#queermisogyny

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

I'm an intersex transfemmasc, and my womanhood is constantly denied just like it always has been simply because i'm butch and have androgenised traits due to being intersex

This is intermisogyny and butchphobia.

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

I was once in the car with my dad, who had just picked me up from my moms house (Split, never married). We had just gotten across the hill (about 2 minutes from my moms house) and he somehow gets on the topic of trans people.

He says blatantly, "When people tell you that you can be anything you want, they don't usually mean a man can be a woman or whatever." He's laughing afterwards like the idea is silly or funny.

I had only just figured out that I wasn't even remotely cis, was going by agender at the time but that label didn't fully fit, so now I'm between that and transmasc, idk gender is weird. I of course didn't tell him, but it's been years and I still occasionally remember this conversation.

Also, he would always make me dress, for lack of better word coming to mind, girly. A bra, girls underwear, a purse, the pants with no pockets, etc. Wouldn't let me cut my hair short (only to hold doing so over my head like a punishment, making it seem taboo/bad).

I just wanted to be myself... why was that such a bad thing?

This is transphobia (his comment was transgynephobia and his behavior towards you is transandrophobia.)

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

I have nothing in my inbox btw. Same for @this-is-amato-heteronormativity and @this-is-anti-masculinity

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

Shout out to trans women and varsex women who have paraphilic disorders and are told they are "proving transphobes right."

Those people are ableist if they think you have a choice in what disorder you have, and they are queermisogynystic because they are essentially implying you should detransition or otherwise be isolated from womanhood because you "feed into stereotypes."

Having a paraphilic disorder does not make you any less of a woman, nor does it make you a predator.

And even if a trans or varsex woman is a predator, that's separate from their gender or sex, and is not an excuse to misgender or malgender them, or be ableist towards people with paraphilic disorders. Predatory behavior doesn't negate a person's queer identity, and to claim that it does means you see someone's queerness as a privilege to be stripped away rather than an inherent aspect of one's self.

[emrosedeleon]

Compulsory heterosexuality?

Don't you mean - internalized pericisamatoheteronormativity?

Like lesbians, as a lesbian - lesbians do not exclusively experience a unique manifestation of presuming oneself to be, and convincing oneself that you're actually unqueer because the idea of accepting yourself is scary.

Like totally, there is a unique intersection of queerphobia and misogyny which is experienced by all queer women, but like that is not unique to (pericisalloallomonosexial) (white) lesbians - it is in fact the least impactful for that presumptive category.

Grow the fuck up.