this “feminist” choke me daddy nymphet bdsm culture shit has gotta fuckin stop

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this “feminist” choke me daddy nymphet bdsm culture shit has gotta fuckin stop
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Let’s talk about why this is problematic
WHERES THE MAN?
Where is Jesus telling the porn supporter that he’s a sinner? Where’s Jesus telling the guy who objectifies women that he’s a sinners? Where’s Jesus telling the guy who supports sex work knowing it hurts women that he’s a sinner?
Religion has such a history with punishing only women when men are equally as guilty. I had a professor priest who said when they baptized babies, they had to give the woman a blessing to forgive her sin of having sex and giving birth. Nevermind that the man had sex too apparently. And this is part of why the anti porn movement is lagging, it focuses on women fixing the problem when we need men too.
To my religious followers, please hold men accountable. Our movement depends on it. And feel free to make another version of this!
Logical Fallacies in Trans Activism
No true Scotsman - “Trans women aren’t violent! Those trans women who committed violent crimes aren’t real trans women!”
Ad hominem - [completely ignores other person’s argument] “Go fix your eyebrows, you’re so ugly! You’re a bigoted idiotic bitch!”
Ad nauseam - “Trans women are women. Trans women are women. Trans women are women. Trans women are women.”
Circular argument - “A woman is anyone that identifies as a woman.”
Ad misericordiam - “Don’t you care about those innocent trans kids that are being murdered in the street? Don’t you care about the trans women that are being violently raped every day? Trans people are being killed, there is a trans genocide happening!”
Strawman: “I’ve never actually looked at a radical feminist blog, but I’m going to make posts about how they’re all violent misogynistic and racist bigots who believe that women belong in the kitchen!”
Moral equivalence - “If you misgender a trans person, even by accident, you are as evil as Nazis and you are responsible for the deaths of trans people!”
Ad baculum - “If you don’t completely and blindly support trans people, then you’re a TERF and we beat up TERFs.”
Appeal to authority - “Well, x organization says trans people are valid!!”
Guilt by association - “You’re wrong because I saw a conservative say something similar”
Genetic fallacy - “This movement was started by trans women of color” [besides the fact that that’s blatantly untrue]
Fallacy of equivocation - “Trans women are women, it’s literally in the name”
Appeal to tradition - “Trans people have always existed!”
Fallacy of composition - “This one trans person benefitted from transitioning, therefore everyone will”
Appeal to the popular - “Everyone hates you stupid terfs, just kill yourselves already”
there is nothing about me that makes me a woman other than my biology. there is no characteristic inherent in all women asides from biology (the fact that we are all females). there is no single other thing that links women together.
to imply that womanhood is a feeling, or a trait, or something you identify as, is to disrespect females and undermine our literal realities and struggles that arise from being female.
Well if there’s nothing about you that makes you a woman other than your biology, then doesn’t that mean you don’t personally identify as a woman?
Why do you need to personally identify as a woman? That’s not required to be a woman. Only biology.
On the contrary, despite me having a uterus, I am not a woman. Despite a friend of mine lacking one, she is a woman. Gender is not bound by biology.
What is gender, then?
A spectrum and a choice.
Okay, but a spectrum and a choice of what?
How you feel. There are all kinds of ways your gender can go, be it trans, non-binary, gender fluid, or cis. Your gender is up to you and no one else.
Does that mean the rest of the world will be any less cruel? Unfortunately no. But that doesn’t mean my friend who happened to be born with a penis isn’t a woman. She decided she’s trans, and I respect her enough to know how long and difficult of a mental road that must have been to get to that conclusion. I’m not gonna tell her she’s not a woman because she doesn’t have the right biology.
Your gender is how you feel? Is it all your feelings? Is the word “feelings” interchangeable with the word “gender”?
In this case, sure. Gender identity is a personal issue and a personal journey.
As someone else who found this thread pointed out, gender is a social construct. So how you feel and how you want to identify is up to you. This does not however, give you the right to invalidate other people’s gender along the way.
How does someone know they are a man versus a woman? What “feelings” distinguish being a woman from being a man—or being neither?
If gender identity is just feelings, then allowing trans-identifying male people into women’s spaces is prioritizing male feelings over women’s rights and safety.
If gender identity is just feelings and not a mental health condition, then there’s no reason for insurance companies to cover transitioning costs and procedures.
Having feelings doesn’t make you oppressed, and saying you are something doesn’t make you that something. I’m not a leaf regardless of how many times I repeat that I am one.
“Woman” is not a gender identity—it’s not a feeling. That’s absolutely sexist and, quite frankly, a form of science denialism.
First off, science disproved the gender binary a long time ago. Second, how the hell is gender identity a mental health condition? And on that note, I can guarantee you that insurance companies do not cover transitioning cost and procedures. Least not any I’ve ever heard of.
Admittedly, ‘feelings’ is over simplifying it. For those who do not identify as cisgender, it is a long and hard road that a lot of people don’t even make it off of. Imagine looking in the mirror and seeing someone else. Imagine feeling like your skin isn’t yours. Imagine feeling like you’re broken because the you you are physically isn’t the you you feel that you are.
I personally am non-binary, so while I can’t speak for everyone I can tell you this; it took a long road of depression, anxiety and self harm to get to wear I am now. I felt like an alien. Like I was playing a character in a video game instead of being the real me. Back then I didn’t even know what non-binary was, so I kept trying to play the role I was put in. But I still itched like I had chicken pox every time I had to wear a dress. I still kept my hair up because I’d flinch every time I’d feel it on my neck. I tried boy things for a while. The clothes still didn’t feel right, I count ride a skateboard, and at the time I was living in a fairly traditional neighborhood so my behavior got me bullied.
Am I saying that all my mental health problems were based on my gender identity? No, but figuring out there was a word for what I was feeling and there were other people like me certainly made a world of difference. If someone else tells me they’re trans, non, or gender fluid, I’m not going to invalidate the struggle it took them to get to where they are because I’ve been through similar.
If you haven’t, congratulations. I’m glad you’re comfortable with who you are. But that doesn’t mean that people like me don’t exist.
First off, science disproved the gender binary a long time ago.
Source me the research you are thinking of and I’d be happy to correct misinterpretations. Speaking as someone in the life sciences and as somebody passionate about following this research, no, science has not disproved the “gender binary”.
I can guarantee you that insurance companies do not cover transitioning cost and procedures. Least not any I’ve ever heard of.
The following insurance carriers have available plans without blanket exclusions for transgender surgery and other trans-related healthcare.
I don’t have to imagine the circumstances you’ve described, I’ve lived them.
But, again. This is my question:
How does someone know they’re a man, rather than a woman? How does someone know they are neither? What “feelings” distinguish being a man vs. being a woman vs. being non-binary?
You mention feeling uncomfortable while wearing a dress and relate this to being non-binary—but femininity, such as dresses or having long hair or behaving a certain way—does not make someone a woman. These are sexist stereotypes.
Rejecting these sex-based norms (because this is what they are—cultural norms attributed to one’s sex) or disliking them doesn’t make you any less of a woman. Do you believe that female people uncomfortable with their sexual characteristics/general body who dislike and/or reject culutural sex-based norms aren’t real women?
I am not a phycologist or any kind of professional. All I am saying is that trans people are valid, non-binary people are valid, and gender fluid people are valid. I have no right to deny or question someone’s existence and neither do you.
And that’s fine and well-intentioned. I hope you realize, though, that many of these people’s belief systems rely upon very sexist, anti-feminist, homophobic and anti-scientific ideas to exist. There are many trans people who feel their own selves are being erased by the “tucute” movement, and many more women who’s rights are being threatened by it. When people can’t answer the simple questions of “what is a woman? what distinguishes a man from a woman from a non-binary person?” without resorting to sexist stereotypes, circular logic, or spirituality in their answer—it’s a form of female erasure, which benefits exploitive socio-structural conditions.
You can support trans people’s rights to healthcare, housing, jobs, etc. without being anti-feminist, anti-science, homophobic, and everything else the “tucute” movement seems to believe in.
I have no right to deny or question someone’s existence and neither do you
I do have the right to question what other people believe in, and so do you. Question everything. If the act of asking questions threatens somebody’s self-identity or denies their existence, then their identity is rooted in faith and not science. Don’t let anyone tell you to not be curious and ask questions about anything or anyone that exists or doesn’t exist.
Okay, then let me throw your questions back at you. What is a woman? What distinguishes a man from a woman or from a non-binary person? Because if the answer is biology or genitals then you are the one being transphobic and sexist here, not me. If someone tells me what their gender is I’m not going to tell them their wrong. That’s erasure right there.
I have no illusions. I know the world is biased against anyone who isn’t a cis white hetero male. But to fix it we need to look for equality for every human being.
What is a woman?
To answer your question I want to first back up and borrow this person’s well written description of biological sex:
It’s probably worth noting that sex describes reproductive roles. Any description of sex that does not take into account reproduction at some level is clearly unanchored and absurd. Specifically, when someone says their sex is X, a coherent and material explanation is that they are saying their bodies have developed along one of two pathways towards the production of specific gonads that produce specific gametes associated with each sex.
For many people, succesful production of gametes and reproduction does not occur — this is contingent on environmental and historical factors — a boy child may die at five before sperm are produced — they are still male — their development is still clearly along the male pathway. And of course, like any biological pathway, problems can occur and atypical development can occur due to chromosomal/genetic issues. Sometimes misleadingly called intersex conditions, these disorders of sex development are still variations on the development of one of two sexes.
What makes someone a woman?
The distinguishing factor as to whether someone develops down a male pathway of reproductive development versus a female pathway is the presence of the SRY gene, which in the absence of medical anomalies is found in the Y chromosome.
“Woman” historically is a word that provides personhood and age to “female”. It is a word meant to describe people who are female, adult, and human. When scientists say “women’s health” they are referring to the health of adult people who have developed along a certain and specific reproductive pathway—the female reproductive pathway.
This isn’t misogyny (which is defined as the hatred of female people, by the way)—it’s biology. Feminist theory, which is rooted in sociology, centers on the observation that female people (women) are globally oppressed on the axis of biological sex by male people (men).
Why do you think that distinguishing men from women by biology is misogyny or sexist?
I don’t. I think it’s transphobic.
Why should we care more about whether something is “transphobic” than if it’s true? Can you actually argue against any single point in the comment above? You admit to being uneducated in the sciences and yet you continue to act like an authority in this conversation, why?
While we’re at it, why does transphobia trump every other kind of oppression in your weird hierarchy? You likely think I’m transphobic, I know I think you’re a misogynist, a homophobe, and likely biased against the genuine interests of dysphoric people, why does your opinion matter so much more? Why do we have to let trans identified males be racist and sexist and homophobic because that’s “not as bad” as being transphobic against them? Let alone how often the community covers for abusers and criminals just because they’re trans…
Is it because you view this as a competition, a club to join, or a prize to be won? Its a performance and a thought exercise for you?
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I am so pleased at how many notes are some version of “I don’t fear the science, I fear the corporations who control it” because that is EXACTLY the attitude you should have. GMOs can save us. Monsanto will kill us.
what people fear about GMO- ‘theyre gonna make frankencarrots that crave human flesh and cause diarrhea ’ what GMO actually is- ‘we made rice crop that is both drought resistant and flood resistant which will prevent about 20% of major famine disasters, also it now makes vitamin A because vitamin A deficiency in poverty stricken areas is a major killer of kids as most vitamin A rich foods dont grow there’ what people SHOULD be upset about- ‘i made all crops sterile so all farmers have to buy the seed from me in perpetuity and i will sue anyone who tries to go back to crops that produce their own seed’
^^^ THIS
While I love the general public becoming aware of the horrors of capitalism, I wanna talk more about that response about software?? Because the more I know about software the more I absolutely will not put unnecessary smart devices in my home. Catch me on an Amish style homestead with only a Nokia flip phone.
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This guy is transphobic so take what he says with whatever grain of salt you will. I do think he makes a lot of very accurate points (I’ve read “Why does he do that?”) and I think some valuble insights can be gained from him. Like many other things, nuance and critical thinking are important.
wait, so you mean to tell me that a man who has made an entire career out of recognizing the manipulative behavioral patterns of men….recognizes the manipulative behavior of men thinking that they can be women, and that actual women must kiss their ass once they start claiming to be women?
you don’t fucking say.
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One of the most important things I learned in my Language and the Law class is that law enforcement will intentionally misinterpret every type of statement asking for a lawyer as not asking for a lawyer. Even directly saying it like this “I will not speak to you without a lawyer” can be taken as a simple statement of fact rather than a request for a lawyer. You literally have to state “I am now invoking my right to a lawyer” and every time they try to proceed with an interrogation you have to answer every question with “I am invoking my right to have a lawyer present”. You can’t just tell them you won’t talk without a lawyer or that you want a lawyer. You have to state that you are invoking your rights. Otherwise they could just say “well they just said they wouldn’t speak without a lawyer present. That’s not invoking their rights to a lawyer. It’s just stating a fact.” even just stating your right to a lawyer doesn’t count!
PLEASE share this addition. I am a lawyer who works in criminal defense, and this is one of the most avoidable things that people consistently get wrong about the Miranda rights.
Here are some more “ambiguous” phrases which courts have found DO NOT invoke your right to a lawyer:
“Maybe I should speak to my lawyer first.”
“I might like a lawyer.”
“I think I should have a lawyer present for this.”
“Could I speak to my lawyer first?”
“How long until my lawyer gets here?”
And perhaps most egregiously – “Get me a lawyer, dawg – ‘cause this is not what’s up.”
Here are the magic phrases which you need to know if you want to invoke your Miranda rights:
1) “Am I free to leave?”
It’s worth asking this even if the answer is obvious. Even if the officer does not let you leave, by forcing them to admit that you are not free to leave, you are creating a record which your attorney can use to prove that you were in custody. Miranda rights only apply if the interrogation is custodial, meaning that police officers will frequently claim that their suspects were “not in custody” to get around their Miranda rights.
2) “I am invoking my right to remain silent.”
Simply staying silent will not invoke your right to remain silent. As absurd as this is, you must explicitly say that you are invoking your right to remain silent in order to invoke that right.
3) “I am invoking my right to an attorney.”
As stated above, you must be not only clear and unambiguous, but clear and legally unambiguous. Don’t get cute. Don’t get sassy. And on the flip side, don’t get intimidated and use verbal ticks to minimize your request. Say the line with those words exactly – say it clearly, and say it once, and then say nothing else.
Because even after you’ve done all this, the police can still try to get you to talk. They’re not supposed to interrogate you, but they’re allowed to make casual conversation, and if that conversation just happens to circle back around to the thing they wanted to question you about, well, that’s really your fault for talking after you said you wouldn’t, isn’t it? Can’t possibly fault the poor officers when you initiated – if you really wanted to have your rights respected, you wouldn’t have talked to them in the first place.
The police know this, and they will mercilessly exploit this loophole. So, once you’ve successfully invoked your Miranda rights, any and all conversation you have with police officers will put those rights back into jeopardy.
Putting it all together:
Ask: “Am I free to leave?”
If they say no, say: “I am invoking my right to remain silent and I am invoking my right to an attorney.”
And then shut up and do not say a single thing to them for any reason whatsoever until you have actually spoken to an attorney. Yes, even if it takes hours. Yes, even if they start talking to you about something else.
Finally, a very important disclaimer:
I may be a lawyer, but I’m not your lawyer, and I cannot guarantee that what I’ve just laid out here will always work for every situation. We didn’t get to this bizarre and absurd place overnight – we built this ridiculous system piecemeal, by deciding on a case-by-case basis that certain phrases were “too ambiguous” or certain types of questioning weren’t actually questioning at all. The law is still in flux, and is still fundamentally out to get you, and willing to bend plain meaning beyond all recognition to do it. Even if you invoke your rights perfectly, exactly as I have specified above, there’s a chance that your invocation of rights will be disqualified on some new technicality that no one’s even thought of yet – and that’s precisely the problem.
Watch this video: “Don’t Talk To The Police”
this is very good advice!!!
i think it’s worth noting that even if you “messed up” and said things because you were intimidated by the police, it wasn’t your fault. They were being assholes to you on purpose - you were not stupid just because you instinctively fell back on behaviour that usually protects you in social situations. it wasn’t your fault that your rights were stripped from you by an unjust system. you deserve just and fair treatment.
I hate how indoctrinated young women are into the whole Toxic Masculinity violent men have trauma <3 thing. Those men are not even TRYING to empathize with you
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