You can do it

Motivation for you-whether you're lgbtqa, suffer from a mental illness or just discouraged. You can do it!

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Friendly reminder pt. 3💖

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Just a casual reminder 😊

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I am so sorry you have to go through this and truly hope it gets better. Try to think of life as a book. You close one chapter and enter another anew. It's not comforting but everyone dies, there is something on the other side, whether it be heaven, reincarnation or just a spirit world. It's a natural phenomenon. But the fact you aren't dead shows there's still a purpose for you to be here and I have a feeling you will be here for a very long time. Everything that is happening right now, the anxiety, depression and fear will pass. I know it feels hopeless, you may want it to go away so badly that you're suicidal but I promise you on my mother and brothers life that it will fade away into obscenity. I imagine you're even afraid to go outside or look outside sometimes. You crawl into a corner and feel your heart speed up, like you can't move and can't breathe and all that's going through your mind is staying alive. It's the flight or fight reaction. I try and treat it as excitement, which may be hard at first but shaking hands and pounding hearts can also be the same feeling before having your first kiss. Your mind gets into this process of creating a snowball and letting it ripple down the same path it's comfortable in until it becomes an avalanche. But as a human you have sooo much power, even if it doesn't feel like it. Your brain lies to you, the fight or flight was handy with our ancestors because it helped them run or attack better and faster. It's really an amazing process but in this day and age its terrifying, especially when the monster is no longer harmful. You'll get through it, if you ever need to talk I'm here. I know I'm a stranger but I really do care

Uarestrong

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"Don't worry about tomorrow. It hasn't happened yet. Don't worry about yesterday. It's over. Don't worry about today; there's no point. Just stay positive, do the best you can, keep a smile and everything will be alright."

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I believe that when we die we are recycled into something new. If not consciousness then the matter in which both surrounds us and is inside of us. An ancestor may be a blade of grass, ever flowing in the wind or a rock on mars staring towards the night sky. You never truly know what happens, but what you should do now is live in peace with yourself and others. Life is fleeting, there is no time to stress. Only to be happy with yourself and what surrounds you.

[transboysunited]

Do! 👀 NOT!! 👀 Double!! 👀 Bind!!!

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Double!! 👀 Bind!!👀 If!! 👀Needed!!👀For!!👀Flat!!👀Chest!!!

[transboysunited]

um or don’t because it’s unhealthy and can mess up ur body a similar way as an ace bandage?

[cloudstreamer-deactivated201710]

Guys please dont double bind!! I know it sucks to not have a flat chest, trust me im a triple D and im not a big dude..im rather small. I. Know. It. Sucks. But. Please! DONT! DOUBLE! BIND! It can heavily damage your body! Its way too risky and not worth it… believe me its not!

[emotional-jetsam-blog]

Hey fam, double binding now severely impacts your ability to have a healthy enough body for top surgery (if you want it), exercise, or even basic respiration in the future. So, even though not being flat right now sucks (I hear you. I’m with you. I’m sorry.) right now will not last forever, and right now is not worth all of the things double binding will make you not be able to enjoy or even experience. 

There are so many awesome things about you that deserve more room to breathe and flourish than double binding will allow. 

Your validity is not determined by how flat you are.

Your worth is not measured in the circumference of your chest.

You deserve to breathe. You deserve belly laughs, and the ability for your lungs to expand enough to sing really bad karaoke or blow out birthday candles or take your dog for a walk. You deserve oxygen, and unbroken ribs, and unpunctured lungs. You deserve to live like the bad ass you are, and you can’t if you can’t breathe (I know this from experience!). 

By double binding you are restricting the glory of who you are and all you can be to this idea that validity, joy, and worth are only for guys with flat chests. It’s a lie. You don’t need a flat chest to be valid. You don’t need a flat chest to own your truth and be true to it. The idea is a lie. You don’t deserve its consequences (physical and emotional). The truth of your validity and awesomeness is so much better, so please bind safely and keep breathing into the bad ass that is you.

No flat chest is worth a flatline.

Thanks, @transboysunited <3

[transboysunited]

Sorry for the spam guys, but really, I’m reblogging these because no one talks about double binding and the first reblog really shocked me. The only reason I am mentioning this is because I’VE done it, and it’s not ok.

Thankfully, I stopped double binding before breaking any ribs, despite doing it for a quite a long time, but I know that double binding has damaged me INSIDE.

I used to double bind almost daily because of dysphoria and it got to the point, I really did need to have a break. I couldn’t bind at all and thankfully, at this time I was going through mental health issues so I didn’t leave my house in need of having to wear my binder, but I was in pain; my back, my chest, my ribs, everything hurt. I remember for about 2 weeks I stayed in bed but I remember even lying down would kill me. I’ve never been to a doctor about it, but I have eventually healed.

However, even now, my back, chest and ribs can still hurt if I bind for about 1-2 hours. My body really can’t take it any more and there will also be times that even without binding, it will play up.

Just because you’re not using an ace bandage, or tape, does NOT mean that double binding with a chest binder, a small sports bra, a small binder or a mixture of both is safe and won’t harm you, because it’s far from safe.

Bind safely, one binder is enough and remember that chests are not 100% flat.

You really need to listen if you are doing this because I know that if I saw a message like this sooner, I probably would have stopped.

-Caleb

[aggressivelybicaptainamerica]

Note from a biologist and EMT

Your rib cage isn’t really a system of bones the way any other bone is. Its not anchored to other bones through joint systems. Its connected by a series of elastic cartilage segments or fused to your sternum or spine.

This elasticity is great for your lungs because it means your ribs can expand so you can take deeper breaths, but it also means your ribs are extremely vulnerable to warping under continual pressure.

Over binding, especially when you’re still growing (so from puberty typically until your mid 20s), will permanently deform your ribs and back. I assure you binding safely now will not only insure you can have top surgery, but will save you from chronic, often dehabilitating and life threatening injury.

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For any of my binding nb peeps. Keep yourselves safe.

[aicosu]

this is uber important for cosplayers too. So many of you bind with ace bandages or double binders and your crossplay is not worth it, please take care of your bodies!

[agenderootd]

this!! is!! important!! even for just a little bit, and even for cosplay or just a pic. don’t do it!!!!!

[cispeopletexting]

PSA!! Please do NOT double bind!! It’s NOT worth it!!!

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You Can't Do Everything At Once

Remember: you can't do everything at once. You need to take a breath every once in a while. Yes, you want that good grade, a new job, a good house, that boy/girl to notice you, that new car and so much more. But you need to be patient. I'm not going to say 'everything tastes better with time' or any of that shit. But if you push yourself too hard you will break and may have to start at route one. The world won't end if you take a nap, meditate, read or watch that new Netflix episode. You're always so hard on yourself. Treat yourself to something. Drink some wine, paint your nails. Hell, even go for a walk. The best work gets done when you're not stressed out. You will do it perfectly, believe in yourself and it will come true. You can push yourself in a bit. For now just rest. You can do it, you'll get there. Just please, don't hurt yourself trying.

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You see, darling. Cutting never helps. It only creates more of a problem- you saw all of my art? Creating things helps.

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If you never try, you'll never succeed.

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For some reason, we are truly convinced that if we criticize ourselves, the criticism will lead to change. If we are harsh, we believe we will end up being kind. If we shame ourselves, we believe we end up loving ourselves. It has never been true, not for a moment, that shame leads to love. Only love leads to love.

Geneen Roth (via withlovingkindness)

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It is very easy to conform to what your society or your parents and teachers tell you. That is a safe and easy way of existing; but that is not living. To live is to find out for yourself what is true.

Jiddu Krishnamurti (via withlovingkindness)

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Friendly reminder to check you’re not holding tension in your body. Let your shoulders drop, unclench your hands and jaw. Take a deep breath. Much better.

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Always trust your intuition. If you feel like something's not right, chances are it's not. If something is bothering you then ladies/men, run for the hills.

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If your crush is crushing on someone else, who cares? You’re a motherfuckin queen/king. You’ll find who you’re meant to be with and til then you’ll meet people who get in your way or teach you what you want to fight for. This is all about learning. Even if your crush doesn’t like you back it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. It means there’s someone better for you. Put that smile back on your face and show everyone that you’re the fuckin boss. You don’t need someone to make you happy; happiness comes from yourself. If you rely on others to do so your life will be pure misery. You’re the author of your own story, so pick up that pencil and write prince/ss

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You can do it. You've been through hell and back. Your enemies fear you because they know that no matter what, you can survive. Your friends adore you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel like it. Your family isn't blood, it's who you love and loves you. And there are/will be people who love you more than their own life. You offer a new viewpoint, none of your thoughts should be put down. You are amazing. The fact that you're alive is incredible, out of millions that could be alive you are. Whether it's because of a God or something else, there's a reason. Darlin, don't put yourself down. You're better than this, and in a few years you'll look back and think "I am strong." because you ARE a warrior. Keep fighting.