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What is Magic?

Magical practitioners use their intent and energy to manipulate the energy around them. We guide and push this energy into areas of our lives we wish to improve. A lot of it is self work to be honest, like bringing to surface what you dislike and using these energies to alter them. It is not always readily apparent or obvious, like in the movies, but over time you begin to notice the changes in the energy in you and around you. You have to do the work though. Put effort into it. Just like a job or workout plan. You can't go jogging once and expect to lose 20lbs, right? Likewise you cannot just smear some oils on a candle and light it and expect it to do the work. You have to look into these areas of your life and do the work. Magic gives you that push to do it. Magic is self empowerment to control your life in ways you couldn’t do on autopilot. Magic is not evil. Christians use magic, when they light candles, drink wine and eat bread imagining it is flesh and blood. Magic is the ability to control the outcome of events to a certain extent. You can’t break the laws of physics and universe, but you can use your intent and energy to get yourself what you want. One big part of magic for me, is trusting in the universe to have my back. Its proven stress, anxiety and negative thoughts will make your life more difficult. If I trust the universe, or some higher being to protect me and look after me, it takes off a lot of mental load. Things also end up working out for me, and I get “lucky” <3

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Exactly! 💜

Baby steps! Pretty much nobody in that world starts out good at something. You need experience. Would you play a video game and jump right into end content? Hopefully not! You'll miss a lot.

One must learn to do tummy time before they can even crawl. Crawling into baby steps, and then slowly learning to walk. It's a process, look at you now and how much experience you have. Did you start that way? No you started as a crying, pooping, boobie sucking baby 👶

💜 It's also 💯 okay to ask for help. Those who are learning things need assistance and that's 100% normal and okay. It doesn't make you weak or anything. It actually makes you stronger because you are willing to be vulnerable and expose yourself. Specially in today's society!

It's okay as well to have anxiety. Anxiety is our bodies defense mechanism but you can't let it over grow. You need to keep your mental garden we trimmed. An garden that isn't tended regularly will choke out things and become very difficult. Trim the anxiety plant, and challenges your ANT.

🐜 Ants are a fitting metaphor for a common psychological phenomenon. Dr. Daniel Amen appropriately coined the term, Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs). They refer to cynical, gloomy or complaining thoughts that seem to multiply and come unsolicited from the thinker.

Challenge them by asking them questions and looking for logical answers. "It's the possibility not the probability" is something I always say because I have bad anxiety and need a reminder. It doesn't matter if it is potentially probably to happen is it actually logically possible? What's the chances?

My EMDR therapist 8yrs ago taught me this. To challenge your negative thoughts and find the logic. Most ppl deep down, if they're being honest with themselves, won't admitted to a lie, specially about themselves.

Ie.. "I think I'm stupid and ugly"

Well, first off am I? Would a stupid person try to grow and become a better person? No.. Are you ugly or not happy with Ur current appearance? Well I'm within the golden ratio but I don't look how I feel inside....etc

And just sit down and have a discussion with yourself. Use a journal and challenges your ANTs, keep your anxiety trimmed. The more you let an ANT into your mental garden the more reinforced the neuro pathway will be. It's like when a dog walks the same path eventually it'll be worn in and harder to remove. 💜

Anyways this has been Anxiety tips from your local druid 😅😘 take care of yourself! If you ever need me you know how to reach out!

#anxiety #mental health #neurodiversity #love yourself #neurodivergent #self love #mentalheathawareness #positive mental attitude #mentalstrength #mental heath support #mental wellbeing #wellness

This!

Many ppl get a crush on me. I am very caring, affectionate, loving, supportive and friendly. It is PLATONIC love you are feeling (not romantic) because someone is giving you support and affection. There is more than 1 type of love out there, and it is ok to love people! 💜

Have boundaries for yourself, and don't let the person use you though 🛑 It's a trauma reaction when you haven't experienced much positive love and our society is profoundly sick when it comes to love, support and affection. Always make sure you are holding boundaries, if you feel uncomfortable say NO and hold the boundary.

If you ever need a mediator, or support it is ok. Ppl who say you can't go to others something is worrying you about them 🙅🏻‍♀️ Red flag they are manipulative. Just because someone gives you attention doesn't mean you owe them anything. You are allowed to say no at anytime, and you can end the relationship at any time you feel it's not working for you

💜 Remember you are worthy, you deserve the best, and you matter to many people. Every day you fight, and every day you love yourself it helps others who are watching silently from the background to fight their battles and it builds 💜

I'm here if you need to talk 💜 Druid loves you.

#mental health #self love #self growth #self help #self healing #healing #neurodiversity #trauma #ptsdsurvivor #pagan #love yourself #love #bpd stuff #boundaries #neurodivergent #self esteem #mentalheathawareness #mentalwellness

Do yourself, & others a favour and pass this around 💜

Signs of emotional abuse, and someone who's been mentally abused.

If someone around you has/is being mentally abused they will

🌕 Constantly apologize

🌕 Breakdown during small arguments

🌕 Need a lot of reassurance

🌕 Struggle to put their guard down

🌕 Be hypersensitive to critism

🌕 Hide their feelings

🌕 Feel like they're "not enough"

It's okay to have this habits, they are defense mechanism. Fight, flight, fawn, and freeze. All of these will fall into one of those categories. It is okay to survive with the skills you have.

When you are ready to grow & develop new skills, you can work to remove these traits as habits. Always remember to unconditionally love yourself. Love yourself like a mother would love their child. 💜🙏🏻🙇🏻‍♂️ Be your own love & support.

Red flags of someone emotionally abusing you & when to run.

🌑 Your feelings are often dismissed or belitted

🌑 Jealousy of your relationships with others

🌑 Threatening to hurt themselves

🌑 Using guilt/compassion to control you

🌑 "Gaslighting" rewriting events to convince you they happened certain way

🌑 Blaming you for their actions

🌑 Your boundaries don't matter

🌑 Their needs are the only ones that matter

🌑 Blaming you for things in their life going wrong

🌑 Shaming you into not talking about it

🌑 Nothing you say or do is good enough

🌑 No doesn't mean no

🌑 They "love bomb" you then mistreat you

🌑 Constant unfounded accusations and mistrust

🌑 Everything is one extreme or the other

🌑 Humiliating and berating you

🌱 If you mention you're being dismissed and belittled and they continue 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag

🌱 This can stem from trauma of abandonment & self esteem issues 👍🏻 can be worked on if you care to run the emotional labour risks

🌱 This is a big no go 🙅🏻‍♀️ Do not respond. Run Red Flag

🌱 Control can come from trauma of again abandonment and other things. Again you'll be taking on emotional labour State your boundaries and if they continue, 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag

🧝‍♂️ some just want control and/or are not ready to change yet and that's ok. Everyone moves at their own pace, but remember you matter and do not deserve abuse. Everyone also deserves a change at love and healing. This is balance in my druid view. Weight the pros and cons and decide if this is a risk you want to take. Everything in life has risks.

🌱 Gaslighting is a no go 🙅🏻‍♀️ state your side, demand accountability and responsibility. Hold boundaries to keep yourself self here. If they persist and will not discuss it you need to cut them 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red flag

🔴 Gaslighting comes from them not admitting to what happened. This is not okay.

🌱 Nobody is to blame for their actions but themselves. Again as above stated, accountability, responsibility, and boundaries.

🌱 If your boundaries do not matter 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag. Boundaries are there for a reason. If they cannot respect you, you need to respect you and run.

🌱 Your needs matter. Period. If they won't put Ur needs into priority 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag

🌱 Again with the blame, same as before.

🌱 Shaming you into not talking about it is a big no go 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag

🌱 Nothing you say or do is good enough because they are trying to control you and keep you easy to control 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag

🌱 Boundaries are important. NO means NO.

🌱 Love bombing is when they shower you with affection so much you can't notice anything else but all the love and affection you are getting 🙅🏻‍♀️ pace yourself & hold boundaries. Do not let someone love bomb. Love bomb can be a trauma thing where someone can't control their excitement, but for both of you. Take your time and hold boundaries.

🌱 Constant unfounded accusations and mistrust could be a sign of trauma. Tread carefully here. Could be control, could be trauma. As stated before you need to weight risks but hold boundaries and make sure you are safe and not harmed. You matter. 8 billion people out there. You can't help everyone, and you don't need too. You do need to love yourself and care for yourself though.

🌱 Everything is one extreme or the other, is meant to sow distrust and self doubt. 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag if they will not respect your boundaries.

🌱 Humiliating and berating you should never be tolerated 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red Flag

All abuse steps from trauma but that does 🙅🏻‍♀️ NOT mean you need to take it. You are allowed to weight the risks of emotional labour and trauma. You are always allowed to do what you want, I will never stop anyone from doing what they want, I will give them education and advice though. Taking it is also up to the person. I am here to support and help.

Boundaries are VERY important they be held. Make sure you love yourself. Be aware of signs of emotional exhaustion, burnout, and depression. If something is making you depressed it is not good 🙅🏻‍♀️ Run Red flag

Any situation that you leave and feel any sort of negative over. That's your gut saying it's not healthy. Anytime I left my mother's I'd be stressed and like "good god that went decent". That is not good 🙅🏻‍♀️ you should not pray a situation goes okay EVERY time.

Please feel free to discuss, in a healthy manor. 🧝‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️🙏🏻💜 Druid loves ya 😘

Snippet of what my autobiography is going to be about

⚠️ Trigger warning⚠️

My mother and siblings abused me. My mother was so cruel when I mention her, it makes my local friends sick.

Some of her favourite punishments were

- belting with pants down: beat us til her anger was better. Got to the point she'd say bend over and I'd fall to the ground shaking, drooling crying, and unable to breath or talk. Such fear I couldn't function.

-lined the kids against the wall withholding food and water: this could last days sometimes a week. Usually because somebody "stole food". I was a child, when I did steal food it's because I was hungry. I am not bad.

-noses against the wall: we'd stand with our noses to the wall, hands behind our back. We'd stand like this for hours on end. If our heads left she'd smack us.

-food punishments: I took her coin collection to buy myself food, yet again I was a starving child. She punished me by giving me 1 cup of oatmeal a day for 6 months. Punishment ended 3 months in. I hate oatmeal.

I also got segregated in school, bullied. I got raped as a child a few times, and I spent 5yrs in an underage/pedophilic domestic abuse relationship where he made me sleep with ppl as favours or entertainment.

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I've been in therapy for 8years for most of my trauma. I'm writing a novel of how I'm putting my PTSD into remission. Would anyone read. Would it help others? My survival guide might be someone's key 🤷🏻‍♀️ either or it feels good to say what happened to me.. btw I am a white passing Canadian AFAB. This is normal for some westerners. (The sexual abuse) I am healing, and learning to be myself. I am so grateful 😌🙏🏻🙇🏻‍♂️

#complex ptsd #possibly triggering #trauma #ptsd mention #ptsd recovery #living with ptsd #ptsd tw #ptsdsurvivor

💜 Depression & Anxiety Life Tips 💜

Depression, and anxiety are best friends. They often show up together, and slowly destroy you in tandem. Anxiety is the first to start usually. Anxiety is natural part of us, but it's more like a weed. Take a dandelion, it has benefits, but too much of it and it will choke out everything.

What do you need to do though? You need to keep your anxiety in check. How? Read these tips to learn how I've gone from debilitating anxiety to moderate and still fighting. I've been in 8yrs of government therapy so far. (CBT, DBT, EMDR..etc)

1.) Your anxiety comes from when you step outside of the safety box. If you have a small box, you will get anxiety more often, you need to slowly work on expanding that comfort zone.

When something is making you nervous, take deep breaths and tell yourself just keep doing it. I know that sounds easier said than done but, I've been working hard on it and it does work. Sometimes I'll shout out loud "Just push through it, don't stop keep doing it me!" And long as I push through it'll work.

2.) It's okay to fail or be mediocre at something. It took a long time to accept this but failing is part of learning. It's learning a way not to do something, it's getting experience to get you to that final level. Do you play a video game sad you don't start at 100? Hopefully not. It's part of the fun.

To encourage yourself take photos or keep your projects to remind you of how far you've come. And secondly don't compare yourself to someone else. You are them and that's what makes you special. Do things for yourself, not to compete with others cause if you go through life chasing to be as good as someone else you'll miss out on how good you are. Everyone is unique and that should be embraced.

3.) Take care of yourself! Silly I know but water, food, sleep, exercise. Drink water, not anything with sugar or caffeine that actually dehydrates you. Specially first thing in the morning, because you usually wake up slightly dehydrated which is why you feel that groggy feeling. It's because you lose a lot of moisture over night through sweating, breathing and filling your bladder.

Eat atleast 1,000 calorie meal a day. It's okay to struggle to eat, eat anything over nothing. It's better to eat junk food than no food.

Sleep hygiene is important, specially if you have insomnia. Set a routine before bed of good sleep hygiene. No electronics 2 hrs before bed, no food, start to let your body shut down. I'll help your sleep out so much. Which in turn will help yourself out.

4.) Go slow and small. It's better to go slow and small than to quick and feel like things aren't working. Start with one small thing and when that feels good and is routine, wait another week or so, then add another thing. Going slow is good because it reinforces it in the brain. Gets those myelin bridges built! It takes roughly 21 days to get into a habit of doing it daily.

5.) Journalling. It allowed me to go back to my depression phases and see how bad I was and where I needed to improve. It's been an invaluable tool for me. Journal before bed. Add it into your nightly routine.

6th and last.

💜 I am always here if you need someone. Ive been through hell and back and don't judge. Honest to god's nothing you say could scare me away. If ppl can hate for no reason, I can love for no reason. Druid loves you 💜 Take care

Feeling so much better right now. It's been 201 days since my suicide attempt and I am working so hard to put that behind me.

Doubled my meds, taking CBT and DBT classes, doing lots of introspection and stuff. Things are looking up finally

#tw depressing stuff #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #mental health #mentalheathawareness #mental illness #tw suicice #healing #trauma #living with ptsd #ptsd recovery

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I love height charts. Update to this post.

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With the release of reference art from the Spirit of an Episode shorts/interviews on Amazon (a big thanks to yesile for posting these), a more accurate and newer height chart can be made! So of course I did.

However this causes some discrepancies to pop up between the on-screen references and some of the official art released (the ’New Friends’ poster specifically). In this compare, I scaled the reference art so Korra stands at 5'7" and since everyone was already lined up in comparison to her, I could line them up easily.

P'li: This moves P'Li’s height down one inch from 6'8" to 6'7". However, an inch difference is fairly negligible and keeping her at 6'8" officially causes no issues visually.

Gazhan: Loses an inch from my other compare, but that was a rough guestimate anyway and based on his size compared to Zaheer.

Zaheer: Not pictured, but based on his size compared to both P'Li and Gazhan, Zaheer is in the 6'0" to 6'1" range, which is where I put him in the previous chart.

Mako: Mako is one of the two bigger changes. Bryke has put him at 6'2", and the New Friends poster certainly has him scale in right there if Korra is 5'7". However the reference chart above that compares him, Gazahn, and Korra to P'Li, has Mako coming in at 6'0".

Tenzin: The largest change. The New Friends poster scaled Tenzin in at a whopping 6'7" when compared to Korra’s 5'7". However, in this reference line up, Tenzin scales in at a little over 6'2". Potentially 6'3" if his figure was moved slightly higher so his feet fell more on the ‘horizon’ line. However, the impression of the New Airbenders Line Up is that this is supposed to be their general heights when compared to each other and drawn in a group.

Bolin and Asami: With Mako and Tenzin’s heights on the New Friends poster now in question, actual heights for Bolin and Asami are more difficult to guess at. We do know that both of them are taller than Korra by several inches just from seeing them in action in episodes, but until we get a reference line up like the above for them where we can see a line for “Korra’s height”, a more accurate height is not currently possible.