If you love me, don't let go

Sylvan/26/nonbinary • Pronouns: he/they • Side blogs: blue-stardew, wintergrovewitch

[everythingfox]

Really enjoying the scritches

[icarus-suraki]

[catchymemes]

[teaboot]

"she thinks this is bonding behavior" my friend this has BECOME your bonding behaviour

[baraphalloplastyclinic]

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

Don't become a housewife.

[ladyfoxfire]

And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.

If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.

[dressedupliketheking]

also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can

[soloontherocks-moving-refol-blog]

my favorite side effect warning is for antidepressants

pros: you won’t want to kill yourself

cons: you might want to kill yourself

[notnights]

Back when I was in a psychiatric hospital, and was offered antidepressants, my mother had declined them due to that apparent side effect. So the staff actually explained about this effect antidepressants have, that give reason to that warning. When first taking antidepressants they raise up your energy first. So that you have the energy to do the tasks you might have avoided doing due to your depression. Because of this those who were already suicidal, now have the energy to go do so. Which is the ones this warning is given for. It’s not that a side effect of antidepressants magically makes you want to kill yourself, it’s the energy it gives those who were already struggling with suicidal issues, to actually attempt the act.

[butterscotchwm-deactivated20181]

Very informative…

[staying-happily-high]

Wow. I’m so glad you explained that. Now I understand

[its-thedinosaurman]

My high school choir/psych teacher actually told is about this. She also said if you have a suicidal friend who starts seeming like they might be getting better because they have more energy, that’s the time to be cautious because that’s when they may still be suicidal but they’ll actually have the energy to go through with it

[starlight-and-promises]

THIS. a thousand times THIS. I had it explained to me in my AP psychology class in high school. super fucking important.

[fatale-distraction]

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT and I wish my doctors had explained it to me this well when I first started taking them.

[fatale-distraction]

JUST GONNA REBLOG THIS AGAIN TO ADD that my younger sister in law recently started on anti-depressants among other medications in juncture with therapy to help handle an extreme case of OCD and anxiety, and I was the one who had to explain this to her. Her doctor only explained the risks, and not WHY they would actually be considered risks, which put her off of taking medication for most of her life. I explained it, and she understood, and THAT is why she is now on medication that is significantly improving her life. DOCTORS NEED TO TELL US THIS SHIT.

[grumpyoldnurse]

Best description of why ‘increased risk of suicide’ is included in the warning for anti-depressants I’ve ever read.

Signal boost this to save a life.

[rabbitindisguise]

They can also cause acute drug-induced mania in bipolar folks (any type), and mania is the riskiest time for suicide attempts in bipolar folks (in particular with mixed episodes). This is also because mania gives someone energy, as well as can include other symptoms that increase suicidal thoughts and self harm behaviors. Even if you have no family history of bipolar it’s important to see how they can affect you, and to understand the symptoms of mania (which can mimic a lot of symptoms of anxiety disorders).

[everyday-cutephoto]

[twistedangelboness]

imagine hating me and im just in my room straight up sobbing

[twistedangelboness]

i like these tags/comments in the rb’s

[calciumcryptid]

I feel like a lot of people get "All Art is Political" confused with "All Art is made with Political Intentions" which is not the same.

[goth-queen]

I made a battle axe out of monster cans

[ruinedchildhood]

Pretty fun weapon to draw

[horsefriend]

[putnamspuppeteer]

For those who don't know: Ikumi Nakamura is the woman who was senior artist on Bayonetta, and designed the titular character along with Hideki Kamiya. Their greatest moment of bonding was over their insistence that Bayonetta keep her glasses on at all times. Nakamura cannot go to horny jail. She is the warden.

[brookietf]

[catgirlforeskin]

Happy pride month to her and her exclusively

[seraphiminn]

she made a comic about the experience on twitter

[catboybiologist]

happy pride

[ikindamaybewanthertositonmyface]

An Update from back in October I'm surprised wasn't added to this post. lol

[cheaphalloweencostume]

i know i’m just in a bad mood but this push to re-categorize every kind or moral human action as inherently punk and cool is fucking cringe because you’re showing your ass about your priorities. as a visibly alt queer myself, who gives a FUCK if being nice is “punk”? just be nice because it’s nice. i’m not giving you special scene brownie points for it?? and you don’t even listen to punk music or care about the history? so why do you care about being “punk”?? IM GOING CRAZY

[cheaphalloweencostume]

while im reiterating posts, let’s touch this one!

so, so many well-meaning people going “well, if feeling punk is what makes people be nice and do nice things, let them say they’re punk!” to which, yeah, i can’t stop them

my objection isn't "being nice isn't punk, therefore don't be nice”

my objection is that we've reached a point where every positive human behavior gets reframed as an aesthetic identity instead of just being a positive human behavior

if you think helping people is good, then help people because it's good!

if you think kindness is good, be kind because it's good!

i don't understand the need to run every moral action through a "but is it punk?" filter first, especially when a lot of the people doing this have no actual interest in punk as a culture, music scene, history, or political tradition (for better or for worse)

at a certain point "punk" just becomes shorthand for "thing i personally approve of," and then the word stops meaning anything at all

ANYWAY! here’s some punk bands you could check out if you’re interested in punk music that might reflect the values you hold dear but you’re not sure where to start: Against Me!, Crass, The Dicks, MDC, X-Ray Spex, The Muslims, G.L.O.S.S., Big Joanie, Los Crudos, Pansy Division! give them a try! happy thrashing!

[zinesbycee]

(nods sagely) (nods basily) (nods rosemarily) (nods saltly) (nods star anisely)

[3000s]

sometimes older people get annoyed when i say "no problem" instead of "you're welcome" but the truth is it's literally not a problem

[3000s]

and sometimes you're not welcome

[sadgi]

can I get a job as an editor but the only thing I do is correct when someone uses the word "prone" when they mean "supine"

[sadgi]

thank you wikipedia for this really good image

[sadgi]

a helpful mnemonic for everyone

[talkwithtatsu]

too good for tags

[headspace-hotel]

This mnemonic has a permanent place in my life.

Every time in yoga class when my instructor would say "now get into a prone position" I would think "ah yes on your pronis"

[catchymemes]

[chorusys]

the sweetest girls in all of existence are made to think they're horrifying monsters, it's so fucked.

[chorusys]

NO ACTUALLY THIS POST IS ABOUT REAL LIFE TRANS WOMEN

[unconventiononthelawofthesea]

men and women are literally the same but unfortunately everyone's crazy so we are forced to pretend they're different in some ways.

[itsabear]

Humans do have a surprisingly small amount of sexual dimorphism. On average more difference can be explained by culture more than biology. The horrible youth diet culture has a huge impact on height. Most people can train to lift a surprisingly large amount of weight, it's only at the upper competative level that differences become important... And even then ease of getting funding is significant.

[thegenderienvy]

I genuinely think this is most evident in the fact that it is SO easy for us to change sex. Like our bodies are similar enough that a perisex male can become female and a perisex female can become male just by using HRT!

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[hypokeimena]

#'this is present in the text' is often a good first step #but those second and third ones (naming it; describing its function) are vital (via @elucubrare)

[mionghairearracht]

to be fair when the word initially came about it was often used as a shorthand to say "hey there are some issues with this that aren't hugely bigoted but it does deserve some discussion" and opening up talks around things.

it was also used when people wanted to discuss themes and tropes that had multiple issues where the root or how things reflected into life isn't perfectly clear.

the internet being what it is that quickly got lost and it became the word that essentially means " this is bad no more discussion", rather then an invitation to start one.

[dovewithscales]

Completely true. Ultimately the core problem I think is that social media and the way humans interact on the internet creates massive pressure explicitly against critical thinking and acknowledging the existence of nuance.