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weltenwellen

Mary Oliver, from "Evidence", Devotions

radical-robin

wintertidewater-deactivated2025

Thank you

addictedtocaring

hell yeah girl, tell em

girlschasinggirls

One of the biggest parts of this kind of grooming is telling girls that it's easy money and safe to do when it's actually one of the most dangerous and traumatising jobs in the entire world

faxxmachine

Gotta love that, despite the intense grooming online though, you still see breakthrough intelligence like this when it clicks, when girls go “wait, no. This is fucked and I’m going to say something!” Its edifying to see girls and young women show their steel.

treadingonyourcape

“It’s not victim BLAMING it’s victim PROTECTING”

THANK YOUUUU

I think this finally captures why I get so angry about being critical about these things. I’m a bit older now and I feel very protective over younger girls. Don’t stop me trying to protect young girls. Stop saying it’s ‘cause I’m jealous’ or a prude. Fuck you.

batewoman-deactivated20220802

TRAs at Trans Pride London chanting "fuck that b*tch" because the Minister for Women and Equalities isn't pushing for trans self-id. How anyone could see TRAs as anything other than a group of misogynists is beyond me.

tehmfukunaga

honestly as a non-native english speaker hearing them saying "fuck that bitch" in the way they say it makes me think about how demeaning it is the origin of the insult itself ( i dont know if this makes sense??? i mean how threatening it is to hear so many people repeat that phrase)

blocktostaysafe

It is meant to be a threat, to all dissenting women.

im-not-an-object-ok

This reminds me of how Trump supporters used to chant misogynistic stuff about Hillary Clinton tbh.

blocktostaysafe

They literally used to chant "Trump that b*tch," so, good call there. Misogyny is the same.

ivegotnothingbettertodo

If your gatherings are full of lunatics screaming vile insults and demanding for people to be killed, I hope you lose all your rights.

appropriately-inappropriate

Trans activists are trying to use this to terrorize women into silence.

They know that if they can threaten JKR and a government minister, they can get away with anything against any one of us.

Don’t yield the line and don’t let these twits intimidate you. We all know that if a breeze blows, his pecker shows.

aminalcrossiggn

how fucked up is it that just the statement "females and males experience different types of socialization based on their sex" is now considered like, hate speech

treadingonyourcape

And this is the crux, of it all. They went for the jugular.

aminalcrossiggn

how fucked up is it that just the statement "females and males experience different types of socialization based on their sex" is now considered like, hate speech

Okay but it’s breaking my heart watching Sarah shauer and jameela jamil. Sarah is so, so insightful for every minute of the day but she’s ended up falling for the non-binary crap because she sees more than everyone else. You’re not non-binary Sarah, you’re a kickass no nonsense woman. Jameela knows there’s something seriously horrible and fucked up with how we treat even society’s prettiest gyals, she didn’t fall for the sparkle. But there isn’t a robust, radical feminism in place for her to feed back to and use. These woman would be awesome feminists, but we’ve been robbed of our movement.

radicurious-deactivated20190122

When you tell women who aren’t feminine/who are uncomfortable with the feminine gender role to consider that they might actually be men, nonbinary or agender, you’re not being progressive - you’re simply reinforcing the notion that womanhood equals femininity and gender stereotypes.

e-sadg

There are other women like you. There are other women who think the way you think, who feel the way you feel, who act the way you act. There always have been and there always will be. Womanhood isn’t whatever shallow archetype the world has tried to convince you that it is. It’s going to be okay.

theoldestchorusgirlintheworld

Having sex with someone actually is a big deal and involves a ton of vulnerability and I think it’s extremely troubling and gross and unhealthy and actually exceptionally dangerous that we pretend otherwise and encourage people to “be mature” by compartmentalizing/completely eliminating their deeper human emotions from their sexuality and that any other view is dismissed as prudish and invalid and unenlightened and childish and restrictive. I can’t think about this too much because it makes me rage but I hate how much porn and capitalism have destroyed how we understand and experience sexuality and intimate connections with one another so much.

#can i get this tattooed on my back and then wear backless clothes everyday

whitepeopletwitter

thatmadhatter

Okay, but THIS.

My therapist only recently understood that when I said, “I don’t know how to make this phone call or make this appointment.” I very literally meant I didn’t know what to do. I can dial the phone, but what do I say EXACTLY? What questions are going to be asked? What do I need to have on hand? What if they ask me something I don’t know the answer to?

I’m one of those people that needs very specific and detailed instructions if I’m doing something for the first time.

dovewithscales

Be patient with people. We all have our struggles. Sometimes it can make all the difference in the world knowing someone can spare a few minutes to care about you and walk you through something that’s hard for you.

treadingonyourcape

i used to be really worried about people being rude to me on the phone. But once it happened, all I could think was ‘wow, you are SUCH an arsehole, I’m out here clearly doing my best and clearly well intentioned but just because i don’t know all the lingo you’re being like this’. I look back and still think, yeah, what horrible arseholes those people were. I should have asked them what about me they were finding so offensive that they needed to be so rude.

user87262893

These are genuine questions. What is stopping prostitutes from getting another job? How is it not a choice? Idk work at mcdonalds bro. Also Ive heard about girls being corced into pornography, but how does that work? They get there expecting a modelling job and is porn, cant they just leave??

Good questions!

What is stopping prostitutes from getting another job?

There are a lot of possibilities here. I’ll name some.

• They were born into a brothel and now that is the only “career” they qualify for.

• They live in a place where a womans only way of financial gain outside of a marriage is selling sex.

• They are being trafficked and cannot leave on threat of death to themselves, their family, have no way to run because they dont speak the language, or are simply too young to comprehend their situation, or they grew up trafficked and now dont know there are options.

• They dont have a Visa or passport or means to work in a documented setting.

• They need money to survive/pay rent/pay debts/pay for food for their kids and only have the qualifications for a McDonalds job in which the wages in no way approach anything livable.

• Their pimp is threatening them or their kids or their family or other girls in their circuit if they run.

• They are qualified for other jobs, but they have now been “out of work” for so long they are unhirable.

• They are qualified for other jobs, but they have medical bills/family expenses/debts that require large cash influxes to not go under.

• They are being blackmailed by a boyfriend/ex/client to stay.

• They feel the social stigma of trying to resume an office job after prostitution and the pressures send them back.

• They are affected by the trauma of being raped, used, and degraded by men and now cannot function in a normal setting or hold down other work.

How is it not a choice?

• Brothel generations

• Income insecurity

• Trafficking

• Medical bills/debts/family expenses that require cash fast

• Coercion by a boyfriend or community pimp

• Initial consenting entry coupled with massive barriers to exit

• Need money to survive and cant get other work

Ive heard about girls being corced into pornography, but how does that work? They get there expecting a modelling job and is porn, cant they just leave??

• Signed a contract and hated it after 1 shoot. Contractually obligated to perform the other 60.

• Drug addiction requiring fast cash

• Other debts or survival expenses requiring fast cash

• Boyfriend or pimp pressures them into it

• Blackmailed into it

• Sex tape leaked, societal shaming unless one “leans into it”

• Did one shoot as a teen, now everyone knows your name and face and you cant find other work

• Boyfriend or husband will leave unless you produce films together, or alone for them

…

I hope these help!

raath-ke-rani

In my experience as a social worker I’ve seen women rely on sex work because they have a substance abuse problem (making conventional jobs hard to obtain and also necessitating that they continue such work to fund their addiction) and because if they work a conventional job their assistance rates will be cut but they need more income since welfare isn’t giving them enough.

fuckoffallies

On average, you have a 1 in 18,989 chance of being murdered

A trans person has a 1 in 12 chance of being murdered

The average life span of a cis person is about 75-90

The average life expectancy of a trans person is 23-30 years old

75% of people killed in anti LGBT hate crimes are poc

Think about this the next time you go crying over “cisphobia” and “reverse racism”

wocinsolidarity

MESSAGE

cantanopeshitthatwastaken

The “transgender people have a 1 in 12 chance of being murdered” statistic has been debunked countless times, it’s absolutely unreasonable if you think about it for even a second. The correct statistic is 1.5 out of 100,000– lower than the chances of a non-transgender individual being murdered (6.6/1k for men, 1.8/1k for women).

If you’re going to raise awareness about something, it’s only right to tell the truth. Otherwise you’re fearmongering, and removing legitimacy from any other information you’re trying to share.

lesbian-lizards

Also, like, isn’t early 30s about the average time trans people transition? Saying it’s also their life expectancy makes no sense.

spencer-shayy-archive

Didn’t they steal that statistic from a Brazilian study about Brazilian (a.k.a not white western) trans people in the sex trade?

Either way, 40 year old Misty from HR whose lily white ass just transitioned because of his misogynistic fetish is not in any kind of danger.

old-school-butch

If this was true, and you stood outside a random hospital emergency room and counted murder victims, 94 out of every 100 murder victims would be trans. Like, basically all murder victims would be trans. Everywhere. In every hospital across the globe.

artemiswasamerf

There isn’t even enough transpeople in the world for that to be a plausible statistic. Also, the “shortened life” debate can be directly linked to overuse of hormones, mental illness, medical complications, and general unhappiness after transition (post OP trans people are more likley to kill themselves than preop).

old-school-butch

It is extremely hard to change life expectancy for an entire population, just because of averages and the fact that our lives are finite. Even the AIDS crisis barely budged it, and that was truly a widespread decimation. But even if 1 in 10 people dies 50 years prematurely, that’s an average shortening of 5 years. The impact is biggest when young people are affected. If 1 in 10 50 year olds die, you’re only pulling down the average by a couple of years. For life expectancy be cut to the 30s in a population, the streets would be littered with the dead trans children.

Since the mean age of medical transition, ie starting hormone treatment, is 31, then this stat implies that the average trans person is on hormones for -1 to -8 years, which is of course impossible.

These numbers have no basis in reality whatsoever.

bi-fem-deactivated20200606

As of 2016, there are 1.4 million trans people in the U.S. 1 in 12 deaths would mean that 168,000 trans people would be killed every year. This also means that in EIGHT YEARS, there would be no more trans people in the United States.

The least TRAs could do is make up ACCURATE statistics instead of this shit. 😑

shollymannon-deactivated2019032

trans people are less likely than the general population to be murdered

the life expectancy stat has also been debunked

foggyfieldatdawn

And these blatant lies have thousands of likes and rebloges, it’s fucking embarrassing

thesweetscentofbooks

The cognitive dissonance men need for this!

notable-spinster

at its core, the sex industry is not women selling their bodies to men, it is men selling women (and children’s) bodies to other men

hydrogeneportfolio

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sagansense

#WomenInScience

thespacegoat-deactivated2016100

the fact women are viewed as being more sexy at 15 than 40 is the creepiest thing in the world

candiikismet

Horrifying really

muffininspiration

Looking through the notes, and people seem to be justifying this as evolutionary biology. They believe that human females are most fertile at the age of 15. Considering your body isn’t even done growing at this age, I find this incredibly hard to believe. Really? The best time for you to push a baby out of your vagina is when your periods probably aren’t even regular yet? Like the younger you are, the more likely you are to DIE from child birth. Well anyway, most websites claim you’re most fertile in your 20s, peaking at 27… So congrats on trying to blatantly justify pedophilia by using bullshit science.

lesbian-lizards

Pregnancy/maternal issues is the LEADING killer of girls aged 15-19 globally. Not only is “15 year olds are more fertile” a creepy, pedophilic belief, it’s also an extremely dangerous one.

absurdistocchiolism

It gets worse when you take even two seconds more to consider exactly what would make an ‘optimally fertile-looking’ woman with nothing but simple logic, which reveals the hypocrisy of all their arguments for it. An optimally-fertile-looking woman has:

-wide hips (to make birth easy and less dangerous for her)

-body fat (to ensure her body doesn’t starve during pregnancy, and therefore prevent her body from self-aborting in self-preservation is things get though)

-is healthy and not under stress or overworked (a chronically ill or exhausted woman, whether with a physical or mental illness like anxiety can have poor health, which affects her fertility and lifespan and her ability to bear children and is therefore not ideal). The more physically fit a woman is the better her chances are.

-menstruates (a woman who menstruates is a woman who obviously has eggs in her ovaries to dish out, not to mention one who’s body knows when to stop trying to get pregnant when it becomes unsafe)

-not so big boobs (too big and they damage a woman’s back, which damages her health, which is bad for her pregnancy)

-has a social support system that includes other women (to help care for her and her children should something happen)

-be at least in her mid-twenties (since ACTUAL RESEARCH has revealed that the mid-twenties is the real peak of fertility)

-has already been pregnant and born children before (the first pregnancy is always the riskiest but generally becomes easier (*very relative!) after at least one, since the body has already done it before)

-eats to her heart’s content (which is related to her health and body fat and therefore her ability to get pregnant and stay pregnant and bear healthy children)

-has good hygiene (low risks of infections means good health means better chances to both have kids and pass on good hygiene to those kids to keep them healthy too)

An optimally fertile woman is therefore slightly overweight instead of skinny, has wide hips instead of a slight figure, is reasonably happy and fit instead of overworked and stressed by a charged schedule, menstruates regularly and not painfully, has boobs of a reasonable size instead of boobs that look like balloons attached to her chest, is middle-aged instead of underage, already has kids, eats as much as she wants instead of restricting her diet, cares for good hygiene and has a healthy social life full of supportive people who can help her in times of need.

… notice that the modern ideal woman for most cishet men is practically the opposite of this.

The hypocrisy is thick. It obviously has nothing to do with actual fertility and everything to do with women being vulnerable and pliable to men’s desires.

theconcealedweapon

Here’s one that’s even more obvious.

Think of all the men who are turned on by a woman being black out drunk.

Does heavy drinking make a woman more fertile or more likely to have a healthier baby?

puttingherinhistory

Obviously what do black out drunk women and underage girls have in common? They’re vulnerable.

Men also peak in fertility and gradually become less fertile as they age. A teenage cis boy is going to have a higher sperm count than a older middle aged cis man. So if a middle aged woman wanted to get pregnant she’d have a much higher chance of being impregnated by a teenage boy than by a man her own age. And unlike teenage girls, a teenage boy can sire a child without any inherent physical danger or chance of mortality. A teenage girl getting pregnant, because she’s not fully developed, has a really high risk of death and/or complications, but a teenage boy can safely ejaculate and not inherently risk dying.

Despite this, statistically women are much more likely to want someone their own age while men of all ages are more likely to want someone barely even fully developed

The real issue is that these older men don’t want to date a woman who’s his equal. A woman his own age would be his equal in life experience and catch on to his bullshit, and these men want a woman with less life experience, who’s more naive because a naive and inexperienced girl/woman is easier to control and hold power over.