Listen, I got this a lot too. Especially because I was sort of bullied in school? Like, some guys were dicks but I remember this guy and girl pair who were kind of frenemies? Not the point. The point was that so many adults told me ‘he’s being mean because he likes you’, and I looked at them like “Why the FUCk would you be mean to someone you like, you chunky carton of milk?????”. Even at age five I knew that you do not bully the person you like, and you shouldn’t get in a relationship with someone who regularly hurts you.
And it’s so ingrained in kids that you have to like a kid of the opposite gender. Like, I got shit from my classmates for not liking anyone. Because My asexual ass didn’t like any of the guys since they were mostly jerks to me. And like, yeah kids that age don’t have ‘sexual attraction’, but they can still have a crush on someone completely just because they’re ‘cute’. So whenever I was asked by my classmates about my ‘crushes’ and I said no one, they’d get on my case. Eventually they tricked me by asking which guy I liked best, so I said ‘well, I guess if I had to pick one guy it’d be this one because he’s nice to me?”, and they proceeded to totally ruin what little friendship I had with him by loudly ‘teasing’ us every time we interacted. Yeah, I’m totally blushing right now because I’m ‘talking to my crush’ and not because you fucks are purposely embarrassing me.
All because we’re told from day one that we have to like someone of the opposite gender. Because even small children who don’t know about sex at all have this knowledge of ‘you must like the opposite gender or you’re weird and must be shunned’.
And you know what? I grew up knowing that ‘It’s Okay to be Gay!’. My mom is a major Ally, like the best Ally, and I’ve always known I could possibly be gay. Though, of course, I didn’t like any of my female classmates either because they were also jerks. And I didn’t know Asexuality was a thing until I was 17(not to mention nonbinary genders and all that) but before that I was like ‘okay, I guess I like both genders I guess? I’m not into the sex like my friends are, but romantically I could like a guy or girl ”. Like, hmm, I didn’t like any of my classmates, but what fictional crushes did I have back then? What year did Atlantis come out? 2001? Okay I was like five at the time and I had a crush on Kida(not that it ever went away). And there were probably earlier ones I’m forgetting because that was more than three quarters of my life ago.
But ‘minors are straight because other attractions are too sexual’ or whatever. Yeah, because y’all didn’t teach us ‘the birds and the bees’ from age nine? How we’ll totally want to do the do with the opposite gender? I was lucky to get one of those health teachers that was like ‘sex is okay to do’, but said absolutely fuck all about anything other than straight sex.
Kids/teens are LGBTQ+! Whether you hide it from them or not they will figure out they’re LGBTQ+! They’re not too young, because they know themselves better than anyone else! They know what they feel, and if they say they’re LGBTQ+ they’re LGBTQ+!!! And any kids I’m even sort of responsible for will be told they’re allowed to be LGBTQ+. And you know what? If I ever manage to get my shit together to writ a book, you can bet your ass it’ll have LGBTQ+ kids! Because they exist!