ash

ash | genderfluid | they/them | queer content | writer | artist | sapphic | marauders era enthusiast | fvk jkr | teenager/minor | if u are not a minor, dni pls

[destroy-the-binary]

༉‧₊˚. Introduction .˚₊‧༉

༉‧₊˚. hey guys! I’m Ash. ༉‧₊˚. this is an LGBTQ+ and queer blog, on advice, my experience, funny queer stuff, mental health content, and more! ༉‧₊˚. I’m a genderfluid and lesbian, so I hope I can answer and give whatever guidance and advice I can. ༉‧₊˚. stay safe guys! love you <3 !! ༉‧₊˚. teen and minor!! if you aren't, dni ༉‧₊˚. DMs are open, I'm always here for you ༉‧₊˚. please send me ur queer questions, stories, and confessions, it makes my day. literally just rant about a hot girl to me. I love it. seriously. ༉‧₊˚. artist ✨

༉‧₊˚. I do art requests and fan fiction requests, but nothing to wild or crazy :) ༉‧₊˚. I'll answer any questions you have, but again, nothing to wild please! ༉‧₊˚. I'll do my best to answer questions and give advice, but feel free to correct me if I get something wrong.

༉‧₊˚. @a-queer-writer - my alt account for writing tips ༉‧₊˚. @marauder-aesthetics - my alt for the marauders fandom ༉‧₊˚. @dorcas-fucking-meadowz - my rp alt for marauders era, dorcas ༉‧₊˚. @emmy-van - my rp alt for marauders era, emmeline ༉‧₊˚. @cass-of-meadowes - my rp alt for marauders era, dorcas ༉‧₊˚. @who-is-this-grain-character - my alt for hermit craft and life series stuff ༉‧₊˚. @heirtothehouseofblack - alt for marauders era rp, regulus

[destroy-the-binary]

some ppl will realize they aren’t cis and they won’t change their pronouns. They won’t change how they dress. They won’t change their hair. They won’t change how they talk. They won’t change how they present. They’ll just go “okay, cool” and move on.

that’s okay. you don’t have to socially transition or change who you are just because you realize you aren’t cis. you don’t have to choose which kind of non-cis you are either. you don’t even have to tell anyone.

just be you.

[ashley-is-missing]

if you are comfortable being treated as your birth sex then you are cis then you arent trans, it really is that simple

[destroy-the-binary]

not really bro 😭

my post was abt the whole idea that realizing you aren’t cis doesn’t mean you have to change everything. this could be bcuz it would be a risk to your health or financial stability. it could be because you don’t feel safe doing it. it could be because you already present more ambiguous and don’t feel the need to change anything. also, side note, some ppl might not feel actively uncomfortable being treated as their birth sex, but being treated as their chosen identity makes them euphoric, and that still counts.

but yeah, if you would prefer to be your birth sex, then you are probably cis

that’s not what my post was abt

[ashley-is-missing]

"wont" and "arent able to" are different wordings

[destroy-the-binary]

ok and they’re both valid 😭

not everyone has the privilege of being able to be out or feeling grounded enough to do so

[destroy-the-binary]

if u wanna educate me, feel free

but I’m sorry, I don’t think shi like berrisexual makes sense.

baby it’s ok to be bi. bi means you like two or more genders. it doesn’t mean 50/50. I get it. you want community. find community in bisexual spaces. not in polysexual places because baby those don’t really exist. like girl come on. you don’t need to be different.

[destroy-the-binary]

Queer Blogs & Resources

Hey guys! This is a list of queer creators that you can go to for support, advice, or just general positivity. I hope this helps you guys find support, as I cannot relate to all experiences. I will be adding more to this list!

Edit: Thank you guys so much for letting me know that I had a TERF on the list. I had scrolled through their feed earlier, and didn’t find anything problematic, but with further research, I realize I was wrong. This person has since been removed.

Lesbian Bloggers

@destroy-the-binary - Me! A blog on queer and LGBTQ+ issues and topics.

@our-lesbian-experience - A great blog about the lesbian experience.

Bisexual Bloggers

@hellomynameisbisexual - A blog about a bisexual guy's experience and bisexual positivity.

Gay Bloggers

@glowing-gay - A blog about mlm experience, yearning and love.

@nonpassingmlm - A blog mainly for trans and enby mlm people.

Pansexual Bloggers

@posi-pan - A blog on general queer positivity and pan positivity!

Omnisexual Bloggers

@omnisexualcultureis - A blog on Omni culture and life.

Polyamorous Bloggers

@polyamorouscultureis - A blog about polyamorous positivity.

@polyamorousmood - A blog on poly positivity.

Asexual Bloggers

@asexual-society - A blog on asexual topics and struggles.

@fuckyeahasexual - A blog about asexuality and some aromanticsm.

Aromantic Bloggers

@aro-culture-is - A blog on the aromantic experience and culture.

Intersex Bloggers

@intersex-support - A blog on intersex people, questions, struggles, and other intersex specific things.

@yourfaveisintersex - A blog on intersexism and intersex life, main blog is @ridibulous

Non-Binary Bloggers

@askanonbinary - A blog for Non-Binary questions and life advice.

@nonpassingmlm - A blog mainly about trans and enby mlm people.

Genderfluid Bloggers

@destroy-the-binary - Me again! A blog on queer and LGBTQ+ issues and topics.

@our-genderfluid-experience - A blog on the genderfluid life experience.

Genderqueer Bloggers

@genderqueerpositivity - A blog about genderqueer issues and life.

Demigender Bloggers

@demigenderness - A blog on general queerness and demigenderness.

Agender Bloggers

@our-agender-experience - A blog on general agendar things.

Transgender Bloggers

@transgender - A blog about trans issues and topics.

@our-trans-youth-experience - A blog about trans life and experiences.

General LGBTQ+ Bloggers

@our-queer-experience - A blog on queerness and the queer experience.

@fryingpansexuality - A blog about queerness and queer issues and positivity.

[ashley-is-missing]

can you add me too

[destroy-the-binary]

that’s crazy bro…

you’re entire acc has stuff abt only thinking being gay, lesbian, trans, and bi are valid and this is a list with a lil more than that.

no.

[destroy-the-binary]

some ppl will realize they aren’t cis and they won’t change their pronouns. They won’t change how they dress. They won’t change their hair. They won’t change how they talk. They won’t change how they present. They’ll just go “okay, cool” and move on.

that’s okay. you don’t have to socially transition or change who you are just because you realize you aren’t cis. you don’t have to choose which kind of non-cis you are either. you don’t even have to tell anyone.

just be you.

[ashley-is-missing]

if you are comfortable being treated as your birth sex then you are cis then you arent trans, it really is that simple

[destroy-the-binary]

not really bro 😭

my post was abt the whole idea that realizing you aren’t cis doesn’t mean you have to change everything. this could be bcuz it would be a risk to your health or financial stability. it could be because you don’t feel safe doing it. it could be because you already present more ambiguous and don’t feel the need to change anything. also, side note, some ppl might not feel actively uncomfortable being treated as their birth sex, but being treated as their chosen identity makes them euphoric, and that still counts.

but yeah, if you would prefer to be your birth sex, then you are probably cis

that’s not what my post was abt

[destroy-the-binary]

we need to stop putting all of our hatred on people who use ai for tiny things and put it on the companies.

like yeah, if you use ai for your homework or to write you something, fuck you. and I’m not the biggest fan of using ai to organize something for you.

fuck the companies. not the people who use it to do simple things.

[parkchanwoohoo]

[makingdonalddrumpfagain]

[drudg30n]

“wow this post will be a banger!” nah. you get 1 note and its your spamliking moot

[whatonearthisgoingon]

"no one will care about this post." nah. you get 10k notes on the untagged basic thing that was just supposed to be for your blog stalker moots

[chamiryokuroi]

MEXICO WIN!!! FUCK AI!!!

[lastoneout]

[transmasc-is-life]

'Why does every nonbinary person want top surgery' I dunno maybe because having visible breasts immediately makes everyone assume you're female and only female, and therefore put you into a binary. Also why are you assuming every nonbinary person has breasts.

[destroy-the-binary]

recently made a post abt neopronouns and my views on certain things in the community and I want to amend my statement.

I love you if you use neopronouns. I have no issue with neopronouns. There is a limit, in my opinion, (like cat/dog type stuff), but I’ll always respect you.

I was a little frustrated with someone I’m particular when I posted that, so I’m sorry if I came off as harsh. I love all respectful queer people no matter what.

[whatonearthisgoingon]

I always come back.

Name: Aaro

Bisexual

Genderfluid she/they/he

17

Nationality: USA

Time Zone: Eastern Standard Time (EST)

Chronically ill girlie (endometriosis)

@aaros-angst - Marauders writing side blog that I need to put more attention to.

I enjoy receiving and answering asks, so feel free to send me stuff! Can be fandom related, random questions about my hobbies or interests, or just shit about you; I like learning about people.

Don't send me anon ask vents. I want to honestly know who you are regarding that type of content. If you don't want that public, dm me instead.

Please do not send me asks regarding anything with monetary support; I am once again a minor, and I can not help you.

There may be posts/reblogs with 18+ themes, so take the warning now. I don't post those too much, but they may pop up.

Bill Cipher may sometimes possess me, so be warned. I should probably move the book further away from my bed.

Hobbies and Interests:

Acting: I love musical theater and have done 24 different productions. Sadly haven't been doing as many productions recently, because of school and sports.

Cheerleading: My role is a Back Spot and a base, and I am a Captain of my school's Cheer Competition Team.

Dance: Ballet, Tap, Jazz, Irish Softshoe and Hardshoe, Hip Hop, and Contemporary. Favorites are Ballet, Tap, and Irish Hardshoe.

Reading: Mainly on Ao3.

Writing: Mainly in RPs or stuff in drafts, because I have limited time. I also love writing lyrics to instrumental pieces.

Obsessions/Fandoms (more in depth below cut):

Harry Potter - Marauders

Harry Potter - Golden Era

Demon Slayer/Kimetsu No Yaiba

Five Nights at Freddy's

Marvel Cinematic Universe

Venom

Deadpool

X-Men

Starcraft, particularly the zerg

Star Wars, especially the Clone Wars

Gravity Falls

Danganronpa

My Hero Academia/Boku No Hero Academia

K-Pop Demon Hunters

South Park

Creepypasta

Hazbin Hotel

The Swarm (my moots)

(If you aren't on here and we're moots, PLEASE DM me, I sometimes miss people! And if you would like to be promoted to sibling/child/something entirely new, let me know!)

Irl bestie: @your--new--stepmother @applepie111245 @sage-way My online children and child-in-law: @evil-vampire-always @snakepetal @funnywitchthing @its-oliver-bitches @queerjarreadyforwar @thepicklekingog @tenebris-lacrimam @siriuslyepicrunner4 @sofhashyperfixations2 @urfavsherlockholmeskinnie My online younger siblings: @anything-for-my-moons @the-stars-are-never-far-away @bricksandbirds @guitarheartz @icarhus @in-a-different-timeline @ironmansucksass @luna---lovegood @lookinforluck @mikeywaysbass @mochamoony @moonyscribe @mrecury42 @my-sanity-left-to-get-milk @not-a-gay-fangodess @plumpleberry @purple-dinosaur27 @riri-shark-in-perpetual-motion @rosewater-arts @timdrakescaffeinesupplier @unusualeducation @werewolfadmirer @wolfstarsbetterrhanyou @xxlady-lunaxx My online older siblings: @cosmicanebulosa @dragonchicken @imkindasleepdeprived @s0ny4trix @kolpok235 My cool online gay nephew: @b4rtycr0uchjr-4k4-m3-4t3-ur-m0m My online younger cousin who I have irregular contact with: @dumpsterfire620

My other amazing moots: @abs0l3m @acelovesremuslupin @amorameba @aostchekhovreturns @ask-glory-haddock-and-others @astrawantssleep @b4rty-r0s13r-w1ll-fck-y0ur-m0m @babylon-butterfly @benny-the-leprechaun @bikisser23 @bibeantransbean @behind-blue-eyes-remastered @cool-lesbian-is-here @cornishpadfoot @corpze-intoxicated @corvidconissuer @cr33pyyand0bs3ss1v3 @cryingoverdeadgaywizzards @cuculoooo @damsnackbar03 @detunedradi0 @emerveiller-v @em0tionallymotionsick @eyes-withoutt-a-facee @fadeintoyou-strangyouneverknew @ferris-is-fearful @fist-full-of-feathers @freakylittlerants @friendshapedbeing @frooglet @gaystergangster @glam0urix @gracious-midnight @harrietthespywastaken @hey-look-at-the-stars @iatemygrandma27 @impossible2cache @ineffablelyqueerwolfstarshipper @jellysunnie @katastroficzna @lillylovesarcticmonkeys @lirenthenonlyrist @lllennie123 @lookitsabooknook @love-hate-love00 @larapluma @mesers-prongs @mike-newton-is-a-marshmallow @mikelillard @moonandstarshangoutinbars

@moonsrunes @moonymoom @mothwingsmayy @mudkip-enthusiast18 @novapsa23 @obsessed-frog @olympushaze @orionskittles @permetutotheworld @prongsandpads @prongsievans @qtipss @reaperlight @reggiesnote @robinbuckleys--wifeyyy @rodneysarmyofgayrats @rosekiller27 @rustytyperwriter @rxmfairies @siriuslyobsessed394 @slythershitx @snipemeout @space-girliee @sspadfoot @starchild674 @starman-xrjlx @starrysky1212 @sweetangelicdevil @tired-writer-in-progress @tistheraven @thatonecoveyin12 @thecommondenominators @thegracefulroyaltownofthesaint @theheightsarewuthering @the-most-random-stuff @thesunn1estangel @the-stars-in-between @themirael @the-one-and-only-p1per @this-fox-steals-rocks @toweird2benormal @trashmammal06 @green-ranger-supporter @unnecessaryheadache @urpants @welcometoh0rr0rwood @withutterdisdain-landen @wolfstarjunkie @vala-dreams @viol3ntandobs3ssiv3 @your-fave-gay-disaster @zmioniks

Still moots, but they don't like tag games, and I copy and paste the above bit! If you want to be taken off tag games lists, please let me know!! (Part of this is guessing cuz some people never interact, and I don't want to bother them You can also be asked to be removed from this list and be tagged again!)

@adanmwere @ashes-to-ashesxx @bluebasie @destroy-the-binary @featured-the-creature @fizzrye @getsuuna @gigiyuu @katielikesfrogs @mentallyillwacko @my-castles-crumbling @mxlovey32 @outromoonyy @studying-n-running @symbiotic-slime

My Tags:

#aaro's random posts - Posts that don't really have context in any fandom, just kinda silly stuff.

#aaro's rants - Complains Aaro has about different things.

#aaro's asks - Asks Aaro has answered.

#aaro's tunes - Aaro is vibing to some lyrics and wants to share this with you.

#aaro's depressive ideas - If I say something depressive about myself or suicidal sounding, and have this tagged, then I am fine. It is literally just ideas and intrusive thoughts, vents, typically influenced by songs or parents fighting, but I'm okay. And I'm doing fine. Promise. I will never hurt myself. I'm too scared to.

#mars and dorian - posts for my favorite straight couple

#rani and lils - posts for my favorite lesbians on here

Important Posts I've Made! This Talks about me and my opinions.

Some are serious, some are not. You'll be able to tell when you read them. And some are just little opinions of mine. (It goes Sirius then silly [haha, see what I did there?])

Existing as a female is hell for me

I fucking hate smokers/vapers sometimes and this is why

Rant on birth control and why it's important

Aaro's Question about feminization of the traditionally "bottom" man

Aaro's Rant on Why Gay Men get Feminized in fandom so often (Sanegiyuu/Demon Slayer Focus)

Aaro's Harry Potter/Marauders Fandom Rant on Pedophilia

Catholic Guilt (my thoughts explained, with the help of the Blacks)

Regulus wasn't a good person, lol. Stop glorifying him.

How Aaro physically sees Sirius Black, and his sexuality.

Aaro's Hear Me Out List!!

Fics!!!

I don't do them that often, but because I want to start making more, I'm gonna make a list of them.

Fic Masterpost

Stats:

Tumblr-versary: 8/17/24, 1:43:35 PM (thank you tumblr bot for this info) Posts: 6.4k Mutuals: 160 Followers: 450 Following: 381 Likes: 49.4k Sideblogs: 24

Music

Fandoms I'm in and some stuff about them!

Marauders:

PLEASE IF YOU ARE NOT IN THIS FANDOM ALREADY, DO NOT JOIN IT OR INTERACT WITH MY MARAUDERS CONTENT. JK Rowling is a horrible person, and while I feel I can not leave the fandom yet, I do not want more people joining. Please, do not join, new fans. Find another interest before you hyperfixate on this. Additionally, fuck toxy/lethal and all the other hate accounts.

I mainly interact with Marauders Era content, but some Golden Era as well.

Sirius and Barty Crouch Jr. are my two favorite characters.

My main ships that I like are: Remus x Sirius, Barty x Evan, Barty x Sirius, James x Lily, James x Sirius, Wolfstarbuckstail, Dorcas x Marlene, Xenophilius x Pandora, Lucius x Narcissa, and Lucius x Frank.

However, I like content of pretty much all the ships in the Marauders fandom, so if you want to share content with me or ask questions about how I feel about them/headcanons, feel free!

I prefer canon > fanon dynamics and relationships. While I like fanon a huge amount, canon is my fav because I like psychoanalyzing how complex and fucked up they all are. I respect all opinions though, and love to hear literally anything you have.

Five Nights at Freddy's

I love both the games and the movies, but I mainly follow game lore and view the movies as non-canon. My favorite part of FNAF is the Afton Family, and William and Michael are my favorites. I honestly stopped following all the lore after Security Breach, but anything before that I will rant for hours on with you.

I could never play the games myself, but I watched all the Mattpatt lore, watched game plays, animatics, gacha content (now the super weird shit I promise), the music videos, and more.

StarCraft

This under rated game is the love of my life!! I play the game all the time as a Zerg. Kerrigan is my favorite Co-Op character.

I love all the lore and campaigns, but Heart of the Swarm is my favorite, because Kerrigan is the star. Also the intro cinematic in that one? Peak.

For people interested, a community that I started.

Starcraft • Community on Tumblr

How does this not exist!? I hate that the fandom is so small- Starcraft Lovers (both games) get in here!!

Marvel Cinematic Universe.

So my main fandoms I'm actively apart of, inside the MCU, are the Venom trilogy, the Deadpool trilogy, and the Captain America trilogy (yes including Sam Wilson, he's the Cap now; if you're an ass about him, get off my fucking page.)

Venom:

I love Eddie and Venom, comics and movies. My favorite movie was "Let There Be Carange." I loved Venom Last Dance, but god I wish it ended differently 😭😭.

I am a very strong supporter of Symbrock, and love content about the two of them together, whether it be platonically, romantically, sexually, etc. Although I don't mention them too much stuff about them at this point, I'm going to try and start talking about them more.

And once again, a community for Venom fans; it's mostly Symbrock content.

VENOM FANS • Community on Tumblr

1562 members, 793 posts about #venom #symbrock #fanfiction • 99% symbrock

Deadpool:

While I am sadly not as caught up on the X-men trilogy as I would like to be, I at least follow the Deadpool movie series. Deadpool and Wolverine was my favorite movie of the 3, and I pray that Ryan can convince Hugh to do another movie (PRETTY PLEASE RYAN 🙏🙏)

I ship both Vanessa x Wade and Wade x Logan. However, I see Vanessa and Wade as a past relationship that only really existed in the first movie. With the third movie coming around, I very much prefer Wade x Logan, with Wade and Vanessa being exes who are good friends.

God's Perfect Idiot and Honey Badger • Community on Tumblr

1461 members, 1701 posts about #poolverine #deadclaws #honda odyssey • A place for people to share and discuss the Worst Wolverine and the M

Captain America:

I am unhealthily in love with this trilogy. I mainly follow content about Steve, Sam, and Bucky, but I am willing to discuss content and characters from any of the Captain America or Avengers movies!

My favorite Captain America movie is Winter Soldier, mainly because I love Bucky a ton. I love his story, and we get so many scenes of him looking scary and badass as the Winter Soldier, but at the same time it's sad and angst because, ugh, my baby- Additionally this is when we're introduced to Sam Wilson, and god damn he is a badass. I loved all the fight scenes in this movie too; it was great.

I ship Steve x Bucky in the 1940s. I also like post-Winter Soldier Stucky, all the way up to End Game. I like the dynamic between them, and think they're cute.

I like Peggy x Steve in the 40s. Meeting her before the serum and their love building over time was adorable to watch on screen. There relationship and sweet, and I liked it.

I love Sam and Bucky a ton. I love their dynamic in Civil War, in TFATWS, in BNW. AUIFHSKEFGLA THEY'RE AMAZING! They're so in love, and Bucky's "I love you, buddy" line in BNW was amazing; I pray they get to be more canonically, because it is so there! They're so fucking domestic and idiotic with each other, I love them!!

For those interested, a Sambucky community because I love these idiots.

Sambucky • Community on Tumblr

2514 members, 1948 posts about #sambucky #sambucky fic #sam wilson • Everything about sambucky

Gravity Falls

I was so happy when this fandom resurfaced with the Book of Bill. I loved watching that show as a kid, and I am enjoying the surge of content now.

My favorite character is Bill, simply because he is so interesting. He is an insane and terrible villain, hellbent on chaos. I love batshit crazy characters. I have the Book of Bill and it's such an interesting read. His backstory is also pretty interesting.

I don't like too many ships in this universe, however I do like Young Ford x Bill. But not a healthy relationship, a toxic one. Healthy Billford is not accurate to the storyline at all; it has to be a little fucked up to make sense to the characters. And Fiddlestan, although it kind of started as a crackship in my opinion, is a little cute. The best ship in this fandom though is Deputy Durland x Sheriff Blubs.

I love the Grunkles, and they're such a vibe. If you ever have Sea Grunkles content you want to share, feel free!

Demon Slayer

I love Demon Slayer a ton. I mainly focus on the Hashiras, but I also love the demons and the Kamaboko Squad. My favorite Hashiras are Giyuu and Mitsuri, my favorite demon is Kokushibo, and my favorite squad member is Genya.

OH MY GOD THE MOVIE!??!?! EOUTHGDKJDGHVDARWESDGUHRSGU;I FUCKING AMAZING, CINEMATIC MASTERPIECE

My main ships are: Giyuu x Sanemi, Iguro x Mitsuri, and Uzui x Hinatsuru x Suma x Makio. I don't care too much about the canon Kamaboko squad ships, but they're all pretty okay. I'm all good with discussing other ships, as long as it's not adult x minor (Giyuutan, Uzuzen, etc. If you ship those, please don't interact with my page).

Regarding ships, I noticed there was no communities for my favorite ship, so here's a Sanegiyuu community I started for those who are interested.

Sanegiyuu is my Roman Empire • Community on Tumblr

67 members, 70 posts about #sanegiyuu #giyuu tomioka #sanemi shinazugawa • I can't find any communities for these gay idiots; lets make one!

KPOP Demon Hunters

I love my poly-yuri so fucking much. The music and characters and story are all so amazing; I love them.

Polytrix • Community on Tumblr

8181 members, 3774 posts about #polytrix #kpop demon hunters #rumira • a safe space for fans of Polytrix (+ the pairings within it)!!! 🩷💜💙

Anyway, that's about it for now, lol. I'll probably add so much shit to this over time. Bye, love you all! <3

[destroy-the-binary]

hey!! btw I’m happy to be involved in tag games now, was a little busy for a while but I’m back now :)

[destroy-the-binary]

I love you if you’re a closeted trans person. I love you if you’re a binary trans person. I love you if you aren’t a binary trans person. I love you if you’re an out and proud trans person. I love you if you have dysphoria. I love you if you have little dysphoria. I love you if you’re a straight trans person. I love you if you’re not straight and a trans person. I love you if you’re a trans teenager. I love you if you’re a trans adult.

I love you if you’re you.

[destroy-the-binary]

am I gay? yes. irl, do i look like your classic straight girl? also yes.

[destroy-the-binary]

guys I won’t show my face BUT here’s my features and other physical stuff cuz why not?

eyes: grey blue and round and very slightly downturned

skin: warm ivory tone with freckles

nose: between greek and straight

lips: slightly thin and downturned, slight m shape

face shape: in between rectangle, square, and oval

eyebrows: tapered with soft arch

hair: 2c-3a, down a bit past shoulders, brown with faint red tint

body type: muscular inverted triangle

style: minimalist/clean girl ish

[lovely-v]

Being crazy about a piece of media for any amount of time will leave a weird mark on you forever because years later you’ll see someone posting something about it like “can we talk about this frame” and you’ll be like “ah that frame. i know all about that frame. I was once a scholar of that frame.”