I am a radical feminist who is anti-porn, anti-religion, and anti-capitalist (relatively new to tumblr but I’ve been lurking for a while).
I’m wasian (or not, depending on who you ask) and multilingual (fluent in 4, learning my 5th). I also have an interest in history, art, classic lit & film, and a combination of all of the above — but this blog will mostly be focused on politics.
All of my own posts will be tagged with #toffeeswirledthoughts so if you only want to view those you don’t have to go digging through a wall of reblogs.
The point of this post is to find like-minded people I can support and share mutual views with, so interacting with this post is a confirmation that you agree with radfem views. if not, simply scroll and block.
so let me get this straight.... Ethel Cain can post a picture of his entire dick and balls on the internet and Instagram has left it up for 2 days and counting, but a woman-centered sex education and resource page got permabanned for TALKING about vaginas and arousal. Tell me again who the censored and silenced ones are? Tell me again who's bodies are being discriminated against?
and while I'm at it, don't forget that Ethel Cain is a racist piece of shit who's hiding from responsibility behind his transness and Appalachian upbringing.
(Edit: not Appalachian, fully from Tallahassee. also corrected pronouns)
Discover insights into Identity Formation with psychFORM. Explore how LGBTQ umbrellas affect gay identities.
Abstract
This study examined developmental outcomes among gay male undergraduates within contemporary LGBTQ coalition structures on university campuses. A mixed-methods design was used to assess identity formation, perceived belonging, and psychological safety among N = 49 students (38 gay-identifying males; 11 transgender-identifying female-to-male students) at the University of Michigan across Winter and Spring 2024. Structured interviews and survey measures evaluated agency, authenticity, and relational security within coalition-based campus environments. Although LGBTQ discourse groups sexual and gender minorities under a unified sociopolitical umbrella, developmental theory suggests that sexual orientation and gender identity emerge from distinct psychological pathways with different mechanisms of consolidation (Erikson, 1968; McWilliams, 2011)
Findings indicate that gay male students experience conditional belonging when situated within a trans-centered LGBTQ identity hierarchy. 86% reported feeling pressured to align with trans political or ideological frameworks to maintain social acceptance, while 0% of transgender participants perceived such alignment as optional for coalition cohesion. Gay students additionally reported reduced perceived freedom to differentiate (84%) and anticipated social exclusion if they did not maintain visible alignment (78%). By contrast, transgender respondents reported no perceived threat of displacement and identified their identity category as central to coalition legitimacy.
The data show that this conditional structure results in agency erosion and premature foreclosure of identity development among gay students. Belonging is experienced as contingent on alignment, producing chronic self-monitoring and limiting conditions for autonomous selfauthorship. These results suggest that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion functions as a system of conditional belonging that impedes independent identity consolidation among gay men in university settings.
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Balanced question pair:
1A: “Do you believe trans students have a shared right to define the meaning of ‘LGBTQ identity’ for the community as a whole?”
1B: “Do you believe individual subgroups (e.g., gay men) should independently define their own identity without trans mediation?”
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Conclusion
The findings of this study establish that the current structure of LGBTQ coalition identity on university campuses produces a measurable developmental cost for gay male students. The pressure to align with a trans-centered identity framework functions not as affirmation but as a mechanism of conditional belonging, resulting in agency erosion, chronic vigilance, and identity foreclosure.
The climate of enforced ideological alignment does not promote safety; it substitutes compliance for autonomy. Gay students are not permitted to form identity through self-authorship, but instead adopt externally scripted identity roles in order to retain access to community. This foreclosure is relationally enforced and persists because the institution misinterprets the absence of dissent as evidence of support.
The harm is internal rather than discursive: developmental conditions required for individuation are suspended, and identity consolidation is replaced with role adherence. Belonging is contingent on ideological conformity, and the resulting silence is structurally rewarded as proof of inclusion. Gay identity, as a distinct developmental category, is displaced within a coalition architecture that centers trans identity as the sole source of legitimacy.
Therefore, the study demonstrates that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion on campus operates as a system of conditional belonging that is incompatible with autonomous identity development. Integrity fatigue is the clinical consequence of this structure: a state in which authenticity is chronically suppressed because the only available pathway to belonging requires its forfeiture.
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The crux of this is that:
Gay male identity is not contingent upon external validation. Homosexuality is real. While "trans" identity is contingent upon external validation. That's why they're so militant about force-teaming: without the legitimacy of gay and bisexual men and women, "trans" identity evaporates.
Gay men feel socially pressured to endorse "trans" support that they don't believe in, and the result for them is a forfeiture of identity, especially as "trans" narcissism always takes centre stage. When was the last time you saw anything from the "LGBTQWERTY community" that didn't degenerate into into "trans" gobbledygook?
This is why LGB✂️QT+. You cannot destroy yourself or your identity for someone else. Especially when they openly hate you.
to any tifs/tims/tras who may see this: us, actual gay people, DO NOT WANT YOUR COERCIVE, HETERO ASSES IN OUR SPACES. unequivocally. and if you’re labouring under the misapprehension that ‘most gay people’ agree with you and your position, let these finding disabuse you of that notion. at the absolute most, we are pretending because we don’t want to lose our jobs and livelihoods.
The 4B tag by itself on Tumblr have been banned, while other tags related works, from what i know majority of the tags that have been banned here it's about criminal things, they are comparing women saying "decenter men" to a crime, not sure this is a mistake.
I don't use Spotify but i've seen women saying searching for 4B related songs are also banned for being "too political"
So yeah keep in mind a lot of men who command social medias, websites and such will still allow men threatening women of rape, will allow pedophilia, but will draw the line on women wanting to be far away from these same men. The tags where men fantasize of raping women who disagree with them it's still working.
I just checked and the tags for "radqueer" and "pro para," two communities made specifically to destigmatize pedophilia and other depravity (rape, incest, zoophilia, necrophilia, cannibalism, etc) with many users even encouraging acting out their desires (abbreviated as "pro-c" for "pro contact") under the name of "radical inclusion," and both of them are not banned.
...But the tag for women being celibate is.
I don't even have anything else to add, it's so blatant on its own.
if you think for even just a second how fucking crazy bonkers it is that women are so frequently kept from being protagonists or important or fully realized characters when its like. That is literally 50% of the world population. Half of all people (more or less. hopefully more as time marches on!) are women. And you look at media and think about how many protagonists are men and their best friends are men and the ensemble cast is 80-100% men and the fandoms are about men and the romances are about men. well. YOU GO INSANE
accidentally said "invasive thoughts" instead of "intrusive thoughts" today and actually I think I'm onto something. this thought does not belong here and it is harming the local ecosystem
This comic has been going around, uncredited. So I don’t know who the artist is. I’d like to credit them properly for being so accurate in describing TERFs but for now I cannot.
I’ll edit this if I ever find out who the artist is, though.
From the woman’s perspective, the guy climbed down from the cart, put on a wig, and started pretending to be in her same predicament. He could easily take off the wig and get back in the cart at any moment. It’s a game for him. And the woman does not and will never have the option to cut her hair and get in the cart. Misogyny is sex based and doesn’t disappear just because you want to pretend it doesn’t effect you anymore.
I made a post about male suicide a while back and got a lot of shit.
I just wanted to tell you that a friend of mine works for Samaritan health service for their suicide hotline. She told me a 'funny' story.
The majority of her time is spent screening and blocking phone numbers so that the lines are free for people who need help. Why does she have to do this ? Hundreds of times a day men would call up while masturbating, of course they would only stay on the line if the operator was female, which the majority are.
Men have always taken advantage of women's kindness and they always will. It is not our job.
i understand why radfems are seen as miserable because it’s pretty miserable to notice misogyny in everything. being intolerant of it makes you unable to participate in many things. no i haven’t seen that popular movie. or the new crime show. i need two fingers to count how many of my favorite artists as a young girl turned out to be abusers or enablers. i won’t separate the art from the artist. i don’t want to hear my friend talk about her anime. it’s gross. i don’t want to go to a party or club where i can get in free because im the product. or where i get rejected because im not “pretty enough” to be a product. i dont want to go to a frat party or be friendly with the males in them. even if they seem to be “woke” because the institution is rooted in patriarchal white supremacy. no, i actually think your dark romance is disgusting and indulges in the same violent sexuality you claim to hate about porn and men. and no i dont want to support your onlyfans or hear about the men you claim to have power over because they give you money due to your beauty and willingness to please them. i will tell you every red flag i hear about your boyfriend when you speak of him. and his friends. i WILL tell you that the horror films you love so much sexualize violence against women. i will tell you your favorite artist is an abuser. or that they pander to the male gaze while claiming to do so as satire. and i don’t want to have to bite my tongue either. i don’t want to not share the truth because it makes you uncomfortable. i will call your favorite things misogynistic if they are. and honestly, the misery doesn’t come from noticing these things for what they are. it comes from the fact that others don’t seem to, and if they do, they look past it. that’s what’s miserable about it.
it really grinds my gears that men are the ones who cry the loudest and are bitchiest when it comes to data privacy laws. and not women, women who obviously need it the most.
women who get stalked in their own homes and have their own privacy and beings violated the most.
men are the ones who consistently and continuously corrupt the world every single time. men are the only creatures who will have petabytes full of cp in their pcs. men will create nth room style telegram chat rooms that specialize in making deepfakes of school children. men build their own personal child sex slave islands.
i remember one of the nth room creators (some kid named god in korean i think) was bawling his little fat ass chud face out when he got caught and identified. but yes apparently men are little oppressed angels who have earned their privacy rights and are the loudest because they absolutely deserve to be. in a more ideal world, every man would have their location and all their personal information tracked like they do with livestock. goes to show that those who are the most privileged often complain the most. it’s classic psychological overcompensation about their own insecurities and one of the biggest red flags in men.
When I was in elementary school, my teacher would pair me with the most disobedient and loud boys in class as a way to discipline them via my good example. I would hush them, explain things to them, beat them occasionally - I didn’t like sitting with them so, naturally, a lot of my energy went into trying to make these boys somewhat tolerable. I was angry, irritated, depressed, always distracted - I was sitting in close proximity to not one but three boys, quite far from my girlfriends. My own school performance went down. Though I was still A+ in liberal arts, I’ve got my first 2 in mathematics (on a 1-10 numerical scale).
I understand this reads as a story about educational abuse towards girls mostly, but I think the situation I described might also mirror heterosexual marriage as a system that helps government regulate men and save up financial and social resources at the expense of women.
From early childhood, we are taught to take an active role in raising boys and monitoring their behaviour - to prepare us for marriage, where we will be responsible for how well a man is adapted in society that raised him unadaptable in the first place. In the same extent the government is interested in plugging gaps in important social spheres with women's unpaid labor (the majority of volunteers and social workers are women), it is interested in heterosexual marriage as an institution that is supposed to discourage men from engaging in activities that have negative social consequences - gambling, alcoholism, crime, and unemployment - through women’s positive influence. Patriarchy teaches boys cruelty, disobedience, lack of empathy and social awareness - all the qualities that are detrimental to a functional well-organised society, and simultaneously relies on women to contain these qualities - responsibility first carried out by mother to be consequently passed on to wife.
Society knows how destructive men are and it wants women to take over the burden of keeping them in check. The price it “pays” is male domestic violence in marriages, but with criminal system being misogynistic as it is, violence against women is much cheaper for the government, so the price is really insignificant.
“his mother didn’t raise him right” hey have you considered that maybe this grown ass man should be held accountable for his actions and not his mother that you know nothing about? also, why not blame the father as well? why is everything the moms fault? why is everything a woman’s fault? why do yall automatically need to find a woman to blame when it’s a male doing something heinous.
it’s always a woman’s fault, it’s absolutely ridiculous. women have done literally nothing for people to be so damn evil towards them. it’s ridiculous. quick to insult a woman and call her a bitch, then when you need to insult a man, you insult him by saying he’s adjacent to a woman or just dismiss him entirely and blame another woman in his life 😒
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