break down the community in a matter of seconds. It's common knowledge that the name for medically diagnosed dissociative plurality wasn't switched from MPD to DID in order to give systems autonomy, but to invalidate personhood of alters, and everybody just moves along with it anyways because most people ended up agreeing it's a better term regardless, and that's a MUCH more egregious case of ableism than "freud used a similar word a long time ago". Medical terminology is LITTERED with ableism and awful people, but it's understood how language evolves and changes due to the social connotations of the time, and having a word to unite under is IMPORTANT. The double standards here are actually painful. If the sysmeds want to start pulling this stuff, they should look inwards as well. (But since when have they done that? It's not about moral and logical consistency for them. They'll use any hypocrisy to harrass people for existing.)

All of this!

And you know, on the double standards, can we also talk about pseudomemories?

In the plural community, pseudomemories are used to refer to memories from your source or to things that happened in your inner world.

This popular claim going around is claiming endogenic is a harmful term because it's related to endogenous, a very common word referring to things having an internal cause that's occasionally been used to refer to the fantasy model. Let's see what the top results are when you look up the word endogenous!

As you can see, these are a lot of general definitions.

This makes sense. It's an old word. Lots of different meanings in different contexts. Generally has nothing to do with systems or plurality.

Let's look at pseudomemories now:

It's a pretty huge red flag that the second link is an entry about False Memory Syndrome.

If you look at the history of the term, it's actually long been associated not with inner world or source memories as we use it but with false memories of trauma. Let's try that same experiment on Google Scholar:

So why is "endogenic" criticized for "endogenous" being occasionally used to refer to memories being internally produced, while they largely turn a blind eye to pseudomemories?

I'll give you three guesses.

And the first two don't count.

It's really something how certain bad actors are so intent on manufacturing controversy around endogenic terms because vaguely related general words have been used in relation to the fantasy model occasionally, but completely turn a blind eye to terms whose histories are inseparable from false memory syndrome, and allegations of fake trauma memories.

It's just pure hypocrisy.

Yet another made-up smear campaign against the endogenic community in a long line of smears.

[antiendofictives]

I hate that every introject in our system who has traumatic pseudomemories can with almost 100% certainty guarantee that their memories actually happened to the body. Without fail.

I hate that my memories specifically happened to the body... but I can't do anything to change it, I just have to live with the fact that I hold that trauma...

-🪶 from 🧋 sys

im so sorry about that 🪶, it really sucks. Trauma is the worst and pseudomemories just suck. I can't offer much in terms of comfort, but I hope you and your system are safe and happy