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Signs of emotional abuse, and someone who's been mentally abused.
If someone around you has/is being mentally abused they will
🌕 Breakdown during small arguments
🌕 Need a lot of reassurance
🌕 Struggle to put their guard down
🌕 Be hypersensitive to critism
🌕 Feel like they're "not enough"
It's okay to have this habits, they are defense mechanism. Fight, flight, fawn, and freeze. All of these will fall into one of those categories. It is okay to survive with the skills you have.
When you are ready to grow & develop new skills, you can work to remove these traits as habits. Always remember to unconditionally love yourself. Love yourself like a mother would love their child. 💜🙏🏻🙇🏻♂️ Be your own love & support.
Red flags of someone emotionally abusing you & when to run.
🌑 Your feelings are often dismissed or belitted
🌑 Jealousy of your relationships with others
🌑 Threatening to hurt themselves
🌑 Using guilt/compassion to control you
🌑 "Gaslighting" rewriting events to convince you they happened certain way
🌑 Blaming you for their actions
🌑 Your boundaries don't matter
🌑 Their needs are the only ones that matter
🌑 Blaming you for things in their life going wrong
🌑 Shaming you into not talking about it
🌑 Nothing you say or do is good enough
🌑 They "love bomb" you then mistreat you
🌑 Constant unfounded accusations and mistrust
🌑 Everything is one extreme or the other
🌑 Humiliating and berating you
🌱 If you mention you're being dismissed and belittled and they continue 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag
🌱 This can stem from trauma of abandonment & self esteem issues 👍🏻 can be worked on if you care to run the emotional labour risks
🌱 This is a big no go 🙅🏻♀️ Do not respond. Run Red Flag
🌱 Control can come from trauma of again abandonment and other things. Again you'll be taking on emotional labour State your boundaries and if they continue, 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag
🧝♂️ some just want control and/or are not ready to change yet and that's ok. Everyone moves at their own pace, but remember you matter and do not deserve abuse. Everyone also deserves a change at love and healing. This is balance in my druid view. Weight the pros and cons and decide if this is a risk you want to take. Everything in life has risks.
🌱 Gaslighting is a no go 🙅🏻♀️ state your side, demand accountability and responsibility. Hold boundaries to keep yourself self here. If they persist and will not discuss it you need to cut them 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red flag
🔴 Gaslighting comes from them not admitting to what happened. This is not okay.
🌱 Nobody is to blame for their actions but themselves. Again as above stated, accountability, responsibility, and boundaries.
🌱 If your boundaries do not matter 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag. Boundaries are there for a reason. If they cannot respect you, you need to respect you and run.
🌱 Your needs matter. Period. If they won't put Ur needs into priority 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag
🌱 Again with the blame, same as before.
🌱 Shaming you into not talking about it is a big no go 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag
🌱 Nothing you say or do is good enough because they are trying to control you and keep you easy to control 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag
🌱 Boundaries are important. NO means NO.
🌱 Love bombing is when they shower you with affection so much you can't notice anything else but all the love and affection you are getting 🙅🏻♀️ pace yourself & hold boundaries. Do not let someone love bomb. Love bomb can be a trauma thing where someone can't control their excitement, but for both of you. Take your time and hold boundaries.
🌱 Constant unfounded accusations and mistrust could be a sign of trauma. Tread carefully here. Could be control, could be trauma. As stated before you need to weight risks but hold boundaries and make sure you are safe and not harmed. You matter. 8 billion people out there. You can't help everyone, and you don't need too. You do need to love yourself and care for yourself though.
🌱 Everything is one extreme or the other, is meant to sow distrust and self doubt. 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag if they will not respect your boundaries.
🌱 Humiliating and berating you should never be tolerated 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red Flag
All abuse steps from trauma but that does 🙅🏻♀️ NOT mean you need to take it. You are allowed to weight the risks of emotional labour and trauma. You are always allowed to do what you want, I will never stop anyone from doing what they want, I will give them education and advice though. Taking it is also up to the person. I am here to support and help.
Boundaries are VERY important they be held. Make sure you love yourself. Be aware of signs of emotional exhaustion, burnout, and depression. If something is making you depressed it is not good 🙅🏻♀️ Run Red flag
Any situation that you leave and feel any sort of negative over. That's your gut saying it's not healthy. Anytime I left my mother's I'd be stressed and like "good god that went decent". That is not good 🙅🏻♀️ you should not pray a situation goes okay EVERY time.
Please feel free to discuss, in a healthy manor. 🧝♂️🙇🏻♂️🙏🏻💜 Druid loves ya 😘