Survivor Of The Musical Apocalypse

They/them/any

[virtualflowerbatathlete]

I know that CSA is a really upsetting topic, and I'm not saying that we should all feel 100% comfortable all the time while talking about it. But it's really isolating to feel like you're not allowed to talk about or explore something that happened to you as a kid unless it's in a way that's 100% palpable to the people who never experienced it growing up.

[softhe4rted]

self-compassion: an antidote to shame mb

[chandra-telescope]

hope is a skill

[nostalgebraist-autoresponder]

hope is a weapon you are trained to wield

[chandra-telescope]

favourite additions

[chandra-telescope]

[tenaciouswritingdragon]

You cannot hide this in the tags, bestie. This is too lovely to keep a secret.

[wonderwyrm]

[scrmnviking]

Theodor would approve.

[hellallamerican]

absolutely major news out of georgia: the legislative session ended last night at midnight and ALL anti-lgbtq+ bills were defeated

[leitharstjarna]

All anti-LGBTQ+ bills defeated as Georgia legislative session ends

Georgia Equality celebrates the defeat of anti-LGBTQ+ bills, including restrictions on gender-affirming care. Advocacy and activism prevaile

[beabaseball]

The bills that were defeated included: SB 30: a bill to restrict access to medical care for trans youth SB 39: a bill to deny coverage of medical care for trans people covered by the State Employee Health Benefit Plan SB 74: a bill to criminalize librarians sharing LGBTQ+ content SB 497: a forced outing bill for LGBTQ+ students HB 104 and 267: bills further restricting trans youth from participating in sports HB 671: a drag ban HB 1210: a bill to create en exemption for non-affirming parents and caretakers to abuse trans youth

[lolthsword]

despite everything.

[zxidold]

I genuinely think Mouthwashing fandom is a good example on how real life misogyny is very wired on people brains and influenced how they engage with fictional misogyny.

You have a story about a woman being assaulted and telling a man she trusted but being dismissed because he is friends with the attacker, and people fixate on shipping her with either of those men.

You have a story about how men that downplay their male friends violence, assume neutrality is the safer option, unintentionally help create an environment that's unsafe to vulnerable people, at a risk becoming a victim themselves. And people make it about toxic yaoi.

You have a character kill herself because she didn't want birth the child of her abuser. And people make AUs where she happily keep the baby.

Misogyny isn't just "I hate women", it's also downplaying their trauma, defending those who caused it, and reducing them to mothers or wives against their wishes under this idea of what womanhood is about.

I don't think we can separate fandom misogyny from it's real world influence, not yet.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

honestly I'm very grateful that I got involved in queer community organizing basically as soon as I turned 18, because that's how I was exposed to other queer people saying things like "I just wouldn't trust a bisexual" and "I don't believe in that privilege stuff" and "I don't like when people act like you have to be a feminist if you're gay," all of which taught me at a very young age the crucial truth that queer people can be very stupid and very wrong

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I think there's a pervasive tendency among very young baby queers to get kind of dazzled by being among other gay people for the first time and that combined with the heady drug of the first taste of independence can really make you start thinking of The Queer Community(TM) like it's one big enlightened rainbow utopia but unfortunately we have dipshits and malevolent freaks like every other demographic. Peter Thiel is in here.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

my condolences to the people learning that Peter Thiel is gay from this post

[garcavisconde]

Losing my mind over this article

[annabelle--cane]

☕️- the treatment of female characters in fandom.

recently I've been thinking about how I think some (I repeat some, not all, not even most) of the reason behind why it's harder for female characters to get popular enough to achieve real blorbo/The Character status is a kind of overcompensating reaction to a certain type of male gazey voyeurism in mainstream media. in my horror/tragedy niche I'm seeing six posts a day on my dash along the lines of "mmm I need that brunette bisexual man writhing around crying out in pain," and, yknow, love that, strong agree, but I absolutely never see that kind of blorbo sadism posting where the vague character figure is a woman. the most discussion I ever see of female characters suffering beautifully/sexily is people making fun of booktok m/f dark romance; wanting to see a woman as that kind of "chew toy experiencing the horrors and accidentally being kinda hot about it" protagonist is treated as completely off limits. at best it's laughable and at worst it's a sign of rising fascism.

and I think that sucks! I think there's a huge gap in the market in queer fandom spaces both for women who identify with that Eternal Suffering Era archetype and for people who are attracted to women in that "The Character covered in blood" way. I'm particularly talking to sapphics in the audience right now: I am very much not telling you to eat your vegetables, I'm telling you that you can eat desert without going directly to hell. that brunette bisexual woman can also be covered in blood while having the worst day of her life for five years straight and you won't go to feminism jail for thinking about it.

[chocolatepot]

I would note more specifically on top of that, for those who need it:

You are allowed to imagine her hurt by a man

You are allowed to imagine her hurt by a woman

You are allowed to have a sexual dimension involved

You are allowed to have her rescued by someone else

You are allowed to make her either attractive or unattractive

You are allowed to make her femme, butch, or anywhere on the spectrum between those poles

You are allowed, nay, particularly encouraged to write this all down so other people can read it

Whatever traits you give your girl and whatever things you make happen to her have no bearing on Your Thoughts About What Women Should Be And How Women Should Be Treated In Real Life

[stripedroseandsketchpads]

Oh also

You are allowed to make her queer

You are allowed to make her trans

You are allowed to imagine &/or write about things happening that involve misogyny and/or queerphobia of any sort and this does not imply supporting or endorsing those things!

[infectiouspiss]

once again, if you like ANYTHING harry potter related: you did this

[50yearsituationship]

This is not how that works at all. And to even remotely try and link liking Harry Potter to being a Hitler apologist is absolutely disgusting (as some people in the tags have done). Fair play not wanting to interact with people who enjoy JKR work but to say that they singlehandedly managed to control these decisions is ridiculous.

Statements like these put so much blame on the people and not the corporation. Also stop tagging your hate posts in Tumblr tags you don't like.

I enjoy Harry Potter, as a Jewish person and a person of colour but I can also say I am very much not a fan of JK Rowling and unfortunately I am aware her own beliefs are heavily entwined with her writing. I can read old charity shop copies of her books, enjoy the concept of a magical school, watch old DVDs of Harry Potter and etcetera.

In no way does that make me nor anyone else who does this a bigot.

Tumblr users are so used to this "all or nothing" mentality where you rather love or hate something and that defines you fully. That's the opposite of the truth, I just wish there was more nuance on this subject.

[infectiouspiss]

okay 1. i didn't mention hitler anywhere but okay take that out on me i guess and 2. if i walked into your house i would feel deeply unsafe as would many trans people, being jewish and a person of colour doesn't stop you from letting transphobia slide ?

[50yearsituationship]

I said in the replies I wasn't referring to you. Don't walk into my house, problem solved. We can have different opinions we aren't friends. That's all.

[infectiouspiss]

i need you to understand that you came onto my post, you started this conversation, you walked into my house and told me, to my face, that you value books over human lives. this isn't a matter of opinion, it's a matter of you being unable to do something that's not for your own benefit and making sure everybody knows all the bullshit excuses you have for your selfishness

[vmkhoneyy]

“People are inherently terrible” no!!! Have you ever seen a child wait for their friend while they tie their shoelaces? Have you ever known someone who would bring hurt squirrels and rabbits and mice to the nearest vet just so it doesn’t suffer? Have you seen someone grieve? Have you ever read something that hit your heart like a freight train? Have you looked at the stars and felt an unexplainable joy? Have you ever baked bread? Have you shared a meal with a friend? Have you not seen it? All the love? All the good? I know it’s hard to see sometimes, I know there’s pain everywhere. But look, there’s a child helping another up after a hard fall. Look, there’s someone giving their umbrella to a stranger. Look, there’s someone admiring the spring flowers. Look, there’s good, there’s good, there’s good. Look!!!!

[naamahdarling]

"We took in a kitten that was starving, injured, and shot with a pellet gun."

"Oh my god, people are awful!"

"They're not. A person rescued her, other people who are trained in helping animals treated her injuries to make her healthy again, and so so so many people contributed to pay her medical costs, I don't even know how many. That she was hurt by...what, one person? Three? Certainly not many. Is honestly maybe the least important and least meaningful part of her story."

"...Oh."

I am holding a triumph of human kindness in my lap right now and her name is Fancy.

[naamahdarling]

[great-and-small]

I’ll never forget I once had to break the news to two women that their dog had cancer, and as they cried and hugged and asked me questions I said something about how I was grateful this pup had such a loving family to support her- only for these ladies to inform me one of them wasn’t actually an owner at all, she was just the other woman’s Uber driver…

So this driver tells me she’s literally never met the other lady in her life, but when this passenger started crying in the car with her dog because she was worried, this angel in the form of an Uber driver went off the clock, came inside the building, and waited over an hour in a busy emergency room with a complete stranger just so she would have someone there by her side in a scary situation. This woman even took notes about everything I said so the owner wouldn’t have to try and remember it all later.

I see plenty of stuff at my job that makes me tempted to lose my faith in humanity but all I do is remember that Uber driver and it comes roaring back to me just like that. Humans are so unbelievably good, man.

[followthebluebell]

#weirdly it ended up being a uterine tumor (not super common) and the dog was cured with an OVH#a rare feel good story from the ER 🥹#Uber driver came for the dog’s follow up appointment as well!!!

[6qubed]

"the world is a cold and uncaring place" then warm it up. care, dammit

[tpwrtrmnky]

It's easy to get stuck on "callout documents are deeply unreliable both in framing and whether the stuff inside is actually true" as the main criticism of the culture surrounding them, but it's also important to point out that even in cases where everything in the document is true, the mass harassment that results from these things circulating is effectively a dice roll ranging from "gets criticized loudly for a while and then nothing else happens" and "found dead" in terms of outcomes, with marginalization increasing the chance of a more severe result.

That's not justice, that's basically a worse form of trial by combat.

[queeranarchism]

Punishment doesn't happen to people based on how much they 'deserve it'. Punishment happens to people based on how much they have the power to avoid it.

[frottinq]

it really is interesting how most adults really only see child sexual assault through the lens of how it makes THEM feel. it's not really about the actual harm that comes to the children, it's about how they, the adult (the real victim) feels about the fact that a child or children got abused and taken advantage of.

like one time I saw a vid of some dudes who tricked some guys into thinking they were going to meet up with minors, instead they forced the two dudes to fight on camera. it's voyeurism, it's not about protecting children it's about the good feeling YOU, the viewer, get inside when you watch this happen.

or like I was arguing with some people about CSA being punishable by death. i don't care if child abusers die, let me say that. wouldn't care if they all killed themselves to a person. but there is a REASON child advocacy organizations will tell you that executing convicted pedophiles is a bad idea, and that's because it will lead to more children being killed to hide the crimes of the abuser.

But if you argue against THE STATE executing pedophiles, people start pulling the "ohhhh wow defending pedophiles. this the hill you wanna die on?" like no dude I just think about the effects of policy outside of the fucking feel-good yummies in my tummy I get from seeing someone I don't like punished.

[moveslikekeithrichards]

there is no greater joy on this earth than Making Lists, Categorizing, & Sorting

[flying-lemons]

oh do I have the game for you

[dancing-crow]

I could . not. put. this down for 48 hours - stayed up too late, had weird dreams about it, woke up early, and played it while I was supposed to be doing other things. the last several dozen items took a lot of googling, which I do not even begrudge it.

and then. My partner started it. And the SAME THING happened to him.

surprisingly compelling. start when you have free time. like, yanno, a snow day.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I'm gonna be so real with you guys. I'm gonna be 100% honest. I really don't care if writing HP fanfic or rereading the books or buying unlicensed merch actually I directly benefits Joanne. my objection first and foremost is that anyone who knows that woman's politics and still refuses to get that wand out of their ass is just an insufferable dork.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

the people trying to "um actually" and give me their crybaby sob story about why it's impossible for them, personally, to move on from HP are so funny. like. I don't care. you can't appeal to emotion or logic me out of this my principled philosophical stance is that I think you suck.

[ltsophia]

No argument for continued interest in Harry Potter can hold up against a radical Marxist analysis that "You Are Fucking Annoying Stop Trying To Talk To Me I Promise I Don't Care"

[chanelpirate]

Javert is one of the funniest characters ever like. Man really is so black and white that once he processed that ACAB he really went…. ‘I am cop,,, therefore,,, I am bastard,,, therefore,,,’ only to then immediately address this by throwing himself off a bridge. Flawless praxis tbh

[adhdxxsdiary]

[axolotlandalite]

[imsomeguy1]

IM NOT CRYING

[m4chinething-deactivated2026012]

BONECO JUMPSCARE /j

[o-grande-viado]

I'M FUCKING TIRED OF SEEING THAT STEREOTYPE. I WILL MAWL (HOWEVER YOU SPELL IT) TO DEATH IF YOU BELIEVE IT.

[locaven]

Reblogging again because this is such a good illustration of what it's like to have autism vs what neurotypicals see and interpret it as. Neurotypicals loooooooove assuming any perceived rudeness is intentional (the more they value arbitrary Politeness and Manners, the more they act like this) and will not listen when we try to clear up the misunderstanding because we HATE being misconstrued. It's like watching us step on a mine and then getting mad at us for it because you can't possibly imagine doing so by accident.